The Coming Out Chronicles

Empowerment vs. Entitlement

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Get full access to Mental Fitness for Leaders with Nancy Shadlock at nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe

When Logic Overrules Feelings

22 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s Saboteur is the The Hyper-Rational. 🎥 Watch the video clip of this Saboteur in action. I’ve purposefully made it a little silly, bu...

Letting Go of Perfection

06 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s Saboteur is the Stickler. 🎥 Watch the video clip of this Saboteur in action. I’ve purposefully made it a little silly, but I think ...

Want Clarity on Your Next Steps?

31 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

I’m so delighted to be ending an old and starting a new year with you!As I looked back at 2025, I found that in every area of my life… there was m...

Dear Love, why am I here?

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

I’ve been a part of Elizabeth Gilbert’s Substack community, Letters From Love for the last 2 years and it has truly been transformational for me....

Stop Looking for External Validation...

30 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

For the past 15 years, I have carried a dream that I share whenever anyone asks what my ideal life would look like. I envision myself sitting on a fro...

Sliding Door Moments

20 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hi friends! I shared this soul stirring moment on my social media this week, but I realized you might not be on my socials and might be inspired by it...

That Time I met Glennon Doyle!

07 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

https://calendly.com/nancyshadlock/sab to discover what your top Saboteurs are and how to embrace them.Finding My Calm (And How You Can Too)When Glenn...

The Sage [Re-Release]

07 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Want help accessing your Sage? I've got a really fun way to do that!Sign up for a Saboteur Discovery Session with me: https://calendly.com/nancyshadl...

Breaking Free from being a Pleaser

26 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you constantly trying to make everyone happy at the expense of your own authenticity? In this vulnerable and connective video, I share my personal...

The Sage

12 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The Small man, builds cages, for everyone he knows!That line in the Hafiz poem gets me every time! Both, because it causes me to pause and think abou...

Holiday tips with Ted Lasso

26 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Merry Christmas!Whether you're having a wonderful time with family or simply making it through – I see you, and I want to remind you of something im...

A Few Changes around here!

23 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hi! It’s good to have you here!You might be noticing some changes to my newsletter and I wanted to send along a little update so you know more of wh...

089: Coming Out in Business with Kailey Gilchrist

13 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Kailey Gilchrist, the inspiring Founder and Sauce Boss at NONA Vegan Foods LTD. She delves into her entrepreneurial journey, from coming out in c...

088: Breaking Barriers: Navigating Trans Youth Rights and Diversity Dialogues with Dr. Jackie F. Steele スティール若希

14 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join Nancy Shadlock & Dr. Jackie F. Steele スティール若希 for a captivating conversation touching on the complex journey of transgender you...

087: Learning to Trust your own Voice with Jennifer Knapp.

11 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jennifer Knapp is a Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter, author, speaker and advocate. Her impressive history includes selling over one million albums ...

086: What straight couples can learn from same sex couples with Dr. Lynda Spann.

19 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Lynda Spann shares her personal coming out story as well as her professional coming out story.  The two are connected.  The work she does at the...

085: Embracing our own Internalized Homophobia with Nadjeschda Taranczewski

26 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Nadja is a powerhouse of a coach and someone that I have personally learned so much from in the past year.  I love that in this episode she shares vu...

084: Quitting... with Nancy Shadlock, and kind of Annie Duke

10 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I share my synopsis of Annie Duke's book Quit.She shares so many helpful ideas of how to know when it's time to quit and how to do it well.  It reall...

083: The pain of change; coming out as gay with Mika

20 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is very vulnerable and tender.  Mika shares her coming out in the middle of coming out... not when she's got it all wrapped up with a bo...

082: My Coming Out about work… and a Sourced Experience.

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I sheepishly share one of my coming outs… in regards to work. And I had a crazy experience this week that felt Divinely inspired so I thought I’d ...

081: Letting go of perfection and just doing it with Nancy Shadlock

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I've been gone long enough.  After many nudges, the podcast is back!  I'm doing it raw and unedited, but I'm doing it.  The perfectionist part of m...

080: What's New with Nancy Shadlock

09 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Nancy Shadlock has finished her Sabbatical and is back with full energy and focus!Listen to the update and hear all about it.There is a community conn...

079: Coming Out Via A Tiny House

09 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

078: Calling My Spirit Back with Elaine Alec

02 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

077: Humble Pie: Reconciling Relationships and Seeing How Time Changes Perspectives

26 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

076: Coming Out as Neurodivergent with Heather Morgan

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

075: Coming Out as Bi to not be Invisible with Carly Hutton

12 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

074: From Mormon to Lesbian: Surviving Conversion Therapy and Now Thriving with Elena Joy Thurston

05 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

073: Coming Out and Supporting Others with Joe Boivin

29 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Josiah Boivin talks with Nancy about the several stages that have encapsulated his coming out as a trans man. After experiencing coming to terms with ...

072: Coming Out Empowered with Nancy Shadlock

22 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

071: Coming out about a chronic illness with Heather Morgan

17 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

070: Coming out for the social good with Randy Boissonnault

08 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

069: Unbinding Yourself from Abuse with Richele McEwan

01 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you h...

068: From Sneaking Out to the Gay Bar to Professional Gay with Ash Beckham

24 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you h...

067: A Wedding, A Haircut and A Marriage with Nancy Shadlock

17 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

066: Coming Out And Making A Way For Others with Keturah Johnson

10 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material. We didn’t want to leave you ...

065: The winter hibernation with Nancy Shadlock

03 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A personal coming out is brewing and who better to recognize the signs of a shift than the Coming Out Coach herself -Nancy Shadlock. After 65 episodes...

Ep 064: Learning to live for yourself with Heather Vickery

27 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode special guest, Heather Vickery host of the Brave Files talks about coming out of the closet later in life, and how she took that exper...

Ep 063: Overcoming Chronic Sexual Pain with Katrina Grabner

20 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week is a special one specifically centred around a phenomenon that happens for people with vulvas. Katrina Grabner vulnerably shares her own sto...

062: Breaking Unhealthy Dating Patterns with Tania Cheng

13 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tania Cheng talks about growing up a self-proclaimed non-athletic tomboy, looking back they can see the signs of their coming out but before they had ...

061: Transforming Judgement to Joy with Ashlee Livingstone

06 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Ashlee Livingstone is a Canadian business owner known for her events and she’s on the verge of a coming out chapter professionally. Ashley speaks on...

060: Tools of Insight with Nancy Shadlock

29 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this solo episode, Nancy talks about the tools she uses within her own practice and examples of how she interprets them for her clients as well as ...

059: Coming out of the Spiritual Closet at Work with Dr. Tanya Rampersad

22 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week Dr. Tanya Rampersad talks to Nancy about coming out with a new chapter in her profession. Tanya recalls her early years working in homeopath...

New Season Teaser- Get Coaching for your next Coming Out Chapter

15 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We are creating a new mini-series with people calling in to get coaching on their next coming out chapter.  If that's you and you'd like to...

058: Surprised by Love with Mike Iamele

08 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week Mike Iamele recounts his coming out story that all started from an unexpected health issue. Mike recounts how he first met his now-husband G...

057: No More Hiding Behind Being an Ally with Dr. Angela Lauria

25 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week Dr. Angela Lauria talks about coming out as BI.  She shares about being straight passing and how she worked really hard to be a good ally, ...

056: Coming Out to Catholic Parents with Hannah Strenger

11 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week Hannah Strenger talks about her coming out the story regarding her catholic family, this week is all about connecting and reconnecting. Hann...

055: Discovering how enormous your life purpose really is, with Heather Walsh

28 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This time we're doing something a little different! You get to listen in as Nancy has a session with her client, Heather (with her permission of ...

054: The Ebb and Flow of Queer Support with Katya Veleva

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's guest is Katya Veleva who talks about her experience growing up in Eastern Europe and how different that was from her current reality...

053: Wisdom for my Young Gay Christian Self with Stacey Chomiak

30 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Stacey Chomiak takes us through her story of growing up closeted in the Evangelical church. Living in a not-so-supportive environment and the struggle...

052: "HOMOSEXUAL" was never meant to be in the bible with Rocky Roggio

16 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Film Director-Rocky tells us about their movie “1946” which is based on a mistranslation of the word Homosexual in the Bible that only started app...

051: Breaking the Glass Ceiling with Vicki Saunders

02 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week Vicki Saunders the founder of SheEO takes us through her journey of coming out of the old boys club of corporate and then how she founded th...

050: My needs and wants are worthy with Nancy Shadlock

19 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nancy shares vulnerably about her recent growth and internal shift. Follow Nancy’s journey of transformation and learn what worked for her, as it al...

Ep 049: The Non-Binary Unicorn Advocate - Harris Eddie Hill

12 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Harris is a 30-something-year-old nonbinary person from Hertfordshire, UK. Harris realized they were trans/nonbinary in their mid-twenties and have si...

048: Being Outed before you’re ready with Aiko Bethea

05 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We’re so excited this week to have Aiko Bethea. She's the Senior Co-Director of The Daring Way and Dare to Lead Communities and the Diversity, ...

047: Talking Across the Divide with Justin Lee

28 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Justin Lee, the author of Torn talks about his story of coming from a very faithful evangelical Christian family and how to reconcile his sexuality wi...

046: Fifty Shades of Gender and Relationships with Esther Lemmens

21 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Esther is a creator, artist, budding writer, podcaster, and all-around magical creature. In this podcast, she covers the fluidity of gender, relations...

045: Coming Out of So Many Spiritual Closets with Nancy Shadlock

14 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nancy takes us through the process of her spiritual transformation over the past decade.  She’s moved from being quite a conservative Christian to ...

044: Maybe it's not wrong to be queer after all with Anna Miller

07 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Raised as a Southern Baptist Missionary Kid in a conservative Christian environment, Anna Miller had to shed many layers of belief and unbelief to com...

043: Realizing my superpower with Steph Hansen

31 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Steph talks about coming out in more ways than one and understanding relationships with her family through her coming outs. She talks about how her vi...

042: The importance of Language with BE Alink.

24 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We tend to see everything in boxes: people, things, goals, etc… This podcast with BE is an eye-opener about how we as a species overcomplicate and c...

041: Conscious Uncoupling with Melissa DaSilva

17 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Divorce is such a tense stressful word for most of us, something synonymous with failure of a relationship. But it doesn’t always have to be that wa...

040: Churches are Doubling Down in the Wrong Direction on Marriage Equality with Nancy Shadlock

10 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In a solo episode Nancy talks about current issues with descrimination in the church. Outdated policies are going to lead to the death of churches as ...

038: I Am Not An Abomination with Josh Miller

24 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Josh Miller talks about the difficulty of growing up in purity culture, going through abuse from the church, and attending a spiritually toxic college...

037: Transcending the expectations of others with Sky McCormick

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sky McCormick shares her story of coming out as Trans, from inner discovery to coming out, to now learning how to support others in living their true ...

036: Being a Trans Black Woman of Colour with Niiya Grant

10 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Niiya Grant talks about what it was like coming out as a Trans Black Woman and the journey that took her to where she is now, showing ...

035: The Ripple Effect of Coming Out with Nancy Shadlock

03 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A solo episode where Nancy discusses the ripple effects of coming out, and how while it is the best thing for you to come out, there are often ripple ...

034: Gay The Pray Away with Erika Allison

27 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week Erika Allison shares what it was like growing up in a religious household that didn't accept her being gay, and the journey that follow...

033: Life On The Other Side Of The Closet with Hanneke Smolders

20 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today Nancy interviews one of her rockstar clients who is in the thick of her coming out journey.  Over the last 4 months Hanneke has come out to all...

032: From Cult to Proud Queer with Dalia Kinsey

13 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Despite being raised as Jehovah’s Witness, Dalia Kinsey already had an awareness of diverging from the traditional framework of sexuality that was p...

031: Coming Into Loving Myself with Becca Kunce

06 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In our first episode of 2021, Nancy interviews Becca Kunce, who shares a few of the lessons she’s learned throughout her multiple coming out stories...

030: End of Year Reflection

30 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Join Nancy as she shares a few things that she’s been reflecting on as the year finally comes to an end.  Links mentioned:12 days of Christmas - Gi...

029: Having to Choose Vocation or Identity with June Joplin

23 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

After returning home from church camp one year, June Joplin realized two of her greatest desires: to be a pastor and to be a woman. Years later, she f...

028: Using my Access and Privilege to Help Others with Al Ramsay

16 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Today, Al Ramsey joins Nancy to share his personal story of coming out as gay in two separate stories of coming to terms with his identity. On one han...

027: Healthy Flow of the Masculine and Feminine with Kimmi Ward

07 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

After having Darla LeDoux as a guest on the podcast, Nancy talks with Kimmi Ward, Darla’s wife, this week! Kimmi gracefully elaborates on the comple...

026: Coming Out and Losing Your Job with Doug Schroeder

02 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Doug Schroeder is a spiritual director, contemplative retreat and course facilitator, father, grandfather, and executive director for SoulStream. In t...

025: Nancy Shadlock Gets Grilled by Ann Zee

25 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Throughout her interviewing of so many amazing people on the Coming Out Chronicles, Nancy is often asked to share some of her own thoughts and musings...

024: Catastrophe, Suicidal thinking and Success with Linda Lopeke

18 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Linda Lopeke has gone through both extraordinary success and extraordinary devastation in her life. In this episode, she recounts the wreck that left ...

023: Coming Out with a Trans Child (w/ Carla Hartman)

11 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nancy has a conversation with her longtime friend, Carla Hartman, about her experience with having her child come out to her as trans. Through his com...

022: Coming Out again...now as Non-Binary with Dr. Erin Baker

04 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Erin Baker shares about their coming out as Non-binary and recent transition to using They/Them pronouns publicly.  Erin loves living in the And,...

021: Coming Out and Being Sourced with Darla LeDoux

28 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This episode, Darla LeDoux delves into her experience of coming out as a lesbian. Despite being a successful and established coach, retreat leader, an...

020: Me and Jennifer Knapp

21 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

After recently attending a virtual concert held by Jennifer Knapp, Nancy reflects on Jennifer’s impact on her life, both through her music and her r...

019: Coming Out Via A Tiny House

14 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A faithful listener of the Coming Out Chronicles wrote in with her coming out story.  Listen in as Nancy reads it on the show and share’s what it b...

018: Coming Out into Congruence with Kirsten Beverley-Waters

07 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Kirsten has experienced multiple coming out phases throughout her life. In this episode, she touches mainly on her experience of coming out as gay in ...

017: Calling My Spirit Back with Elaine Alec

30 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Elaine Alec joins Nancy this week to focus on two of her most impactful coming out stories, firstly as an alcoholic and more recently as an author. Sh...

016: Humble Pie: Reconciling Relationships and Seeing How Time Changes Perspectives

23 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Joe Boivin returns to the show this week to reminisce with Nancy about their shared experience at a Missionary Kid boarding school in Kenya. Back befo...

015: A Fireside Chat with Nancy Shadlock

16 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Settle in for a cozy little fireside chat with the host and creator of The Coming Out Chronicles.  In today's episode, Nancy Shadlock talks abou...

014: Coming Out as Neurodivergent with Heather Morgan

09 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Last time she was on the show, Heather Morgan spoke about her experience of coming out with a chronic illness. This week, she returns to the podcast t...

013: Coming Out as Bi to not be Invisible with Carly Hutton

02 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you embody a marginalized identity while knowing that you can hide it more easily than others? Carly Hutton offers her own perspecti...

012: From Mormon to Lesbian: Surviving Conversion Therapy and Now Thriving with Elena Joy Thurston

26 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Prior to discovering her sexuality and coming out as a lesbian, Elena Thurston was formerly a dutiful Mormon wife and mother of four. In this episode,...

011: Coming Out as a Support for Others with Josiah Boivin

19 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Josiah Boivin talks with Nancy about the several stages that have encapsulated his coming out as a trans man. After experiencing coming to terms with ...

010: Coming Out Empowered with Nancy Shadlock

12 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Want a life hack for how to really rock your next coming out chapter?  In this episode Nancy Shadlock, the lead Coming Out Coach at Centered Life Coa...

009: “Not ___ Enough” with Heather Morgan

05 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Nancy speaks with Heather Morgan about her experience in “coming out” with a disability and chronic illness, along with the simil...

008: Coming out for the social good with Randy Boissonnault

29 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Randy Boissonnault went from being a kid scared to be seen on campus when the GSA was meeting to being the Special Advisor to Prime Minister Justin Tr...

007: Unbinding Yourself from Abuse with Richele McEwan

22 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Richele McEwan speaks up about the domestic abuse she experienced growing up.  As a professional dancer she used Dance as a creative and powerful med...

006: From Sneaking Out to the Gay Bar to Professional Gay with Ash Beckham

15 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ash Beckham has influenced more than 8 million people through her viral Ted Talks “Coming Out of Your Closet” and"Owning Your Duality”.  W...

005: A Wedding, A Haircut and A Marriage with Nancy Shadlock

08 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Join Nancy Shadlock, the host of The Coming Out Chronicles, as she shares her own coming out journey. From a difficult realization for herself, to the...

004: Coming Out And Making A Way For Others with Keturah Johnson

01 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Keturah joins Nancy in this episode to talk about coming out as the daughter of a Missionary, what it’s like to be a queer woman in the military, an...

003: Loving Myself -Tara Galeano

30 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Joining Nancy in this episode is Tara Galeano, a certified sex therapist that since dissolving her marriage has been on a journey of self discovery an...