The Jordan Harbinger Show
1126: Richard Reeves | Rethinking the Purpose of Modern Masculinity
11 Mar 2025
Of Boys and Men author Richard Reeves explains how we can address men's modern struggles without undermining women's gains. What We Discuss with Richard Reeves: Men are falling behind in multiple areas — education (60/40 female/male college ratio), mental health (40,000 male suicides annually), and economically (wages for men without college degrees have remained flat since 1979). Society often overlooks men's struggles due to fears that addressing them might diminish focus on women's issues, creating a false "either/or" narrative when we need an "and" approach. Traditional male roles as breadwinners have diminished without being replaced by expanded roles, leaving many men feeling lost and vulnerable to extremist ideologies. Increasing social isolation affects men disproportionately, with 15% of men under 30 reporting they don't have a single friend, contributing to mental health challenges. Men can overcome these challenges by connecting with other men, developing meaningful friendships, pursuing their own authentic path, and recognizing there's nothing wrong with being male. Building supportive male relationships and communities is essential for well-being and can counteract isolation while providing positive models of masculinity. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1126 And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom! Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Here with me is Richard Reeves, author and social scientist. He's also a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution and president of the American Institute for Boys and Men. Didn't know that existed? Kind of glad it does. Today, we're talking about the gender gap. Probably not the one you're thinking of. Well, actually, it is the one you're thinking of.
It's just kind of upside down from what you might assume. It turns out that men are falling behind women in pretty much every area, at home, at work, and at school, and the gap is only growing. Today, we'll explore what this crisis looks like, particularly in areas like education, work, mental health, and beyond. I actually found this episode both alarming and enlightening.
I think you will as well. And now here we go with Richard Reeves. All right. You've said we're in a crisis of male inequality, and you've highlighted in your work how society often overlooks men's struggles. And even saying that, I've got this little, like, itch in the back of my head where I go, now I'm going to get a lot of emails just about this particular thing.
And usually when we're talking about a gender gap, we're talking about the gap that women face. It's a brave move for you to have even written about this. I would imagine there were a couple of publishers that were like... How about writing about AI like everybody else? What do you think?
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