Single (not spiraling)

Why Women Who Hold Space For Everyone Burn Out The Hardest | EP. 108

10 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you've been feeling flat, uninspired, and like everything — even the things you used to love — has started to feel like a chore, this episode i...

I Have Some Feelings And You're Going To Hear Them (Sorry Not Sorry) |EP 107

03 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week Lauren is just talking. No theme, no structure — she's sharing what's been on her mind lately: being tired of centering men in the convers...

Why The F*ck Does It Feel So Abnormal To Decenter Men (& What To Do About It) | EP. 105

27 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You have started decentering men but something feels off. Weird. Like you are going against everything you were taught and even your own body is like ...

Decentering Romance Step By Step: How To Date Without Losing Yourself | EP. 105

20 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You understood everything we talked about in part one. And then you opened the apps and lost yourself in whether he texted back. That is exactly what ...

The First Step to Decentering Men? Decentering Romance| EP. 104

13 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you've been doing the work of decentering men but feel like something isn't clicking, this is the episode you need. Because the first step to decen...

What Would a Matriarchal World Look Like? How Women Are Reimagining Power, Care, and Community Beyond Patriarchy| EP. 103

06 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What if your burnout isn't a personal failure — it's a system doing exactly what it was designed to do? In this episode, Lauren unpacks how patriarc...

Stuck Between Wanting Love and Loving Being Single in Your 30s | EP. 102

20 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In your 30s, something shifts. You’ve done the therapy. You’ve built the self-worth. You’ve stopped settling for emotionally unavailable men. An...

Self-Trust, Standards, and Not Settling for Mediocre Love | EP.101

13 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, we’re talking about self-trust, standards, and what it actually means to stop settling for mediocre love. ...

Internal vs External Validation: Why You Don’t Trust Yourself Yet | EP. 100

06 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We talk a lot about “self-validation,” but no one really explains what that means in real life. This episode breaks down internal vs external vali...

Healing Isn’t the End Goal. Living Is | EP. 99

01 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You understand the concepts.So why does it still feel hard to move? In this episode, we ta...

What Do You No Longer Tolerate That You Once Normalized? Dating, Boundaries & Self-Trust. | EP. 98

23 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Single (Not Spiraling), we talk about the moment you realize the things you once accepted in dating no longer feel okay. From incon...

Can You Date and Decenter Men at the Same Time? Here’s What It Actually Looks Like | Ep. 97

16 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Can you date and still decenter men — or does one cancel out the other?In this episode, I share what it’s actually looked like for me to date with...

Am I Single Because My Standards Are Too High? | EP.96

09 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Are you single because your standards are too high — or because you finally have some?In this short episode, we talk about why so many grounded wome...

Choosing an Intentional Life in 2026 as a Single Woman (with out burning out) | EP. 95

26 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re a single woman heading into the new year and feeling burned out by goals, pressure, and “fix yourself” energy — this episode is for ...

If You’re a Single Woman, Let Me De-Influence You About the New Year & January Pressure | EP.94

19 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re a single woman feeling pressure to have everything figured out at the start of the year, this episode is for you. In this episode of Singl...

Feeling Invisible During the Holidays as a Single Woman: When Traditions Change & Heartache Hits | EP. 94

12 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we’re getting real about the kind of holiday hurt no one talks about — the moment you’re surrounded by family and still feel in...

A Lover Girl’s Guide to Surviving the Holidays as a Single Woman | EP. 93

05 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Listen… if you’ve been feeling off this holiday season and can’t really explain why? You’re not alone. This episode is for my single girls nav...

Decentering Men, Healing Yourself, and Building a Life That’s Actually Yours | EP. 92

21 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So apparently, “decentering men” is tired now. A trend. A phase. Except… we’re still watching women shape-shift to be chosen by men who can’...

Did I Heal Too Much? What Happens When You Outgrow Dysfunction | EP. 91

14 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever wondered, “Did I heal too much? Is that why dating feels so hard now?”—this episode is for you. We’re getting into what it re...

Grief, Single Girl Edition |EP. 90

31 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if the sadness you’re feeling isn’t just about being single... but about grieving the life you thought you’d have by now? In this episode o...

10 Things Every Single Woman Needs (And It’s Not a Relationship) | EP. 89

24 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This one’s personal. It’s a love letter, a pep talk, and a little bit of a call-out. After being single for a long time (hi, 7 years), I’ve lear...

Single Girl Finances: Unpacking the Shame Around Debt (Without Hating Yourself) | EP. 88

17 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Money isn’t just math — it’s emotional, messy, and wrapped in way more shame than most of us want to admit. In this episode of Single, Not Spira...

Would You Date You? Pt.3 Define Your Non Negotiables Or Keep Settling |EP. 87

10 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Still waiting for someone to pick you? This episode is your wake-up call. Lauren Samantha is calling out the toxic dating patterns that keep women per...

Would You Date You? Pt. 2: Stop Starving Your Needs to Seem Desirable | EP. 86

03 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You're out here saying you want a partner who’s emotionally available, who prioritizes your needs, who makes you feel sexy, seen, and safe… but ar...

Would You Date You? Pt 1: Are You Becoming The Partner You Crave EP| 85

26 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You say you want someone emotionally available… but are you emotionally available to yourself? In this raw and reflective first episode of the Would...

What If Nothing’s Wrong With You? But You Still Need to Change Some Sh*t! (Welcome to Single Not Spiraling)| Ep. 84

19 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever cried in the Trader Joe’s parking lot because your ex moved on and you’re still wondering if love is even in the cards for you? Same. In this...

The End of Pleasure Pathways (And the Beginning of Something New) EP.83

30 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

After 82 episodes, today marks the end of an era—and the beginning of something I didn’t see coming. In this final episode of Pleasure Pathways, I...

The History of Pleasure: How We Lost It—and What It Takes to Get It Back | EP. 82

23 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we trace the history of pleasure—from Ancient Greece and goddess worship, to the Puritans, patriarchy, and purity culture. You’ll...

The Body Comments That Stick With Us—and How to Shake Them Off | EP. 81

16 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever had someone say something about your body that stuck with you for way too long? Same. This week on Pleasure Pathways, I’m sharing two real mome...

If IUD Pain Is “So Common,” Why Don’t Doctors Take It Seriously? | EP. 80

09 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why are so many women screaming through IUD insertions... and being told it’s normal? In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, I’m sharing my own exp...

Is It Bad to Feel Good Right Now? | EP. 79

02 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In a world that feels like it’s falling apart where every headline is heavy and everyone seems to be struggling it can feel wrong to enjoy anything....

Still Single After Doing ‘The Work’? You’re Not Alone | EP. 78

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve journaled. You’ve therapied. You’ve healed your inner child and raised your damn vibration. So why does love still feel like it’s MIA? ...

Fairy Smut and Why We’re Hooked | EP. 77

18 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Fairy smut has us in a chokehold right now, and it’s not just because the sex is good (though it is). It’s because these books are finally giving ...

No Children By Choice Episode | EP. 76

11 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

I hesitated about making this episode.  But I also know it’s important to share. This episode is for the women who know in their bones they don’t...

The Vacation Episode | EP. 75

04 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Recording this from the river tonight, in the dark, just me and my cats and the water.No big plan, no fancy outline—just slowing the f*ck down and s...

The Truth About TMI: Why Women Feel Gross for Being Human | EP. 74

28 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever said, “This might be TMI, but…” before sharing something completely normal—like the way your period actually feels, or that you got turne...

Secrets Are a Form of Control. So Why Are We Still Protecting Everyone But Ourselves? | EP.73

21 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You were taught to stay quiet. To be the keeper of secrets. To protect the image, the family, the relationship—everyone but yourself. In this episod...

Self-Worship vs. Self-Care: One Will Change You, One Will Exhaust You |EP. 72

14 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You’re doing the journaling. Drinking the tea. Buying the serums. Lighting the candles.But if you’re still burnt out, disconnected, or just straig...

How to Know If You’re Healing… or Just Avoiding | EP. 71

07 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You say you’re healing—but are you actually just hiding? In this spicy truth-talk episode of Pleasure Pathways, Lauren unpacks the fine line betwe...

Not your typical episode because Lauren is burnt the f out! |EP. 70

30 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A quick short and sweet to the point episode because your girl is burnt out!Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram  Please email me here: ...

Why Men Need Marriage More Than Women Do | EP. 69

23 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I’m naming the truth most people avoid: men need marriage more than women do—emotionally, socially, and psychologically. But whil...

Comparison Is a Thief—Here’s How to Take Your Power Back | EP. 68

16 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Feel like everyone else is ahead and you’re just... stuck? You’re not broken—you’re caught in a comparison spiral, and babe, it’s not an acc...

How Creativity, Pleasure, and Play Heal Your Relationship with Yourself | EP. 67

09 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You don’t need to be an artist to be creative. You don’t need a partner to experience deep pleasure. And you definitely don’t need to have it al...

Staying Grounded When Life Won’t Slow Down (Especially When You’re Single and Doing It All) | EP. 66

02 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been feeling everything all at once and still showing up on your own, this one’s for you. We’re talking about nervous system regulatio...

How to Romanticize Your Life Through Your 5 Senses (No Partner Required) | EP. 65

26 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling disconnected, touch-starved, or just kinda… blah? This episode is for the romantic dreamers. The sensual self-lovers. The ones who might be ...

Permission to Bloom: How to Let Spring Move You Instead of Forcing Change | EP. 64

19 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re single, spring can feel like a weird mix of awakening + restlessness—you’re shaking off the winter slump, craving new energy, but mayb...

How to Create a Sex Bucket List with Jenay Lambert: Exploring Desire, Dating & Solo Pleasure | EP. 63

12 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Looking to spice up your sex life and actually talk about what you desire?  In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible podcaster Jenay Lambert t...

What It Really Means to Commit to Yourself (It’s Not What You Think) | EP.62

05 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Self-love sounds beautiful in theory, but what happens when commitment to yourself brings up grief, resistance, and unexpected lessons? In this episod...

Exploring Open Relationships: Expert Advice from Jennifer | EP. 61

26 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, I sit down with Jennifer, a seasoned relationship and dating coach who specializes in helping individuals and co...

The Best Relationship of Your Life Might Be Your Best Friends | EP.60

19 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We spend so much time searching for ‘The One’—but what if the best, most fulfilling relationship of your life is already here? What if it’s be...

How Your Attachment Style Shapes Love, Sex & Dating W/ Samantha Deribin | EP. 59

12 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns? Or why intimacy feels easy for some but complicated for others? In this ...

What If You Never Find ‘The One’? A 28-Day Journey to Self-Love | EP. 58

05 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if you never find your person? That question hit me hard, and honestly… it’s one I know a lot of us have avoided.But instead of spiraling int...

How Choosing Pleasure Over Burnout Helps You Rewrite the Rules and Take Up Space | EP.57

29 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of feeling like burnout is your default setting? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving into why hustle culture keeps you s...

Embracing Your Vulva: The Power of Self-Love and Acceptance with Catherine Drysdale | EP.56

22 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we chat with sex and relationship coach Catherine Drysdale about the journey of learning to love and accept your vulva. Catherine sha...

Having Your Own Back in a World That Won’t: How to Build Self-Trust| EP.55

15 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In a world where systems often fail us and validation feels hard to come by, learning to have your own back is essential. In this episode, we dive int...

WTF Is Snail Trailing and How It Transforms Your Relationships | EP.54

08 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, I am looking at the concept I call “snail trailing” and how it can transform the way you show up in your rel...

Confidence In and Out of the Bedroom: Lessons from Erika Eileen | EP. 53

03 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I sit down with Confidence Queen Erika Eileen to explore what it really means to feel confident—both in the bedroom and beyond. Eri...

The Top Pleasure Predictions for 2025 You Need to Know | EP. 52

25 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As we say goodbye to 2024, it’s time to look ahead with hope, optimism, and a lot of honesty. In this solo episode, I’m diving into my boldest ple...

Navigating Shame in the Bedroom and Relationships W/ Sex Therapist Monique Gomez | EP. 51

18 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I sit down with Monique Gomez, a certified sex therapist, to tackle the often-taboo topic of shame in the bedroom and its impact on r...

Wild Woman Wisdom: A Guide to Feminine and Masculine Energy in Relationships W/ Amy | EP. 50

11 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I sit down with Amy, a Leadership + Embodiment Mentor, to dive into the dynamic interplay of feminine and masculine energy in relatio...

How to Schedule Sex Without Killing the Spark | EP. 49

04 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Does scheduling sex kill the mood or save your relationship? In this episode, we dive into the often-taboo topic of planning intimacy. Learn why busy ...

Keep The Spark Alive: How To Thrive In long Term Relationships W/ Shay | EP. 48

27 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Struggling to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship? On Pleasure Pathways, we’re breaking down the secrets to sustaining intimacy, pas...

How to Choose Relationship Advice That’s Right for You | EP. 47

19 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, Lauren talks about the world of relationship advice and explores how to filter through the overwhelming informat...

The Honest Truth About Sex After Kids: Finding Your Sensuality Again W/ Kristina | EP.46

13 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk to Kristina about the honest truth about sex after kids, uncovering surprising research that rarely gets discussed. Whether yo...

The Hidden Emotional Labor Women Do in Relationships And How It Imapact's Your Relationship | EP. 45

06 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, Lauren uncovers the reality of invisible labor—the often unnoticed emotional work that women carry to keep rel...

The Hidden Impact of Patriarchy on Love and Relationships W/ Frankie |EP.44

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this Weeks episode, I sit down with Frankie, an embodiment mentor and somatic facilitator, to uncover the often-overlooked ways the patriarchy disr...

Not Everything is a Red Flag: Unpacking Misunderstandings in Modern Dating | EP. 43

23 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all been there—one offhand comment, a late text, or a nervous laugh on a first date, and suddenly, we label someone a narcissist or avoidant...

Mindfulness in the Bedroom: How to Elevate Pleasure and Connection W/ Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus | EP 42

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, we dive into the transformative power of mindfulness in sexual intimacy with, Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus. Learn how...

How to Stay Hopeful in Dating: Why Your Dream Partner is Still Out There | EP.41

09 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode, I talk about the challenges of modern dating and why you shouldn't give up! I know dating can be tough, but the right person i...

Dating The Wild CONTINUED!! |EP.40

03 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

***Episode Continued ***In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, we dive into the world of in-person dating with special guest Mercedes from Date Columbu...

Dating in the Wild: How to Master In-Person Connections W/ Date Columbus’s Mercedes| EP. 40

02 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, we dive into the world of in-person dating with special guest Mercedes from Date Columbus. Whether you’re tire...

Craving Connection: Battling Intimacy Starvation in Modern Dating | EP.39

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, we’re diving into the real and raw experience of intimacy starvation and the deep emotional and physical hunge...

Why We Take Things Personally and How to Heal Those Deep Wounds | EP 38

18 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever find yourself taking things a little too personally? A casual comment from a friend, feedback from a partner, or even a look from a stranger can ...

Intimacy In The Strip Club W/ Cynthia Cee| EP. 37

11 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I sit down with Cynthia Cee, a former dancer, to explore the deeper side of intimacy within the world of strip clubs. We dive into wh...

Shedding Shame & Hitting The Restart Button On My Life | EP. 36

04 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this deeply personal episode, I open up about my journey of shedding shame and the steps I'm taking to redirect my life with intention and purpose....

Rituals for Romantic Abundance W/ Kiki | EP. 35

28 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I this episode, we meet with Kiki, a wealthy embodiment mentor, to explore the transformative power of rituals in attracting love and abundance. Kiki ...

F***ing & Frolicing W/ Jordan D'Nelle| EP. 34

21 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Get ready for some real girl talk! In this fun and unfiltered episode of Frolicking and Fucking, with Jordan D'Nelle we’re diving deep into the worl...

What Does "Doing The Work" Even Mean? | EP.33

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we unravel the true meaning behind the phrase "doing the work" – a concept that's often talked about but rarely fully understood. J...

Talking Money Will Make Or Break Your Relationship W/ Lindsey | EP.32

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're diving deep into the world of love and money with our special guest, a seasoned financial therapist who’s seen it all. From the joy...

Turn Your Self On W/ Bella | EP.31

31 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you ready to dive into the fascinating world of women's pleasure? Join us in this exciting episode as we chat with an extraordinary pleasure coach...

The Benefits of Reading Erotica W/ The Spicy Minstrel | EP. 30

24 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for a tantalizing episode as we dive into the captivating world of erotica with a special guest who knows how to turn up the heat!  Discover ...

Reclaim Your Sex Life From Religion W/ Sister Shannon| EP. 29

17 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Lauren interviews a seasoned dating coach who specializes in helping individuals who grew up in the church and are under the influenc...

A Man's Perspective on Intimacy & Emotional Intelligence W/ Courtney Brame | EP. 28

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join us in this insightful episode as we dive into the male perspective on intimacy, dating, and relationships. Our guest shares his personal journey ...

Master Your Nervous System For Deeper Connections | EP.27

19 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Lauren explores how mastering your nervous system can transform your dating life. Lauren discusses the importance of understanding your nervous system...

Magnetic Communication: Transform Your Dating Life and Relationships! | EP.26

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We dive into the complexities of relationship communication. We'll explore common communication struggles backed by revealing statistics and provide y...

Avoid Dating Burnout: My Go-To List | EP.25

05 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling overwhelmed by the dating scene? Struggling to keep your energy up amidst endless swipes, texts, and first dates? In this special episode, "My...

How Your Brain Impacts Your Dating Choices | EP.24

29 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, we dive into the fascinating ways your brain might be sabotaging your efforts to find a fulfilling relationship. Discover the scie...

Unresolved Trauma: How It Impacts Your Relationships | EP.23

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you don't address your trauma, your relationship will. In this episode, I break down attachment style, inner child work, and how to not allow your ...

I Don't Need No Man | EP.22

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Lauren unpacks the popular phrase "I don't need no man" and explores its deeper emotional roots. Discover how this declaration of self-sufficiency oft...

Vulnerable and intimate | EP.21

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to "Pleasure Pathways" with Lauren, your guide to deeper connections and richer relationships. Join me as I unveil the power of vulnerability ...

Expectations that break your heart | EP.20

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How are your expectations of life and relationships breaking your heart? Lauren explores how our expectations set us up for disappointment and how we ...

Next Level You/Life Update | EP.19

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode, I will update you on how my life changed after  The Next Level You conference and how this podcast will evolve to serve you b...

How to Tell Your Partner About Your Kinks | EP.18

18 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Want to learn how to talk with your honey about a Kink or something you want to try out in the bedroom? This episode is for you!BOOK A CALL WITH ME h...

The Disturbing Truth About Abstinence-Only Sex Ed | EP.17

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we're diving deep into the wild world of abstinence-based sex ed. Sharing stories from listeners and spicing them up with historical ...

Why Sparks Might Be the New Red Flag in Dating | EP.16

27 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode of the Pleasure Pathways Podcast, host Lauren delves into the all-too-common pitfall of chasing fleeting feelings in pursuit of...

Women-Only Intimacy and Empowerment Tips | EP.15

20 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join host Lauren as she delves into her exclusive work with women, unveiling her personal journey to happiness, calmness, and reclaiming control. Thro...

What's Your FAN-TA-TA-SY | EP.14

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Lauren celebrates fantasies as a natural and healthy part of being human. Join her as she debunks stigmas and dives into the transfor...

From Tatted Daddy to Douche Daddy: What to Watch For | EP.13

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join Lauren on the Pleasure Pathways podcast as they share their personal voyage through the complexities of modern dating while staying true to their...

The Secrets of Intimacy You’ve Never Heard | EP.12

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we delve deep into the multifaceted realm of intimacy, uncovering its significance in fostering self-empowerment, sexual liberation, ...

The Power of Seeking Help: Transforming Your Relationships | EP.11

21 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 11 of the Pleasure Map Podcast, join Lauren as they dive into the transformative journey of seeking assistance and embracing diverse viewpo...