Tell Me About Your Mother
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Episode 57: Why Clients Mask in Therapy (And Why It Matters)
25 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Send a textIn this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood dynamics in therapy: masking.We start with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model and how ...
Episode 56: Neurodivergence, Labels, and the Cost of Oversimplified Psychology
21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textElizabeth Morrison is a licensed therapist, MS, LPC, that specializes in treating Neurodivergent individuals.We talk through what’s ha...
Episode 55: Blame Throwers and Party Hats | Guest Sandra Killebrew
05 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThis episode dives into the messy, magical work of being a therapist. We unpack what happens when clients come in with chaos—blame thr...
Episode 54: Genocide, Murder, and Therapists’ Humanity | Rhiana Turner | International Psychology
06 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWelcome our guest, Rhiana Holmes Turner, LPC, LAC, is a licensed mental health professional and Approved Clinical Supervisor based in De...
Episode 53: Let Them Fail | Therapists, Adolescents, and the Audacity to Be Human
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this raw and wide-ranging episode of Tell Me About Your Mother, Evan and Melissa explore what it means to be a therapist, parent, and...
Episode 52: Is EMDR Magic or Marketing? Debunking Therapy Buzzwords
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this fiery and insightful episode of Tell Me About Your Mother:Evan and Melissa respond to the backlash after their viral EMDR TikTok...
Episode 51: Rethinking EMDR | Working Memory, Trauma, Culture
22 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this episode, we dive into a fresh look at EMDR therapy and how new research reframes it as “working memory therapy.” We explore ...
Episode 50: Guest Sandra Killebrew | High-Conflict Couples Therapy, Boundaries & Telling Hard Truths
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSandra Killebrew is a high-conflict couple therapist with a boutique private practice in Tacoma, WA. She offers therapy intensives for c...
Episode 49: Sexuality, Shame, and Therapist Bias
18 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan shares a personal story from a therapy group where power and bias were misusedHow therapists can be abusive — even to other thera...
Episode 48: Review Of Adolescence Show
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Melissa do a brief review of the Netflix show "Adolescence," mostly focusing on the third episode and the interventio...
Episode 47: Social Contagions
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThe Gloria videos (therapy session videos from the 1960s)Working with the adult selfPsychogenic seizuresWe are NOT neurologists Social ...
Episode 46: What’s A Hoe Bag?
06 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textJust because you can ask a pointed question doesn’t mean you shouldThe analogy of an attic with boxes representing emotional memories ...
Episode 45: Unspoken Agreements
18 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textMelissa and Evan share their past experiences with unspoken agreements in relationships Passing off anxieties to partner to resolve ins...
Episode 44: WTF is Christian Counseling
20 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a text"Christian Counseling" directly opposes the ACA Code of EthicsCounselors' political biases creating division with clients...
Episode 43: The Devouring Mother
15 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textFaulty torture tactics in the Iraq warCarl Jung's Devouring Mother ArchtypeBarriers when applying boundaries to parentsParents of c...
Episode 42: Control Patterns
01 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textPlease reach out via email or social media if you'd like to participate in our FREE wellness audit where we take a brief snapshot o...
Episode 41: Therapists Also Grow In Therapy
07 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Melissa explore how clients have been their greatest teachers. Topics also include:Negative attribution styles Evan and Meliss...
Episode 40: Recovering From Codependency
03 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Melissa discuss the nature of recovering from codependency, its benefits, and challenges.Finding recovery from codependency or ...
Episode 39: The Vagus Nerve
02 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Melissa discuss the vagus nerve and its implications in emotional regulation and treatment.3 stages of polyvagal theoryTechnolo...
Episode 38: Pop Psychology Propaganda
21 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Melissa explore the often deductive and maladaptive conceptualizations pop psychology shares on social media and its negative c...
Episode 37: Healing Through Song
17 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Jamie Kay meet and discuss the healing, reflective, and connecting elements of songwriting with the writer and its audiences. J...
Episode 36: Witchcraft Accusation
06 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Melissa discuss clients' perspectives that therapists have super powers, how being seen in a raw, deep, meaningful way can...
Episode 35: Why Don't I Cry In Therapy?
12 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Melissa answer an audience question regarding intellectual defenses in session. "How do I get my therapist to become aware...
Episode 34: Intellectual Avoidance
15 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Melissa explore how intellectualizing stories serves as a protective distancing from emotional exploration, expression, and hea...
Episode 33: Dissociative Attunement
01 Mar 2024
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Send us a textEvan and Melissa explore the ways in which clients use intellectualism as a means to conceptualize emotional memories to maintain safety...
Episode 32: Emotional Attunement
02 Feb 2024
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Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli share their experiences with client attunement and the ways in which such connection can promote a deep sense of ...
Episode 31: Police Profiling
19 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli process Evan's recent experience being harassed by the police. Topics also include:ProfilingCrime and punish...
Episode 30: Pray The Gay Away?
20 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Eli meet in video form for the first time-- available on Youtube! They use this hour to explore themes of:Conversion TherapyEmo...
Episode 29: Dating Dopamine
04 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textParentified child impact in romantic relationships Cultural differences fueling assumptions in friendship DOS OS How the dating spher...
Episode 28: Playboy-AI-Sex Dolls
03 Nov 2023
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Send us a textEvan and Eli join for another episode to explore how therapists can unintentionally assume understanding of clients' stories based ...
Episode 27: When to Parentectomy
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan, Meliisa, and Eli explore the a case that Melissa is processing. A great resource from Dr. Nicole LePera helps us get startedParen...
Episode 26: What Are We Doing?
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli discuss the intention of the podcast and ways to become more intentional in our discussions. Melissa is our podc...
Episode 25: Firecracker Puppies
19 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Eli practice behaving without Melissa being present for this episode. What’s worth investigating with a client?Salem witch t...
Episode 24: Take Off The Therapist Hat
19 Aug 2023
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Send us a textPolitically correct culture influencing dialogue in therapyQuestions can evoke shameMoving with clients’ awarenessWhen self-disclosure...
Episode 23: Pound Town
20 Jul 2023
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Send us a textMelissa rejoins Evan and Eli. They quickly realize that Melissa is the mother of the group and helps "police" the episode cont...
Episode 22: Alcoholic Garden Gnome
09 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Eli are one-on-one for this episode. Within minutes they realize that Melissa represents a shadow mother figure in the podcast ...
Episode 21: Emotional Literacy
02 May 2023
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Send us a textsubtle minimization in childhoodUsing Lysol to kill monstersSomatic experience informsPhysicians are not mental health professionalsBypa...
Episode 20: Your Body is Communicating
16 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan and Eli support Melissa and process her gut reaction to clients’ stories, exploring her own counter-transference. This episode al...
Episode 19: Emotional Portaling
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textReenactment affecting client retentionYawning in trauma-focused therapyInfantilizing do alleviate parents’ anxiety Don’t be a dickV...
Episode 18: Mental Gymnastics
01 Nov 2022
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Send us a textEli, Evan, and Melissa take a forensic look at reaction formation, emblem leakage, and cognitive dissonance within Bill Cosby’s career...
Episode 17: Smother Mothers
15 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this episode, Evan shares his experience with a virtual family client. Evan, Eli, and Melissa reflect upon how the family system crea...
Episode 16: Identified Patient Paradigms
10 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen therapists meet themselves in sessionCounter transference implications Can defiance be a form of play?Conceptualizing child behavi...
Episode 15: Accountability or Trauma Activation?
29 Jun 2022
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Send us a textIn this episode Evan Miller welcomes guests! Daniel Rhodes has a wide range of professional experience ranging from Counselor, Clinical ...
Episode 14: Intellectual Scaffolding
10 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIntellectual Scaffolding …prepare for processing emotion“in-the-now” or “numb”…is client re-experiencing & processing ev...
Episode 13: What Are We Ass-uming?
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli explore how assuming a clients' needs may negatively impact their growth within therapy. Topics also explore...
Episode 12- When Interns Mutiny
13 Apr 2022
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Send us a textUsing their usual style of humorous narrative, Melissa, Evan, and Eli extemporaneously delve into their professional experience with par...
Episode 11- Kinky Christians
15 Mar 2022
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Send us a textIn this episode, Eli shares his experience with speaking to a Christian congregation about sexuality. Evan, Eli, and Melissa reflect u...
Episode 10- Wounded Bambies
21 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli explore the way in which attachment styles impact peoples’ messages, perceived messages, and counselors’ coun...
Episode 9- Attachment Messages
02 Feb 2022
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Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli explore the way in which attachment styles impact peoples’ messages, perceived messages, and counselors’ coun...
Episode 8- Emotional Adulting
31 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli explore the ingrained familial contracts, the power of renegotiation, and seeking internal wellness. Evan explore...
Episode 7 - Vibrators for All
07 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWARNING -- Discussion of sex practices ahead! Tell Me About Your Mother ventures into the world of sex education and sexual health in ...
Episode 6- You’re Just Not That Important
07 Dec 2021
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Send us a textTell Me About Your Mother offers an unscripted look at the genius and controversy of Dave Chappelle’s latest comedy special now stream...
Episode 5- Against Familial Grains
01 Dec 2021
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Send us a textWhat do you get when you cross maladaptive family dynamics with a resilient spirit and an intellectually curious mind? Evan and Eli shar...
Episode 4- Queerly Cultural
01 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSecurely fasten your headphones, dear listeners, as we drop a few F bombs while contemplating our own cultural indoctrination and the me...
Episode 2- Fear Factor: Equine Ejaculate or Emotional Intimacy?
19 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHow do our client’s cultural beliefs and experiences inform our sessions? Are we able to hold space for beliefs which do not reflect...
Episode 3 -Dirty Laundry of Substance Use Treatment
19 Nov 2021
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Send us a textJoin us as Tell Me About Your Mother explores issues impacting the quality of substance use treatment. Evan, Eli, and Melissa share th...
Episode 1: Titanic Family Dynamics -- An Introduction
08 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEvan, Eli, and Melissa welcome you to their inaugural podcast of Tell Me About Your Mother. In this episode, we explore how our quest ...