The Grace Fueled Wife: Christian Marriage Podcast | Rebuild Emotional Intimacy | Healthy Communication | Conflict Resolution

E116// Should I still have sex with my husband if we’re separated?

07 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There are many mixed opinions on this issue mostly because they say it will confuse you or your husband. In some cases, however,  it can heal the mar...

E115// My rockbottom story Pt. 2: 3 mistakes that led to our separation and lessons I learned

25 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Way back in episode 1, I said I would talk about the things that I did which led to my separation. In the excitement of the new show, the start of the...

E114//Self Coach Saturday: Fighting for your marriage even if you’re separated

21 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

No matter where you are in your marriage, whether you’re on the brink of separation or you are just looking to reconnect, this episode will help you...

E113// Quick date night idea when you’re lacking childcare

17 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I see you out there trying to increase intimacy and connection in your marriage. You want to prioritize date night but don’t have child care.    H...

E112// Self Coaching Saturday:Do you want better communication in marriage?

14 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One of the biggest requests I get from my clients is for better communication with their husbands. This episode will walk you through the two basic qu...

E111// Tempted to give him the silent treatment? 3 ways to do it with grace.

10 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is it ever okay to give your husband the silent treatment?   I’m sure you’ve wanted to before. Who hasn’t? Although anger and resentment may ca...

E110// Are you trying to improve your marriage by yourself? How to improve your marriage with self coaching

07 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you trying to improve your marriage by yourself? Don't feel bad. Many of my listeners are. In this episode, we learn how to improve your marriage ...

E109// What does your bedroom say about your marriage?

03 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you looking for more intimacy in your marriage? Whether you want more sex or just more meaningful conversation the state of your bedroom could be ...

E108//Top 3 books to read for Christian Marriage: Quarterly Book Review

28 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you are looking for books on marriage whether your marriage is struggling or faces normal struggles like everyone else, this episode is for you. I ...

E107// 5 Ways to deal with a moody husband

20 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder why your husband is so grumpy? Learn why AND help your cranky husband come around with these 5 quick tips.  Remember, since we probably a...

E106//Why your apology isn’t being accepted

12 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever gotten frustrated because your apology wasn’t accepted or perhaps your husband’s apology didn’t feel genuine for you, this epis...

E105// Help! My husband won’t change - how to win him over without manipulating him

06 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You may not be able to change your husband but you can influence him!!!! Here are a few ways you can influence your husband WITHOUT manipulating him! ...

E104// Are you fighting over finances? 4 ways to stop fighting over money and start living towards financial harmony

30 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I’m sure at one time or another you and your husband have fought over finances. It is one of the #1 fights couples have and is actually the 2nd lead...

E103// My husband asked for a separation/divorce - Not what? 5 ways to handle it with grace

17 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Has your husband told you that he doesn’t love you anymore and wants out? That he no longer wants to be in the marriage? That he is tired of trying ...

E102// Do you want to go from fighting to flowers? My student tells all about how her marriage started to change within a few weeks.

11 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey mama, are you tired?  Are you tired of feeling like you have a disconnected and loveless marriage?  Are you tired of feeling like your husband i...

E101// Tired of feeling like your husband is a roommate? 2 things to try today!

09 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all heard about couples who “grow apart.” It’s what happens when they become so disconnected and far away that they have trouble getting...

E100// Are you waiting to hear from God?

02 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you wondering what God says about you, your marriage, the plans you have in life? In this episode, we discuss 3 tips to start hearing God’s voic...

E99//3 ways to overcome insecurity in your marriage

22 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you feeling insecure in your marriage? A few weeks ago we talked about how insecurity is hurting your marriage, in this episode, we learn 3 tips (...

E98// Live Coaching: How to rekindle passion in the marriage after a rough season

16 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this LIVE COACHING episode we discuss how to rekindle intimacy in your marriage after a rough season. We talk about being afraid of rejection, lack...

E97// Have you set goals for your marriage?

10 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we enter into this second month of the year many of us are looking at the goals or resolutions we’ve made - or broken so far and either thinking ...

E96// Help! I feel unappreciated: 3 ways to reduce resentment and strengthen your connection

08 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We can all feel unappreciated in marriage at times.  Here are three ways to reduce your resentment and increase intimacy in your marriage rather than...

E95// How do I forgive after infidelity when I am filled with such anger and pain?

01 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Your husband cheated. Now What? How do you go on? How do you forgive him when you are filled with such anger and pain. You’re feeling heartbroken bu...

E94// 3 ways insecurity is hurting your marriage and how to overcome it

26 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you think you might be insecure in your marriage and are wondering how to change it? Perhaps you aren’t sure if you have a right to feel this way...

E93// Why is my husband so mean? How to problem solve and communicate with deeper understanding

18 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder why your husband says such hurtful things? In this episode, we explore 3 reasons why he might be saying mean things lately. We also learn ...

E92// Tired of being his caretaker? How to get your husband to help out around the house more

11 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Wives, I see you out there - trying as best you can to hold the family together. Trying to maintain an image of a respectable family - which you have,...

E91//How to give your husband grace when he doesn’t believe

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling in your marriage to an unbeliever?  Here is some truth from God’s word to help you love him well and with God’s grace. In this...

E90// Let go of shame in marriage to rebuild on a strong foundation

30 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This last episode of 2021 will give you a story of hope and reconciliation as well as practical tips to get rid of shame in your marriage and to rebui...

E89// An encouraging word for your marriage

15 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I don’t seek out a “word for the year”, but every year since 2017 God has seen fit to give me one. This year that word is for you - it's especia...

E88// Is there hope for a hopeless marriage?

07 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we will hear 3 signs of hope for our otherwise hopeless marriages and three signs that perhaps separation is the right course of acti...

E87// Does your husband deflect or refuse to take responsibility for his wrongs?

29 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever argued or tried to have a rational discussion with your husband only to have him respond with something like:  “That’s your issue, ...

E86// How to ask for what you want without making your husband defensive

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I quickly give you some of the information we learn in the Grace Fueled Marriage Method where we investigate conflict resolution stra...

E85//Is your impatience hurting your marriage?

15 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

All too often we want a “quick fix” out of the things that we don’t like. We want to “get rich quick” or “loose weight fast” or in the c...

e84// How to be more vulnerable in marriage: More info on the Communication Workshop

12 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In the last episode, we learned that the key to more intimacy and connection in marriage was vulnerability. We learned it was the way to fight against...

e83// Does your husband feel more like a roommate? This is why...

09 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

So often I’ve heard the phrase “my husband feels more like a roommate than a soulmate”. Back when I was in the midst of separation I felt the sa...

e82// Let‘s talk about sex! When he wants it more than you.

27 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As Christians, we often avoid talking about sex. Why?? In this episode, we go there!    We specifically talk about what it means for wives whose hus...

e81// Don‘t let your marriage take the back seat to your kids!

21 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Having a child can GREATLY affect your marriage. The entire dynamic changes. For many couples, it means that all the focus goes to the children while ...

E80// Feel anxiety or depression when your marriage isn’t going well? How to handle emotional distress and marriage.

13 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel anxiety or depression when your marriage isn’t going well? You are not alone! How to handle emotional distress and marriage. As much as ...

E79// Not connecting with your husband? Edify him back to intimacy

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been sitting in a season of disconnectedness with your husband - a season of feeling like he’s your roommate rather than your lover or y...

E78// Help! My marriage is divided over politics and Covid related issues!!

29 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling in your marriage? Do you and your spouse disagree on politics and COVID-related issues? Have these disagreements caused great divis...

E77// How to have a more loving and connected marriage without DOing a thing

21 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want to have a more loving and connected marriage? Have you read all the books or tried all the courses and podcasts but are still struggling i...

E76// Trying to be a good help meet but he doesn‘t want the help?

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Don’t you hate when you are trying to “help” your husband with something but he refuses? Or better yet, gets annoyed with you for trying?   I m...

E75// How does being a better YOU make you a better wife/mother?

25 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What would life look like if we actually took the time to care for ourselves?   In this episode, we talk about everyone’s favorite 4 letter word - ...

E74// How to get what you want without nagging

28 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want to get what you want WITHOUT nagging? Don’t think that you’re a nag? Listen to this episode to the SECRET to getting what you want, fi...

The power of a carefully chosen girlfriend

23 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a trusted girlfriend? Do you know how to find one or perhaps you don’t think you need one? Your husband shouldn’t be your only friend....

Now is the time to make lasting change in your marriage!

22 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of complaining about your marriage and ready to make a lasting change? Are you tired of feeling like your husband is just a roommate? Ar...

Shhh! I have a confession about surrender...

21 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I give you guys a little confession about what is going on with me lately- maybe something similar is going on with you?    Click HERE for my link t...

E70// Being a Grace Fueled Wife even in the midst of Separation or divorce

28 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you’ve been the perfect wife yet you find yourself still in the midst of separation or divorce? This could be one of the hardest ti...

What is the opposite of the crazy train: How can I have that in my marriage?

21 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Energizing cycle is the opposite of the Crazy cycle per Dr. Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect. In this episode, we explore what that is and what ...

Is your marriage riding the crazy train?

14 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect talks about the Crazy Cycle. In this episode, we dive into what exactly is the crazy cycle and how we ...

What is a pattern interrupt and how can it change my marriage?

09 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you living in recurring beliefs or responses that are not always healthy? Feeling stuck in a mundane life? Does your Roommate... er.... your husba...

E66// What is my favorite hack for a spicy marriage?

02 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There are so many tips and tricks we hear to build healthy marriages - here is my favorite one by far!!! Learn how to take your marriage from feeling ...

E65// What does it take to build a lasting marriage?

26 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling discouraged and hopeless about your marriage and want to know what it really takes to build a marriage that lasts?  Here are some encouraging...

E64// How to be a gracious wife when you’re hurting

24 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you dealing with frustration and hurt in your marriage and just don’t know HOW to be gracious? You find yourself wondering, is there  ever an i...

E63// Feeling forgotten and alone in your marriage and need help? Introducing The Grace Fueled Marriage Method

21 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you feeling forgotten by all the marriage courses and resources that exist for Christian Women? Do you want to work on your marriage even though y...

E62// Does your husband get mad at you, for getting mad at him?

17 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Has this ever happened to you? It can be frustrating when you are upset about something but your spouse just gets mad at you as if he doesn't have any...

E61// What do I do when my husband communicates with me in anger?

12 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question of how to react when her husband is communicating with her in anger. We look at 4 steps you can take...

E60// How to fix your marriage in three (easy?) steps!

05 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we will talk about three steps to fixing your marriage that are included in the Grace Fueled Marriage Method 1- The Routine  2- The R...

E59// Finding the RESOLVE to fight for our marriage when we’re frustrated

28 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When we’re angry and frustrated in marriage it may be difficult to find the motivation to fight for it and continue. We may find ourselves frustrate...

E58// How to fight for your marriage when your husband isn’t showing up

27 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel alone in your marriage? Does your husband refuse to participate? Perhaps he won't go to counseling, church, or family events. Do you feel ...

E57// Have you lost yourself in your marriage?

12 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you lost yourself in your marriage? Do you find yourself waiting on your husband to make plans for the weekend? Do you spend so much time caterin...

E56// How to stop an argument in your marriage BEFORE it starts.

07 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

L.A.S.T. is my proven 4 step method to stopping an argument before it starts. If you want a healthier marriage without all the silly arguments, tune i...

E55// Love and Respect - A strong-willed woman’s perspective. How to Cherish and Champion in your marriage.

29 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The book Love and Respect by Dr. Emmerson Eggerich can be both transformative and controversial. I found its principles to be really helpful for me on...

E54// Help! I think I’m married to a Narcissist with Ronica Cormier

22 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In almost every episode I give a disclaimer about how this info doesn’t apply if you are in an abusive relationship. I talk about how you should fir...

E53// Fighting for your marriage when your husband doesn’t believe

17 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you married to an unbelieving husband? This is what scripture says about it... How can you honor God AND your husband at this time?    When we a...

E52// The Script: What to do when your husband isn’t living up to your expectations.

12 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are tired of being a mind reader? Do you feel like “he should have known”? Are you frustrated that your husband hasn’t done the things you expec...

E51// Help! We’ve tried everything and our marriage hasn’t gotten any better: How to set boundaries in your marriage

10 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This topic came from several different posts I've read from wives saying how they’ve tried everything even counseling but their husband continues to...

Are you walking through a dark or uncertain season?

05 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all have seasons of darkness or uncertainty. You are NOT alone. This is an encouragement for just one of those times.    Are you new here and wan...

Separation to salvation p2: Fighting over finances? Practical tips to achieve financial goals without an MLM

29 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Now that we have heard about how God redeemed this marriage, Lindsay and I have a candid discussion on fighting over finances, a passive income strate...

From the brink of Separation to Salvation part 1: How God redeemed one marriage and delivered this woman’s dream of her log cabin in the woods

29 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode started out as a teaching on smart financial investments as a couple, then towards the end, the Holy Spirt had our guest reveal her testi...

E47//How to craft an effective apology

21 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Mastering the art of an apology can lead to overall feelings of healthy communication. One of the most frustrating feelings in a marriage or disagreem...

E//46 How do we heal after infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction? w. Restored2More Clint & Chastity Munoz

14 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Restored2More ministry takes us through their healing journey and how God helped redeem their marriage from infidelity and porn. They...

What does it mean to be fueled with grace?

11 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Grace can be an esoteric word that we don’t really understand. Like, the word love, grace can be a word that we have trouble practicing, grasping, o...

From Grievances to Grace: Staying S.T.R.O.N.G.in your marriage when your husband isn't on the same page.

30 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Every marriage has had the experience where the couple isn’t on the same page. This often causes disagreements and strife. Well, how do you move for...

Dream Planning for 2021 - How do I accomplish my goals, what happens when God is silent on that journey?

28 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Every year I take some time to plan my goals and dreams for the upcoming year, and while I may not have achieved EVERYTHING I wanted - hello global pa...

Enneagram 101 for Christians w. Life Coach Stephani Cook

16 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding what motivates us to do what we do can bring transformation to our marriage. It can give us that little bit of extra understanding and g...

Monday Motivation: Praying for Wisdom and Understanding

14 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we pray for the wisdom and understanding of our spouses to bring grace and transformation to our marriages.    Access to the FREE 12 days ...

E40// Do I NEED it or just WANT it? How understanding the difference can impact your marriage

12 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us may have grown up with a completely different view of needs vs. wants than I teach in this episode. In it, we explore Maslow’s hierarchy ...

Monday Motivation - Prayer for provision in 2021

07 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

As we step into 2021 full of hope and expectancy or maybe just being happy this past year is over we say a little prayer for the provision that comes ...

Help! My husband is not attracted to me anymore. How to deal with it.

02 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The demands of life can take a toll, causing us to neglect our self-care, gain weight or simply become emotionally unhealthy. What should we do when o...

Monday Motivation: Prayer for identity

23 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week I am praying that we know where our worth comes from. Not in titles that can be lost or stripped away but in the shelter of our God.

E35// How to navigate biblical leadership as a strong-willed woman and the true effects of divorce

18 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Strong-willed women like us sometimes struggle with the idea of biblical leadership or our place in the world. This week’s guest, Rose Ore Owner of ...

Monday Motivation: Prayer for our Leadership as wives

16 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

As wives, mothers, and influencers in our household, we hold a position of leadership. This week we pray for that position of leadership.      Conn...

E33// The importance of faith and prayer as a wife w. Micaela Deegan

11 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Where does my passion for marriage come from? What does a grace-fueled marriage look like and what does it mean to be a praying wife? All the answers ...

Monday Motivation: Paying for Wisdom and Unity in a divided nation

09 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Regardless of who you voted for in this election and whether the results make you happy or sad, it seems clear that we can all benefit from prayer!  ...

E31// How do I allow my husband to lead when he is not a believer?

04 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all heard the scriptures telling us that our husband is the leader in the household, yet we have an issue with allowing him to lead because ou...

Monday Motivation: A prayer for your husband’s leadership

02 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

God's word says that our husbands are the leaders of our households, but what happens when our husbands aren't following God's word? Here is a prayer ...

Systems for a Godly Marriage w. Chelsi Jo

28 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Have you felt overwhelmed in your life, business, motherhood, and marriage? Systems expert, Chelsi Jo, gives us a framework for maintaining a Godly ma...

Monday Motivation: Praying for marriage when its hard

26 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel like you’re the only one trying to work on your marriage? You feel like all your hard work is going unnoticed by your husband. Marr...

E27// Help! I’m living in stable misery and feel like my husband is my roomate. What to do w. Dr. Lynyetta Willis

20 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Don't worry. We've all been there. Maybe you've been feeling like your husband is more of a roommate lately.  Every day is the same and it kind of fe...

When the wife is unfaithful: Healing from Infidelity PT2 w. Micaela Deegan

15 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this interview with Micaela Deegan of the Coffee Jeans and Jesus podcast, we discuss how a loving, Christian wife could find herself in the midst o...

Bringing Baggage into your marriage? Identifying trauma triggers with Jamily Whitfield

07 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Trauma expert and LCSW, Jamily Whitfield, teaches us to identify childhood traumas brought into the marriage placing undue expectations on our spouse ...

E24// Can I forgive after an affair? Infidelity series part 1 w. Stephanie Broersma

07 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Infidelity can ruin a marriage but it doesn't have to mean the end. Stephanie Broersma of Reclaimed Ministry talks to us about forgiveness after an af...

Are you repeating this thing that’s stopping your progress?

24 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This quick bonus episode will ask you a simple question to encourage you to go the distance in your life and marriage.  If this episode resonates wit...

E22// How Do I Respond to My Husband in Love vs. Anger?

21 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

All too often when we are upset with our husbands we have a tendency to respond to him in anger over all the things he didn’t do right. Even though ...

E21// I want to grow, but he wants to watch TV, play video games or scroll on his phone - Help!

27 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you frustrated with feeling like you're the only one interested in personal growth? Every time you look at your husband watching TV, playing video...

E20// Are you a strong willed woman struggling with with giving your husband grace?

18 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This is a recording of an interview I did for the So She Grows Podcast with Ashley Carrol.   We talk about stopping the crazy cycle in your marriage,...

E19// Do you want to change your husband? Tactical tips and mindset coaching

12 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

One of the most common themes or questions I’ve heard from women who are in a really ugly place in their marriage is how do I change my husband? How...

E18// Are you a Christian struggling in your marriage? Normalizing the struggle and the value of accountability

07 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you a Christian struggling with your marriage? You are not alone. We discuss normalizing these struggles so women feel more empowered to seek help...

Are you giving up too soon?

31 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes when life gets hard, we want to give up. Time and time again we see examples in the bible of people who had enough faith to wait on God’s ...

E16// You are more than your circumstance! Claim Your worth when life feels hard

29 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, skinny enough, unworthy of your calling, or imposter syndrome? This is what God has t...