The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast
Episodes
Why Stressed Doms Pull Back (and What to Do About It)
30 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#132 The Dom is stressed – and your dynamic is paying the price. In this episode, we answer a real coaching call question about what to do when the ...
Expires April 1: 3 Keys to a Killer D/s Dynamic
26 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Missed the free training? You can still watch the replay—but only for a limited time!🔥 Head to https://domsubliving.com/masterclass now to watch ...
5 Power Exchange Mistakes That Are Killing Your D/s Dynamic
23 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#131 Are you slowly killing your D/s dynamic without realizing it? In this episode, we break down hidden patterns that weaken connection, trust, and p...
Is It Kink or Is It Abuse? How to Know the Difference
19 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#130 BDSM is not abuse. Consensual non-consent is not rape, and ageplay is not incest. In this powerful episode, we break down consent, red flags, and...
How to Create D/s Protocols That Work in Real Life
16 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#129 Too many protocols? Not enough? Here's the fix.If your D/s protocols keep failing – or you don't have any – this episode is for you...
10 Dom/sub Questions to Deepen Your Dynamic Tonight
09 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#128 Most Dom/sub dynamics don’t fail from lack of kink—they fail from lack of communication. Discover 10 powerful questions that deepen D/s, impr...
Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing (Fix This)
02 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#127 If your D/s keeps starting strong… and then quietly falling apart, it’s not because you’re bad at BDSM. There’s a pattern we see over and...
5 Edgeplay Ideas Only Experienced Kinksters Try
23 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#126 Some of you are going to try this anyway. Edgeplay goes beyond safe, sane, and consensual into risk-aware kink – and most kinksters aren’t re...
6 Training Ideas to Take Your D/s Beyond the Bedroom
16 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#125 What if your power exchange didn’t end when the scene was over? We're sharing 6 practical training methods to make your D/s dynamic real e...
4 Ways to Find a Dom/Sub Partner (That Actually Work)
09 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#124: Struggling to find a real Dom or sub without scammers or fake dynamics? In this episode, we're breaking down the 4 proven ways kinksters ar...
What Kind of Dom Are You Really? How to Find Your True Style
02 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#123 Daddy, Master, Sadist… why does choosing a Dom style feel so hard?This episode explores how instinct, control, care, and desire shape your true...
What Real Dom/Sub Relationships Actually Look Like
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#122 “I want a Dom/sub dynamic, but how do I trust?”In this interview, real students David and Dana share how they built a healthy Dom/sub relatio...
4 Secrets to an Amazing BDSM Lifestyle in 2026 (Expires Jan. 28)
22 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Missed the free training? You can still watch the replay—but only for a limited time!🔥 Head to https://domsubliving.com/allaccess now to watch th...
My Dungeon Night Debrief: New Year’s Eve at a BDSM Club
19 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#121 What is it really like inside a BDSM dungeon? We're taking you behind the scenes of our New Year’s Eve night in Los Angeles, from safety r...
How to Get Started With BDSM in 2026
12 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#120 Kink curious but overwhelmed?👉 Take the free kink personality type quiz: https://domsubliving.com/quizYou don’t need extreme play, expensive...
From Bedroom Kink to Living 24/7 D/s
05 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
#119 24/7 D/s isn’t something you jump into overnight. We're breaking down the real phases that take couples from bedroom-only kink into a live...
2025 Broke Me… But It Also Built Me
29 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#118 I almost didn’t release this episode—and that’s exactly why I had to. In this raw episode, I'm sharing the good, bad, and ugly of a to...
Kinky vs. Vanilla: Can Your Relationship Survive the Difference?
22 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#117 One of you is kinky, the other... not so much. Is that a deal-breaker—or just a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding? Relationship coach Am...
Dirty Talk, Punishment, Trust Issues—Let’s Talk D/s
15 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#116 What do you do when real life and D/s collide?👉 Join the free Dom Sub Living Community: https://domsubliving.com/communityToday Jay and Alesan...
Slave Training 101: The One Thing Most Doms Skip
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#115 Slave training doesn’t fall apart because the sub fails — it falls apart because the Dom can’t stay consistent. In this episode, Jay shares...
Can a Submissive Still Be Feminist?
01 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#114 Can you kneel for your partner and still stand for equality?❤️ Download your free cheat sheet, 'How to Be a Good Sub': https://doms...
Bruises, Branding, and the Big Questions Around Marks in BDSM
24 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#113 Why do some scenes leave deep bruises and others nothing at all? In this episode we're unpacking bruises, branding, and marks in BDSM – wh...
10 Hidden Power Plays Only Experienced Doms Use
17 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#112 Ever met a Dom who can control a room without saying a word? In this episode, we're revealing the 10 hidden power plays only experienced Dom...
The Biggest Lies You’ve Been Told About BDSM & Kink
10 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#111 What if everything you’ve heard about BDSM and kink is wrong? In this episode, we're busting the biggest Dom/sub myths holding people back...
What No One Admits About BDSM—But We Just Did
03 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#110 BDSM isn’t just fantasy—it’s how real people grow. Alesandra and Deborah Kat get honest about living a D/s lifestyle: consent, safewords, l...
My 3 Must-Haves for Every BDSM Scene (True Story)
27 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded,...
Spirituality and BDSM: What No One Talks About
20 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#108 Can BDSM be spiritual? In this episode, we're exploring the meditative and transformative side of power exchange — from subspace and Domsp...
How Doms Build Confidence Before and During a Scene
13 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#107 Worried your sub will see right through your nerves? In this coaching call replay, Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, share real-world advice on how Dom...
Chastity and Locktober: Everything You Need to Know
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#106 Locktober isn’t just denial—it’s connection, power, and play.🔒 Free Cheat Sheet to level up your submission: https://domsubliving.com/su...
Why I Have a Hard Limit on Electroplay — True Story
29 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#105 People think masochists will try anything… but I’ve got hard limits too. In this episode, I share the story of why electroplay makes me cring...
Your First Dungeon Night or Munch? What to Expect
22 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#104 What actually happens your first time at a dungeon or munch? Do people really play in front of strangers? Or do you just stand there and watch?”...
The Real Cost of Waiting to Start Your BDSM Journey
15 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#103 Why is now the best time to start living the BDSM lifestyle? Find out on this episode of Dom Sub Living! We're addressing common excuses for...
Inside Our BDSM Contract – What We Really Agreed To
08 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#102 If your idea of a BDSM contract comes from 50 Shades, we need to talk.👉 Grab your free template at https://domsubliving.com/contractIn this ep...
The Future of Dom Sub Living and What’s Next for You
01 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#101 The podcast is changing! Does that mean less content? Nope. It means more real talk, raw stories, and deeper insights than ever. In this episode,...
100 Episodes of Kink: What I Learned the Hard Way
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#100 Think kink is simple? After 100 episodes, we're revealing 10 hard-earned lessons that go beyond floggers and fantasy.✅ Subscribe and grab ...
DDLG 101: The Truth About Being a Babygirl
18 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#099 DDLG isn’t just cute outfits and bedtime routines—it’s a deep, powerful dynamic that blends nurture, structure, and trust.💕 Grab your fr...
5 Dom/sub Punishment Ideas I Love (and Hate)
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#098 Spankings aren’t cutting it anymore.👉 Grab the free punishment list at https://domsubliving.com/punishIn this episode, we're sharing 5 ...
Dom/Sub Secrets No One Talks About (But We Will)
04 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#097 Is kink your secret superpower? In this fun and fearless interview, Alesandra joins actress and comedian Amy Vorpahl to talk BDSM 101, living una...
Every fake dom does this.
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#096 If you're a Dom—or trying to be one—don't screw this up.🎯 Take the free quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedomWe're reveali...
7 Hidden Habits That Keep D/s Relationships Strong
21 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#095 Does your dynamic feel off? If your Dom/sub relationship feels stuck or stale, this episode breaks down the 7 hidden habits that keep real D/s dy...
Most BDSM Teachers Get This Completely Wrong
14 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#094 Are BDSM teachers getting it wrong?✅ Join the All Access Pass at https://domsubliving.com/allaccessWe're exposing 10 harmful myths most BD...
Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Listen to This
07 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#093 “Am I too new? Too awkward? Not ‘dominant’ enough?”If you've ever felt like a fake or imposter in BDSM, you’re not alone. We'...
How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#092 Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again. Learn how to build skills, rituals, and confidence as a Dom or sub—solo. Avoid beginner ...
Is Fifty Shades of Grey Really that Bad?
23 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#091 “I don’t make love—I f*ck. Hard.”📝 Get your free BDSM contract at https://domsubliving.com/contractIs Fifty Shades of Grey really that...
How to Train Your Sub
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands?👉 Grab the free “How to Be a Good Dom” Quick S...
A Look Inside Our Total Power Exchange Relationship
09 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#089 “I don’t play submissive—I live it. Every day.”🔥 Grab your own TPE blueprint: https://domsubliving.com/blueprintIn this behind-the-sce...
What People Get Wrong About Total Power Exchange
02 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention?✨ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/communi...
10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous?
26 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous?👉 Download the free checklist of 50 kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklistWe're break...
Raw, Real, and Kinky: Life Behind the Power Exchange
22 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann H...
BDSM for ADHD and Autism: Build a Dynamic That Fits
19 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#085 Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again.🎁 Get free scripts, tools & aftercare tips at https://domsubliving.com/freeWe&apo...
Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#084 Is it still dominance if it’s gentle?🎁 Grab the free quick-start guide to become a better Dom: https://domsubliving.com/dominantTurns out, s...
Why BDSM Works Better Than Therapy (For Some People)
05 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way?👉 Grab free resources at https://domsublivi...
5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget?🎁 Want step-by-step worksheets and real scene examples to p...
BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama
21 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think.❤️ Download the free BDSM Relationship Structure Guide at https://domsubliving.com/guideWe...
AI in BDSM: Can a Robot Really Be Your Sub?
14 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub?🎯 Want to build real D/s dynamics instead of relying on AI? Grab my free BDSM S...
Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder?
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives?🔥 Ready to level up your Dom/sub game? Check out https://domsubtraining.c...
How to Be a More Confident Dominant
31 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#078 If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either.🚀 Get your free How to Be a Good Dom Quick Start Guide at https://doms...
50 Game-Changing BDSM Tips in 15 Minutes
24 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#077 After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minu...
Bondage for Beginners & Beyond: Ideas, Tips & Mistakes
17 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#076 Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new.👉 Snag a free ticket to t...
10 Most Popular Kinks (Are Yours on the List?)
10 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#075 Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think!✅ Download your free checklist of over 50 dif...
5 Sensation Play Tips for an Unforgettable Experience
03 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#074 Discover game-changing sensation play techniques!🔥 Read a real-life sensation play scene in action: https://domsubliving.com/sceneEver wondere...
3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!)
24 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#073 Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone!💪 Master the Dom/sub lifesyle: https://domsubliving.com/freeWe're re...
Kink Beyond the Bedroom: What No One Tells You
20 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#072 Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship?🔥 Grab our free BDSM resources at https://d...
Why BDSM Turns You On: The Psychology of Kink
17 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#071 Why do forbidden things turn us on so much? It's not just about pleasure—it's psychology.✅ Get your FREE BDSM checklist with 50+ ki...
Our 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship: How We Built It
10 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#070 Total power exchange sounds intense, right? But it's not just about control; it's about trust, intention, and freedom.📝 Download you...
Wearing a Collar 24/7 in My D/s Marriage: What It’s Really Like
03 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#069 "When my Dom secured the collar around my neck, it gave me a huge sense of belonging and trust like never before."❤️ Visit https://...
How to Reignite the Fire in Your Dom/sub Relationship
27 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#068 Feeling like the passion in your D/s dynamic has faded? You’re not alone—but you can bring it back!👉 Ready to reconnect and thrive in your...
BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey
20 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#067 Is it possible to balance love, family, and a Dom/sub dynamic?👉 Ready to dive deeper? Join our All-Access Pass community at domsubliving.com/a...
What Most People Get Wrong About BDSM Negotiation
13 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#066 Negotiation isn't just a skill, it's a gift you give your dynamic.🌟 Exclusive Offer: Are you ready to elevate your negotiation skill...
5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew Before Starting
06 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#065 There's no guidebook for BDSM - but what if you could learn from experienced kinksters?🌟 Bonus: Access free resources and exclusive conte...
BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See
30 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#064 Is your kinky bucket list feeling a bit uninspired? Let's spice it up together!👉 Download your free BDSM Bingo Card at domsubliving.com/b...
How to Handle Dom/sub Conflict Without Breaking the Dynamic
23 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#063 Can conflict in a Dom/sub relationship become a tool for deeper connection?🔥 Download your free Protocols Master List: https://domsubliving.co...
Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive - Ask Me Anything!
16 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#062 Ever wonder how to truly crawl into your sub's mind or stay proactive as a sub without 'topping from the bottom? This Ask Me Anything e...
Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now
09 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#061 Curious about impact play but don’t know where to start? Or maybe you’re worried about doing it wrong? Don’t stress—you’re in the right...
Exploring Your Kinky Identity: BDSM Roles Beyond Dom and Sub
02 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#060 What's your role in the world of BDSM? Let's dive in and find out! Join us as we break down the ins and outs of BDSM roles. From Domina...
Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic
25 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#059 How do small, intentional acts of service transform a relationship? Join us as we dive into balancing parenthood, health, and wellness, all while...
10 Dom/sub Ideas for Public Spaces – No One Will Notice!
18 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#058 Worried about keeping your Dom/sub dynamic alive in public without drawing attention We've got you covered! Join us as we dive into 10 subtl...
Dom Drop 101: Support Strategies Every Sub Should Know
11 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#057 Even Dominants need a break sometimes. In this eye-opening episode of the Dom Sub Living Podcast, we're breaking down the concept of "D...
Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM
04 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#056 How do you know if a spanking is all fun and games or a real punishment? Mixing them up can lead to confusion and hurt feelings, even if everythi...
Frightening Fantasies: Exploring Darker Desires in BDSM
28 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#055 Have you ever had a fantasy that scares you? Maybe it feels too intense, or you're worried it says something bad about you. Darker desires a...
Why Kink and Politics Can’t Be Separated and What It Means for You
21 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#054: Is kink political? Tune in as we get real about the challenges facing the kink community today. From censorship on social media to how obscenity...
Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle
14 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#053 What drives a submissive to grow and reach their fullest potential? It's all in the training. Join us in this episode as we break down how t...
How to Build BDSM Protocols to Deepen Your D/s Relationship
07 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#052 Can serving coffee really make your Dom/sub dynamic stronger? You bet it can! Join us as we break down the ins and outs of using protocols to add...
Is BDSM Compatible with Christianity? The Surprising Truth
30 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#051 Can you be a devoted Christian and still enjoy BDSM? In this eye-opening episode, we're uncovering how Christian teachings on love, respect,...
BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#050 Want to make your wildest fantasies come true? In this episode, we're diving deep into the intricacies of creating compelling BDSM scenes. L...
Feeling Lost in Kink? Here’s How to Find Your Unique BDSM Path
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#049 Ever feel lost in your kink journey, like everyone else has it all figured out but you? We're diving into the complexities of navigating the...
Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit
09 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#048 Is your potential sub truly compatible, or a red flag waiting to happen? We're diving into the crucial process of vetting a submissive, shed...
Topping from the Bottom? Stop Sabotaging Your D/s Dynamic Now!
02 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#047 Are you unknowingly wrecking your D/s dynamic? We're diving deep into the concept of topping from the bottom and how this subtle power shift...
How to Vet a Dominant: Key Questions and Red Flags to Look For
26 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#046 Worried about finding a Dominant who really respects your boundaries? Let’s make sure you’re in good hands. In this episode, we're break...
Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge!
19 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#045 Brats are having a moment right now, but have you ever wondered why some people love bratting in BDSM while others find it frustrating? In this e...
Maintenance Spankings: 5 Things You Need to Know
12 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#044 Ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in a Dom/Sub relationship and keep bratty behavior at bay? Let’s talk about maintenance spankings! In...
The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed
05 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#043 Ever wondered what it would be like to compete in a BDSM Olympics? Join us as we dive into the thrilling concept of a BDSM Olympics, exploring im...
4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship
29 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#042 Trust Issues in Your Dom Sub Relationship? Here's How to Fix Them! Trust is the bedrock of any strong D/s dynamic. In this episode we'r...
From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey
22 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#041 Ever feel overwhelmed by the world of BDSM and don't know where to start? Or maybe you've dipped your toes in and need some tips to lev...
How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life
15 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#040 Ever feel like you're juggling your BDSM dynamic with your everyday vanilla life? Join host, Alesandra, as she shares her journey to harmoni...
Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub
08 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#039: "Perfection is the enemy of progress in your BDSM journey." Join host, Alesandra, as she opens up about her personal struggle with per...
Navigating BDSM with a Disability: Empowering Your Journey
01 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#038: Can someone with a disability still live the BDSM lifestyle to the full? In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of disability, c...
BDSM Degradation & Humiliation Kink: Ideas & Tips
24 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#037: Want to dive into degradation and humiliation with your partner but afraid you'll cross the line? Let's navigate these intense and thr...
Kink and Kids: DOs and DON'Ts for D/s Parents
17 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
#036: How do you balance being a parent and participating in a BDSM dynamic? In this episode, we're uncovering the delicate balance between paren...
BDSM Q&A: Fresh Ideas, Avoiding Burnout, Navigating DMs
10 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered how to keep your kink life fresh and exciting? Let's uncover some secrets together! In this AMA episode, we're tackling your b...