Sam's Healing Podcast
Episodes
EP 67: Guest Michael Webb: When the Betrayed Feels Like They Have to Parent the Unfaithful
17 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If you're in infidelity recovery, you've probably felt this: the betrayed partner asks for change, the unfaithful partner tries to comply — and some...
EP 66: Why Our OWN Healing is So Important After Infidelity
26 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What if your own healing after infidelity wasn't just about "getting over it," but about becoming medicine—for you, for your kids, and for a world f...
EP 65: Interview with a Betrayed Male Spouse: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Doing the Work
11 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet Bill. It's a rare and powerful look into what it means for a man to walk through hell and choose healing, truth, and self-respect ...
EP 64: Adam Nisenson Discusses The Elephant in the Room for Betrayed Men and Women
29 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Infidelity is often the "elephant in the room" of a relationship—everyone feels its weight, but few know how to name it, let alone heal from it. In ...
EP 63: Healing is Feeling: Learning How to Feel Again After Infidelity
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling anything after infidelity can feel impossible. As the unfaithful, you may believe you don't deserve feelings—or that if you let yourself f...
EP 62: How to Guarantee Personal Transformation In Healing from Infidelity
07 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If there's one question almost everyone asks after infidelity or betrayal it's this: "Can I or we ever really heal from this devastation?" In todays...
EP 61 Guest Judith Nisenson Discusses Why Women Also Cheat the Shame of the Unfaithful Female
04 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet Judith Nisenson, a certified coach and expert in dealing with unfaithful women. She's also Adam Nisenson's wife whom many of you w...
EP 60 Dr. Jake Porter "How Can the Betrayed Ever Make Sense Out of Their Partner's Infidelity?"
20 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How can someone betrayed by infidelity and/or addiction ever begin to make sense of the experience? When your world is turned upside down by something...
EP 59 with Sharon Rinearson: "I Don't Think I Could Have Been More Disrespected by my Husband..."
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How does the betrayed understand the heinous choices of the unfaithful? "If my unfaithful truly cared about me, how could they make the choices the...
EP 58: "It Was Like a Death to the Life I Had Planned." A Betrayed Guest Shares Her Story
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you're a betrayed partner, you know: infidelity can feel like a death. The death of a marriage. The loss of the life you planned. The shattering of...
EP 57: Dr. Matthew Hedelius: Is My Spouse a Sex Addict or Just Dealing with Sexual Compulsivity?
30 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered if you or your partner was truly a sex addict? Perhaps you're wondering if you or your partner are maybe dealing with sexual ...
EP 56: Guest Amanda Asproni "My Unfaithful Keeps Wanting me, the Betrayed, to Rescue Them."
01 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode of Sam's Healing Podcast features a courageous and deeply empathetic interview with Amanda Asproni as we confront the raw realities of...
Helping the Unfaithful Move From "Not It!" to "Got it!"
25 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode of "Moving from Not It to Got It," Sam takes listeners on an honest journey through the pivotal moment when an unfaithful spouse ch...
EP 55: Dr. Jill Manning: Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and and the Use of Alcohol to Escape
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the aftermath of betrayal trauma, many adults turn to alcohol or other substances in search of relief. It might feel like a way to escape, to quiet...
EP 54: Guest Amanda Asproni Discusses: What Does Weaponizing Therapy or Coaching Look Like?
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When infidelity or addiction has shaken a relationship, couples often turn to coaching or therapy for healing. These tools are designed to help people...
EP 53: How Could You? An Unfaithful Shares How He Allowed Himself to Cheat
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why does the unfaithful cheat or act out? What allows them to go against their moral compass and engage in an extramarital affair? How do they jus...
EP 52: "I Was About to Lose Everything I Valued...." Interview with Ryan a Former Unfaithful
29 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered what goes through the mind of an unfaithful when they are about to lose everything? Have you considered that maybe, just mayb...
EP 51: Interview with Adam Nisenson "Well...you did that for them...why won't you do it for me?"
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does the betrayed do when they feel as though the unfaithful just won't do the work? Yet, the unfaithful, seemingly showed all sorts of effort ...
EP 50: Interview with a former unfaithful: "I Was Afraid to Let Go of the Lies..."
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode is a story that begins where most love stories unravel: with a lie. Actually… with many lies. Our guest today is a great friend of m...
EP 49: Tyler Patrick LMFT Discusses Avoidance and Defensiveness in the Life of the Unfaithful Spouse
02 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tyler Patrick LMFT returns to the podcast to discuss why we the unfaithful constantly revert to defensiveness and avoidance when trying to heal oursel...
EP 48: "I've Got You Now..." A Psychological Game Couples Play When Trying to Heal from Infidelity
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Continuing the series on "Psychological Games Couples Play," Michael Webb and I discuss another game within the realm of Psychological Games. This ...
EP 47: A One on One Discussion with Psychotherapist Lauren LaRusso on Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma
18 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet Lauren LaRusso, a well known face on social media and true expert to those looking for hope, healing and new life after the discover...
EP 46: A Betrayed Male Shares His Story of How He & His Wife Saved Their Marriage After Infidelity
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Healing from infidelity is no easy task. Whether a betrayed male or female, the pain can feel as though it has no purpose, no redemption and no lig...
EP 45: "We're Stuck After the Disclosure of Infidelity" When is it Time for an Intensive?
08 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, relationship and expert therapist James Annear joins me to discuss when it's time to forgo individual or couples work and proceed right ahead t...
EP 44: Featuring Michael Webb and Psychological Games Couples Play: "If It Weren't for You..."
08 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Continuing the series on "Psychological Games Couples Play," Michael Webb and I discuss another game within the realm of Psychological Games called If...
EP 43: Interview with Adam Nisenson LMFT, Author of A Man's Guide to Partner Betrayal
21 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Meet Adam Nisenson, known as the Betrayal Shrink. Adam combines his extensive clinical skills with a deeply empathetic heart in his role as a Betrayal...
EP 42: Kevin, A Betrayed Male's Journey with Infidelity, Autism and Incomprehensible Trauma
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet a friend of mine, Kevin who shares his own journey with infidelity as a betrayed male and Autism. Autism, or Autism Spectrum Disorde...
EP 41: Featuring John Lee: Help for the Enmeshed Unfaithful Partner Healing from Infidelity and Shame
07 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today John Lee joins me to discuss how enmeshment shows up in the life of the unfaithful partner as they wrestle to find freedom from shame and emotio...
EP 40: Interview with Amanda Asproni: What is Enmeshment and How Does it Affect Affair Recovery Work?
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Enmeshment is a term from psychology that describes a relationship dynamic where personal boundaries are overly blurred, and people become emotionally...
EP 39: Interview with Max: How Does the Betrayed Partner Deal with Comparisons with the Affair Partner?
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How do you reclaim your worth when your reflection is distorted by someone else's betrayal—when every glance in the mirror whispers, 'they chose the...
EP 38: Interview with Michael Webb: Understanding the 'Psychological Games' Couples Play With Each Other
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself in the same frustrating argument with someone, especially your spouse— even though it starts off innocent and you swear this time...
EP 37: Samuel and Michael Webb: What Do You Do When You Don't Have Control Over Your Spouse's Behavior?
09 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you don't have control over your spouse's behavior? What do you do when they won't forgive you, if you're an unfaithful? What do y...
EP 36: Interview with Max, A Betrayed Male: "I Didn't Want to Believe This Was Happening to Me."
02 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today Max and I discuss a poignant moment in his own compelling journey where he admits "I didn't want to believe this was happening to me." As you'll...
EP35: Samuel Interviews Johnathan Who Shares His Journey of Healing From Cancer & His Wife's Affair
30 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet Jonathan, a friend of mine and survivor of both infidelity and stage four cancer. Yes, he's a victim of infidelity as a betrayed mal...
EP 34: Interview w/a CPTSD Expert & Neuroscientist on Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma & Psychotropics
19 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The topic of CPTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) and infidelity is important because infidelity can trigger complex trauma responses, espec...
EP 33: Samuel Interviews Paige A Betrayed Female Spouse: "I'm So Much Stronger Than I Thought I Was"
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet Paige, a betrayed spouse who is both courageous, vibrant and resilient. Months ago on Samuel's Instagram there were several poems th...
EP 32: Interview with Max a Betrayed Male Spouse on Toxic Comparisons with the Affair Partner
05 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How does the betrayed deal with comparisons to the affair partner(s)? This issue remains one of the most difficult, overwhelming and traumatizing aspe...
EP 31: Samuel Interviews Max, A Betrayed Male Who Shares His Story of How He Dealt With Shame
19 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A soon to be regular contributor to the podcast, Max returns to discuss the shame of the betrayed male. While not entirely different than the betrayed...
EP 30: Samuel Interviews Max, a Betrayed Male Spouse Who Shares His Courageous Story of Healing
05 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet a great friend of mine by the name of Max. He's an author of two books, an editor, a guitar player, a gracious speaker and unfortuna...
EP 29: Dr. Debi Silber PhD Discusses Betrayal Trauma & The Post Betrayal Transformation Institute with Sam
31 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do people really heal from infidelity? Do people ever really get their lives back after being betrayed? What does it mean to actually be a survivor of...
EP 28: What is a Trauma Bond and Is It Possible to Break Free? Trauma Expert Amanda Asproni Joins Sam
18 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What is a trauma bond? Are you or someone you know lost in one? Is it just an infidelity issue or can you be trauma-bonded to someone who hasn't cheat...
EP 27: Trauma Expert Amanda Asproni Discusses the Anxious Attachment Style, Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma
20 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you or your partner anxious when it comes to an attachment style? What is the anxious attachment style you might ask? An anxious attachment st...
EP 26: Trauma Specialist Amanda Asproni on Understanding the Unfaithful Partner's Avoidance & Resistance
09 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As a betrayed partner, have you ever wondered why your spouse or partner is so avoidant with you? Maybe you're an unfaithful and wonder why you have s...
EP 25: Dr. Jill Manning Discusses the Effect of Snooping on the Betrayed & How to Live Above Suspicion
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you're an unfaithful spouse, let me ask you a question that will define your recovery work: Are You Living Above Suspicion? If not, why? How can we...
EP 24: Michael Webb and Samuel Discuss Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and Self-Compassion
11 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today on the podcast I discuss Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and Self-Compassion with frequent guest clinician and trauma expert Michael Webb. For decad...
EP 23: Expert Interview with Tyler Patrick: How and Why Did We Become So Avoidant in our Relationships?
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you an avoidant? Are you married to one? If you're married to an avoidant, you're probably frustrated as all get out with them, unless you too are...
EP 22: Understanding the Inner Child, Infidelity & Problematic Sexual Behaviors with Eddie Capparucci PhD
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
For decades the 'inner child' has been a topic of confusion and misunderstanding as it relates to infidelity, problematic sexual behaviors and restori...
EP 21: Why the Betrayed and Unfaithful Need to Know 'The Why' of the Affair: Interview with an Expert
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Understanding 'the why' of the affair is vital for a variety of reasons including but not limited to relapse prevention, safety for the betrayed and l...
EP 20: Tyler Patrick Discusses How to Help the Unfaithful Develop Shame Resilience After Infidelity
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today on the podcast you'll meet Tyler Patrick who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Tyler shares his down to earth insight into how the un...
EP 19: Sharon Rinearson Discusses the Use of Boundaries for the Betrayed After Infidelity
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered how to establish and keep your boundaries up after infidelity? What about when the betrayed struggles with abandonment or low s...
EP 18: Dr. Jill Manning: 5 Pillars of Maturity for Those Trying to Heal from Infidelity or Addiction
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Jill manning is quickly becoming a regular on Sam's Healing Podcast, encouraging both the unfaithful and the betrayed to find a new level of emoti...
EP 17: Author John Lee Discusses Growing Yourself Back Up and How to Better Show Up for our Partner
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet a great friend and hero of mine, author John Lee. Author of over 25 books, and known therapist to therapists, John Lee has been a gu...
EP 16: Dr. Jill Manning Shares 5 Markers of Emotional Immaturity that Help Explain Infidelity and Affairs
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet Dr. Jill Manning who shares five key markers of emotional immaturity that help explain why we have affairs and develop addictions. A...
EP 15: Dr. Matthew Hedelius Discusses Desire, Infidelity & and Erectile Dysfunction in Relationships
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Should a couple explore novelty in their sexuality? What about if that marriage has been affected by infidelity or addiction? If you're dealing with e...
EP 14: Jordan: A Betrayed Male Shares His Story About His Wife's Infidelity
07 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet Jordan, a great friend and survivor of infidelity. The nuances to the betrayed male story are different, yet not worse nor better th...
EP 13: Interview with Dr. Jake Porter: Helping the Betrayed Deal with a Narcissistic Partner
02 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I welcome back Dr. Jake Porter into the podcast to discuss how the betrayed partner can deal with an unfaithful, narcissistic spouse while tryin...
EP 12: Can You Get Your Life Back After Infidelity and Betrayal? Interview with an Expert Tammy Gustafson
02 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered if you can get your life back after infidelity or addiction? Maybe you feel, at this moment, there's no way in hell you could g...
EP 11: Dr. Matthew Hedelius Discusses Infidelity, Addiction and Regulating our Central Nervous System
02 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm joined by expert clinician Dr. Matthew Hedelius who specializes in infidelity, addiction and problematic sexual behaviors. While the direc...
EP 10: Infidelity, Victimization and How the Betrayed Can Create Their Own Safety in Recovery Work with James Annear
02 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like you were the victim in your marriage or relationship? Maybe you've even felt like a victim all your life? It's also possib...
EP 9: Finding Meaning When Your Life is in Shambles with Dr. Jake Porter
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet a new friend, Dr. Jake Porter who shares insight into how to find meaning amidst the rubble of our own choices or our partner's afte...
EP 8: The Sacrificing of Our Authenticity As We Heal from Infidelity or Addiction with Michael Webb
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm joined once again by my great friend, mentor and colleague Michael Webb. I hope you'll join us today as we participate in fascinating disc...
EP 7: Infidelity & Trauma: A Discussion with an Expert Therapist Amanda Asproni
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll hear from one of our favorite guests, a fan favorite and expert clinician, Amanda Asproni. Not only an expert in dealing with infidelit...
EP 6: Was I the Reason My Spouse Cheated? Was I Not Enough? with James Annear & Sharon Rinearson
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I welcome back in podcast regulars, James and Sharon to discuss why partners cheat in relationships. It's a common burden the betrayed carry: ...
EP 5: Intimacy Avoidance, Childhood Trauma & Infidelity with James Annear
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, a great friend of mine and an expert clinician, James Annear, discusses intimacy avoidance, childhood trauma, and infidelity. While digging dee...
EP 4: 7 Keys to Healing and Preventing Childhood Trauma in Our Kids and Ourselves with Tom Gagliano
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll hear from developmental trauma expert Tom Gagliano on how to create safety for our kids. What if we could help our kids heal from trauma?...
EP 3: Meet Jake: A Former Unfaithful and Betrayed Spouse Healing from Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today you'll meet a friend and survivor of both his own infidelity and his wife's. From depression to anxiety, to hopelessness and despair, Jake share...
EP 2: Helping the Betrayed Spouse with Shame, Betrayal Trauma and Trusting Again with Sharon Rinearson
31 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I interview a brilliant clinician and survivor of infidelity Sharon Rinearson. Today she shares some of her story as well as her professional ...
EP 1: How to Deal with Toxic Shame in Infidelity Recovery and Betrayal Trauma with Michael Webb
31 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I talk with my great friend, mentor and colleague Michael Webb. We'll be discussing toxic shame in both the life of the unfaithful and the betr...