The Hilary Silver Podcast
Screw Invisible Woman Syndrome. How To Turn Heads Over 50
Fri, 08 Nov 2024
Episode 29: Don’t Be Invisible Over 50 Ladies, forget “fading” with age. Hilary Silver is here to bust that myth wide open and show you how aging can crank up your confidence and magnetism. In this episode, she shuts down “Invisible Woman Syndrome”—a tired idea that women lose their spark over time. At 52, Hilary is thriving! She’s strutting into every room with a presence that demands attention, not for validation, but because she knows exactly who she is. Episode Highlights: Confidence isn’t about them. It’s all about you! Forget the validation and focus on what you bring to the table. It’s confidence that sticks. Beauty beyond skin deep, always. True allure? It’s all about knowing your worth from the inside out and embracing every quirk and flaw unapologetically. Forget the outdated belief that life’s peak is behind you. Hilary’s here to tell you that 50+ is when the fun actually begins—wisdom, realness, and all! Age isn’t a limit; it’s leverage! Taking care of yourself is self-respect. Hilary shares why treating yourself right isn’t optional if you want to radiate confidence. Prioritize self-care because it’s a reflection of how much you value yourself. To truly turn heads, you have to be fully there. Hilary breaks down how presence is more than just posture—it’s the energy you bring and the intention behind it. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Busting the "Invisible Woman" Myth [01:25] Redefining Confidence and Aging [02:28] Turning Heads Starts with Self-Perception [04:14] Owning Your Worth [05:50] Authenticity is Your Best Accessory [06:43] Why Self-Care is Self-Respect [08:30] Making Your Presence Known [10:07] Final Thoughts on Confidence at Every Age Start living unapologetically to turn heads wherever you go! Catch Hilary’s free, paradigm-flipping resources for more insights into confidence that lasts: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/
Chapter 1: What is Invisible Woman Syndrome?
Invisible woman syndrome. Have you heard of it? It's an actual phenomena, but only because women have bought into the idea that we become invisible as we age, that we lose our allure, our feminine mystique. We aren't as beautiful anymore, that we lose our appeal, and therefore we're overlooked. We don't matter. We're insignificant out in the public, out in the world.
Chapter 2: How can I feel more confident after 50?
And I'm just here to tell you that is total bullshit. I am 52 and I am more confident, more powerful, more magnetic and sexier than I've ever been my entire life. So today I'm going to share with you my truths, what I hold to be true that has me turning heads when I walk into any room and how you can do it too. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast.
Thanks for tuning into the conversation today. If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five-star rating on your podcast app, leave a review and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes. And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too.
Now that I'm in my 50s, I feel like I'm standing on the top of a hill above tree line where the clouds have parted and I can finally see clearly. And what I know to be true is this. Women do not have to feel or become invisible as we age. That old adage about being over the hill is so 1950s. We are not in our prime yet. in our 20s and 30s. In fact, we're only just babies in those decades of life.
Chapter 3: What truths help turn heads as we age?
Chapter 4: Why is self-perception important for confidence?
Thanks for tuning into the conversation today. If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five-star rating on your podcast app, leave a review and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes. And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too.
Now that I'm in my 50s, I feel like I'm standing on the top of a hill above tree line where the clouds have parted and I can finally see clearly. And what I know to be true is this. Women do not have to feel or become invisible as we age. That old adage about being over the hill is so 1950s. We are not in our prime yet. in our 20s and 30s. In fact, we're only just babies in those decades of life.
We're trying to figure it all out and we're feeling pressure and working so hard to do it all and do it well. But at 52, for me, all of that is gone. It's fallen away like armor that I no longer need. I is the real raw naked me that was underneath, like leaving my turtle shell behind. I no longer need to hide or be anything other than who I am.
And again, I've honestly never felt more powerful, sexier, or more confident. And at 50, I really believe we are only just getting started. So here are my truths. Again, what I hold to be true that has me turning heads when I walk into any room. I want to make it very clear though, this is not about turning heads because we need the attention. We need the validation.
Chapter 5: How does self-care relate to self-respect?
Chapter 6: What does it mean to own your worth?
Now that I'm in my 50s, I feel like I'm standing on the top of a hill above tree line where the clouds have parted and I can finally see clearly. And what I know to be true is this. Women do not have to feel or become invisible as we age. That old adage about being over the hill is so 1950s. We are not in our prime yet. in our 20s and 30s. In fact, we're only just babies in those decades of life.
We're trying to figure it all out and we're feeling pressure and working so hard to do it all and do it well. But at 52, for me, all of that is gone. It's fallen away like armor that I no longer need. I is the real raw naked me that was underneath, like leaving my turtle shell behind. I no longer need to hide or be anything other than who I am.
And again, I've honestly never felt more powerful, sexier, or more confident. And at 50, I really believe we are only just getting started. So here are my truths. Again, what I hold to be true that has me turning heads when I walk into any room. I want to make it very clear though, this is not about turning heads because we need the attention. We need the validation.
We're talking about not losing our impact, our power, our significance, our beauty, our meaning as we age. This is about not being invisible as we age, but maintaining the ability to have an impact. Okay, so first, turning heads is not about what other people think of you. It's about what you think of you.
Chapter 7: How can I make my presence known?
When you walk into any room, if you're worried about or wondering about what everyone is thinking, that is a problem. You can't control what other people think and you'll never know anyway. So just focus on what you think. What you think is all that matters because people take their cues from you. If you feel insecure or
or self-conscious, or nervous, or anxious, they will feel that oozing from you. If you feel invisible, like no one will notice you, they won't. But if you walk in there like you own the room, like I'm here now, the party can get started, that kind of mindset, that is what they will experience coming off of you.
Because you're not concerned with what other people are thinking, you can just know that you're going to turn heads, but then act like no one's looking at you. You're just free to sing or strut or dance or skip, even if it's just in your own mind.
Chapter 8: What are the final thoughts on confidence at any age?
You can just go about your business, mind your own business, and do whatever you're meant to do in that room, unconcerned with anyone else but yourself, but know that you are noticed. If you do have a fleeting thought about what they are thinking, just assume that they are thinking, wow, look at her. You are turning heads in the best possible way.
Next, one of the best parts of getting older, for me personally at least, is that I am more comfortable with myself than I've ever been. At 52, I know who I am and I fully accept myself, the flaws, the quirks, and all. I know my worth and my value, which comes from within. It's inside of me, not from external sources. It's not coming from my achievements or
or my accomplishments, or what I can do for people. And I have an unconditional love for myself, meaning I don't withdraw my own positive regard for myself even when I mess up or have not been my best self. I don't face my own recrimination, and I've replaced any lingering self-loathing with just pure self-loving.
So I'm kinder and gentler with myself than ever before, more forgiving, have more self-compassion, and there is peace and calm to this energy rather than a needy energy that comes from wanting to be liked or accepted or to fit in or to get approval or to get validation from external sources. This is a leaning back sensation and this energy is alluring.
You'll never turn heads if deep down you don't believe you are worthy of being seen, admired, and desired. I've gotten to the place where I know I am worthy of being seen and admired, not just for what I've done in my life, but simply for who I am. So when I walk into a room, I'm free to just let the connection happen and And it does.
This leads me to the next one, which is that people are drawn to realness and older women have the advantage here that younger women do not. Our hard earned wisdom and experience means that we can give ourselves and others too a bit more grace. So it's easier than ever before at this age to just drop all the self-protection, the armor, the walls, the barriers, and and let it all hang out.
We have nothing to prove and nothing to hide. There is no need to be anyone other than who I am and offering my complete authenticity and transparency is stunning. It's actually disarming and very magnetic and attractive. It's a gift that we offer to the world and to those around us. The gift of sharing who we are, sharing ourselves completely, transparently, without holding back.
It's vulnerable and powerful and sexy and radiant, and it's just one of our superpowers as women if we allow it and if we cultivate it. The energy around us is a direct reflection of what is going on inside of us. Let's talk about the external for just a minute. And we don't want your physical being to be a barrier for connection.
And so it really is up to all of us to make ourselves a priority and treat our bodies like they matter because it does. And how we care for ourselves physically is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves. So are you taking care of yourself physically? Do you exercise? Do you eat healthy? Do you wear clothes that make you feel fabulous and that you look forward to putting on?
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