Strictly Anonymous Confessions
1487 - Why People in Good Relationships Stop Having Great Sex w/Deborah Kat
13 Jun 2026
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Chapter 1: Why do people in good relationships stop having great sex?
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Chapter 2: How did Deborah Kat transition into a non-monogamous relationship?
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Chapter 3: What are the top three reasons for a decline in sexual intimacy?
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Chapter 4: How can couples reconnect after experiencing disconnection?
It's a real problem. Does your friend know that you're banging her or no? No, he has no idea. And anything goes. Motto of the show, let your freak flag fly. Probably the only good advice I'll ever give you is to re-hide your whips and chain. Here is your host.
Hey, welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast with Kathy. If you want to follow the Strictly Anonymous podcast on Instagram or X, follow the show at Strict Anonymous. If you want to be on the show, it's called Strictly Anonymous because I change everyone's voices. People change their names.
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All you got to do is send me an email at strictlyanonymouspodcast at gmail.com or go to my website, strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on be on the show.
Chapter 5: What is an erotic blueprint and why is it important?
I I also have a Sexual Health Saturday series. So if you have a really interesting health story, journey that you want to talk about, email me as well. If you have a naughty confession that you want to leave on my confessions hotline, you could do that 24-7. The number is 347-420-3579. Make sure you're in a quiet place.
So many people call while they're driving and I can't hear shit and I can't use those confessions. Some of the confessions though, I changed the voices by the way on the confessions and some of those confessions make it onto a confessions episode where I talk about them. All the rest go on my Patreon.
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Chapter 6: How can communication improve sexual relationships?
Like I said, it's only $7 a month and you could cancel at any time. Now, listen, if you join my Patreon, I always tell people that I will throw in a link to my private Discord. Now, my private Discord is a place where everyone gets to talk to each other. My Discord is super fun. I oversee 6,000 people that signed up over there. Everyone talks to each other. People are hooking up over there.
We have a lot of contests. We have a dick pic contest coming up. Okay. You can win 350 bucks, I think is what I give for the contest. That is starting on May 15th and it will run for a month. So make sure to sign up to Patreon to get into Discord so you could take part in that.
Chapter 7: Why is divorce viewed negatively and how can it be approached positively?
You could also get a link to my private Discord if you buy my book. I have a new book out. It's called Strictly Anonymous Confessions, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. That book is available in paperback as well as an ebook and the
audiobook is finally available for pre-order it's hard to find because it's still on pre-order but if you go to the description the links to the books on amazon as well as the audible book are in the description if you buy the book just send me a screenshot and i'll send you the link to my private discord you'll love my discord okay it's great you'll also love my patreon it's great um
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I mean, you can use it to hook up with people instead of threesomes and all the kind of stuff that people do on my show, but you can also use it to find out about meetups and events in your areas as well as learn stuff about the lifestyle. They have so much information on sdc.com. And if you use my code 37712, you'll get a free trial. That's 37712.
Or just go to the description and click on the link and it'll take you right there and set you up with a free trial. So Anyway, okay, today I have on Debra Katt. Debra Katt is a sex and intimacy coach. At the end, she threw in that she's like a pro dom. I'm like, what? I have a million questions for you. So I think she's going to come back on and we'll talk about her whole pro dom experience.
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Chapter 8: What practices can enhance sexual pleasure and intimacy?
But now she's a sex and relationship and intimacy coach. She also is in an open relationship. And she's been with her guy for like over 20 years. And we talk about that a lot in the beginning. She talks about that whole thing. situation, how she got into her open relationship and how that led to her becoming a sex and intimacy coach.
She does sort of reference the times where even her open marriage came into some hard times in the bedroom. She talks a lot about why people stop having good sex, why it happened in her relationship, and how people could get through that. She talks about the things that people
can do the issues that people have resentments and all that kind of good stuff you're gonna learn a lot from her she does have a great free gift at the end that she offers people uh you'll have to stay tuned for that i'll put links to everything in the description but it's hard to remember every single thing we talked about because we talked about so much so i'm just gonna get right tuned and be right back on with deborah katt
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Hi, Deborah Catt. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you today?
I am so well. Thank you so much. I'm excited to be here.
I'm excited to have you on. You're a sex and intimacy relationship coach, right? I always like to, and we are going to talk about like, you know, and this is a very common to me topic because I think a lot of times great sex goes out the window and great relationships, right? Like your whole thing is like, why does like really good relationships lack a great sex sometimes, right?
Is that what we're going to be talking about?
That is exactly it. And this topic is not just, you know, professional. It's also personal. I've been with my partner for 27 years. And three weeks ago, we got married. Oh, really?
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