Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

The Top 3 Reasons Couples Divorce—and How to Fix Them

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Remember when you first got together with your sweetheart? That electric thrill pulsing through your body from just a simple touch or a brief kiss? Af...

Exceptional Love On Purpose

25 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Think back to when you were a kid, imagining your life as a grown up. What was the most important element of that fantasy to you? Was it money? Freedo...

Strip Down, Rise Up to the Erotic : An Intimate Chat with Dr. Cheryl and Sheila Kelley

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Grown-up content alert! In this episode, Sheila and I talk explicitly about sexuality in and out of the bedroom. This content is not appropriate for l...

Stop Wasting Time and Start Focusing on What’s Important: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

11 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all been there: Your sweetheart is on your last nerve and you feel like you just can’t be with this person any longer. Yes, even sex and lov...

For an Exceptional Relationship, Love With Intention

28 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Grown-up content alert! In this episode, I use explicit language to talk in depth about sexual exercises that you and your honey can experiment with. ...

For an Exceptional Relationship, Become the Passion You Seek

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine you're out trying to recover from a betrayal. You're relaxing on the couch with your sweetheart watching a comedy special, your defenses are d...

To Receive Peace, Practice Generosity: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

14 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Generosity is a two way street. It has both an outflow and an inflow; it's giving and it’s receiving. When we think of ourselves as generous, we thi...

Sensuality, Arousal, and Why You Should Never Say I’m Not In The Mood Ever Again | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like everyone is getting laid but you? Or like if you just knew how to do that thing, you would be able to keep your partner engaged in ho...

Thrill and The Process of Igniting a Flame That Wasn't There From The Start | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered

31 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We often hear lots of couples talk about the whirlwind passionate romance that led them to commit to one another for the long haul and for some, go as...

Sarcasm: Playful Banter or Verbal Cruelty? | Your Sex and Love Questions Answered

24 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you're like me, your most sarcastic remarks were never made with the intention to cause harm. You're simply a linguist with an eye for irony and a ...

Do the Work! Make Your Love Intentional

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever arrived home with a new house plant and admired its glossy leaves and beautiful flowers… only to forget about its care for the next fe...

Are You Great at Celebrating Your Love— Or Does Your Larger Family Get All the Goodies?

03 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

So often on special occasions— whether it’s Thanksgiving, a birthday, or a graduation— celebrations become about family and friends. There’s n...

Go Out, Get Mushy, and Fall In Love All Over Again: The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Vol IV

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you have trouble looking your partner in the eyes and telling them how much you love them, you're not broken or weird or screwed up. We all have di...

Make Peace, Make Music & Prioritize Passion - The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Vol III

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When we pay attention and bring thrill to each other, when we have more fun and do more silly, outside of the box things, we’re putting in the work ...

The Great Summer Relationship Reconnect Game

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine you’re on a quiz show and the host asks you to define the word “hobby.” What would you say? Well, Dr. Cheryl, first of all, it's somethi...

Kiss More, Kiss Often

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Think of your first kiss with your current partner. (And if you're unpartnered, think of the first kiss with a previous partner—even if  the relati...

Relationship Reality Check: Your Expectations Are Making You Miserable

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The source of all of your unhappiness is in your own mind. Excuse me, Dr. Cheryl?! It may sound harsh, but it’s true. Our expectations about how we ...

Spring into Love: Cultivate a Generous Mind

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When you're feeling irritated toward your partner or you’re anxious about something that you think is just not working in your relationship, do you ...

Spring into Love: The Importance of Kindness

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For so many of us in long term relationships, we start to take each other for granted. Complacency creeps in on its sneaky little feet—we get bored,...

Best Of Sex, Love, and Elephants: The Sex You’re Not Having

10 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today, you’ll hear one of my favorite Classic SLE episodes on love, relationships, and the sex you’re not having.  If you’re in a long-term rel...

Everything Is Okay: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When you've had a hope or a plan and that hasn't played out the way you thought—you’ve been disappointed or angry or deeply hurt—it behooves you...

How to Honor the Elephant

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m sharing my gratitude for all of you on this special episode––episode 100! It’s time to remind all of us ...

Watch Your Language—and Practice Positive Speech with Your Partner

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How does it make you feel when your partner says, “I love you”? What about when your partner calls you your favorite romantic pet name? And how do...

Learn to Avoid the Big Fight Before the Flight

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve booked your flight, made a hotel reservation, and you’re just about packed for the big trip—and then it happens. That big blow up you’v...

Have You Gotten a Sleep Divorce?

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You brush your teeth, get into bed to do a little reading, and then kiss your partner goodnight as they leave for their room across the hall. Wait—w...

Love like an Elephant Part 2: True Love VS Desire Love

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt your heart fill with pure, unconditional love at the drop of a hat? Maybe you’ve rescued a poor, helpless kitten on the side of t...

This Valentine’s Day, Pay It Forward

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

February 14th… a date that strikes fear into the hearts of millions the world over! But it doesn’t need to be scary. Instead of making it all abou...

It’s Time to Start Scheduling Sex: 2023 Relationship Reboot

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Try as we might, every relationship gets stuck in lazy patterns—Yes, even mine. Relationships are a hard gig and it can be incredibly easy to grow c...

Take my 10 Minute Quiz and Rate Your Passion: 2023 Relationship Reboot

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Remember the butterflies and crazy lust you felt when you and your sweetie first started dating? When your honey gets home at the end of a long day, d...

Add Adventure and Improve Your Attraction: 2023 Relationship Reboot

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

“New Year, new you!” Don’t you just hate being overwhelmed by a million different calls for a fresh start every year? Resolutions to get fit or ...

New Year, New Intentions

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You can sign up for all the triathlons you want, but if you don't buy a bike, get some running shoes, find a bathing suit, and do your research, there...

Best of! SLE: The Holiday Hangover

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the ...

Best of! SLE: Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking - Making Holidays Romantic

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much...

Let Live and Let Go: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What do we do when the tough stuff happens? How do we draw on our inner elephant courage and wisdom to help us get through the biggest losses in our l...

REAL Couples, REAL Results- My Become Passion Course Starts THIS Friday!

02 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it...

Bring Passion Back to the Bedroom & Reignite Your Love Life—In Just 12 Weeks: Welcome to Dr. Cheryl’s Passion Masterclass

01 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a...

Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship! It’s Your Love Life—Invest Wisely

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Interested in joining the Become Passion Program? Doors close in a few days! The program with Dr. Cheryl starts November 4th. Click here to learn more...

Join Dr. Cheryl LIVE! Online Masterclasses THIS WEEK Fall Into Love Minisode 1

26 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 25th! Choose the ...

Dr. Cheryl Answers YOUR Most Burning Love Questions: Fall Into Love Chapter 4

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

JOIN Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Passion Masterclass - beginning October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. She’s teaching the Three Ke...

How this Love Expert got Divorced - Cheryl’s path from I Do to Disaster : Fall Into Love Chapter 2

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it. Today...

Keep the Thrill Alive—Norm and Evelyn Did It for 60 Years and So Can You: Fall Into Love Chapter 1

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr.C Cheryl is teaching it. Today...

Fall Into Love, Fall Into Like: October Sneak Peek

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This fall, I’m helping you fall back in love with the one you're already with. I’m going to take you through the 3 keys to passion—AKA The Passi...

What If Your Love Problems Are All Your Fault? Summer of Love 2022 Sendoff

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“Dr. Cheryl, we fight all the time and constantly blame one another… Is there any hope for our relationship?” Today, I’m talking all about neg...

Love Stinks! Why? Because Great Relationships Need More Than Love

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Why are relationships so hard? Today, I’m pressing pause on my Summer of Love couples Q&A series for a little bit of reflection. I’m talking about...

Treat Your Sex Life Like a Hobby: Why You Need to Start Scheduling Intimacy- Summer of Love Part 7

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“Dr. Cheryl… Our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun and sexiness back to the bedroom?” Today marks part 7 of my Summer of Love couples ...

STOP Treating Your Mate Like a Roommate and START Bringing Sexy Back- Summer of Love Part 6

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can I bring some of that excitement that we had when we wer...

NOT COMPATIBLE? Change Your Mind, Not Your Mate- Summer of Love Part 5

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” My Summer of Love couples Q&A series is back for part 5, answering another qu...

50 Shades of Sex, Love, & Elephants- Summer of Love Part 4

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Grown-up content alert! In this episode I talk about sexual fantasies in some depth, using some explicit language and I talk about concepts that are n...

Watch Your Mouth! Can Verbal Abuse Be Overcome? - Summer of Love Part 3

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“Dr. Cheryl…Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner?” Welcome back to the third installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. ...

Summer of Love - August Preview

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, I’m taking some time off so that my sweetheart and I can have some much needed R&R. But I’m not leaving you high and dry! While we’re...

Sometimes You’ve Gotta Rock the Boat- Summer of Love Part 2

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“My sweetie and I never fight… Is that okay?” Welcome back to the second installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m telli...

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Summer of Love Part 1

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“If I go there will be trouble and if I stay there will be double…” Today, I’m kicking off my 2022 Summer of Love couples Q&A series with one ...

Introducing The New “Summer of Love” series - Ask me YOUR Love & Sex Questions!

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast? Email it to [email protected] with the su...

How to Stop the Three Poisonous Emotions RUINING Your Life

20 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What tough emotions do you battle on a consistent basis? The more we pay attention to what incites our feelings of anger, insecurity, jealousy, and ot...

Couples on the Couch - Stop Keeping Score, Start Loving What Is

13 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do negative thoughts such as, “I’m so tired from a long day of work” or “I don’t have any free time balancing kids, work, and errands” cre...

Battling & Befriending Your Doubt Demons

06 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What are the common thoughts of doubt that come up when you think about your romantic partner? All of us have a “Doubt Demon” in our head that lik...

The Sex You’re Not Having

30 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you are in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless ...

It IS Possible to Be Happy For No Reason…Even When Your Dog Is Dying

23 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever looked at someone who exudes happiness despite all they have gone through and wondered, how can I be like that? Or, that has to be a fac...

Let’s Talk Buddha Dharma: Practicing The Six Perfections

16 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What qualities do you consider the most important to cultivate as a human being? While we each have our unique characteristics and personality differe...

Nothing Can Stop Your Elephant - Not Even the Monkey Talk!

09 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What do you think of when you see an elephant? When I am hurt, in pain, confused, or frustrated, I turn to the symbol of the elephant. Elephants are a...

Will Smith was Flooded! The Science Behind “The SLAP”

25 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When I got back from my retreat, I caught up on some of the world news and events that I missed - including the now infamous slap that Will Smith gave...

Death, Cake, and Living Large: Birthday Presence Part Two

18 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

All of us have an expiration date. It’s a simple reality… None of us know exactly how long we're here for. Maybe you find that frightening, maybe ...

Silence and Birthday Presence

11 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever noticed the incredible effect that total, utter silence has?  It can enable us to see shades of nature we’ve never noticed before, co...

Help! I Want Sex—They Don’t! Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“Dr. Cheryl, I want sex more than my partner does… help!” You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question in its many forms. Whether you’...

Am I With the Wrong Person? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

28 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What’s the most lonely feeling in the world? Laying in bed next year snoozing sweetheart thinking, “Am I with the wrong person? Is this it? Where'...

Should I Share My Taboo Fantasy with My Partner? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

21 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“Dr. Cheryl, I have a wild sexual fantasy, should I share it with my partner?” “Dr. Cheryl, how can I explain my dark, lusty sexual energy to my...

Do Healthy Couples Argue? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

14 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you're very young and foolish—or maybe you're old and foolish—falling in love early on might feel like your sweetheart understands you and can ...

Unhappy in Life or Love? Rewrite the Story in Your Mind

28 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When you are unhappy, why are you unhappy? Life would be a heck of a lot simpler if there was a go-to answer to that question, wouldn’t it? Generall...

Burn Your Romance Novels and Save Your Relationship

21 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Picture it: a gorgeous, tanned man with huge, hulking muscles and long flowing hair clutches a beautiful waif wearing an artfully tattered dress… ma...

Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 4: Tantalize

14 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know the saddest phrase in the English language? "Too late."  I speak with so many couples who are splitting up because, “The passion is gon...

Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 3: Tease

07 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Remember when you and your sweetheart first met and a day spent apart felt like an eternity? Remember the electricity you’d feel whenever you though...

Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 2

17 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you understand THIS ONE THING, it can radically improve your life. Don’t hang on to pain— it is in the past. Just Let Go. Here’s a story to i...

Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 1

10 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes our best laid plans and intentions go awry, not because of anything we’ve done, but through forces completely beyond our control. A meticu...

No “Thing” Can Make You Happy - Happiness Is an Inside Job

03 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to the first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants of 2022. Today, I talk about how you can be happy, content, and filled with loving kindness a...

Sex, Love, and Christmas: The Holiday Hangover

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I’m talking about the dreaded Christmas hangover and the reason why so many of us suffer from it. I explain that the reason we feel...

Make Christmas Sexy - Sensual Ways to Stuff a Stocking

13 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about sharing a fun, sexy, exciting holiday season with your lover and the ways my sweetheart and I have been celebrating toge...

Be the Surfboard, Not the Log: a Buddhist Take on Tough Emotions

22 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine you’re walking down the beach when you see a huge wave crash, the spray soaking your clothes. In the wave is a log bobbing desperately up an...

In Celebration of Friendship

15 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What defines a deep friendship to you? Is it someone you keep in touch with on a daily basis? Is it your spouse or partner who you trust with your dee...

Fighting the 3 Poisonous Emotions With Elephant Power

08 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a gorgeous, warm spring day. You're sitting out on a beautiful deck in a comfortable chair, you've got a perfect glass of lemonade, and a fasci...

Couples Q&A With Dr. Cheryl - Fight Fair, Fall Back in Lust, and Rediscover Your Sweetheart

01 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 25 of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear real couples ask the burning questions you’re dying to ask: “How can we learn to fight fa...

Ignite the Spark, Find Passion, and Fall in Love All Over Again—With the One You’re Already With

25 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I’m extending you an invitation to join me and a select small group of couples on an extraordinary, three-month-long journey into Becoming Pa...

How to Re-ignite Love, Passion, and yes...Sex! Dr. Cheryl’s Passion Masterclass

18 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do twice a ...

Great Sex at any Age - One Couples Story On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl

27 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

No matter your age, you CAN have a great sex life. But it’s not going to happen without a little help. Tips, toys, tools and techniques - there are ...

Marriage Boredom? Get On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl and Reignite Passion

06 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you and your partner have a loving, sweet relationship? One where you make their favorite white-bread-and-meatloaf sandwiches and they cuddle and c...

Why Celebrations are Good for Your Psyche and Your Relationships

30 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Another birthday? Another anniversary? Another Valentine’s Day? The longer we’re with our partners, the more monotonous it can seem to engage in g...

Don’t Make Excuses for Bad Behaviour - Instead, Apologize like a MoFo

23 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with ...

Why Meditation Sucks—But You Should Do It Anyway, Part 2: Dr. Cheryl’s Long, Strange Trip

16 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, I’m continuing the story of my freaking difficult, painful, real spiritual path that led me to the (relatively) peaceful and far wiser pl...

Why Meditation Sucks - and Why you Should do it Anyway

09 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I’m back from a month-long silent meditation retreat. Now, I’m not special. Anyone can learn to meditate - even you... So to help you out, ...

The Third Key to Passion: Sensuality

02 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You wouldn’t try to summit a mountain without a rope, carabiners, a heavy-duty pair of boots, and the proper training, right? So… why would you en...

The Second Key to Passion: Thrill

26 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Don’t you just love falling in love? The butterflies, the goosebumps, the chills down your spine... and elsewhere! That feeling can be like lightnin...

The First Key to Passion: Intimacy

19 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How many exceptional couples do you know that have been together for more than a year? Couples that really seem to be in love, still get excited when ...

Revive a Dying Relationship With the Three Keys to Passion

12 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you find yourself laying in bed at night next to your snoring sweetheart wondering “Where has the Passion gone?” you are not alone. The good ne...

Misery or Happiness? The Buddha’s Four Facts of Life

28 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why is it so much easier to become happy than to stay happy? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a set of teachings, specifically designed to appl...

An Aspiration a Day keeps the Divorce Lawyer Away

21 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” We’ve all heard that once or twice. And boy oh boy, that applies to our love relationships. We...

Love & Anxiety in the Age of COVID

14 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Ever been told, “You need to calm down”? One of the most complicated parts of an anxiety disorder is having a sweetheart, best friend, or boss tha...

Soothe the Monkey Mind and Follow the Elephant

25 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt like your mind has two modes? On the surface, there’s a tendency for a lot of us to be neurotic and impulsive and a little errati...

You are Married to the Wrong Person… if you expect them to make you happy

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We know that there’s no Prince(ss) Charming, there’s no white horse, and we’re not living in a magical fairytale. Then why, if we all know this ...

Your Sex Drive and the Rollercoaster of Lust: Myths Busted :)

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

So, you’re in a long-term relationship and it feels like that honeymoon lust has disappeared. When you first got together, you couldn’t keep your ...

Kill the Soulmate and Date your Elephant - Because Happiness is an Inside Job

27 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever walked down the street and, out of the corner of your eye, noticed someone with a grin and a glow?  Someone who seemed content, open he...