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1163: Dr. Becky Kennedy | Parenting with Connection over Correction
03 Jun 2025
As parents, how do we raise our kids to be resilient against life's inevitable hardships? Good Inside author Dr. Becky Kennedy shares her insights here!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1163What We Discuss with Dr. Becky Kennedy:Boundaries are what parents tell kids they will do — not what kids must do. "If you're not off the couch by the time I get there, I'll pick you up" works better than threats or punishments that require kid compliance.Optimizing for happiness in childhood creates fragility in adulthood. Kids who avoid hard feelings never learn they can handle disappointment, jealousy, or failure — leaving them with a narrow range of emotions they feel capable managing.Parents have two jobs: setting boundaries and validating emotions. These aren't opposites — they work together. Set the limit, then acknowledge their feelings: "You really wish you could keep jumping on the couch.""Do nothing" is often the best parenting strategy. It's mindful restraint — choosing not to react in the moment when kids are upset. This prevents escalation and models emotional regulation better than immediate correction.Build confidence by letting kids struggle through puzzles, conflicts, and challenges. Tell them: "The best feeling is when you think you can't do something, then watch yourself make progress." Struggle builds capability.And much more...And if you're game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:Caldera Lab: 20% off: calderalab.com/jordan, code JORDANAudible: Visit audible.com/jhs or text JHS to 500-500Progressive: Free online quote: progressive.comBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanOura Ring: 10% off: ouraring.com/jordanSkims: skims.com, survey: podcasts: JHSSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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we hear someone around us, you're just going to do nothing. We almost have this urge to prove and do all of our parenting in like the next 30 seconds. You're regulating your own emotions as an adult versus vomit it onto my child. And it looks like something, but it's actually just stooping to their child level. And I am choosing do nothing. It is mindful restraint.
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