How to Start Over and Succeed: 6 Powerful Lessons
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Why is starting over not as terrifying as it seems?
What if I told you that starting over, changing careers, walking away from something, successful or not, or being a beginner again in midlife doesn't have to be terrifying, and that you don't have to be in a bad place to want more? I've started over not once, but three times in the last eight years. And each time that I did, I walked away from something very successful and lucrative simply because I wanted something new. I just wanted to. So whether you're thinking about making a change or not, this episode is still for you because the six lessons that I've learned from all of these restarts are important life lessons that we all need to hear. And if you are considering taking a leap, by the time that we're done, you're going to understand the secret to making sure that your big, bold move is the right move and how to make sure that it pays off. And stick around till the very end because I'm saving my juiciest one for the last. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today.
If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five-star rating on your podcast app, leave a review, and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes. And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too. The first time that I started over was in 2017 when I walked away from my thriving therapy practice, one that I had built over 14 years. It had a two-month wait list, and it was mostly referral-based, and I had therapists working for me. And I loved what I was doing, so it was really just pretty successful by every measure. But as time went on, I began to crave more.
I saw that my methods were getting amazing results for my clients And I just felt confined. I felt constricted. And I wanted to help more people and make a bigger impact. And just that little nugget of an initial desire eventually grew into a deep yearning for me, like a deep yearning. And the best way that I can describe it is to use the words of Anne Lamott, the writer, the way she put it. She says, I don't write so that I can publish. I write so that I can breathe. And that is exactly how it felt to me. I thought about it day and night. I was obsessed. And that's really when I started my habit of waking up at 4 a.m. because I had to find the time to work on it because my kids were still little and I was still running my therapy practice. I jumped right in. I bought courses.
I created courses. I hired coaches. I started putting out content. I even got featured as an expert on the Steve Harvey show. All in all, I spent four years, four long years, and $100,000 in all of my trial and error, trying this and trying that. But I was doing both. I was running my practice while building what would eventually become Ready for Love. And it was honestly excruciating because I felt stuck in this transition. We often don't recognize how difficult transitions are. It's that limbo of still being where you were and where you have been and not yet quite where you want to be. And so it was really tough doing like that four years. And I will say it was worth it, of course, because I built what became one of the most successful women's love and relationship programs in the world. It's a multiple eight-figure company, and we have helped thousands of women completely transform. I wouldn't be where I am today if I were to change any of that, but I learned some seriously hard-earned lessons in that time.
And that's what I'm going to share with you now. So the first big lesson from this reinvention is this. Be clear what you want and what you are creating. And while that might seem obvious, we often aren't very clear what our vision is. We just want something. We want to feel something or we want this big grandiose idea of something, but we're not really clear what it actually looks like in every way. There's a lot of variables and a lot of things that can be up in the air. So for me, for example, my entire education and background and expertise is psychology, not business.
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