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Strictly Anonymous Confessions

1494 - Perimenopause aka Peri-F*cking Menopause Was Making Zoe Crazy

20 Jun 2026

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Chapter 1: What symptoms indicate that someone is experiencing perimenopause?

0.031 - 14.952 Chris Duffy

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61.372 - 83.978 Kathy Kay

Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. Strictly Anonymous podcast. Conversations with online strangers. We place ads online. The Craigslist is definitely like the gift that keeps on giving. Real people respond. You go to Singapore or Thailand, you can't not do it. The temptation is just too much. It's a real problem. Does your friend know that you're banging her or no? No, he has no idea.

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And anything goes.

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The motto of the show, let your freak flag fly online.

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Probably the only good advice I'll ever give you is to re-hide your whips and chain. Here is your host... Hey, welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast with Kathy.

Chapter 2: How did Zoe's mood changes affect her daily life during perimenopause?

98.102 - 110.541 Kathy Kay

If you want to follow the Strictly Anonymous podcast on Instagram or X, follow the show at Strict Anonymous. If you want to be on the show, it's called Strictly Anonymous because I change everyone's voices, people change their names.

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So if you have an interesting, naughty secret life that you want to talk about while remaining anonymous, or you don't even need a naughty life story on anymore, I'll talk to people with regular interesting life stories for my Sunday episodes. you could be on the show.

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All you got to do is send me an email at strictlyanonymouspodcasts at gmail.com or go to my website, strictlyanonymouspodcasts.com and click on be on the show. I also have a sexual health Saturday series. So if you have a really interesting health story journey that you want to talk about, email me as well.

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If you have a naughty confession that you want to leave on my confessions hotline, you could do that 24 seven. The number is 347-420-3579. Make sure you're in a quiet place. So many people call while they're driving and I can't hear shit and I can't use those confessions.

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Some of the confessions though, I changed the voices by the way on the confessions and some of those confessions make it onto a confessions ad. episode where I talk about them. All the rest go on my Patreon. Now listen, if you're irritated by my intros, join my Patreon because for just $7 a month, okay, you get every single episode. I do seven of them a week. You get them early.

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You also get them intro and ad free, okay? you also see anonymous hot picks of all of my guests. That is all over on my Patreon. Like I said, it's only $7 a month and you could cancel at any time. Now, listen, if you join my Patreon, I always tell people that I will throw in a link to my private Discord. Now, my private Discord is a place where everyone gets to talk to each other.

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My Discord is super fun. I have over 60 6,000 people that signed up over there. Everyone talks to each other. People are hooking up over there. We have a lot of contests. We have a dick pic contest coming up.

Chapter 3: What hormonal treatments did Zoe explore for her perimenopause symptoms?

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Okay, you can win 350 bucks, I think is what I give for the contest. That is starting on May 15th, and it will run for a month. So make sure to sign up to Patreon to get into Discord so you could take part in that. You could also get a link to my private Discord if you buy my book. I have a new book out. It's called Strictly Anonymous Confessions, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers.

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That book is available in paperback as well as an ebook and the

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audiobook is finally available for pre-order it's hard to find because it's still on pre-order but if you go to the description the links to the books on amazon as well as the audible book are in the description if you buy the book just send me a screenshot and i'll send you the link to my private discord you'll love my discord okay it's great you'll also love my patreon it's great

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to find out about meetups and events in your areas, as well as learn stuff about the lifestyle. They have so much information on sdc.com. And if you use my code 37712, you'll get a free trial. That's 37712. Or just go to the description and click on the link and it'll take you right there and set you up with a free trial. So anyway,

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Okay, today I have a whole episode about peri-fucking-menopause. Logan, who's been on my show before, episode 1086 I think was his episode, he had his girl call in because she's going through perimenopause.

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She's going through it a little early, like 43, and we talk about that, but like in her family, like her mom went through menopause a little early, so she's going through perimenopause a little early, and she talks about her whole journey. We talk about all the

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uh symptoms that she had the big one that was like the worst one for her she also then talks about how she went on hormones and what she did eventually um she talks about which what kind of doctor she went to like first her ob-gyn and then she got some levels changed then she went to another kind of place She went on hormones. She tried a couple different methods.

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She tried pellets and now she's on injections and she talks all about her experience with both. She talks about, like I said, all her symptoms. We get deep into the symptoms. I talk a lot about my whole experience as well.

Chapter 4: How does Zoe describe her experience with different hormone therapies?

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So I definitely chime in a lot and talk about my experience and add my symptoms and the hormones that I take into the conversation. She gives her experience and her symptoms and what she takes for it. And it's like super interesting for any woman going through this. I said at the end with her, like a lot of times I have a lot of guys listening to my show and they

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you know, share these episodes with their girls because they feel like they're probably going through something like this. So this is definitely one you want to share with your girl if you think she's going through perimenopause because that's what Zoe's going through.

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And she was like, you know, it was her guy that brought her all the information because she wasn't someone that really knew that much. And now she's feeling so much better. So anyway, I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Zoe. This is the Strictly Anonymous Podcast. Strictly Anonymous Podcast. Hi, Zoe. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you this morning? Good.

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How are you? Good. So listen, I feel like I'm a little bit better than you because I'm past peri-fucking-menopause and I'm already in menopause and I'm on hormones, so I'm pretty much okay now. You're lucky. But I've been through peri-menopause. I called it peri-fucking-menopause. And when I came up with that word, I was like, oh, I need to write a book and call it peri-fucking-menopause.

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And I got...

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in with a doctor we wrote the whole book and she was such a fucking pain in the ass and cock blocked everything i was doing to get it published that i just like abandoned the whole thing but it was was it was gonna do well and we were like a little ahead of the time because this was like i would say 10 years ago or maybe it was before my son was born so it was like before nowadays like it was before when people weren't talking about it at all at least now people are fucking talking

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about it I mean people would like women somehow lived in denial like this is doesn't happen it's shameful if it happens if you go through menopause no one ever even knew what perimenopause was and it was just like this silent thing that every woman goes through yet nobody was fucking talking about now there's so many more people talking about it but it is a to me it's a very scary time for a woman because so many things can happen and we're gonna get your whole story because you're like smack dab in the middle of it right

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Yes, it's awful. It's awful. So listen, you were talked about on a previous episode, just so you know. Just so people know, you peg your guy. You're dating Logan.

Chapter 5: What challenges did Zoe face in finding the right hormone dosage?

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Logan called in before. 108 sex, Logan divorced his wife. He's now dating a woman who loves to peg him. So you're into pegging. I mean, perimenopause has affected your sex life in a way, and we'll get to that side effect, right? I mean, I think when you first start going through it, it makes you extra horny in the changes. And then eventually when you're going...

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towards the end of it you're losing your horniness you know what i mean and that's like typical so let's start like where should we start like where are you at now how old are you by the way i am about to be 43 oh so you're young did you ever did you ask your mom or do you have any sisters that are older than you like when they went through menopause no i mean i've talked to my mom about it a lot my i'm the oldest

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child and grandchild. So I'm the first and so I've been very vocal with all of my, you know, female, they know what's coming.

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You're warning them. What about your mother? Does she even remember because sometimes this old these older generations will be like, Oh, I lost it. I don't know when and it just went away one day and whatever. And they don't even remember that they had symptoms or anything. I mean, does your mom remember when she went through menopause?

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Yes. So my mom, I remember her going through it. And she told me about like, She was kind of blindsided by it because her mother had a full hysterectomy, like ovaries and uterus, when she was 30 because she had cancer. But she'd already had five children. So she never really went through what any of us went through. And so my mom was kind of blindsided by it.

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And back then, doctors really didn't talk about it very much. They were just like, oh, you're fine. And she did it without any hormones. And she was pretty vocal.

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So what age was she when she went through full menopause?

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Full menopause, I think she was like, she started right before 50.

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So like 48, 49, do you know?

Chapter 6: How did Zoe's sex drive change during perimenopause?

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Yeah, yeah. I don't know exactly.

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Yeah, because 43 is like, literally they say the average is 51, right? And I went at 51. That's average. I have girlfriends who are still getting their period of 57, 56, their late onset menopause. And then I have a nanny who's like 39 and she's definitely already in perimenopause. And her people in her family go through menopause in their 40s. Right. So that's typically how you could gauge it.

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Right. So if your mom went into full menopause, like late 40s, then 43, you're definitely going to be feeling perimenopause. Perimenopause lasts for years.

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Yeah. So what is from when I've heard? Yeah. So what are your like, how did it all start for you?

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Yeah. I mean, the main difference for me was I just started noticing like the mood swing part of it the most. And I've always been pretty even keeled. And then I was like, I was getting on my own nerves. I'm like, why do I feel like this? Why am I acting like that? And it was just making me crazy. And I didn't really have many answers for it.

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So, you know, you start talking to people and they're like, Oh, you're too young to feel that way. And so I, then I thought, okay, well maybe I am crazy and started going down that road and realized that wasn't helping or doing anything. Cause that wasn't the problem. And yeah,

Chapter 7: What advice does Zoe have for women going through perimenopause?

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then I realized that I was older than I thought in my mind.

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43 is very young because like your mom went like a few years earlier, like you're a little early onset menopause, right? Like I said, the average is 51. So I started feeling that way, the way you're feeling at 45, 46, right? You're a little bit earlier because your mom's like three years earlier.

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So it is a little early if you're going to go Googling to see at 43 that you're going to feel that a lot more people are going to feel it a little bit later in their 40s. But that doesn't mean that it's not perimenopause. It just means that you're going to hit menopause earlier. That's just in your family. That's the way it goes.

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I'm so excited to hear that.

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It is what it is. There's nothing you mean, listen, thank God there's stuff that you could do. But I mean, like, I swear to you, I had like girlfriends that like wouldn't talk about it would change the subject when I bring it up. I'd be like, do you know that this is gonna like happen to you? Like, I don't know.

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I also feel like there's like, a lot of women out there that have this weird stigma about like menopause and perimenopause. And they don't want to believe that it happens that it's going to happen to them and it's going to happen to everybody. It's like a normal thing that actually happens. I mean, sorry, but thank God there are a lot of things that you could do about it.

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But the sad thing is, is a very scary, horrifying time. I feel like for women, especially perimenopause, because a lot of doctors don't put all the shit that's happening to you together and like, oh, this is all perimenopause because you could have 10 different things going on. Let's start with your first thing, the moods. I remember the mood thing.

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And like I was having a baby at 46 because I don't do anything like anyone normal, right? I do things in my own time, okay? So not one part of my life makes sense, right? So I was like, I cannot be like a full-fledged Karen with a child. You know what I mean?

Chapter 8: How has the conversation around menopause changed in recent years?

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That's when you need the most patience you could, you need, right? When you have a baby. So that's why I like immediately went on HRT and it made all the difference because I was like, there's no way I could be this moody bitch forever. when I have a little child baby around, you know, and it really made a big difference. So your moods, like how did it, it's like, it's like constant PMS, right?

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Like all the time. Yes.

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Yes. And there's, there's no like ebb and flow. It's just like all day up and down and it's exhausting mentally. And so then you go to bed and you just, try to fall asleep, and then you can't sleep. And it's just, it's really frustrating.

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Yeah, because it doesn't feel good to be angry all the time. You know what I mean? Right, right. You know, and I think the scary thing that happens to women that sort of don't tend to it, and it starts happening in the beginning, you know, is that you get to a point where you just start to think that this is your norm. You know what I mean? You're early enough to know like, this isn't

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you like you still remember that you are not this kind of crabby 24-7 low patience person right some people roll like that you know but that's not you so you know but what happens to some women is they just become this maybe they think those thoughts but they keep going and 10 years later they just this is that's their norm and you know and and you get these like really unhappy people that are just angry all the time and it's sad because you don't have to feel that way exactly

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And that's what kind of changed for me was when I realized, OK, not only is this not my norm, but I can do something about that. And it's OK to do that. I don't have to go through this just because I'm a woman and my body is going to go through it. I can do things to not feel like shit.

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Yeah. All right. So what came after the mood? So you're feeling the mood. What else was going on? Well, I mean, all your symptoms.

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Oh my gosh, it would take forever.

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No, we have a whole hour. We need forever. We have forever.

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