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Episodes
Is monogamy dead?
25 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Listener question & a mini dive into the history of monogamy.
Resolving conflict with James the Sexpert
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Partners, friends, family. A stepped guide on how to resolve conflict with those you love.
How crypto changed the world of sex work
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A Dichotomy Club production.
Crypto explained
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A few of my top crypto accounts: Conor KennyAndrei Jikh& sometimes Lark Davis+ a couple websites/apps to check out: Binance Crypto Bubbles
Redefining real: Love, loneliness & AI companionship with Dr. Lauren Rosewarne
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
From the most “trainable boyfriend” you’ll ever have to the backlash against single women and emotional outsourcing, we explore whether artifici...
The Rise of the AI lover
09 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner now looks, sounds, and reacts in just the way you prefer. Always available. Always responsive. Not sounding so terrible?
Losing a friend
21 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Losing a friend & gaining more purpose, more intention.
Your brand is more than your breakup
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Find us on Instagram @smm.podcast.
Donating eggs: Part 2
20 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do your own research, make your own decisions.
Moving cities & rebuilding
26 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you just made a move solo, sitting in the newness can be very uncomfortable. I’ve done it a couple times & am still no expert. I share my tips fo...
Sexologist vs. sex therapist: What's the difference & what will we talk about?
15 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Check out the Society of Australian Sexologist's Member Directory here: https://societyaustraliansexologists.org.au/directory References Hertlein, ...
Chasing Discomfort & Solitude
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How about an annual audit and a slow down?
What do you think? Australia's Social Media Ban
14 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
@smm.podcast & @emilywolter_ Articles and posts referenced in this episode: Orygen statement on social media, youth mental health and proposed...
US Stock Market: What to Watch
08 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The election is over. What to look out for now that Trump has once again been elected President. The platform I use to manage investments is IG Tradi...
Attention vs. Intention in Dating
18 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It helps me when you rate the show. I appreciate it in advance!
Donating my eggs: Part 1
04 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
1/6 couples (3.5 mil people in Australia) struggle with infertility. I've decided to donate my eggs and am bringing you along for the ride! Check...
30 years of lessons learned
04 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Cheers to a new decade of learning. 🥂
Top performing stocks
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
My portfolio is returning 29%. I share with you the best & worst performers. @smm.podcast on Tiktok.
Build a smarter investment portfolio with James O-Reilly, Financial Advisor
19 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Stocks vs. shares, how ethical companies perform, and how to build a more diversified portfolio. Find the budgeting tool here. And James' podcast h...
How we scientifically benefit from intentional breath work, with Clare Martin, Transformation and Breathwork Coach
12 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Clare is back for her second episode and we're talking all things human physiology and breath work. Book in a session with Clare by contacting her...
A reminder for when things are feeling tough
05 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you or someone you love needs support, here are some support services accessible in Australia: BeyondBlue Depression, anxiety and related disorder...
When and where to buy property, with James O'Reilly, Financial Advisor
29 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Property vs. stocks: Which one makes sense and when? Find more of James and his company on LinkedIn here.
Successful but can't buy a 50sq. m apartment?
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I got the dreaded "your rent is rising email," so I went looking for a home. Then I went to an auction. And let me tell you, the dogs and I ...
How alcohol affects our dating & sex lives, with Rahim Thawer, Social Worker & Psychotherapist
15 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You can get more of Rahim at @ladyativan on IG and on LinkedIn here. Find more of SMM Podcast on TikTok & IG @smm.podcast.
From loss to transformation, with Clare Martin, Transformation & Breathwork Coach
08 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you lost it all? What do our shadow identities mean? And what does true transformation require? Find Clare at @the.abundant.soul o...
Setting a budget & what the money we spend may say about our self-worth, with James O'Reilly, Financial Advisor
24 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
- Setting a budget - Not judging out spending - The psychology of spending Access the budget planner here (note: save a copy to edit your own). F...
How trauma shows up in relationships, with Carly Dober, Psychologist
17 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Find more from Carly here. Please also rate the show!
How to get the most out of online dating, with Rahim Thawer, Social Worker and Psychotherapist
10 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You can get more of Rahim at @ladyativan on IG and on LinkedIn here. Find more of SMM Podcast on TikTok & IG @smm.podcast.
Owning a home at 24 & splitting investments after a breakup
03 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Catch more @smm.podcast on TikTok and Instagram.
The tale of a modern day breakup
27 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With James the Sexpert. Attend the upcoming Unlocking Non-Monogamy workshop: https://linktr.ee/enmaustralia See more ENM content and message them wi...
My investment portfolio
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What companies do I invest in and what do they return? I keep saying “stocks” and meant “shares” but you get the point. Take it easy on me. C...
The most hated man by Australian child sex offenders, Andrew Carpenter
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Trigger warning: Child sex abuse Sign the petition for change here.
The situationship breakup
07 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's no BS ep, we talk about breaking up - but before you were "officially 'together.'"Consider our breakup series a little bit of therapy, a li...
Vulnerability is Strength, with Jason Banks, Co-CEO of TIACS
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know it takes someone struggling with mental-ill health an average of 10 years to ask for help? Please share this episode with someone who may...
3 top tips to be more employable & promotable
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How do I find a job that lights me up? How do I justify why I should be given a raise? I give you my 3 top tips that extend beyond having relevant q...
New year, new pod?
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The books I mentioned: Conversations on Love, Natasha Lunn This is Going to Hurt, Adam Kay Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel
Anxious & in love, with James the Sexpert
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Good things are worth waiting (and sorting through personal issues) for. A love life update from James. Catch him on IG at enm.australia, and more o...
What's your (fantasy) type? With James the Sexpert
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're talking with James the Sexpert (enm.australia on IG) about the dimensions of sexual fantasy & how our past shapes them. Catch mor...
What "I need space" means & how to handle it
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dreaded words, I know. How can you handle "space" and what can it do for your relationships? Find Raf at @bigbossmusicmastering on IG, m...
Am I having enough sex?
15 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Catch more on Tiktok - bswithem & Instagram - @emilywolter_
What it's like dating as a bisexual & poly person who has autism & ADHD, with Ruby Susan Mountford, President of Melbourne Bisexual Network
25 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - Ruby's experience "fitting in" throughout their life - What their learning process has b...
Vaginal tightness
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - How vaginal tightness is affected - How arousal levels, one's age, and pelvic floor muscle activati...
How to peg someone & get better at dirty talk, with Dominatrix Mistress Phoenix
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - What a dominatrix does - What kinks Mistress Phoenix enjoys most - How to do butt stuff & dirty ta...
How to tell a partner you want to open up
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
He's 38, has kids, isn't getting his needs met, and is considering opening up the relationship. What now? James the Sexpert is here to help! Find Ja...
Can you healthily live with an ex?
20 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I am so excited we have Raf joining us on the podcast again for more candid chats. I'm not saying who, but someone slept with an ex, and someone even ...
The struggle of NEW non-monogamous, long distance relationships is real
18 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A true BS bonus episode. New non-monogamous relationships can feel scary, insecure, and threatening. Sprinkle in some heavy bouts of jealousy and you'...
Situationship: Not committed and happy?
12 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I talk you through my take on situationships, as written about in my latest piece on getfrenchie.com. Use code BSWITHEM for 10% off all your p...
Sexual non-concordance: When "wet" doesn't mean turned on
06 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: The meaning of sexual non-concordance (and concordance) What this looks like physiologically The dif...
Our favourite data scientist explains why intelligent, successful women are single (with John Ward)
30 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We have John Ward back on the podcast to talk about a little something he calls hypergamy. On today's episode we're covering: - My experien...
Listener feedback on age gaps, plus how our personality traits develop over time
23 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: Listener experience with age gaps in dating (@emilywolter_ on Instagram to get in on the convo) How &qu...
Young men & sexual violence: An interview with Harrison James
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Trigger warning: today's episode contains information about sexual assault/violence. Please listen only if you are in the right space to do so. ...
Her first time in a non-monogamous relationship: A love life update with James the Sexpert
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Spoiler alert: James is dropping L bombs. How is non-monogamy going for her? Find us on Instagram: @enm.australia & @emilywolter_
Must be love on the brain (that's got me feelin' this way)
26 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode I'm reading you an article I recently wrote, all about our psyche when we're in lust, in love, and if/when we are force...
Are you a sex addict or just human? With James the Sexpert
19 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - What defines sex addiction - How porn affects our sexual experiences - Society's want to pathologi...
Surrogate mothers? No, surrogate partners
12 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - What defines a surrogate partner - How surrogate partner therapy is used - Rules & laws around su...
Is age but a number, really? Plus an intro to ENM Australia, with James the Sexpert
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - An intro to ENM Australia, James' new venture - Our experience in dating people "much" (s...
How ego drives our sexual fantasies, with Artemisia de Vine, Sexologist & Sexual Fantasy Specialist
21 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - The three 'S's' of sexual fantasies - What our fantasies say about our ego - How to better understand...
I gotta know, what's your fantasy?
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - What defines a sexual fantasy - The types of sexual fantasies - Top fantasies as reported by Americans...
Make condoms sexy again, with Sam Blake, Sexual Health Expert
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 3 of our sexual health series with the BS with Em Sexual Health Expert, Sam Blake. Today we're covering: - Are condoms actually sometimes...
What I wish people knew about STIs (and specifically herpes), with Sam Blake, our Sexual Health Expert
05 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 2 of our sexual health series with the BS with Em Sexual Health Expert, Sam Blake. Today we're covering: - The correct term: is it "...
How to have safe sex, plus when and what to get tested, with Sam Blake, Sexual Health Clinician & Health Educator
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today kicks off our sexual health series with the BS with Em Sexual Health Expert, Sam Blake. Today we're covering: - How to have safe sex - Ho...
Listener convo: How did you open your monogamous relationship?
24 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I'm thrilled to be talking with YOU about how your "non-traditional" (what does that even mean?) relationships are working out. The good, the bad, t...
Dating apps & communication tips for those with disability and/or speech impairments, with Vanessa Arratia, Speech Pathologist
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - Dating apps for those with disability - Reading verbal & non-verbal communication - The importanc...
How ADHD affects relationships (& how to manage it)
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today’s episode we’re covering: - What ADHD is (& isn't) - Types of ADHD - Common challenges in relationships & sexuality for ...
A conversation with my mom: Part 2
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A conversation with my mom, who taught me to be who and how I am. TW: we briefly discuss sexual abuse in this episode. On today's episode we...
A conversation with my mom: Part 1
08 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A conversation with my mom, who taught me to be who and how I am. TW: we briefly discuss sexual abuse in this episode. On today's episode we...
On faking orgasms
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - Historical research around faking orgasms - What the research says today - What listeners had to say ...
Breakups part 2: The long-term breakup
01 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How I got through my biggest heartbreak. Follow me @emilywolter_ on Instagram & @bswithem on TikTok.
What does it mean to make love, not porn? With the absolute powerhouse & CEO Cindy Gallop
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - What porn really is - What it means to make love, not porn - The challenges of marketing ethical "adult conte...
Why we need to challenge the status quo around porn, its violence, and the notion it's misogynistic, with Paulita Pappel, Co-Founder of Lustery
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're covering: What we've been told about porn vs. what porn represents The research around the effects of porn Challengi...
Post-coital dysphoria (tristesse)
17 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - What post-coital dysphoria (PCD) is - How many people experience it - Signs you are experiencing it -...
On walking away from people & places you love
12 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A message from me on being honest with yourself, speaking for what you want, and walking away when you need to make space for what, and who, has the p...
How do I know if I'm settling? - Listener Q&A with James & Em
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - How to tell someone you haven't had a long-term relationship without them freaking out - How we mea...
What's the deal with back burner relationships? - Listener Q&A with James & Em
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - James & I's ideal first dates - How to communicate when you feel you're in a back burner re...
James is jealous for the first time in six years
29 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - James' modern love tale - Jealousy - Coping with jealousy - Attachment styles Good news! James i...
A poly chat with the queer & poly-friendly counsellor and accredited mental health social worker Anthony Lekkas
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - Anthony's experience as a bisexual, cis man - When someone might look at opening a relationship - Br...
True or false: When you know you know
20 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A big Instagram convo on whether it's true or false: When you know you know. Your poll results, plus comments on how we know someone is meant fo...
Bonding over trauma
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: The difference between bonding over trauma and trauma bonding Why we bond over trauma Exampl...
Doing good in business with Matt Cohen of whyhive
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're covering: - Doing good in business - Our relationship with money - Self-care & prioritisation - Matt's business ventures and the p...
Let's have an uncomfortable conversation with Eleonora Bertsa-Fuchs of Let's Talk About X
01 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're joined by Consent & LGBTQIA+ Inclusion Educator Eleonora Bertsa-Fuchs (she/they) of Let's Talk About X. Eleonora is a former teacher, ...
Do you unfollow your ex?
27 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
By all means, unfollow those you need or want to. But don't blame someone else for doing it. Catch more of Em: @emilywolter_ on Instagram. ...
A pledge: Intersex human rights - my body, my choice
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A note on the importance of supporting the pledge "Intersex human rights - my body, my choice." What is gender normalising surgery? What are the...
Creating safe spaces & sharing our personal stories of strength with Hannah McKimm, Trauma-Informed Coach, Rape Survivor, & Podcast Host
15 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we're covering: - Hannah's story - The emotions and behaviours survivors might experience - How society can work to re...
Sure you can buy yourself flowers, but let other people do that for you too - a note for Valentine's Day
13 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today is about pivoting and knowing you're going to be just fine, even if plans change. And that, to me, is the true love we need on a day like Valent...
How important are star signs for dating and understanding oneself? With Mark Ashmore, Astrologist
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode we're covering: - The difference between Vedic & western astrology - How important star signs are for dating - Why the "moon" s...
My favorite toys of 2022
06 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Let's get you a sex drawer. Companies mentioned include: Lovehoney, Iroha, Normal, Frenchie, and Kinkerette. Save 15% at getfrenchie.com by usin...
Do kinky people have to live double lives? With the Founder of Kinkerette
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're covering: - Stigmas around kinks - Sex taboos - Being a dynamic human (NEWS FLASH: You can enjoy sex & kinks & b...
What's conversion therapy?
30 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're covering: - What conversion therapy is - Where it's banned Find out more about Secret Book Stuff here: https://www.secr...
So he couldn't get hard... is that normal? Dating with Em & James (the tame version)
25 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So he couldn't get hard. Let's talk about it. We note this episode is not the be taken as medical advice. Please seek professional guidance for sexual...
How does porn really affect us, and how much is too much?
18 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're covering: - Listener's porn viewing habits - Ways porn can be useful (and not so much) - Themes around porn viewership - How p...
More connected yet more lonely than ever before
11 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I read you an article I wrote that was recently published in Independent Australia. Today we're covering: - The online dating lands...
Am I poly? With John Ward, Data Scientist
04 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're covering: - Communication and boundaries required in poly relationships - The complexities of opening up - Am I poly? You can join in on ...
Do poly relationships work? Talking the data & complexities with John Ward, Data Scientist
02 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're covering: - The complexities of poly relationships - Factors that are left out of measurements of "successful" relationships&n...
Shibari: Japanese rope bondage
28 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're covering: - The origins of Shibari - How it's practiced - An interview with Shibari performers Follow me for more at @e...
Feeling far from home for the holidays
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
For many people, holidays bring us further from the group of people we feel most at home with. A candid chat about staying true to ourselves thr...
Spotting a violent relationship & how to help with Liv T., Family Violence and Homelessness Worker
19 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Trigger warning: discussion of family/domestic violence. Today we're covering : - Signs to look for when a friend/loved one may be experiencing...
Sexuality & relationships: Japan edition
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A massive thank you; BS with Em was in the top 5% of podcasts shared globally on Spotify in the last year. In 9 months, the podcast is the #1 podcast ...
Just because I know how to cope doesn't mean it didn't hurt
12 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A dating update. Spoiler alert: I dated a short king & it was far from a good laugh. "Can I share a reality" framework: When I expe...
Healthcare and gender: making health more LGBTIQ+ inclusive with Mel Brush of Let's Talk About X
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we're covering: - The importance of language in healthcare - How gender identity affects health - How to make healthcare more in...
The online gendered harassment women & gender diverse people face, with Caitlin McGrane, Manager, Policy & Online Safety, Gender Equity Victoria
05 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
"There are so many people who can imagine a better future. And you are not alone. There are so many people who are trying to change the future, and yo...