Restored: Helping Children of Divorce
Episodes
#075: Dealing with Your Parents’ Divorce, Anger Toward Parents, Helping Your Kids Heal | Ask Restored #1
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we answer questions from listeners like you. Each question reveals a real life challenge faced by someone from a broken family. We of...
#074: Why Children of Divorce Learn to Act Like Chameleons | Craig Soto II
05 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Often, people from broken families become very attuned to the needs of others, especially our parents and siblings. We become skilled at being what pe...
#073: Prepare for Your Marriage, Not Just Your Wedding | Fr. Daniel Ciucci & Deacon Colin Coleman
21 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you’re single, dating, or engaged, your wedding day will be a beautiful experience. However, planning it is very consuming. As a result, it’...
#072: Eating Disorder: What It Is & How to Heal It | Dr. Julia Sadusky
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you or someone you know has struggled with an eating disorder, you know how painful that experience can be. It’s often an overlooked struggle tha...
#071: My Parents’ Divorce Made Me a Child-Sized Old Soul | Professor Daniel Drain
26 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Growing up too fast is a common experience for children of divorce. You’re often called upon to take on responsibilities that should never be yours....
#070: Want a Great (Future) Marriage? Learn to Handle Conflict | Part 2
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
After his parents’ divorced, Joey feared repeating the same mistakes in his own marriage. He wanted to know, “How do I not repeat my parents’ mi...
#069: Want a Great (Future) Marriage? Do This | Part 1
28 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
After his parents’ divorced, Joey feared repeating the same mistakes in his own marriage. He wanted to know, “How do I not repeat my parents’ mi...
#068: An Underrated Tactic to Heal from Your Parents’ Divorce | Salvatore Fiorenti
13 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re from a broken family, did your parents’ separation or divorce drag out for years? That was the story of our guest today. In this episod...
#067: Breaking the Cycle of Dysfunction in Your Marriage | Pierre & Maria Lareau
29 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re from a broken family, becoming independent and breaking the cycle can be extremely attractive. It certainly was for my guests, a married c...
#066: A Resource for Families in Crisis | Anne DeSantis
15 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you’re 7 years old and your parents divorce out of the blue, it causes confusion and lots of questions. Unfortunately, the struggles for my gue...
#065: A Tool to Heal Your Brokenness and Your Relationship with God | Bob Siemens
01 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re from a broken family, you’ve likely experienced extra barriers in your relationship with God. In fact, you might not even believe in God...
#064: Your Broken Family and Mistakes Don’t Need to Dictate Your Future | Maggie Kim
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
One night, Maggie’s mother left her family without any explanation. Naturally, Maggie felt extremely abandoned. Following that night and her parents...
#063: The Antidote to Trauma | Margaret Vasquez
01 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When your parents’ marriage and family break apart, it’s traumatic for you as their son or daughter. That trauma is not only painful, but also ha...
#062: The Best of 2021: Restored Podcast Highlights
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, you'll hear 7 short clips from the podcast in 2021. This episode, and the podcast as a whole, will help you heal and grow from t...
#061: Will I Always Feel Stuck? | Alexandra M
04 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When Alexandra was in 7th grade, her parents divorced. Almost immediately, she went to counseling, which led her to believe that the effects of her pa...
#060: Divorced Parents is All I’ve Ever Known | Sydney & Daniel Binette
21 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Since she was 2 or 3, Sydney’s parents have been divorced. It’s all she’s ever known. As a result, she spent most of her childhood living out of...
#059: From a Broken Family? 9 Tactics to Navigate the Holidays
07 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Are you from a broken family? If so, you know how challenging the holidays can be. Not only is it difficult to balance time between mom and dad, but w...
#058: Forgiveness: The Secret to Healing and Freedom | Fr. John Burns
23 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Forgiving someone that wounded you is difficult. Not only is forgiveness difficult, it is often over simplified and misunderstood. That’s why we in...
#057: How Alcoholism Broke My Family Apart | Kendra Posch
09 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Alcoholism is a major cause of dysfunction in so many families. That was certainly true for our guest’s family. In this episode, she shares how alc...
#056: How Virtue Results in Happiness & Freedom | Dr. Andrew Swafford
26 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Andrew Swafford came from a dysfunctional family, even though his parents never got divorced. As a result, he questioned: “Can I be a good husba...
#055: I Wish My Family Was Normal | Ashlyn Frederick
13 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If your family is broken, you’ve probably felt like our guest today who badly wanted her family to be normal. It’s such a natural desire which goe...
#054: How to Stop Damaging Yourself with Your Words | Chris Stefanick
28 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If you spoke to your friends the way you spoke to yourself, would those relationships become abusive? The words you tell yourself are often filled wit...
#053: Does a Lack of Peace Prove Your Relationship Isn’t Meant to Be?
15 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Many young people from broken families struggle to discern their relationships and calling in life because they feel so anxious and uncertain. The tra...
#052: How to Navigate Your Relationship With Your Divorced Parents
02 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
A popular question we receive from young people from broken families is “How do I help my parents and navigate my relationship with them?” In thi...
#051: Music: A Powerful Tool to Help You Cope & Heal | Jenny & Tyler
19 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Music has always been a tool to cope with the pain and problems from my parents’ divorce. Two artists whose music helped me a lot are Jenny and Tyle...
#050: Why Didn’t You Choose Me? | Holli Lepley
03 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
For 40 years, Holli searched for help to heal from the trauma of her parents’ divorce, including 30 years of counseling. But nothing worked. She had...
#049: Healing from Your Parent’s Infidelity | Katie
20 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What would you do if you were 12 years old and you accidentally found out that your mom is cheating on your dad? That’s the exact situation that tod...
#048: Fear Became Reality: I Am Just Like My Father | Bart Schuchts
06 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As a boy, Bart Schuchts thought his family was normal. But in reality, it was very broken. When he was five years old, his dad left after cheating on ...
#047: How Healing Improved My Life, Marriage, and Friendships | Sandra Howlett
22 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When your parents’ marriage breaks apart, it feels like an earthquake. The most basic foundation, your family, is shaken and shattered. It’s disor...
#046: Becoming a Great Parent: Learning from Your Parents’ Virtues and Vices | Miranda Henkel
08 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What did you learn about parenting from your parents that you want to repeat with your kids? What do you not want to repeat?The answers to those quest...
#045: How to Become the Dad You Wish You Had | Justin Batt
25 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
It’s no secret that we’re facing a huge crisis of fatherlessness. So many fathers have physically or emotionally abandoned their children, largely...
#044: Practical Tips for Becoming a Great Parent | Mike & Alicia Hernon
11 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
For most people, becoming a parent is beautiful but also scary and intimidating. But that is especially true for people from broken families. Often, w...
#043: Do You Feel Abandoned by God? | Fr. John Paul Mary
27 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re from a broken family, you likely struggle extra in your relationship with God. There are so many barriers people like us have to overcome....
#042: What is Broken Can Be Repaired | Shenandoah Lawson
14 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As people from broken homes, we fear repeating the dysfunction we experienced in our families. But sometimes, we end up going down that path. Our gues...
#041: How to File the FAFSA if Your Parents are Divorced or Separated | Alex Driscoll & Mike Rossman
01 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Statistically, children of divorce are less likely to attend college. Further, they’re less likely to receive financial support from their parents f...
#040: 9 Ways to Pay for Counseling
17 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You want to go to counseling, but a massive barrier stands in the way: The price. Therapy is not cheap. So, how are you going to pay for it? We tackl...
#039: The Anatomy of a Wound & How to Heal | Dr. Bob Schuchts, PhD
02 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As a psychologist, author, and speaker, Dr. Bob Schuchts has dedicated his life to helping people heal their brokenness. In this episode, he offers h...
#038: When Our Families Break Apart, We Feel Homeless | Malcolm MacDonald
17 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When our families break apart, most of us feel homeless. We lose our sense of safety and belonging. As a result, we go through life looking for the fa...
#037: Trauma: What It Is and How It Damages You | Margaret Vasquez
02 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What is trauma? How does it affect a person? Today, licensed trauma therapist Margaret Vasquez answers those questions and more:Why your parents'...
#036: Healthy Relationships Are Impossible Without Boundaries
21 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Most people from broken homes struggle with boundaries. Usually, we were never taught how to set and enforce proper boundaries within our families. We...
#035: My Parents’ Divorce Exposed My Insecurities | Emily Luke
07 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Emily knew her parents might divorce, but nothing could’ve prepared her for it. It made her feel alone. It made her feel like nobody understood. Fee...
#034: The Best of 2020: Restored Podcast Highlights
23 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We know. “Best” and “2020” don’t belong in the same sentence… what a year. To celebrate the good, here are 10 of the best highlights from...
#033: Does Divorce Damage Children? 67 Studies Answer
10 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Is divorce damaging for the children? There’s a lot of misinformation around that question. In this episode, we dispel the myths by breaking down a...
#032: How to Navigate the Holidays: Advice from 11 Children of Divorce
26 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are especially challenging for anyone with separated or divorced parents. So many of us dread this time of the year. We often feel alone ...
#031: My Parents’ Divorce Made Me Crave Belonging | Carlie Spaulding
12 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Seeing her parents divorce, Carlie wrestled with this question: If it didn’t work out for my parents, how can I make someone stay with me? That led...
#030: How to Heal Your Broken Marriage | Greg & Julie Alexander
29 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How do you heal a broken marriage? We tackle that topic with two experts, Greg and Julie Alexander.They’ve helped over 5,000 seriously struggling co...
#029: Stories of Impossible Marriages Redeemed | Leila Miller
15 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Struggling spouses often feel like they have two options: Stay married and be miserable or get divorced and be happy. Thankfully, there’s a third op...
#028: Tips for Building a Great Marriage from an Amazing Couple - Part 2 | Joe & Maria Keller
01 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you want to build a great marriage, follow the advice of couples who’ve done it. Learn from them. Like last episode, that's exactly what we...
#027: Tips for Building a Great Marriage from an Amazing Couple - Part 1 | Joe & Maria Keller
17 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you want to build a great marriage, follow the advice of couples who’ve done it. Spend time with them and learn from their example and wisdom.Tha...
#026: Viral Facebook Post: What if We Spoke Well of Marriage? | Sarah Jarrard
03 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
One day, Sarah got really discouraged and frustrated. Why? Because of people saying bad things about their spouses and bashing marriage itself. So she...
#025: Men, Women, and the Mystery of Love | Dr. Edward Sri
20 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It’s easy to feel discouraged or lost in searching for love. Perhaps you’ve even given up on love altogether, thinking it’s not possible for you...
#024: Tips for Engagement, Wedding, and 1st Year of Marriage - Part 2
06 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you come from a broken home, planning a wedding and getting married throws some unique challenges at you. Joey shares what he and his wife, Brigid,...
#023: Tips for Engagement, Wedding, and 1st Year of Marriage - Part 1 | Brigid Pontarelli
23 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Getting engaged and married is exciting! But it can also be overwhelming, especially if you come from a broken home. Joey and his wife, Brigid, share ...
#022: A Quick and Simple Healing Exercise
10 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you could go back in time and have a conversation with the younger version of you, what would you say? So often, those of us from broken homes are...
#021: How to Build Love That Lasts: The 5 Love Languages
25 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Most couples experience love fading at some point, usually after the wedding. They long for love that lasts, but they doubt it is possible. And even i...
#020: Navigating Singleness | Sarah Swafford
11 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Navigating the single years can be challenging and lonely. In this episode, we hit on some of the unique struggles we face during a season of singlene...
#019: How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul | Jason Evert
28 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Ladies, if you've ever felt discouraged and alone in your search for love, this episode is for you. Jason Evert offers advice from the book he an...
#018: The Dating Blueprint: What Women Want But Won't Tell Men | Jason Evert
30 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Men are rarely given advice on how to pursue a woman. In fact, they're usually just told what not to do. In this episode, author and speaker Jaso...
#017: 6 Tips to Conquer Your Fear of Love
16 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I felt torn. On one hand, I craved love. On the other, I feared it. Why? Because I didn’t think love could last. I feared my relationship would end ...
#016: Everyone Acted Like My Parents’ Separation Wasn’t a Big Deal | Erin Hasso
02 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Erin’s parents separated when she was 16 after a big fight. It was really painful for her. However, everyone acted like it wasn’t a big deal. And ...
#015: Navy SEAL: Calm is Contagious | Mike Sarraille
19 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Who knows the most about staying calm during chaotic situations? A combat experienced Navy SEAL.In this episode, you'll get the advice of Navy SE...
#014: Psychologist: How to Handle Fear and Anxiety During a Crisis (Like the Coronavirus) | Dr. Julia Sadusky, PsyD
17 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The Coronavirus is causing a lot of panic. There's so much fear, anxiety, and uncertainty going around. So, how do we deal with all of that durin...
#013: Why We Repeat Our Parents' Mistakes and How to Avoid It | Dr. Julia Sadusky, PsyD
07 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Most of us with separated or divorced parents are afraid of getting divorced or repeating our parents’ mistakes. We want to avoid the bad behavior ...
#012: Counseling: How It Works and Why It Helps | Dr. Julia Sadusky, PsyD
05 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Counseling is a tool for healing. But how does it work? And will it actually help me?We answer those questions and much more in this episode:How many ...
#011: I Thought My Parents’ Divorce Didn’t Affect Me | Jennifer Cox
20 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Jen thought her parents’ divorce didn’t affect her - until her brokenness surfaced at 26 on a medical mission in Honduras. Still, she didn’t mak...
#010: 5 Practical Tips to Cure Loneliness
06 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that children of divorce are actually more prone to experience loneliness?If you or someone you know struggles with loneliness, this epis...
#009: A Retreat for Adult Children of Divorce | Dr. Daniel Meola, PhD
23 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How did you find out that your parents were divorcing? Today’s guest, Dr. Daniel Meola, actually found out before his mom. Then as an 11 year old bo...
#008: The Hardest Part of My Life | Miranda Rodriguez
09 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What’s been the hardest part of your life? For Miranda, it has been navigating her parents’ divorce. If you read her article “Dear Divorce” yo...
#007: 9 Common Struggles of Adult Children of Divorce - Part 3 | LeeAnne Abel
27 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Part 3 of 3. When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts. It brings a lot of pain, problems, and struggles into your life. But what are some of th...
#006: 9 Common Struggles of Adult Children of Divorce - Part 2 | LeeAnne Abel
12 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Part 2 of 3. When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts. It brings a lot of pain, problems, and struggles into your life. But what are some of th...
#005: 9 Common Struggles of Adult Children of Divorce - Part 1 | LeeAnne Abel
29 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Part 1 of 3. When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts. It brings a lot of pain, problems, and struggles into your life. But what are some of th...
#004: 7 Tips to Navigate the Holidays for Children of Divorce
15 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are a challenging time for most children of divorced or separated parents. Most of us feel alone, lost, and uncertain of how to navigate ...
#003: How Craving Wholeness Motivated Her to Heal | Beth Sri
31 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
#003 - Beth’s parents divorced when she was very young. However, she still remembers the cardboard boxes and feeling confused about her dad leaving....
#002: How 70 Adult Children of Divorce Have Suffered | Leila Miller
18 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
#002 - When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts and you feel alone. You feel like nobody can understand what you are going through. At Restore...
#001: How Restored Helps Children of Divorce
03 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
#001 - Are your parents divorced? Are they separated? Has that brought a lot of pain and problems into your life? Do you feel alone and unsure of how ...