Who you're around shapes how you speak. In this episode, I walk you through a personal communication audit—looking at who’s influencing your voice, what words no longer serve you, and how to raise your standard by surrounding yourself with people who lift you up. This is about breaking old patterns, speaking with purpose, and setting the tone for how you show up in the world. This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Order my new book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTokFollow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Chapter 1: Who influences how you communicate?
Who you're around is how you'll sound. Today we are taking a deep dive. We are having an audit of ourselves, asking who in our life influences how we talk. Today we're going to break some generational curses, yeah? We're going to ask and see how not only we communicate, how we were influenced by those who came before us, how they communicated and how that shaped us.
And we are going to decide today in today's episode,
that we are going to do better for the next generation so that they can do better in the next generation you ready welcome to the jefferson fisher podcast i'm on a mission to make your next conversation the one that changes everything if you enjoy podcasts like this and enjoy this kind of content i'm going to ask you to please subscribe and follow this podcast if you have any topic suggestions just throw them in the comments
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If you remember the first guest we had on the podcast with my parents, you heard my dad and you probably thought, oh my gosh, Jefferson sounds just like him. Well, that's how genetics work. I have a lot of his mannerisms as well as my mom, and I sound a lot like him. And most likely you sound very much like one of your parents. even though you may or may not want to admit it.
That's just the way life happens. But there's another element, right, of who is in your vicinity, who is in your environment, who you are around. They also influence how you're going to talk. My dad was somebody who, when I brought something up to him and I had an issue, he would like to say, well, we'll see. It was always kind of this hopeful, positive attitude. Let's just just wait. I can't.
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Chapter 2: How can you improve communication for future generations?
So maybe this is the first time you're actually thinking about this. And if so, that's wonderful. I'm happy to be part of it. I want you to think of... The type of people that are going to raise your level of thinking and raise not just the thinking, but your vocabulary. I'm not saying you have to learn new words. We're going back to number three, and that is choosing the right words.
It's not about knowing fancy words. It's about knowing the right words. Words that no longer serve you. Meaning, if you're always somebody that goes, I mean, maybe so. I don't know. I mean, I guess. No, we're going to scrap all of that. That's not building positive momentum in your life. You're using phrases like, I'm looking forward to. What I'm excited about. What I care about. What I need.
Things that are moving forward in your life. Can you hear the difference? Whenever you start thinking of phrases like, I'm confident that. Instead of, I believe so, I guess so, I'm confident that. All of a sudden, you've built in confidence to it. These phrases that give authority to you, whether it's like words, like direction. Direction's a great one.
I don't like the direction of this conversation. No, I'd rather take this in a different direction. You are the captain of the ship when you do that. Start finding phrases that lead you to the captain of the ship more often if that's what you want to do. You can use any AI. You can Google.
What are words and phrases I can put in my life that change my sentences to be more positive, more uplifting, less half glass empty and more half glass full in my life? And you're going to find words like fulfilling. You're going to find words like confidence or words like experience fulfilling. Words that build you up as part of that growth.
And I want you to consider looking for other people in your world, in your sphere, that you can just prune your tree. Prune your tree of the people that bring the negative in your life and start, I was going to say fertilize, but Lord, let's not do that. I barely just got this thing replanted, this fiddle leaf fig that I got. You want to find people that are going to add water.
I'm removing the plant metaphor right now because I'm not that kind of, I'm not there yet. You want to find people that are going to pour into you, that are going to help you grow. It's going to help you grow. Like a tree. Okay. Rule number one, I want you to take an audit. Audit of yourself of who has influenced how I speak. Is it my parents? Is it the people I'm around? Is it where I work?
Two, I want you to find the people and focus on the people that speak positive language around you. Be more like that and find out why they speak that way. What is it about them that speak that way? I'm not saying you have to mimic them. I'm not saying be exactly like them. That's not my point.
It is that you want to remove the things that do not serve you and do not uplift you and things that are weighing you down and add more of the things that lift you up. All right. Three, find words that serve you better, that push you towards personal growth. Because what you want to do is find people that raise your standard, raise your level of thinking.
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