Tea Time with Elsa
Episodes
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 240
23 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Being Present or Future Minded… In this episode we talk about the value of thinking ahead a few steps for the benefit of relationshi...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 239
13 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Exploring A Third Option… In this episode we talk about how polarized training horses tends to be. Between giving the horse no direc...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 238
13 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Noticing the Absence… In this episode we talk about how easy it is for the brain to lock onto the presence of threats or difficultie...
Teatime With Elsa - Episode 237
11 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Endings and Beginnings… In this episode we talk about Atlas. We talk about saying goodbye to horses in the most graceful way possibl...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 236
11 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Different Kinds Of Difficult…… In this episode we talk about the importance of contrast in training. In order for horses to choose...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 235
01 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: When to slow training down… In this episode we talk about when we might slow training down and when we might speed training up. Ther...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 234
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Giving To The Relationship Or Extracting From The Relationship …… In this episode we talk about the difference in training styles ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 233
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Why do we train the Sensory System?… In this episode we talk about the reasons why I train the way I do. There are both benefits and...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 232
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Retained Juvenile Behaviors… In this episode we talk about a way to look at behavior in our horses that may seem inappropriate. When...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 231
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Pressure and Release in the Real World… In this episode we talk about how inevitable pressure and release are in life and how we mig...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 230
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Fireworks… In this episode we talk about how we might prepare horses for extreme events such as the Fireworks that often come along ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 229
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Rest and Freeze… In this episode we talk about how to see rest and freeze on a spectrum. Rest being essential for horses to process ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 228
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Arcs, turns, and intersecting lines… In this episode we talk about the social strategies of horses working together in herds. What d...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 227
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Stacking the Wins! In this episode we talk about noticing the quality of each interaction we have with our horse. When we adjust the l...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 226
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Training Obedience versus Training Interest… In this episode we talk about how we might look at training on a spectrum between obedi...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 225
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The 13th Rabbit… In this episode we talk about the story of the thirteenth rabbit and how anxiety, or fear, or anger stacks if we do...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 224
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Associations… In this episode we talk about building positive associations in horses. The tendency is to wait for something to go wr...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 223
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Optimism and Pessimism… In this episode we talk about the factors that make a horse more optimistic or more pessimistic. Once we can...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 222
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Sensitization, Desensitization, Flooding and Learned Helplessness… In this episode we look at the spectrum of possibilities we ha...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 221
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Watching… In this episode I talk about the power of watching our horses, and what exactly it is that I am watching for. There is ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 220
16 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Escalating Pressure… In this episode I talk about the different ways we can see and understand escalating pressure. While I may pers...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 219
16 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Less Is More… In this episode I share a very personal growth experience with my herd. I am often torn between satisfying the public ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 218
16 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: What Is A Challenge… In this episode we talk about an exercise I do with horses to figure out what may or may not feel like a challe...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 217
16 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Pros and Cons of Distraction… In this episode we talk about why and when I why I teach distraction as a good choice in the relat...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 216
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Chatting about: Timing, Technique and Pressure… In this episode we talk about the key factors horse trainers focus on and how we mig...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 215
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Do The Ends Justify The Means… In this episode we talk about the dilemma that all of us face when considering the amount of pressure...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 214
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Tell me how you feel… In this episode, we talk about different ways to measure progress with our horses. It is easy to measure progr...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 213
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Solving for Better… In this episode, we talk about how we can see an issue that needs to be solved and cut it in half, and in half a...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 212
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: “Emotional Cycles”… In this episode, we talk about seeing the emotional cycles of a horse from moment to moment and using that a...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 211
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Fear in Horses… In this episode, we talk about understanding a horse’s fear in a categorical way. Their responses will be in eithe...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 210
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Non-Negotiables In this episode, we talk about the Non-Negotiable factor of space between partners if either one feels unsafe. If we c...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 209
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: “Balanced Gratitude”… In this episode, we talk about how powerful gratitude is in horse training when we use it in a balanced wa...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 208
31 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Pressure, Priorities, and Habits... In this episode, we talk about the balance of priorities with horses and how the development of ha...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 207
31 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Praise… In this episode, we talk about using praise with horses. Why we might choose to, why we might not. The mechanics of developi...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 206
01 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Enough and Not Enough… In this episode, we talk about a new herd integration with my horses and the timing needed between horses as ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 205
17 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Environment Matters… In this episode, we talk about how much the environment we are in with our horses always impacts our training. ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 204
17 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Food Aggression… In this episode, we talk about a different perspective around food aggression in horses. Many people believe food a...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 203
25 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Creativity… In this episode, we talk about creativity and anxiety being on a spectrum and how the two can not exist simultaneously. ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 202
25 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Trusting Yourself… In this episode, we talk about trusting ourselves in horse training. Most everyone has instincts or ideas about w...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 201
11 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Time Matters… In this episode, we talk about the time we spend “doing” with our horses versus “being” with our horses. There...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 200
04 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Eternal Student… In this episode, we talk about being a student of the horses and about studying patterns, habits, and cycles. W...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 199
29 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Finding Light, Playing With Darkness… In this episode, we talk about the good and the bad, the light and the dark, the awake and the...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 198
29 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Using Your Powers For Good Or Evil… In this episode, we talk about the enormous amount of power we have in relationships due to the ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 197
29 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: A Question Worth Asking… In this episode, we talk about how Relationships are made up of questions and answers. Sometimes, it can fe...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 196
11 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: How Horses Ask For Connection… In this episode, we talk about how connection is made up of a series of actions showing how well a pa...
Teatime With Elsa Episode 195
29 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Ripples of Response... In this episode, we talk about how to see the ripples of response within a herd of horses and how we can become...
Teatime With Elsa Episode 194
29 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Attention Replaces Pressure… In this episode, we talk about a horse's need to be recognized as an individual can be used quite pract...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 193
16 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Interested in What Is, More Than What You Want… In this episode we talk about stress. What is too much stress, what is not enough st...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 192
16 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Mental Learning Versus Emotional Learning…… In this episode, we talk about how mental learning and emotional learning are differen...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 191
01 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Building New Habits and Replacing Old Ones…… In this episode, we talk about how new habits become strong (or old habits become rep...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 190
27 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: When to walk towards, when to walk away… In this episode we talk about some basic nuts and bolts of the physical relationship betwee...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 189
18 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Why Persist?… In this episode we talk about the different ways we might share time and training with our horses. Persisting is an id...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 188
12 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Challenges… In this episode we talk about what a challenge is and why it is useful in your relationship with your horse. When we wor...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 187
12 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Supporting vs Affirming… In this episode we talk about the two different ways I interact with horses to encourage them to use their ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 186
12 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Which is better, intrinsic or extrinsic motivation? In this episode we talk about the differences between extrinsic and intrinsic moti...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 185
22 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Letting Things Be As They Are… In this episode we talk about our human desire to always be pushing for growth or change in our horse...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 184
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Who Can Teach Freedom Based Training®? In this episode we talk about what Freedom Based Training® means and while it is trademarke...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 183
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Beauty in The Boring… In this episode we talk about how the greatest power in training exists within the beauty of the boring mo...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 182
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Developing a Bond… In this episode we talk about what it looks like to develop a bond with a horse. Ari and I have been through a fe...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 181
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Action or Pressure… In this episode we talk about the spectrum between Action and Pressure. I believe we can replace pressure with a...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 180
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Stepping in Someone Else’s Footsteps… In this episode we talk about my adventures in Mongolia and Iceland and my take away learnin...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 179
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Illusion of Control… In this episode we talk about understanding control. “Stress is no more and no less than the inability to...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 178
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Wisdom of Timing… In this episode we talk about time and timing. Do you have the time to break each skill down to the smallest s...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 177
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Learning With The Horse Versus Teaching The Horse… In this episode we talk about the difference between teaching horses skills and l...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 176
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: “Relax and Trust Me”, or Not? In this episode we talk about two different methods of training: 1. Where we teach the horse to re...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 175
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Walking the Walk, Talking the Talk... In this episode we talk about how we really only learn deeply when we practice the theories we t...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 174
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Gift Of Connection… In this episode we talk about Connection. Thinking about Connection as a two-way street where we can show th...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 173
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Process of Relationship… In this episode we talk about goals. Either the horse has goals for the relationship, or the human has ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 172
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Quiet Moments to Solve Big Problems… In this episode we talk about how big problems are seldom solved in the moment they happen. The...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 171
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Patterns of Trust… In this episode we talk about trust and how it is built from past experiences. So how do I build the kinds of hab...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 170
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: In With The New… In this episode we talk about replacing old or bad habits with new and good habits. It’s important we don’t tak...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 169
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Social Pressure… In this episode we talk about social pressure in herds and what it takes for horses to make an effort to be like ea...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 168
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Purpose of a Push… In this episode we talk about the reasons we might use pressure in the relationship with our horses. Are you ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 167
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Recommendations… In this episode we talk about sources of information. I would like to encourage everyone to learn primarily from th...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 166
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Pattern Recognition… In this episode we talk about our ability to see patterns and reinforce the specific patterns that make relatio...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 165
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Entertaining One’s Self… In this episode we talk about the tricky moments when the horses choose to ignore us. If we are going to ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 164
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Environmental Pressure… In this episode we talk about the part environmental pressure plays in the relationship between horse and hu...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 163
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: The Contagion of Curiosity… In this episode I talk about curiosity in both human and horse and how the expression of curiosity in ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 162
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Contrast… In this episode I talk about contrast and the place it holds in training. Often people say stretching the comfort zone req...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 161
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Training horses and training people… In this episode I talk about the different levels of training and the art of asking for collabo...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 160
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: It doesn’t matter why… In this episode I talk about the question why. As a teacher, people ask me why all the time, and as a resea...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 159
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Apologies… In this episode I talk about reflecting on the moments that we have experienced with our horses where we feel that we cou...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 158
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Triggers and glimmers… In this episode I talk about the reactions that we generate from the memories and associations of certain sti...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 157
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Practice levels… In this episode I talk about the different levels of training. From observing the horse so we can train with a feel...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 156
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Strength and weakness… In this episode I talk about how strength and weakness plays in our relationships and motivators for connecti...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 155
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Simplicity and complexity… In this episode I talk about neither simplicity or complexity being better than one or the other and them...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 154
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Parallel lines… In this episode I talk about what I have learnt over the years about parallel lines in herd dynamics and horse body ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 153
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Flow… In this episode I talk about what it means to flow with our horses. In a pragmatic sense, flow, harmony or passive leadership ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 152
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Thoughts, words, actions, habits, character, destiny… In this episode I talk about the saying that goes: “Watch your thoughts, the...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 151
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Play versus fight… In this episode I talk about the differences between play and fight on a spectrum, and how to tell the difference...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 150
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Rest… In this episode I talk about the importance of rest for our horses and what the different forms of rest can look like. Rest fo...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 149
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Priorities … In this episode I talk about the priority of Freedom Based Training® being to develop our horses’ emotional maturity...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 148
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Focus versus distraction… In this episode I talk about being aware of whether our horses’ feelings are getting better or getting w...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 147
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: How much freedom can your horse handle… In this episode I talk about the idea that some horses can handle freedom better than others...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 146
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Underprepared or over-prepared… In this episode I talk about the feelings and dynamics of being underprepared versus over-prepared o...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 145
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Right and wrong… In this episode I talk about the controversy of deciding what is right and wrong for our horses. We all have our ow...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 144
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Sharing food with horses... In this episode I talk about the dynamics of bringing food into the relationship with our horses. Freedom ...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 143
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: What is patience… In this episode I talk about patience not being the primary reason for my ability to do the slowest training in th...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 142
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Needs and wants… In this episode I talk about meeting the needs for safety of our horses as paramount, followed by meeting their wan...
Teatime with Elsa - Episode 141
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chatting about: Fun… In this episode I talk about taking the pressure off the success of the training and the intensity of the learning and just hav...