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E110 - When Your Partner Has More Experience Than You

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, Hanna talks about ways to block out comparison for people in a relationship where their partner has more sexual experience or exposur...

E109 - Why I Won’t Use Hormonal Birth Control Again

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna shares an update on her journey with hormonal birth control!

E108 - Sex is for you, too 2.0!

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna talks about how purity culture and society have made women feel like sex is only for their husband, and she shares how to overcome those thought...

E107 - Purity Culture's Empty Promises

27 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna talks about how purity culture promises things & how sometimes they don’t come to fruition, and how that affects us.  LINKS: The Chri...

E106 - I'm Pregnant!!!

13 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna shares her good news!! If you are experiencing infertility, I am so sorry. You are not alone ❤️

E105 - ________ Girl Summer

06 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna shares another perspective of hot girl summer! Script to call your senator: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cd9ohy1NFjg/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

E104 - Boys Will Be Boys

30 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna chats about the saying “boys will be boys” and how we can change the narrative!

E103 - It’s Been a Tough Couple Weeks - Ways to Deal w/ Mental Health

23 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Hanna shares some tips she loves and uses to help with her mental health! Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us National Sui...

E102 - Your Sweet Stories w/ Caroline Hughes

16 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna’s bestie Caroline joins her to share YOUR sweet stories!

E101 - Q&A! Prepping for Summer, Confidence During Sex, Wedding Gifts

09 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna is answering YOUR questions! JOIN THE PATREON  BILLIE RAZOR + SHAVING CREAM UBERLUBE!  Maude Lube (use code saywhatpodcast for $5 off!...

E100 - Happy Two Years!!! + Your Healing Stories

02 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s celebrate two years by reading your healing stories!  JOIN THE PATREON FOR LOTS OF FUN! https://saywhatpodcast.co/membership The $15 vibr...

E99 - Strategies to Deconstruct Purity Culture w/ Dr. Camden Morgante

25 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Camden Morgante joins the podcast to share strategies to deconstructing purity culture. Follow Dr. Camden on Instagram! https://instagram.com/drca...

E98 - All Things Pregnancy w/ PFPT, Laura Meihofer

18 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist Laura Meihofer joins us to talk about how to prepare for pregnancy, what to expect when pregnant and how it affects yo...

E97 - Is It Wrong to Dilate Before You Are Married?

11 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today, Hanna answers one of her most frequently asked questions: “Is it wrong to dilate before you are married?” JOIN THE MEMBERSHIP

E96 - Tips for Your First Gynecology Appointment

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna shares her tips for going to the gynecologist!  DM @say.whatpodcast on Instagram to continue the conversation! 

E95 - How To Use a Vibrator, Lube, & Clean Up After!

28 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this “how to” episode, Hanna shares how to use a vibrator, lube, and clean up afterwards.  VIBRATOR UBERLUBE MAUDE LUBE: use code “saywh...

E94 - Deconstructing Christianity & Church Hurt w/ Tori Beck/The Christian Advocate

21 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna is joined by Tori Beck of The Christian Advocate to discuss deconstructing Christianity & church hurt! Follow Tori on Instagram: https://ins...

E93 - Sex Gets Better: What We've Learned From 3 Years of Marriage w/ Thomas Ward

14 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna & Thomas share what they have learned in 3 years of marriage. Join the Patreon! https://saywhatpodcast.co/membership

E92: WHERE’S THE HOLE?! Sex Stories w/ Caroline Hughes

07 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna’s bestie Caroline Hughes joins the podcast to share YOUR funny, cringy, embarrassing sex stories! JOIN THE SAY WHAT? MEMBERSHIP https://saywha...

E91 - Orgasm Gap, Arousal, & Lust w/ Sheila Wray Gregoire

28 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Author of The Great Sex Rescue Sheila Wray Gregoire joins us on the podcast today to chat about the orgasm gap, arousal, lust, and she answers your qu...

E90: Pelvic Wands, Dilators, & Pelvic Floor Therapy w/ Dr. Amanda Olson of Intimate Rose

21 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

President and CCO of Intimate Rose, Dr. Amanda Olson joins us today to talk all things pelvic health! INTIMATE ROSE PELVIC WAND SMALL DILATOR SET MEDI...

E89 - Hymens & Hymenectomy w/ Caroline Hughes

14 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna’s bestie Caroline Hughes joins the podcast today to share her experience getting a hymenectomy.  Hymen info: https://www.healthline.com/h...

E88 - Purity Culture Taught Me To Not Trust Men

07 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Todays episode we chat about how purity culture taught us to not trust men.  Join the say what? membership!!! 

E87 - Low Sex Drive & Marriage

31 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Hanna is joined by her husband Thomas and they discuss different reasons sex drive may lower once you are married and give you 3 steps to b...

E86 - Natural Family Planning & Understanding Your Cycle w/ Faith Thompson

24 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Faith Thompson joins the podcast today to explain how our cycles work and how to best serve yourself during your cycle! We also talk about Natural Fam...

E85 - We’re Back + Life Updates!

17 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today's podcast feels like we’re on FaceTime! :) Hanna shares why she took the break & shared some life updates! THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR! BetterHelp G...

E84 - 3 Tips for Prioritizing Your Spouse During the Holidays

20 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The holidays are SUPER busy, but your spouse comes first! Hanna shares 3 ways to have intentional time together this holiday season. PS - This is the ...

E83 - What to Expect in Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy

13 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna shares how to prepare for your first pelvic floor physical therapy appointment & answers your questions about PFPT! Dilator Set: https://www...

E82 - Diet Culture, Mental Health & Intentional Movement w/ Nicole Worm

06 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna’s long time friend Nicole Worm of Redeemed Collective joins us today to chat about her before & after story, mental health & intention...

E81 - Lust, Sex Drives, Porn, Sex Toys, & More (Q&A!)

29 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna answers YOUR questions today! We talk about dilating, vaginismus, condoms, tips for newlyweds, and more! Vaginismus Episode Our Story with Porn....

E80 - My Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

22 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When Your Husband Says “No” To Sex Description: Hanna talks through what to do when your sexual desire is higher than your husband. THANKS TO OUR ...

E79 - “And It Was Good” Hanna’s Message to Youth Ministry at Church

15 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna had the opportunity to speak about sex at her church’s youth group! Today she shared some life updates and the message she gave to them.

E78 - 5 Things I’m Learning Right Now

08 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna shares 5 things she is learning in this season of life. BUY MERCH!

E77 - 3 Ways to Initiate Sex

01 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Initiating sex can be intimidating, so Hanna shares 3 ways to start!

E76 - What Happens When Sex is on a Pedestal

25 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna talks about how purity culture puts sex on a pedestal & what can happen because of it. Let’s be bffs! join the e-mail list. https://saywha...

E75 - Domestic Violence/Toxic Relationships w/ Mallory Hisler, Social Worker

18 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking all about Domestic Violence/Toxic Relationships! We are joined by Mallory Hislar, who has her Bachelors & Masters in Social work....

E74 - When Touch Is Too Much

11 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today Hanna chats about being overstimulated and touch being too much! What do we do about it? Let’s find out. 10% off JOVI PATCH!  https://www...

E73 - Masturbation: Let’s talk about it!

04 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today Hanna talks all about masturbation! Is it a sin? Is it okay? Let’s talk about it.

E72 - Mental Health: Check on your friends!

20 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In honor of suicide awareness month, we are chatting about mental health today! Hanna shares some things you wish people understood about your mental ...

E71: Dilating 101

13 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we chat about all things DILATORS! What they are, who should use them, how to use them, and more! Thanks to our sponsor - Ohnut! Use code SAYWHA...

E71 - Dating Advice: Sex, Boundaries, and Communication w/ Thomas Ward

06 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna is joined by her husband Thomas to chat about dating!. We answer some of your questions: how to navigate sex, communication, and boundaries. Lis...

E70 - Body Hair, Discharge, & All Things Female Hygiene!

30 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna chats about all things female hygiene! Hear what her favorite products are, and she breaks down stigma on female body hair and discharge. Info a...

E69 - Sex Stories Part 2 - Redefining Romance

23 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna talks about the difference between sex & relationships in movies/tv shows/books versus real life! Listen to Sex Stories part 1 here: https://...

E68 - Moving Your Mindset Out of Purity Culture & Into God’s Design

16 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The number one question Hanna gets is “how did you overcome purity culture?” so today, she answers that question! We talk through the power of min...

E67 - Period Shame, Period Sex, & Menstrual Cups

09 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we chat about period shame, period sex, and all things menstrual cups! GET 15% YOUR MENSTRUAL CUP! https://pixiecup.shop?aff=9 GET 10% OFF YOUR ...

E66 - Answering YOUR Questions (Sex, Birth Control, Sex Toys & More!)

02 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today I am answering questions you sent in! We chat sex, painful sex, birth control, and more! Sex Positions: www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com Sa...

E65 - How to Define YOUR Values, So No One Else Will! w/ HaileyLynn Carpenter

26 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Life Coach HaileyLynn Carpenter is back to chat about values! Download the FREE handout by clicking here: https://www.dateyoursoulco.com/vaulesandpurp...

E64 - Sex Hurts. Now What?

19 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re experiencing painful sex, today’s episode is for you! Hanna shares 4 steps to take if you’re having painful sex. THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR...

E63 - Practical Sex Tips (Lube is Your Bff!)

12 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s talk about some practical sex tips! We talk about using lube, towels for easy clean up, peeing after sex, etc! CLICK HERE FOR 10% OFF THE JOVI...

E62 - I’m Cured of Vaginismus!

05 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hear my story of how I became cured of vaginismus!

E61 - Boundaries & Burnout w/ Life Coach HaileyLynn Carpenter

28 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Life Coach, HaileyLynn Carpenter joins Hanna on the podcast today to chat about burnout, boundaries, & purpose! Follow HaileyLynn: www.Instagram.com...

Bonus Episode: Marriage, Modesty, & Matthew West featuring Thomas Ward

25 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Thomas gets a little heated about the patriarchy... Give it a listen... Follow Thomas on Instagram (@thomasleeward) to further the co...

E60 - Hot Girl Summer, Ex-Purity Culture Edition

21 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

LADIES this summer we are wearing whatever the heck we want to!!! Coming out of purity culture, I always stressed about how to dress in the summer, so...

E59 - 3 Steps to Prep for Your Wedding Night & Honeymoon

14 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna chats about 3 ways to prepare for your wedding night & honeymoon! DM @say.whatpodcast to continue the convo 💕 THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR! BetterH...

Bonus Episode: Intentional Intimacy ft. Thomas Ward

11 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Bonus episode coming at ya with Thomas Ward talking about being intentional with all forms of intimacy and how to approach physical intimacy. Be sure...

E58 - How to Create Intimacy in Your Relationship (Without Sex!)

07 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna chats about 20 ways to create intimacy in your relationship WITHOUT sex! Jovi Patch: get 10% off by using code “saywhat” http://www.meetj...

E57 - Eating Disorders & Lifting Shame w/ Sheri Bollon

31 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sheri Bollon from Shame Lifter Society joins Hanna today to talk all about eating disorders and removing shame from our lives! Follow Sheri! https://i...

E56 - Your Orgasms Matter, Too!

24 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

LADIES we are talking about orgasms today!!! Your pleasure matters, too. We talk about the orgasm gap, how to orgasm, communication with your partner,...

E55 - Holistic Pelvic Floor Therapy & Dilators w/ Krissy Barritt

17 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna is joined by her Holistic Pelvic Floor Therapist, Krissy Barritt, to discuss all things pelvic floor therapy & dilating! Krissy’s Practice: ...

E54 - Mental Health Awareness Month!

10 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

May is mental health awareness month so today we talk about the depths of anxiety and depression. Hanna shares her story with anxiety, therapy, and he...

E53 - Sex Education & Sexual Agency w/ Carlie Palmer-Webb

03 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna is joined by developmental psychologist Carlie Palmer-Webb to chat about sex education, sexual agency, how to change the conversation from sex i...

E52 - Happy One Year of Say What!!!!

26 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Happy birthday say what? Family!!! Today we chat about everything say what has done this year, and share exciting things that are to come! Thank you S...

E51- Purity Culture: How the Church & Society Blames Women

19 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

TRIGGER WARNING: sexual abuse Today we dive back into purity culture & talk about some lasting effects it can have. JOVI: 10% off!! http://www.meet...

E50 - Is There a “Normal” Sex Drive?

12 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we chat through what to do when your partner has a different sex drive than you! Also, is there *really* a normal sex drive??? Listen to “E3...

E49 - Real Life Single Parenting w/ Hanna Helbert

05 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna Helbert joins the podcast today to share what it’s like being a single mom at 19! She also shares her story of her having her first daughter a...

E48 - Turning Self Care to Soul Care

29 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It’s true, we love a good bath, skin care, relaxing moment, but is it *real* self care if we aren’t taking care of our soul? Today we chat about h...

E47 - Reclaiming Feminism for Christianity w/ Meghan Tschanz

22 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Trigger Warning: Rape, Female Genital Mutilation Author of the new book “Women Rising: Learning to Listen, Reclaiming Our Voice” Meghan Tschanz ...

E46 - How Couples Recover from Porn Addiction w/ Evelyn James

15 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Evelyn James joins Hanna to talk through what to do when your partner is/was addicted to porn. Hanna and Evelyn talk through what does recovery from b...

E45 - What was Year 2 of Marriage Like? w/ Thomas Ward

08 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna and Thomas celebrate their two year anniversary on March 9th! Today they shared what they loved, what was hard, and what they learned.

E44 - Chase Your Dreams, Friend!

01 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all have a purpose on earth, and some know what it is, and others don't. Today we chat about how to get from where you are, to walking in your call...

E43 - You Are Not Your Thoughts

22 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Trigger Warning: Intrusive thoughts. Friends, we are not our thoughts and we are not going to let our intrusive thoughts control us anymore! Today we ...

E42 - Things I’m Doing to Make 2021 So Good!

15 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today Hanna shares 10 things she’s loving and things she’s doing to make 2021 a great year! DM @say.whatpodcast on Instagram to continue the conve...

E41 - How to Spice Up Valentine’s Day

08 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Valentine’s week!! Let’s celebrate love & sex! Hanna shares date night & gift ideas for the week.

E40 - I’m Not a Perfect Christian

01 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel like your relationship with Jesus is chaotic? Back and forth, good & bad? Me too. Today I shared some very real thoughts about my relationsh...

E39 - Modest is... Not Hottest?

25 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we dive into modesty from a purity culture stand point. We must change the way modest is taught and make it equal for men and women! DM @say.wha...

E38 - Sexual Shame & Society

18 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

**Trigger Warning: I talk about sexual abuse around the 17 minute mark Do you carry sexual shame with you from something that happened to you when you...

E37 - Marriage Rules: Worst Marriage Advice

11 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

“The first year of marriage is so hard.” “Never go to bed angry.” We’ve all heard people quick to shoot off marriage advice to newly weds an...

E36 - New Year, No Goals

04 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hot Take! I don't have any goals for this year. Goals for 2021 seem a *bit* overwhelming and just too much. If you feel overwhelmed going into 2021, y...

E35: Every Sex Life is Different

21 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Every sex life is different and every sex life goes through different seasons. Today we chat about the different sex life seasons we go through, and h...

E34 - It's a Love Story w/ Thomas Ward

14 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna is joined by her husband Thomas to share their story from start to finish! No judgment please fam

E33: “Why aren’t you married?!” Holiday Expectations

07 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna starts this episode by sharing vulnerable thoughts about being a good enough wife and Christian. Then, she gets real about holiday expectations....

E32 - Purpose, Fear, Depression, & Comedy w/ Montana Doran

30 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Montana Doran of Tana Talks podcast joins Hanna this week to talk about how to walk out your purpose, how scary it is, her dream of being a comedian, ...

E31 - Guided Meditation w/ Katherine French-Ewing

23 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Licensed Professional Counselor Katherine French-Ewing takes us through a guided meditation today! Listen to this episode when you’re at home relaxi...

E30 - My Very Vulnerable Story

16 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna shares her story this week that involves multiple moves, intense trauma, major struggle to feel like she fit in, a church closing, and much more...

E29 - My Husband and I Don't Agree... w/ Thomas Ward

10 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna is joined by her husband Thomas to talk about where do we go from here, here being the election. Listen to them share areas they disagree in, an...

E28 - Are Sex Toys Bad?!

02 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Does reading the words “sex toys” make you uncomfortable? If you answered yes, well, me too. In this episode, we fight against the stigma and sham...

E27 - We Met On Instagram! w/ Caroline Hughes

26 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Today Hanna’s bff Caroline Hughes joins us on the podcast to share their friendship story! It is a unique & fun story involving Instagram, really cl...

E26 - Imposter Syndrome w/ Bianca Wulwick

19 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Podcast host Bianca Wulwick of “Please Don’t Kick Me Out” joins us to talk all things imposter syndrome! Do you have it all together? Nope. Neit...

Bonus Episode: Divided States of America

15 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Bonus episode time! Today we have a quick chat about our country & the way we treat people. Hanna talks about how we should be living like Jesus inste...

E25 - Living with Spina Bifida w/ Gaby DeBerard

12 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Gaby DeBerard joins us for Spina Bifida Awareness Month! Hear her personal story with Spina Bifida and learn more about the disabled community. Follow...

EP 23: Sorry Not Sorry

28 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you say “I’m sorry!” more than anything else? I do! Today we chat about how to stop saying sorry when you don’t need to be apologizing & ho...

E22 - “Cuties” & Sexual Abuse

21 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Trigger Warning: This episode is about sexual abuse. Hanna is joined by her husband to chat about the new movie “Cuties” and sexual abuse. We must...

E21 - Stop Faking Orgasms

14 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Today Hanna chats about the two reasons your marriage could be in a funk: sex & unhealthy communication! We talk about how to find a healthy sex life,...

E20 - Acupuncture, Mental Health & Christianity

07 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Today Hanna updates us on where she’s at with vaginismus & acupuncture, and then dives into how important advocating for yourself in the physica...

E19 - Sex Stories w/ Brittany Close

31 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hanna & her friend Brittany Close break down expectations that sex is like you see in the movies by sharing YOUR funny/embarrassing/crazy sex stories!...

E18 - Women Struggle with Porn Too?! W/ Lacy Abercrombie

24 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Porn is *not* just a mans struggle, it’s a woman’s struggle too! This week, Lacy Abercrombie joins us to share her story with a porn addiction. Sh...

E17 - Our Story with Porn w/ Thomas

17 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Thomas and I share our story & experience with porn in our marriage. We share what decision had to be made to overcome this struggle, and encourag...

E16 - Overcoming Purity Culture

10 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Last week we chatted about how Purity Culture personally affected me, and this week we talk about where to go from here? How do we overcome Purity Cul...

E15: Let’s talk about (NOT having) sex, baby!

04 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Today we dive into the 6 ways purity culture affected me. It’s personal and heavy, but a good one! Here’s the episodes I referenced:  E8: Sex...

E14 - Life Update: Why Sex Hurts

27 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

E14: Life Update: Why Sex Hurts Today we chat about an update with the Podcast, my life, and I fill everyone in on why sex has been hurting me for ove...