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Episodes
Trust Isn’t Blind: Building and Rebuilding Trust in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide
01 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Trust is often talked about as something automatic in power exchange. A submissive gives it...
Your First BDSM Scene: What to Expect Before, During, and After | Submissive Guide
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Your first BDSM scene can feel equal parts thrilling and terrifying.What if you do somethin...
Be a Cow! My Journey into Hucow Play | Submissive Guide
04 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.What does it mean to step into a hucow identity—and why does it resonate so deeply for so...
Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t) | Submissive Guide
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.In this episode, we explore one of the most common questions submissives ask when starting ...
Writing Submissive Affirmations That Actually Work | Submissive Guide
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Affirmations can be more than feel-good words—they can reshape your submissive mindset.In...
You’re Allowed to Have Needs—Even in Submission | Submissive Guide
04 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common—and most misunderstood—pieces...
Perfection Isn’t the Goal: Finding Joy in Your Unique Submissive Journey | Submissive Guide
07 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.This episode challenges the myth of the “perfect submissive” and explores how chasing f...
After “Red”: How to Manage the Emotional Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword | Submissive Guide
02 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Using your safeword is never something to be afraid of. While it may sometimes mean stoppin...
Breaking the Apology Habit: Alternatives to Overusing ‘I’m Sorry’ | Submissive Guide
05 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Most people say ‘sorry’ or ‘I’m sorry’ far too often. You’re probably aware of ...
Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery | Submissive Guide
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Sub drop is a natural part of the BDSM experience, but it doesn't have to derail your ...
Exploring Online Submission: Truths, Risks, and Safety Tips | Submissive Guide
06 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.We’ll cover the complexities of online submission, offering various safe environments to ...
10 Things You Can Start Today To Be a Better Submissive | Submissive Guide
04 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.A question I see asked all the time is, "How can I be a better submissive?" Here ...
Creating a Safe Space: Enhancing Communication in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Let's discuss how to build healthy communication skills in our D/s relationship and wh...
Navigating the Challenges of a Vanilla Partner in a Kink World | Submissive Guide
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationsh...
Crafting Your Collaring Ceremony: Themes, Rituals, and Celebrations | Submissive Guide
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar ...
The Truth About Topping from the Bottom | Submissive Guide
07 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Let’s break down what topping from the bottom is, why it’s so bad, how it can be good...
Every Good Conversation Starts with Active Listening | Submissive Guide
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Communication is a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But...
Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness | Submissive Guide
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation can also be negle...
What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing BDSM Limits | Submissive Guide
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Your limits are unique to you and may change over time as you gain experience and self-awar...
Moans, Groans, and Beyond: A Beginner’s Guide to Dirty Talk | Submissive Guide
02 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Explore the journey of embracing dirty talk. With practical tips, personal stories, and val...
On-Demand Ecstasy: Initiating Your Orgasm Control Training | Submissive Guide
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.A beginner's guide that explores the practice of orgasm control and its potential for ...
The Importance of Rules and Structure in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.In D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships, rules are often used to provide structure and e...
How to Use Erotic Begging to Intensify Your Kinky Playtime | Submissive Guide
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open. Being asked to beg for something is one of the simplest forms of erotic humiliation withi...
Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One? | Submissive Guide
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Wearing a Dominant’s collar is often a goal of any submissive in a D/s relationship. Howe...
Seven Books I Recommend for Novice Submissives | Submissive Guide
01 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.I’ve gathered seven of the best books to help you get started on your exploration of BDSM...
New to D/s Relationships? Here's Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out | Submissive Guide
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Relationships, even ones with power exchange, are built the old-fashioned way; dating, mutu...
How to Identify Your Submissive Wants and Needs | Submissive Guide
01 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it's always on...
A Submissive's Prime Directive: Take Care of the Property | Submissive Guide
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.A Submissive’s primary focus should be taking care of the property. There are common ways...
Myths About D/s Relationships: How to Break Them Down to Find the Truth of a Healthy D/s Dynamic | Submissive Guide
06 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first response is 'it looks lik...
The Importance of Safety, Risk-Awareness and Consent in Pre-Scene BDSM | Submissive Guide
11 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are es...
The Key Traits of a Service Submissive - They Can Be Learned! | Submissive Guide
28 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Anyone can learn to be a good service submissive, even if you don't feel you are a peo...
Active Submission - Make Yourself Available to Your Dominant | Submissive Guide
14 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.We need to make sure we take an active role in submission to help open up the dynamic and n...
Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your Dynamic | Submissive Guide
30 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Using my experience as a service submissive, I'd like to share what non-sexual service...
A Beginner’s Guide to Sexual Power Exchange | Submissive Guide
16 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Sexual Power Exchange involves submissive partners who willingly and voluntarily relinquish...
The Basic Tenets of Being a Submissive in a D/s Dynamic | Submissive Guide
02 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.If you’re brand new to BDSM or even if you’ve got a few years under your belt, it’s g...
How Rituals Can Enhance Your BDSM Scenes | Submissive Guide
12 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Whether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developin...