The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide™️
Episodes
Too Much Pomade, Not Enough Waves
14 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If I could time travel, I wouldn't play the stock market. I'd show up at my high school locker to confront my former self. To comfort him. To warn him...
God Lives in the Ceiling
07 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
After a four-year break, we're back! Welcome to Season 5, "The Seasoning." Before I got grown and started losing grown-up things, I lost something mor...
Season 5 Trailer
27 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Life Comes at You Fast, Stay Ready or Buckle UpAfter a nearly four-year hiatus, The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide™️ is back, revisiting the ...
After Paris: Real Life, Cuz Life Ain't Fair
12 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The Season 4 Finale is here! Welcome to Episode 9 of Season 4 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Seasons change as do situations. Life i...
After Paris: When the Past Sends You a Text
08 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When the past sends you a text, you:respond happily and pick up where you left off.ignore it and possibly block them.run like the wind.break your phon...
After Paris: When You're Your Own Worst Enemy
27 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Picking up where we left off at Episode 6: After a year of misses capped off by holiday heartache, I have an “aha” moment that leads me to create ...
Thanksgiving, A Time to Be Grateful for It ALL!
25 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Thanksgiving isn't about pilgrims for me. It's all about gratitude. In this short bonus episode, I reflect on what it means to be divorced and single ...
From Paris to Atlanta: What If?
12 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"What if?" is right up there with "Why?" as far as a question that has no real answers and honestly isn't worth asking to begin with unless discussing...
From Paris to Atlanta: I Choose YOU!
25 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"So, I typed a text to a girl I used to see/Sayin' that I chose this cutie pie with whom I wanna be...."André 3000 made a choice of with whom he want...
From Paris to Atlanta: Pretty Isn't Everything & Dating Can Be Messy AF
10 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Things don't always go as planned or envisioned. When this happens what do you do? Do you run away or do you stand and see your way through the mess? ...
From Paris to Atlanta: Dad, You Can’t Date!
25 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this installment of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, my family life and my dating life begin to intersect. My youngest is older and has som...
Dating In My Forties
20 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is a bonus episode, y'all! I wrote an article over at Medium and was encouraged to narrate it as well. Of course, that meant I had to share with ...
From Paris to Atlanta: Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen
11 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You have to be old enough to have seen The Omen AND current enough (if you call the 90s current) to remember Lil’ Kim’s iconic line in “All Abou...
Season 4: Episode 2 Teaser Trailer
06 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The saga continues as I plot and plod my way through life after saying "goodbye" to forbidden love. While attending a birthday party I cross paths wit...
From Paris to Atlanta with Malice and a 10-Piece Bucket of Drama
27 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We're back like we never left! By we, I mean me because I really don't speak in the third person. Season Four kicks off with literally everything that...
The Season 4 Trailer: Growing, Living, Loving, Freeing
18 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"All my time has been focused on my freedom now. Why would I join 'em when I know that I can beat 'em now? They put their words on me, and they can ea...
The Lessons From The Messes
17 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is a serial podcast that thoughtfully and often hilariously narrates the journey of retired fatherho...
Love, Rain, Kings, and Queens
01 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Acting on your emotions always feels good in the moment but rarely works out in the long run. Your host, Eric Payne, a.k.a. the Divorced Dillenger put...
Revenge Sex and a Brown Paper Bag
15 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"Revenge is mine!" sayeth the Lord. Revenge may look cool and might seem like a good idea in the movies when the hero goes for broke to even the odds....
A New Orleans Ghost Story
01 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 5 is a ghost story, or should I say a story of ghosting, just in time for the 2018 holiday season. It's a tale filled with hope, mentorship, a...
People Pleasing, Being Alone and Living In Denial
14 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Moving right along from Episode 3 and just in time for Valentine's Day (if you haven't listened to it start there, actually just start at Season 1 bec...
Dating An Older Man With Small Money
30 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Fresh off my Instagram hunt from Episode 2 of Season 3 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, Episode 3 begins with a reunion (finally!) with C-S...
Finding Love on Instagram
30 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Fresh of the Birthday Debacle from Episode One, the Divorced Dillenger (Yours Truly) is coming to grips once again with being single and not wanting t...
Forgiveness Is A Process
30 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
And we’re back! Season 3 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide opens with me returning to Atlanta from my Labor Day Weekend love fest in New Yo...
Season 3: More Than Dating. More Than Divorce. More Than Survival.
22 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
New logo. New season. New misadventures and adventures for divorced dad, Eric Payne as he navigates post-divorce life and dating along with a good old...
Happy New Year 2021, Bye 2020!
03 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
2020 is officially behind us now (GTFOH). Although currently, the only difference between 2020 and 2021 is one day, that is in fact the gift. You have...
One-Time for the Birthday: The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide Turns One! 🎉
05 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Pimpin' ain't easy and neither is podcasting! It's been exactly one year and 37 episodes since I dropped the first trailer for The Dating After Divorc...
C-Sweet Lady, Can It Be All So Simple?
02 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In the conclusion of two-part Season 2 finale of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, everything comes full circle for Eric on his journey — he'...
C-Sweet Lady, Won't You Be Mine?
11 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Ready and willing for a change, in the Season 2 Finale of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, I leave town and head to the Big Apple to spend tim...
That Pull-Out Game Weak
17 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Too much of anything, no matter how good it is, can become a bit much. In Episode Nine (That Pull-Out Game Weak) of the second season of The Dating Af...
That Vitamin D For Ya
28 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Episode Eight of the second season of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide finds Eric off whatever high horse he was on and giving in to his sexual...
That Joy and Pain — Those Soul Ties and Ho Cake
12 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Post-divorce trauma is real and it can show up in more than one place. Eric is not okay. Picking up where we left off at Episode 5, Episode 7: Joy and...
Black Like Me
19 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to a special edition of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. I was personally impacted by the death of Rayshard Brooks as it occurred mere...
That Older, Married Woman
04 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Eric has kept a trump card tucked away in his back pocket — a secret he doesn't even share with even his closest friends and his newly retained ment...
That Attack of the Killer Kung Fu News Lady
21 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In Episode 4 Eric continues on his journey of life, love and pursuing peace and joy. His relationship with Newroom Reporter Lady forces him to discove...
Episode 4 Trailer: That Attack of the Killer Kung Fu News Lady
19 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As Eric continues on his journey of life, love and pursuing peace and joy, he is forced to discover what is the stuff of relationships — what makes ...
That Dream and Those Nightmares
07 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Eric's dating journey continues, but not without its challenges. He has to deal with his ex-wife texting him a whole lot more than he'd like, showing ...
Episode 3 Trailer: That Dream and Nightmares
04 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As much as you try to move forward with your life sometimes the past won't let go.Episode 3 arrives this Thursday, 05.07.2020.
For the Love of Chocolate
23 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Eric gains a very powerful ally along his quest to better manhood: the Black woman. In this episode, he extolls his love for them and why black women ...
Who Is The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide For?
14 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In January of 2020, with the first season of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide almost done, I was asked who I created the podcast for. The way I...
One Push-Up, One Sit-Up, One Pull-Up
09 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The story picks up where we left off at the end of Season One. It's January 1, 2017 and Eric begins to come into his own as a single man. He has a hig...
Season 2: Season of The Wolf
07 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The road to Hell is paved with good intentions.Emotional pain pierces like small, constant drops of water. It's a dull beating that wears a path throu...
Monday Motivation: You Are WORTHY, A Guided Meditation
06 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It's when things are most challenging that we begin to wonder why we are here or for that matter, do we matter? In today's Monday Motivation I share (...
Monday Motivation: Creating (Quality) Time for Yourself in the Time of Coronavirus
31 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
CORRECTION: The link mentioned at the end of the episode is incorrect see the corrected link below (before the dotted line).Today's Monday Motivation ...
Monday Motivation: #NeverSettle (Even During Quarantine)
23 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
"Never Settle" is Eric’s personal mantra and he shares why now especially, during the Time of Coronavirus (COVID-19) and #ClubQuarantine it’s more...
Monday Motivation: How To Beat The Coronavirus Blues
16 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
So here we are in the midst of a pandemic that has been months in the making, but took only a week's worth of media and peer pressure to turn life ups...
Monday Motivation: Time Heals All Wounds
09 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Motivational Mondays 3.09.2020: Time does heal all wounds. This is probably the last thing you want to hear when you're at the start or in ...
Monday Motivation: Tell YOUR Truth
02 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Here is your Monday Motivation, because it's Monday, somewhere. Welcome to a new segment, not to be confused with the new season of the Dating After D...
D.R.E.A.M. (Dating Rules Everything Around Me - But Should It?)
06 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this, the Season One Finale, the highs and lows and straight up ridiculousness of single life begin to take their toll on Eric. The pain is REAL! I...
CLIP EP.5: Texting With Target Lady
04 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In Episode 5 - Eric Pancakehouse and Attack of Target Lady, Eric is given advice on how to bounce back from his divorce that simply doesn't sit right ...
EP.7 TRAILER: D.R.E.A.M. (Dating Rules Everything Around Me - But Should It?)
30 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The highs and lows and straight up ridiculousness of single life begin to take their toll on Eric. Instead of full of swagger and bravado, he finds hi...
Wookin' Pa Nub In All Da Wong Paces
24 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this double-episode bonus (hey, sometimes it takes twice the time to deliver the message), prior to the Season Finale, Eric remains heartbroken beh...
EP.6 TRAILER: Wookin’ Pa Nub In All Da Wong Paces
22 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Eric remains heartbroken behind the scenes of his new escapades as a single man. He wants nothing more than to be reunited with his ex-wife and his fa...
Eric Pancakehouse & Attack of Target Lady
10 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In Episode 5 Eric is given advice on how to bounce back from his divorce that simply doesn't sit right with soul. He rejects the advice, opting instea...
Midseason Trailer
09 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
New to The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide? Missed a couple episodes? Want a quick refresher on what's been going on? No problem! Listen now to fi...
EP.5 TRAILER: Eric Pancakehouse & Attack of Target Lady
08 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this Trailer for Episode 5 Eric is given advice on how to bounce back from his divorce that simply doesn't sit right with soul. He rejects the advi...
Roaring Into The Soaring Twenties
02 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Happy New Year! It's 2020 and although Eric doesn't do resolutions, he does set his intentions for the year with power-packed words that propel person...
I Ain't 'Fraid of No Ghosts
31 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
An invisible manSleepin' in your bed (or in your head)Ow, who you gonna call?Ghostbusters!...I ain't 'fraid of no ghosts!Ghostbusters aren't real outs...
Happy Merry Christmakwanzaa Eve
24 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Despite the festiveness and the festivities that are the holidays, this time of year, with Christmas gift-getting and the lure of focusing on what you...
No Bounce To The Ounce
12 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Episode Three of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide chronicles Eric's arrival on the dating scene. Going against some good advice, Eric gets bett...
Buggin' Out
29 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Episode Two of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide draws its name from the Tribe Called Quest track and is the conclusion of the story arc that be...
Can It Be All So Simple
14 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Divorce is never easy and when it's unwanted, it's even worse. When it comes to getting over and getting through things sometimes you have to go back ...
SERIES TRAILER
05 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is the tale of one man's journey out of love and then back into love — first with himself, then with the res...