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Chapter 1: What is the focus of the Saved Not Soft podcast?
hello hello everyone and welcome back to saved not soft what's going on everyone hope everyone has had an amazing amazing amazing amazing week i've had a great week god has been so good as usual we already know the zeal Um, yeah, God is so good through every circumstance. I've just, honestly, a lot of my time with the Lord has been very intimate and sweet.
And I've been praying that you guys have been experiencing the same thing as well. If you do not know me, my name is Emmy Moore. I'm the host of Saved.
not soft which is a podcast for those who are love seen and heard by god and what it means to actually navigate what it actually means to be a christian i think whenever we come to christ we think that it's just a little stroll in the park and that it's easy but it's hard there's a lot of trials and tribulations and suffering that comes to being a christian
And so how do you understand everything that God is calling you to do and endure if you don't know his word, if you don't know how to go deeper into your prayer closet, all those things. So this podcast is accumulated to let you guys know that you heard, seen, and loved by God, but also how to navigate through culture and living in a world where God's grace and love is very much so needed. Amen.
And I really just love what God is doing through this podcast because the season of what he's doing through this ministry is reconciling his bride back to him. And speaking as a bride and speaking as someone who is about to get married in a few months, which is absolutely insane to say out loud, like girly pop, what? I'm a whole fiance. You see this wing? Uh, it's absolutely insane.
But becoming an actual physical bride has taught me a lot about the reconciliation of, of God and how God wants to restore his bride and not just anymore, but also anybody who's on the other side of the screen, he's looking to restore his relationship with you and becoming one with you.
Like the Bible talks about how whenever we accept Jesus Christ as Lord, like we're literally becoming one with him because there's a covenant that that takes place, a covenant that's similar to the covenant of marriage. It's two flesh becoming one, just like how whenever we say yes to Christ, it's two spirits coming one.
And we get to be in perfection and in the full righteousness and justification of God simply because we accept him and we embrace what he did on the cross for us. And I think that's super important. I think sometimes we miss that and try to carry all these works and things on our own when it's just meditation on the cross and it's accepting what Jesus Christ has already done and
It doesn't give us an excuse to be iniquative or to be in sin. Instead, it pushes us to the warm welcome of grace and of mercy, which God offers. Amen. And as I have been in my little bridal era, something that's been really fun, because I feel like I teach a lot, and I am going to teach. I'm not saying I'm not teaching this episode, but just kind of give you guys where God has me right now, is...
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Chapter 2: How can singleness be a season of growth?
So I would say that I've dated people, but I wasn't in a relationship with them to where they were like my boyfriend and I was their girlfriend. But I dated them like we had a romantic interest and I was dating a guy talking to a whole bunch of people. The talking stage is absolutely tedious and exhausting.
When I say it is absolutely draining to speak and give your all to a person for usually about two or three months just for one person to leave you in the dirt and then you have to pick up all the pieces, that is probably one of the most exhausting trials I had to continuously go through through the early part of my 20s and through my late teens.
Chapter 3: What does it mean to get ghosted in relationships?
it is so exhausting to find someone to be pursued by another person when everybody's just trying to figure out who the heck they are and what they're supposed to do because you'll talk to people and realize oh like this is a cool person and relationships don't work out mostly for one reason and it's because either one or both parties don't try enough
And whenever I was in these situationships and a lot of these talking stages, I was always talking to the same types of men, whether if they were athletes or part of some sort of college or looked a certain way. Not even if they looked a certain way, they all had the same attributes. The number one attribute that was a cycle in all these decoy relationships I was pursuing was
was being absolutely nonchalant and apathetic. I have no idea why a very intentional, sensitive woman would pursue a man who was completely nonchalant and apathetic. Nonchalant men in the world is probably one of the most aggravating people to work with, especially relationally. I had a
that I've spoken to and etc but the moment that I messed up and the moment that a flaw came out of me they were done and it was so funny because I was putting up with all these boys dummy stuff for all these months but then the moment like an insecurity comes out they're like oh no you're done
baby boy i was putting up with all your stuff this whole time but the moment something that just takes you off just a little bit comes out of me you're done and i started to learn about relationships is that they rarely fail if one person isn't willing to just pick up the pieces and accept that the other person is flawed and i believe that god has instilled the grace in inside of me because i want him christian and i'm with him and i accept his gospel and who jesus is
that I was able to carry a grace and a forgiveness into relationships that I was trying to pursue, because let's be realistic, as I look back onto my old relationships, these men were not pursuing me. I was being hyper-masculine and hyper-individualism in being a woman and trying to seek, offend, and find for my own to where I was pursuing these men. So already I'm out of order.
And two, most of these men were absolutely worldly. And they just had a Bible scripture in their Instagram bio. And I'm like, oh, they're Christian. They were not Christian. These men were dogs that I was talking to. And God bless them. And I wish nothing but the best for them. If any of them ever comes across any of this video, God bless you. I hope the Lord treats you well.
And that he's blessing you extremely in Jesus' mighty name. Simultaneously, though, God allowed all of those situations to fail because my destiny partner was right around the corner, which is Malik Berkey's.
hey bae so everything works out for a divine purpose but as i look back on like my situationships i never had relationships it was always like this constant cycle and i realized i never really came on my podcast and talked about singleness and my struggles of being single because it was something that ruled almost the entirety of my life and a huge trial that i was going through
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Chapter 4: How to navigate rejection and abandonment?
So this is before meeting Malik, but after cutting off all these people and getting out of this dating stage and pursuing.
pure singleness with God, I had to look at the spirit of abandonment in the eye because I realized the reason as to why I was going to all these men was because there was a real legitimate hole in my spirit that wanted to be filled with attention and filled by being seen by other people.
There was a loudness and an extra part of me that would go to extreme lengths just to be heard, seen, and loved by a man. to where I didn't embrace that God heard love and saw me. And so my singleness season of just with God was me acknowledging that God loves and sees and cares about me. And what got in the way of that was the spirit of abandonment,
And I've talked about this multitude of times on this podcast is that any of the Bible characters I relate to the most, it is my boy Joseph in the beginning of Genesis. What I love about the story of Joseph and why I relate to it so much is because I understand what it means to have the closest people to you who were called and made to love you
abandon the love that they were supposed to exercise towards you and instead exercise betrayal and abandonment and tear off your clothes and throw you into a pit and sell you into a reality that you never signed up for and what you didn't believe God had for you. And even just like Joseph had a dream.
And out of the excitement of his dream, people were jealous and envy, and they wanted power for themselves. And because of that, they crushed his dream and instead wanted to gain a power and a self-righteousness for themselves. And I've dealt with that spirit of abandonment and of false power and of neglection and betrayal. And it's probably one of the hardest things and one of the most
most pivotal areas where I would like fall and feel all of the shame and guilt and neglection. And during this time, this is when I started to study the story of Joseph and got really deep into what happened, where can I relate to this character, and where do I see God through all of this?
Because I think if someone were to just read the story of Joseph, they would think, how the heck did God get the glory from this story? Joseph was the youngest of all of his brothers and he was favored by his father and he had a dream that God had given him.
And whenever he expressed it onto his family, instead of his family embracing what God has told them, they instead threw him into a pit, threatened to kill him. But instead of killing him, they threw him into slavery to the Egyptians. And then from that, Joseph goes to Egypt. He's a slave for a number of years and
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Chapter 5: What lessons can we learn from past relationships?
And through this famine, it brought his father and all of his brothers to the feet of Egypt to get resources. And that's when Joseph finally revealed himself and his brothers were terrified because they'd known what they had done to him. And we go to the end of the story. And even though Joseph went through all these trials and tribulations, he's experienced abandonment, neglect, massive betrayal.
He says, you intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. And the biggest thing about rejection that we fail to realize is that rejection is actually God's redirection.
So when you get rejected from a man or from a woman or from a talking stage or a situation, that rejection actually cultivates a redirection of where God's actually trying to push you. And because Joseph was abandoned and neglected and rejected by his own family, God used that to redirect him to use him divinely for the purpose of God.
And that's why whenever Joseph saw his brothers, he says, it's not you who has brought me here. It was the hands of God himself. And God used y'all to get me to a point to where I'm now the second in command of all of Egypt and to where I have rebelled.
I've turned my pain into purpose and I've overcome the spirit of abandonment and neglect and betrayal because God did exactly what he told me whenever I was a little boy that I was going to rule and do all these things and he had to take me through this to get me here.
So there was rejoicing and a gladness that happened because Joseph understood that his struggle took him exactly where God needed him to go. And whenever we get rejected by somebody or we're rejected by the person we were talking to for months and putting all of our intentionality and thought and emotions into, the moment they reject you, do not take it as, oh, they reject me.
There's something wrong with me. I'm going to accept the spirit of abandonment and betrayal. Instead, take pleasure in it because God is actually using that situation to show you that there's something better. If you thought that person that you were talking to was so good, just imagine who God has called you to for your divine destiny partner. It's not gonna be who this person was.
It's going to be somebody better. If God has called you to marriage, And he's not calling you to this person. It just means that he has someone better for you. So don't take it as, oh man, I got rejected and I'm never going to find anybody again. And I'm going to be single for the rest of my life. No, take it instead as God is redirecting me to my spouse.
Because every time I go through a decoy, I'm getting closer to the real thing. And also another thing about relationships in the talking stages before you find your true spouse is Before God sends you your true destiny partner, you will always come across a decoy.
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Chapter 6: How does faith play a role in healing from heartbreak?
And God will not leave you because he already left his son, the son who took your sin and your iniquity and your debt and pinned it on a cross. And so we understand that we're truly never alone and we're never abandoned when we embrace what Jesus has done for us. And there is no separation that you experience from God when you embrace what Jesus has done for us.
And we have to understand that God does not forsake you for the sin that Jesus has already died for. It's just a matter of you accepting what Jesus has done and coming into agreement of it. Galatians 3.13 says, Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us. So what does that mean?
Chapter 7: What is the importance of clear intentions in dating?
Jesus literally took on the shame and guilt and the disparities of sin and he was abandoned by God just for a moment so you could be a united, perfectly and harmonious relationship with God for all of eternity. He became a curse for mankind so he could break the
the curse he endured all the sins of the entire world just so the curse could be broken so death could be defeated and you could have the same exact thing if you just accept jesus christ as lord and I want to talk about something which has to do with abandonment and neglection. Just to be fully transparent of where I feel like I've fallen a lot as a Christian.
And where there's been a lot of doubt. Where there used to be a lot of doubt and there used to be a lot of confusion. And it was the story about the Holy Spirit leaving Saul. Ah, man. When I heard the story about the Holy Spirit leaving Saul, there was a fear there.
embedded into my spirit by abandonment betrayal and trauma that i used to experience that oh my god god what if you just get up and leave me one day that was a real fear i had as a christian i read that story of the holy spirit leaving saul and was so terrified that god could do the same thing to me that god would abandon me that god would leave me
And that was a verse that would throw me into a lot of perversion and confusion. And I believe that the enemy used as a pawn to throw me into a lot of confusion and perversion in the word of God, because that's all enemy does. He perverts scripture. He takes God's truth and he manipulates it for his will and his purpose.
And what I realized is that it's understanding that the Holy Spirit didn't leave Saul because the Holy Spirit wanted to leave Saul, but because the Holy Spirit had to leave Saul because Saul was not repentant. And so it just kind of killed all of these abandonment issues and insecurities and neglections in my heart because I was like, dang God, what if you just get up and leave me one day?
And he's like, I mean... I love you and I have compassion upon you. And my spirit is not going to leave you because my son has already paid the price. Your job is to just embrace it. And so you stay in the safety and the security of the Lord and you stay in his presence when you just embrace Jesus. It's that simple.
And so then it shows us a real reality that if you are embracing Jesus, if you are embracing the cross and what God has sent his son to do, then the spirit of abandonment isn't upon your life. It's just a lie from the pits of hell. Amen. Because the word says that God does not forsake us or leave us.
And even if we think God is gone for just a moment where he feels distant, he may just be speaking in a different way that we just can't recognize. And God's allowing us to not understand so we could draw closer to his heart. And so moving forward, you can live a life far from the fear of abandonment when you embrace the price for abandonment already being paid for by Jesus Christ on that cross.
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