The 5 Truths I’m Teaching My Daughter (That I Had to Learn the Hard Way)
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Who is Hilary Silver and what is this episode about?
Today I'm sharing five things that I am teaching both of my kids, but especially my daughter. These are lessons or messages that I didn't get growing up that took me years to figure out and heal from in my own personal growth journey. Even if your kids are fully grown and out of the house or you don't even have kids at all, you're still gonna wanna listen because what I'm sharing might be the one lesson that you never got that you also really need to hear. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today. If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five-star rating on your podcast app, leave a review and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes. And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too. I know that I did my absolute best not to do to my kids.
What are the parenting imperfections Hilary acknowledges?
the really painful and damaging things that I experienced. That does not mean though that I'm a perfect parent because I'm definitely not that. And they will be the first to tell you. It's 100% guaranteed that I've definitely messed them up in my own special kind of way. but at least it won't be the things that were done to me.
Why is teaching self-identity to your daughter important?
So today, I want to share with you the five things that I am intentionally teaching and doing with both my kids, actually, but especially my daughter. These are things that I wish someone had done for me. So the first thing, the most important thing that I want my daughter to have before she leaves my house is to know who she is. I am teaching her how to see herself. We all want to be seen and we are not taught how to do this for ourselves. I want her to learn how to see herself. She has to have a sense of who she really is, not what she needs to be to make me happy, or to be what society expects her to be, but who she really is.
How can a daughter learn to truly see and understand herself?
I want her to know her strengths and what she's really good at and what her natural innate talents are, and to also see what she struggles with, what she defaults to doing or thinking that can hold her back. When we know ourselves in that way, we can make decisions about classes and work and friends and activities that are in our own best interest, to put ourselves in situations that accentuate our strengths and support our areas for growth. We can set ourselves up for success and carve our path in life, whatever that is that is best for us. So I am teaching her to fully see herself. And in order to do that, I have to be curious and looking carefully and be paying attention to her. And I reflect it back to her, which can sometimes be a very delicate dance.
If you have a teenage daughter, you know what I mean. And sometimes it doesn't always land the way I intend, but I'm doing this because it's that important. And this is where many parents get things wrong. They either see what they want to see in their child and just ignore the rest and forget about the rest, or they just don't see their child at all and instead push them, mold them, influence them to be what the parents want them to be. Parents are here to affirm their children, not possess them. We all just want to be seen in this life. And this is the number one thing I want my kids to get from me. I see them. I see them for who they are without any kind of agenda on my part. When you see yourself as you are, and you know yourself without judgment and criticism, just objectively knowing, You don't go looking for that in anyone else.
You don't go seeking that outside of yourself, and you can carve your path in life, one that sets you up for happiness, fulfillment, and success. Second, what comes from this knowing of self is understanding that she has all the answers that she needs inside of her.
What does it mean to trust your inner wisdom and why is it crucial?
She knows what's best for her always, and she can find those answers by turning towards herself and not away, by noticing her body's reaction to things, feeling her feelings, and by hearing her own voice in her head, not my voice and not anyone else's voice, just hers. I'm teaching her to not seek her truth in someone else, to not seek validation or approval in others, but to give it to herself.
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Chapters
6 chapters
1
Who is Hilary Silver and what is this episode about?
0:00–0:58
2
What are the parenting imperfections Hilary acknowledges?
0:58–1:16
3
Why is teaching self-identity to your daughter important?
1:16–1:59
4
How can a daughter learn to truly see and understand herself?
1:59–4:00
5
What does it mean to trust your inner wisdom and why is it crucial?
4:00–4:54
6
How can a daughter develop self-trust and stop seeking external validation?
4:54–10:50
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