The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Episodes
When Your Wife Is A Teacher
31 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There are certain relationship dynamics that I have seen crop up when the wife is a teacher. This adds to my episode on relationship issues when the m...
Emotional Hangovers: Why Do You Feel So Terrible After An Argument?
26 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What's an emotional hangover? I didn't make up this term but it resonates with many people who haven't understood why they feel so awful t...
High Achieving Men: The King Midas Problem
23 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Wouldn't it be great to be married to someone who is good at everything? Well, my caseload is filled with high achieving men with marriage issues,...
Why Trying To Optimize Your Sex Life Doesn't Work
20 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Why does optimizing your sex life never work, even though it works in other aspects of your life? A wake up call to the high achieving men who just ca...
When Your Wife Decides She "Doesn't Have Any More F's To Give"
15 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This is a common phrase from women at midlife. "I don't have any more F's to give!" "I realized I don't give a flying F anymore" etc etc. What does th...
Are You Interesting To Your Spouse?
12 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Bad news: if you think you're not, you're probably picking up on something real. But you may be able to increase how interesting you are with ...
Producers Vs Consumers: My New Framework For Understanding Compatibility
09 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you like to create in your spare time, which I call a PRODUCER, or do you like to enjoy what others have created, which I call a CONSUMER? Make mus...
Therapists and Money And Taxes With Michael Flax, My Very Own Accountant
06 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today we have the most special guest, Michael Flax, CPA of flaxcpa.com. This is my own accountant and he will field all of my questions which includes...
What's Your Financial Attachment Style?
02 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today I discuss my new term "financial attachment style" and the analogues for avoidant and preoccupied attachment as it applies to how you ...
Blaming Your Husband For Your Sex Life Is Misguided And In Many Cases, Anti-Feminist
29 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There is some idea now that any woman with a loving husband wants sex. This could not be less true. Women may not want sex for all kinds of reasons th...
Having Opposite Sex Siblings Really Helps Your Marriage
26 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Having siblings of the opposite sex really helps your (heterosexual) marriage. Here's how men with sisters and women with brothers act differently...
Scheduling Sex Will Not Cure Your Sexless Marriage
23 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Scheduling sex works for some people. Listen to this episode to find out who! Hint: it's not going to be the magic bullet that unilaterally makes ...
"What's The Difference Between Selfish And Avoidant Partners?" Beats Me Man
19 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
A listener asked if I could do an episode on the distinction between avoidant and selfish partners, and that is a real logical puzzle. I can't rea...
Stefan Merrill Block: The Author of Homeschooled And A Kindred Spirit
16 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
As you know if you listened to my episode about Homeschooled, I found it to be a fascinating deep dive into an enmeshed relationship between the autho...
Romantic Love Changes People
13 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When you're in love, it changes you deeply. If you feel that love has NOT changed you and made you more empathic, warm, and generous... that's an issu...
Sharing... The Opposite Of Being Self Centered
07 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Sharing isn't just an important skill for kids to learn! Our society is becoming increasingly, dysfunctionally focused on the individual at the ex...
Cheating Is An Addictive Behavior, Not A Relationship Behavior!
04 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Cheating is categorized as "relationship behavior" but it's more about "lack of frustration tolerance." Cheating relates to addictive behaviors and to...
Adult Child Of Dysfunctional Family? Read Homeschooled By Stefan Merrill Block
01 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This awesome book held my attention in a way that few do. It is a riveting discussion of Stefan's enmeshment with his mom that manifested in homeschoo...
Stopping Drinking... One Free Way To Improve Your Marriage Immediately
29 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
You know what people don't regret? Stopping or cutting back on drinking. This is the number one thing that can improve your marriage, so stop acti...
Your Boyfriend Saying He Doesn't Know About Marriage = He Rejected Your Proposal
24 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
A completely new way to think about this for the preoccupied attachment woman!My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buym...
Weaponized Incompetence? What Happened To Plain Old Incompetence
21 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Worth the (free) price of listening just for my analogy that women who call ADHD husbands not doing chores well "weaponized incompetence" is no better...
"Withdrawing Sex Is Abuse"? NO
18 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode, I discuss the internet idea that it's abusive not to have sex with your spouse. What? This is nonsense.My newest venture, includi...
What's A Midlife Crisis And Why Does It Happen?
13 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today we will talk about your midlife crisis, what dimensions it tends to span, and why most deep thinkers have them! My newest venture, including ALL...
Misdiagnosis, The Future Of Psychiatry, And What We Don't Know About Mental Health: With Dr. Marc Lener
11 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today I have an awesome guest, Dr. Marc Lener, a psychiatrist who I've collaborated with on cases in the past. We have a rollicking conversation c...
With Friends Like Yourself, Do You Need Enemies?
08 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a good friend to yourself? Do you give yourself grace and compassion? Would you talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself? Or did you inte...
Avoidant Partners Look DOWN On Loved Ones And Preoccupied Partners Look UP!
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Preoccupied attachment partners think their avoidant partners are BETTER than they are considered to be by others, in terms of looks, intelligence, an...
Romantic Objectification Is No Better Than Sexual Objectification: Are You A Limerent?
01 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Limerence, or unrequited infatuation/preoccupied attachment, can make a partner feel just as objectified as sexual objectification can. All about how ...
Managing Expectations With Your Spouse... Why You Can't And Why That Makes Everything Worse
26 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When your spouse asks for something that you can't/won't do, why do you tell them you will instead of answering honestly about your doubts and...
All About Treating Complex Trauma.... Parts Work, EMDR, Brainspotting and More! With Becca Newkirk!
22 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Have you been triggered within your relationships because of past trauma due to being a parentified child, self-esteem issues, or overall stress in yo...
I'm 45! Here's What I've Learned In 20 Years Since My First Client
19 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I've turned 45! I've been seeing clients for twenty years now and here's what I have learned about people and relationships. Dispelling some myths abo...
Stop Trying To Compete With The Kids For Your Wife's Attention
16 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Some men try to compete with their kids for their wife's attention and this invariably ends poorly. Don't go against evolution! Today's ep...
Did Your "Emotional Harem" Mask Your Avoidant Partner's Limitations?
13 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When they start dating an avoidant partner, many people are still very close to a friend that fulfills their emotional or intellectual needs, who they...
What's Your Second Mountain At Midlife?
07 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
The book The Second Mountain by David Brooks is very interesting and speaks to a lot of issues that my midlife clients discuss with me every day. In t...
What To Expect When You're Expecting A TEENAGER!!!! Parenting Teenagers with Special Guest Dr. Rebecca Resnik!
04 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Parenting teenagers is not for the weak! Today's wide ranging conversation with a fellow psychologist in my area covers:- Screen time: limits vs freed...
When Your Husband Is Depressed
02 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I often discuss how to support partners with depression, especially women, as women are twice as likely to struggle with depression. This episode disc...
Divorce and Finances With Russell Knight, Divorce Lawyer!
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode, special guest Russell Knight and I discuss the financial ramifications of divorce. He practices in Illinois and Florida and shares...
Do People Who Both Work From Home, Or Who Have Kids Every Other Weekend, Or Who Are Retired, Have More Sex?
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There's this idea that you can hack your sex life by getting more free time. This is usually incorrect, for the reasons I very practically discuss...
Real Time Dating Profile Feedback For A 37 Year Old Man!
23 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Suzanna Mathews, Best Life coach, helps a Facebook follower with his dating profile... and I'm there for helpful remarks like telling him t...
What To Say When Your Wife Says No To Sex; Two Paths In The Flowchart
20 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There are two funnels to go down based on whether this is one week off of regular activity or a long term sexless marriage. As always, sulking or coer...
Ketamine Assisted Therapy with Meredith Futernick!
17 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Meredith is the first therapist I ever hired at Best Life and she's awesome. Today's episode covers everything about ketamine assisted therapy...
Work, Hobbies, Friends: The Avoidant Mantra And Why This Is The Era Of The Avoidant
11 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Look out if you are dating someone with this mantra! You will always come fourth... and if they are dating after divorce with kids, you'll come fi...
Renata Ellera on Attachment, Social Media, Anxiously Attached Women, Culture, And Everything Else!
08 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today's special guest is Renata Ellera, a clinical psychologist from Brazil who writes the smart and relationship-focused Substack Love Better. Ou...
Meredith Masony: An Honest Talk About Being A Woman At Midlife!
05 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Meredith Masony is awesome. I met her ten years ago at Blog U, a now defunct conference for mommy bloggers, and she has since skyrocketed to internet ...
Lana Li and I Discuss How Much Of Dating Behavior Predicts How People Will Act In Marriage!
29 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today we have Lana Li, who I follow on Substack! We discuss dating as a young overeducated woman in New York City, lol. She was doing that till recent...
You Are An Unreliable Narrator And So Is Everyone Else... Or, How To Become 100x Wiser In One Minute
26 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode discusses how to become 100 times wiser in a minute: Whenever you hear any relationship story from one side, assume if the partner...
"My Husband Came Out After Years Of Sexlessness": Recovering From Betrayal Trauma With Guest Brandi Stupica
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's longest episode ever, we go through the backstory of Brandi, who is a Developmental Psychology PhD and whose husband came out as transg...
Sex and Porn Addiction With Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT of The Addicted Mind Podcast!
17 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I have an amazing guest who is a true expert on all things addiction! Duane Osterlind is a therapist who has been working in the field of addict...
If She's The CEO And You're The CFO (Chief F-ing Officer), This Doesn't Count As Division Of Labor
14 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I came up with this funny phrase in a couples session and told the couple it was too good not to use in a podcast! :) Some women feel like the CEO of ...
Let Your Wife Take Care Of You Or She Will Feel Unnecessary To You Except For Sex (Which Is Bad)
11 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many guys think that a woman taking care of a man is a turn off to her, and think "The only thing I really want from her is sex, so that will be my on...
Laura How Is Still My Spirit Animal, or Part 2 Of Our Thoughts on Marriage And Love!!
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Another rollicking good time and intriguing discussion with my spirit animal from across the pond: the inimitable Laura How! We discuss marriage, gend...
Psychoanalytic Therapy: Not What You May Think! With Dr. Amanda Akers!
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Amanda Akers, one of our awesome Best Life clinicians, has a free flowing and often funny discussion with me about the ins and outs of psychoanaly...
All About Infidelity... With Tehilla Luttig!
29 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I have an awesome special guest: Tehilla Luttig, LMHC! Tehilla is a licensed therapist in South Africa who sees therapy clients inter...
Why Is Your Wife Terrified To Give You Sexual Feedback?
26 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many guys have no idea how women internalize the idea that if you tell a man anything about his penis that isn't positive, you will destroy his self-e...
Yes, Many Men Want More Foreplay
21 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Got a comment on Facebook on a post about how a common mistake people make in their 40s is not allotting enough time to foreplay. This guy said: "It's...
When Your Parent Dies And You Become The Oldest Generation
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The death of your parent(s) is a significant life event, and can lead to tremendous change in your self-concept. No matter how old you are, this makes...
Your Wife Is Four Different Women Over The Course Of The Month...With Alyx Coble-Frakes of The Agenda. App
16 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm joined by Alyx Coble-Frakes, the CEO and founder of The Agenda., an awesome app that helps women understand and optimize their li...
All About Otroverts Part 2... With The Ultimate Otrovert Dr. Rami Kaminski
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What a special treat! Today we have an interview with the ultimate otrovert Dr. K, who wrote the book The Gift Of Not Belonging (https://amzn.to/4nv3O...
Eldest Sons, Especially In Dysfunctional Families, Have Unique Issues
08 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There is a lot of popular media discourse about the challenges of eldest daughters, but I haven't seen anything about eldest sons. I have many of thes...
Otroverts! When You Don't Belong And Don't Understand Group Feelings
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
All about otroverts! I can't wait to interview the creator of this idea in a few days, Dr. Rami Kaminski. For now you will have to settle for my d...
The Link Between Porn Use In Men And Eating Disordered Behaviors In Women with Special Guest Jackie Aston, LCSW-C
02 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode features a special guest: Jackie Aston, LCSW-C, who provides therapy to individuals and couples in D.C. and Maryland. We discuss the f...
You Can Try New Things Without Compromising Your Core Self
26 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
People who were raised in authoritarian homes often feel compelled to assert their individuality across multiple domains: hobbies, preferred music/TV/...
What Is Tantric Sex? With Special Guest Suzanna Mathews
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Suzanna Mathews is an awesome relationship and dating coach at Best Life Behavioral Health, and she was a fantastic guest on the podcast. In this epis...
Laura How and I Are Spirit Animals.... Part 1
20 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Laura How is an awesome couples counselor and coach based in the UK. She runs an excellent YouTube channel and podcast, and I was so excited to have h...
Reproductive Aged Animals Are Restless! Can You Use This Lens To Understand Yourself Better?
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I read this somewhere and it makes a lot of sense and dovetails with a lot of the topics I discuss. Specifically, have you been thinking your marriage...
Special Guest: Michelle Dempsey-Multack, Founder of The Moving On Method and Divorce Guru!
11 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Amazing treat, guys! Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, CDS and I have a super interesting discussion about divorce, remarriage, coparenting, and our own c...
If Your Partner Wouldn't Have Loved Your Most Awkward Self, You Will Never Feel Loved By Them
08 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
ALLOW FOR A LITTLE LEARNING CURVE AS I USE THIS NEW MICROPHONE, GUYS! :)If you feel your partner wouldn't have loved you as a shy kid, a weird ado...
Ten Quick Ways To Show Your Partner You Love Them!
02 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chock full of concrete and practical tips that ONLY take a couple minutes (at least most of them) and can supercharge the connection in your relations...
Dr. Marie Land on Overthinkers and Dating!
29 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A special treat! This awesome, fun and funny episode is super relevant for anyone who struggles with preoccupied attachment or with anxiety and overth...
Low Functioning Normal Person vs High Functioning Person With Depression/Anxiety/Pain/Illness?
26 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This cognitive reframe can be transformational. It is very similar to my episode on the switch in your 50's from old young person to young old person....
All About Anxious Kids... With Dr. Rachel Singer!
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Rachel Singer is awesome. She's a psychologist in my area and is a wonderful, kind, and intelligent therapist for anxious kids (and adults, and pa...
Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach, Discusses When Smart, Successful Women Have Issues Finding The Right Man
17 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's wonderful treat is an appearance from renowned dating guru Evan Marc Katz, became the world’s first dating coach in 2003, specializing in he...
What Does Avoidant Attachment Look Like During Dating?
14 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode discusses what avoidant attachment looks like early on... which is useful if you've convinced yourself that your partner bait ...
Cat Roebuck and Paula Pate On The Crucible Approach To Couples Therapy!
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm joined by two wonderful providers we have at Best Life Behavioral Health: Paula Pate and Cat Roebuck. We do a deep dive into a c...
Three (Actually Four) Concrete Tips To Improve Date Night
05 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many people struggle with practical ways to enact some of my marriage tips, which is why I try to add in some very concrete strategy episodes. Here wa...
Love Isn't Tallying Shit Up
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Stop counting stuff up, whether it's chores or date nights or sexual encounters. This is literally killing any potential for closeness in your relatio...
"If You Were A Single Parent You'd Have To Do Everything Yourself" But Wait
30 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is illogical. If you want to split everything exactly down the middle because "that's what would happen after divorce".... you've never been divo...
When Your Partner's Friends/Family Dislike You
24 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Straight talk on this common issue that I see in pursuer-distancer couples, especially preoccupied women with avoidant men. Often your issues with the...
Who Lies In Therapy, And Why?
21 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I discuss the reasons that people are dishonest in therapy, how to reframe this, and a challenge if you're in therapy for your next session!Subs...
When Your Defensiveness Stops Sex In Its Tracks
18 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many men underestimate how much of a turnoff defensiveness is to women. Even if a woman wanted to have sex with you that evening, an interaction where...
Is Your Relationship Like Chat GPT?
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Some people are in a dynamic that's like Chat GPT... and they don't even know until it stops! Today I discuss who gets into this type of dynam...
Interview With A Sexologist... Heather Ray!
09 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You may know Heather Ray from the workshops and videos she's done for the practice: Lick It Right, Partner's Guide To Female Pleasure, and Blow His Mi...
When You Try And Make Up For Not Having Had Young, Casual Sex Within Your Marital Sex Life
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I discuss when men who are late bloomers or "gentleman eunuchs" try to have wild and experimental sex in their marriages to compensate for not h...
The Two House Solution?
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I often see wealthier couples get a second home as a "fun new thing" to do as a family. At first they think of this extra space as a way to solve thei...
Is It Important For Your Therapist To Have "Lived Experience" In The Area You're Looking To Address?
27 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many people ask whether it's important for their therapist to have personal experience in the life area that they are working on (e.g., marriage, ...
What Would You Do If You Had Only 30 Years To Live?
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We say this about 1, 5 or 10 years... but what about 30? This is the central question of midlife and framing it this way can help you clarify your tho...
Your Legal Divorce Questions Answered: An Interview With Evan Koslow, Family Law Attorney
18 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I have a treat... an interview with family law attorney, mediator, and divorced dad Evan Koslow. He handles complex divorce cases and answers al...
Normal Privilege
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many people discount the privilege of growing up with functional , "normal" parents. In today's episode, I read a comment from a followe...
ADHD In Women
12 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
By request, a special episode on how I've seen ADHD manifest in women! Organizational issues, impulsivity, hyperfocused courtship and dramatic drop ou...
Every Minute Counts At Midlife... But Think Before You Act
06 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode discusses how midlife often makes you feel a sense of urgency... you know you don't have infinite time left on the planet, and you wan...
When Your Wife Loves The Dog (Or Other Pet) More Than You
03 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode discusses a common problem I hear about in session: "My wife cuddles the dog more than me," or "My husband is obses...
What's A "Married Single Mom"?
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This term is all over the internet... what does it mean? Often, a range of dynamics fall under this umbrella, and I will discuss the factors going int...
Dr. Christine Vaccaro On Sexual Health In Perimenopause And Beyond: Medical Options To Increase Drive And Wellness
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I have a wonderful guest today, who is a well respected physician in my community. I ask every question you ever wanted to ask about perimenopause, me...
Your Marriage Is The Template For Your Kids' Marriage One Day! Go On Date Night!
21 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This video podcast discusses how important it is for you to model a loving relationship for your children! And a discussion of how you can use your ki...
When You Are More Similar To Your Opposite Gender Parent, It Impacts Your Perspective On Your Relationship
18 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
By request from Facebook group member (join us: facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom), here's an interesting episode on the impact on your marriage of i...
Are You In Chat GPT Style Therapy?
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Facebook live where I discriminate between therapy as massage and therapy as the gym. And I took a question about a guy with an avoidant wife and how...
When There's Never Been Romantic Or Sexual Attraction In Your Marriage
15 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Which type of people get into a situation like this? What background leads to assuming that sexual attraction just won't be part of your relations...
Your Parents May Have Been Depressed, Not Just Angry Or Cold
15 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It is an epiphany to many clients that their parents were likely depressed, and not just "quiet," "irritable," "detached," or "angry." Today's episode...
LOVE vs CHIP Communication To Transform Your Relationships!
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I created my LOVE acronym for parents in conflict with their adult children, but it can be used for all relationships where you love someone, but they...
When You're Good At Receiving Feedback... Except From Your Wife
06 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many men think they are great at receiving feedback, but the reality is that they aren't, at least not within their marriages. Here's how it feels for...
Silent Divorce, or Quiet Quitting Your Marriage
03 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The idea of "silent divorce" has been all over popular media. Here's what it is, who is at risk, who can repair and how, and the attachment dynamics t...