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Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
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Now, let's explore together the many ways we can live from the love and presence that's our deepest essence. Namaste.
Namaste.
Welcome. A couple of weeks ago, I gave a talk at All Souls Unitarian Church in New York City. They're celebrating their 10th year of a very robust, wonderful mindfulness community. So I'd like to share the talk that I gave there with you. It's focused on what to me is kind of a core inquiry for our times, which is what allows us to widen our circles of caring.
our capacity to care in a more inclusive way. So I hope you find some value and inspiration in listening. Thank you, thank you for being part of this. Maybe in the spirit of this gathering, just take a moment for us to pause together consciously.
There's a beautiful line from a poem, take, you know, just sense the the forest of your life, the dense forest of your life, and take a pause to arrive right here and now. The dense forest of our lives, may we pause And just find the space that's right here now. Maybe you're finding your breath. Taking a few full breaths. Maybe listening to your heart. We don't often listen inwardly.
Just listen and notice the state of your heart in this moment. So you're inviting yourself into presence. And if your eyes are closed, as you're ready, opening your eyes. So I actually have a title for this kind of gathering or event which is Widening the Circles, Awakening Our Capacity to Care in Widening Circles. And I'll start with a tiny little brief
anecdote, which is a little girl asks her mother, how did the human race appear? And the mother said, well, God made Adam and Eve and they had children and all mankind was made.
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Chapter 2: How does fear fuel division and 'othering'?
And then she asked her father the same question. He said, well, many years ago, there were monkeys and humans, human race evolved out of monkeys. She's very confused. She goes back to her mother and says, you know, how is it possible you told me the human race came from God and Dad said that we developed for monkeys and she said, very simple, my dear.
He told you about his side of the family and I told you about mine. So I'm starting here because The truth is most of us take sides, right? You know what I mean by that we're taking sides, and we're doing it all the time, and I'm not just talking about the Knicks versus this, you know, we're not talking at that level, although we take sides there too, I know. Here I am, New York, right?
But it's hypercharged how, whether it's political, religious, et cetera, It's hypercharged now how much we oppose others and on some level consider the other side as less than, as in some way diminished in our mind. It's what I call bad othering. And I think we do it in an instant and often are not aware of just the way we push away our kin
And you may not be riding the political rollercoaster as I say that, although I think of it not as much a rollercoaster as entering this tunnel of doom, but enough on that, demons popping up from all directions. But even if it's not political, when we're stressed and we're in a stressed world, we tend to other, we tend to blame and resent and create separations.
It's really the grounds of all war, that when we get fearful, we do that. And right now, because there's so many existential crises that our nervous, even if we're not even paying attention to the news, our nervous systems pick it up, right? I mean, that this earth is struggling. that so many people on the planet are having to migrate.
And then it's really close in the amount of pain and struggle. The algorithms that inform us are driven by fear. They're meant to bring up fear and outrage. So fear is spiking. And one of the most glaring examples is that anytime there's unprocessed fear, it turns into aggression on some level. Does that make sense? I'm just kind of sitting there. Okay.
So I've been teaching for, I figure, over 50 years now, and something has changed when I teach, when I do webinars and people bring up stuff. And in the last five years, up until then, it was usually very personal.
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Chapter 3: Why is opening to suffering essential for compassion?
People would bring up personal issues and problems. The last five years, huge percentage of people are bringing up some inquiry about how do I deal with my reactions to our world right now or to a family member who's on the other side or something in that genre. And
the degrees of separation are much smaller now so that whether we're talking about the cruelty of ice, you know, we feel it in our bodies or if we sense what's happening with health insurance for so many or what the decimation of Gaza or whatever it is that it's like
For me, when we pulled away from foreign aid and just sensing how many millions of people were dependent on it, it's like my body felt it. So I think what I'm getting at is that for most, I think it's the scale of cruelty that's getting to us, that we didn't quite expect this much of a human regression into cruelty. Again, does that connect? We just didn't expect it.
Thich Nhat Hanh has a beautiful kind of offering. He says this, he says, This, my dear, is the greatest challenge to being alive, to witness injustice in the world and not allow it to consume our light, our love. To witness injustice in the world, the scale of cruelty, and not have it consume our light, our love.
So our inquiry together, and we're going to do some practice together, is really what increases our caring for the world? And I don't mean caring where we're so raw that we're in constant reactivity. I mean a wise caring, right? What helps us widen the circles of compassion where we are unconsciously, are consciously taking sides? So that's kind of the inquiry.
And for me a really helpful frame that we find in Buddhism and many contemplative traditions is that when we face the reality of suffering... when we have the courage to actually let ourselves be touched, it does awaken compassion. And this is almost like a science that if we let ourselves be touched, we care, right?
And so a lot of the training is to let ourselves be touched, but touched in a way that we have enough space so we don't get super contracted. So this is where we're going to explore a bit.
But again, the teaching is that whether it's individual or societal, when we start opening to suffering, that very suffering can give rise to a deeper and more fresh intelligence, you know, more inclusive caring. And I know we can see it in our personal life.
I've worked with so many who, whether it was the devastating divorce or the cancer diagnosis or the incredible angst of having a child struggling in some way, that going through the intensity of that just tenderizes us. we're more awake, there's more soul, there's more spirit.
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Chapter 4: What role does mindfulness play in staying present?
And he wrote to us, he said, my spirit is good. I got more hugs than fish, you know, which is strange. I think of those in Minneapolis, and I've taken to... I love the phrase, neighborliness. Like, if we're going to be making anything great again, we need to have more neighborliness. I really love that phrase.
I love... One person was interviewed in Minneapolis who said, I'm not here because I love protests. I'm here because I love people. I'm seeing that more. I know that privilege can blind us to our interdependence. I'm privileged. I have to actually intentionally pay attention to stay tender to what's happening. I do. And I think that's part of it.
But when we feel the belonging, it's undefinably sweet. A while back, an old, tired-looking dog wandered into this woman's yard. And she said she couldn't tell from the color, although there are no tags, who the dog was, but well-fed, belly, etc., kind of sensed he had a home.
So she says he followed her into her house down the hall, and he plopped down to the couch and took a nap for an hour, then got up, walked out, and left. and he kept doing it and he did it for about a week, coming in, sleeping for an hour, leaving. And then she said, I pinned a note to his collar and I wrote, every afternoon your dog comes here for a nap.
I just wanna make sure it's okay with you. So the next day he comes back with a different note pinned to his collar and it says, he lives in a home with three children. He's trying to catch up on his sleep. May I come with him tomorrow? I just love the sense of shared humanity, which of course needs to include our non-human kin.
So what we're speaking to here is the bodhisattva path, which I know many of you are familiar with. It's the path of awakening beings, all of us.
and how to realize belonging in a visceral way, not in our minds, because it's very common to have abstract compassion, like to hear something horrible and go, oh, that's terrible, but not to feel that resonance or that quivering, as they say, of the heart. So how do we get it embodied? It feels like it does take an active practice, an intentional practice that nurtures it.
And when I think of all the great spiritual leaders who we all know of, whether it was Gandhi who said he prayed, he took a day a week off for prayer, right?
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Chapter 5: How can spiritual imagination create a loving world?
And he said he did it so he would stay connected with the wisdom of his heart. A day a week, he wouldn't let anybody interrupt him, or at least that's the story. Who knows? Desmond Tutu, Martin Luther King, deep contemplation. So there's a myth I came upon that I want to share with you that I loved. I thought it was really cool. I heard it through Michael Mead.
It's this old Native story, and it doesn't begin with once upon a time. It begins with this time. And it says, this time, we know that every human is searching for true wisdom, true love, and it lies in a cave that's nearby. It's always right here nearby, but we don't find it because we're distracted by the rush of modern life, by trance, by anxiety, by reactivity, by the speed of these times.
Inside the cave, An old woman is weaving the most beautiful garment ever imagined. But now and then she must pause and stir a pot over the fire at the back of the cave, a pot that holds all the seeds of the earth. And if left unstirred, the seeds would burn and life itself would vanish. While she's away, a black dog slips in and unravels her weaving thread by thread until only chaos remains.
When she returns, she pauses, not in anger, but she comes into stillness, to presence, to deep inner listening, bringing her heart to all that is, to the suffering and the preciousness of life. Then she picks up a thread, and in that thread she envisions an even more beautiful garment. an even more beautiful garment, one that did not exist before the unraveling.
And the elders say, don't curse the dog. If nothing fell apart, nothing new would be imagined. The old woman is the world dreaming force itself. Creativity, imagination that arises in each of us when we're living in presence. The imagination that expresses the loving awareness that's our source.
So when there's an unraveling, and here we are, we're in an unraveling, a time of unraveling, much shadow, much violence, our conditioning, our reflux is to blame the dog, right? Take sides. Bad other. That's just our reflex. Or else, sometimes we just get overwhelmed and go numb and get distracted and block it all out. But either way, we're usually either aggressive or kind of shut down.
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Chapter 6: What practices help us recognize vulnerability and goodness in others?
And instead, our task is to pause and deepen attention, intentionally bring our awareness to the suffering, to what's going on in the world and the preciousness. It's never just the suffering that, you know, Thich Nhat Hanh always used to say, it's not enough to suffer. You have to touch peace too, right?
So we bring our attention that way and let ourselves be touched, let ourselves care, and then imagine together what's the world we want to create. So I'm sharing that because I think it's, as myths go, it's one of the most kind of elegant and timely and deep and just seems to sit well.
And we're going to explore this, we're going to practice with it, but I want to say that it is most powerful if we face the unraveling together. we're in a really individualistic culture that in some way has spirituality as when we go and sit by ourselves, you know, or go inward. And the relational field is what really viscerally teaches us the truth of our belonging.
I know many people have gone to retreats, sat three-month retreats, done deep, deep practice, and still are very caught in a separate self. I'm sure you understand.
So I've been in many teaching situations in these last five years that I've been telling you about and one of the things I love doing when somebody brings something like the crushing heartache or the feeling of powerlessness or giving up, despair, I'll pause and I'll say, how many others? And when we take it in, in that togetherness, we get bigger than the whatever belief is limiting us.
whatever sense of separation, we see, oh, yeah, it's not your fear or my fear, it's the fear. That's really powerful. I saw this recently. Every spring in the last many years, like eight years, I think it is, there are these nonviolent, several nonviolent organizations that host a memorial. And it's a memorial where Palestinian and Israeli families come together. who have lost loved ones.
And this year they have it online and I was really honored to be able to lead a piece of it after the formal memorial to help people connect with each other. And one of the things that really impacted me was seeing people naming the names together. Naming the names and feeling the grief. feeling the togetherness in it.
And what you could feel is that by opening to the heartbreak together, by doing that together, their hearts were not hardening into taking sides. That's what our world needs. We need to be able to grieve together. So, like the old woman in the cave, the idea is to be able to pause and open together or within ourselves so that we can creatively imagine and help create a better world.
And I want to deepen a little bit of time on the word imagination because it's an amazingly potent capacity in spiritual awakening. And it's not always understood as that. And, of course, I'm not talking about any old imagination. Like, you know, in one story a son says to his mom, hey, mama, imagine and pretend that you're surrounded by eight hungry tigers. What would you do?
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Chapter 7: How can we deepen our sense of belonging?
There's just a field of who we are. And I'll do that with everybody in my family and widen the circle. So I did it with you all today in a kind of more generic way, but it got me really relaxed and excited to see you. It's very, very powerful. And For me, it's just a way of literally in an embodied way opening to loving, using that imagining.
So we can do it in a lot of ways to evolve consciousness, and we're going to practice using imagination. And there's two different ways that are key if we want to widen the circles of compassion. And one of them is seeing vulnerability. If we can see the vulnerability in others, our heart gets tender. And the other is seeing goodness. I often think of Father Greg Boyle. He puts it this way.
He says, everyone has goodness, no exception. Everyone belongs, no exception. And then after he shares these principles, he says, now do I think all the world's most vexing problems would disappear if I practice this? I do.
So some of you that have tracked with me a bit know of the story of the Golden Buddha, that statue in Asia, that massive statue that was covered by plaster clay for centuries. And then the monks finally dug under the plaster clay and found this amazing Golden Buddha. And historians believe it was covered with plaster and clay to protect it through dangerous times.
much in the way we cover over our own purity, just incarnating in a very confused, confused, confused world. And so, so much of our practice, as Pamela was describing it, is to remember the goal, the goodness in ourselves and each other. And sometimes the inroad is to first see the tenderness, the vulnerability.
I often think of this little anecdote where if you're walking in the woods and you see a little dog by a tree and you go to pet it, and it lurches at you with its fangs bared and fierce, and then you feel angry and upset at it, but then you see that its paw is in a trap. in an instant, in an instant, you go from bad othering to caring.
Now, you might not go and get near the dog because, you know, it could be dangerous, but your heart's open. And so it is when we see that somebody's leg is in a trap, when we see some vulnerability, our heart just gets very open. I sometimes think of the story about this army lieutenant.
There was a time, I don't know if it's still happening, when mindfulness was being taught in a lot of programs in the army. And he was forced to take an anger management program because of his anger, and a big piece of it was mindfulness. So there he is learning mindfulness, learning how to see what's going on and be present.
He goes to a supermarket one evening and he fills up his cart, it's late, he has to get home to work, he's in a rush, gets into line. The woman in front of him only has one item, She has a little girl, she hands the girl to the clerk, and they're oohing and aahing over the little girl, and he just works up a head of steam.
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Chapter 8: What is the significance of collective healing and neighborliness?
This is not just a nice story or fable. This is true. So what if our practice gave us the eyes to see that? Not to pretend there wasn't this enormous conditioning to be cruel, but to also be able to see the essence, the light, the love that shines through. Now I want to name that
We can't go around seeing the sacred and the divine shining through everybody if we don't actually trust that's what's living through this very heart, mind, body right here. And we have a lot of programming to get down on ourselves, right? I talk about this probably more than I talk about anything else, like the trance of unworthiness. One woman sent me a note.
She said, my young son and I were listening to one of your podcasts while making dinner, and suddenly he looked at me and said, I don't have any badness in me, just goodness. And that goodness keeps getting gooder and gooder every day. Okay, so there's, since I'm talking a lot about humans, here's about, here's a dog and a cat.
Dog says, human life form, you keep me warm and give me food, you cater to my every mood, you give me hugs, you give me love, all of this you do for free, there's nothing you wouldn't do for me, whatever the odds, therefore I conclude, you must be God. Here's the cat. Human life form, you keep me warm and give me food. You cater to my every mood. You give me hugs. You give me love.
All of this you do for free. There's nothing you wouldn't do for me, whatever the odds. Therefore, I conclude, I must be God. Isn't that it, really? So there's a story I heard that I come back to over and over, and this is John Lewis, who most of you know of, longtime civil rights leader and congressman.
He describes 1961 being at a bus station and being attacked and beaten with, he and his colleague were beaten with baseball bats by a group of white men. And they didn't fight back and they didn't press charges. They treated their wounds and continued their work.
So nearly five decades later, this is 2009, one of those attackers, Elwynn Wilson, walked into Lewis's Capitol Hill office with his son. He said, I'm one of the men who beat you and I want to atone. Will you forgive me? And Lewis said, I forgave him. We embraced. He, his son, and I, we all wept. And then we talked. And then he, so he tells the story.
And then he speaks, and this is almost like quietly to himself, and says, people can change. People can change. And that brings up a kind of, in me, kind of tears and hope that, I mean, it feels like so profound if we move through the world, and not that everybody can change this lifetime in the way we wish we could, but the transformation is the nature of things.
And that there is something in consciousness that wants to wake up to itself, that wants to know more truth, that wants to live more love. There's something in there. even with the fear. We can change. This is the meaning of bodhicitta, which is really our potential for the awakened heart.
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