The Gaslighting Effect
Activity Overview
Episode publication activity over the past year
Episodes
Predators In Disguise: How image-obsessed people wreak havoc in recovery spaces
21 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Jessica, a self-described ExMormon sex worker, shares how she came to be in the crosshairs of an ego-driven man who has no qualms abo...
A Beginner’s Guide to DARVO: deny, argue, reverse victim and offender
15 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
TikTok’s Maggie in Babylon joins this podcast episode to discuss how predators turn the tables on their victims and if there’s anything that can b...
5 Red Flags Of Predatory People
05 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is dedicated to the enabling attitudes and behaviors in the ExMormon community that allow predators to continue hurting people.
Predators in ExMormon Spaces
02 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
An introduction to season 5, which will be devoted to talking about predatory behavior in communities recovering from religious trauma.
One trait abusers share
05 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Why did my ex-husband get so angry? How could my mother gaslight me for a decade, yet believe she had done nothing wrong? In this episode I explore th...
Two Virgins: how shame ruins sex
22 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
A brief portrait of my sex life as a Mormon wife.
Culture Wars In Mormonism
08 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In 1980’s white suburbia, there was a mold we had to fit. Even the Mormons. Especially the Mormons.
Children Primed For Sexual Abuse: 4 ways parents set kids up to pick sexually abusive partners
25 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
A discussion of how a child can be groomed to accept sexual abuse even when parents never physically touch them.
4 More Spiritual Abuse Tactics
04 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What is Spiritual Abuse? The analysis of spiritually abusive tactics continues.
4 Spiritual Abuse Tactics
27 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What is spiritual abuse? A description of 4 tactics used in spiritually abusive communities.
13 Emotional Abuse Tactics
20 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
13 ways a friend, partner, or family member can manipulate and control you without hitting or raising their voice.
10 Verbal Abuse Tactics
13 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If your partner uses these ten tactics to keep you in a state of submission, you may be in a verbally abusive relationship.
Mourning
05 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How I feel about the current unrest and racial injustices in my country.
The Enmeshment Doctrine: when boundaries are forbidden
30 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Your family might follow the enmeshment doctrine if your future has been planned out for you and healthy boundaries are perceived as a threat.
10 Things Keeping You In Unhealthy Relationships
23 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
No one gets a free pass to treat you like cr*p. Not even family. Especially not family.
Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing: 7 signs a parent is manipulating you
16 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
My dad is father of the year... until he doesn’t gets his way. 7 signs someone you love may be a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Three Types of Perfectionism: the pitfalls of growing up in a perfect Mormon family
09 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Dedicated to my father, I kick off season 3 by analyzing the home he grew up in and the poisonous effects of choosing perfectionism over people.
Healing Through Connection
02 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How I went from believing God was outside myself and that my body was the enemy to integrating a soul-body connection that led to greater self-accepta...
Healing Through Touch
25 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What exactly is touch deprivation? A list of comforting touch substitutes, the most healing way to be touched, and the importance of having at least o...
Healing Through Reflection
18 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Rumination and trauma. How to reflect on the bad while bringing in the good.
Healing Through Self-Compassion
11 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
12 unwritten narcissistic family rules you must break to develop self-compassion. Plus, three practices to accept and forgive yourself.
Healing Through Self-Expression
04 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
An exploration of writing, art, and music as a means to process and heal from trauma.
Workplace Mobbing: Resources For The Recovering
28 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
A rundown of YouTube videos, blogs, and books to help heal from workplace mobbing. Plus nine ways to know you’re relatively safe in your relationshi...
Moving On After Workplace Mobbing
21 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The three degrees of mobbing injury and how I’ve been personally effected by the experience.
Mobbing Stage Five: Expulsion
14 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The reactions of my bullies after I formally resigned told me a lot about who they were. It wasn’t pretty.
Mobbing Stage Four: Misdiagnosis
07 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When my mobbers and my administration joined forces, everything turned ugly.
Mobbing Stage Three: Administrative Involvement
29 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When my principal and vice principal became aware of the mobbing, they could have stopped it. Instead they joined in. In this episode, I talk about ho...
Mobbing Stage Two: Stigmatization
22 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Being mobbed is like being chased by a pack of wolves. No one will help you because they’re too afraid of the wolves. In this episode, I talk about ...
Mobbing Stage One: The Critical Incident
15 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What is a “critical incident” in workplace mobbing? It’s the moment power is challenged. When the status quo is threatened, it bites back.
Prelude To Workplace Mobbing
08 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Before stage one of the mobbing process, the warning signs are there. When it happened to me, I didn’t recognize them. Here I detail the behaviors I...
Toxic Workplaces
01 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about some red flags of an unhealthy work environment, characteristics of bad bosses, and how my first year of teaching went f...
Don’t Dehumanize Me
25 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Content warning for gruesome descriptions of violence. Discussed is how mobbing differs from lynching and how powerless populations have historically ...
Mobbing In Childhood
18 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When an entire class gangs up on a student for the duration of an entire school year, it’s more than mere bullying. Content warning for discussion o...
How Mobbing Stops
11 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
A review of the first two mobbing stages and a detailed example of how the phenomenon can stop. Hint: It can’t reach stage four. Also discussed is t...
Scapegoating vs Mobbing
04 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Being the family scapegoat is isolating, and recovery is a daunting journey. It has many striking similarities to the unsettling dynamics of workplace...
The Power Paradox
14 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Power as influence. This episode is devoted to analyzing “power” through the work of Dacher Keltner, who has written several books and teaches at ...
Healthy vs Unhealthy
08 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Healthy relationships are healing. Unhealthy ones are toxic. In this episode I share the enormous and striking contrast between the healthy relationsh...
Post Divorce Growing Pains
01 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
From being in poverty to being in love, I explain how writing down my pain led to healing and growth.
Healing After Trauma
24 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Much of my trauma has occurred in elementary schools. Yet I’m attempting to heal as I work in one. In this episode I talk about why.
Mirror Mirror On The Wall
03 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Parents who prioritize image above their children’s needs and feelings deserve a special place in mosquito heaven without nets, or pants, or bug spr...
The Crumbling Of My Marriage (part two)
27 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about gaining more autonomy and support. Also discussed are prayer, forgiveness, and how I lost my faith in God. Content warni...
The Crumbling Of My Marriage (part one)
20 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
A review of journal entries written right after I left Mormonism that reveal the unraveling of my marriage.
The Stories We Tell
13 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
An analysis of how stories are used in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to increase feelings of persecution and elitism among the membe...
Cults
06 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How do I know my home was a cult? Let me tell you.