The Kink Compass
Episodes
Emotional Currents: Jealousy or The Fear of Not Being Chosen
15 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Jealousy has a reputation for being ugly, but the internal experience is often far more vulnerable than that. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chr...
The Grey Zone Before No
10 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Consent is often imagined as a clear yes or no. But many real interactions unfold in the grey space before a boundary is spoken aloud. In this bonus e...
The Craft of Kink: Endurance and Flow
08 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Most scenes in kink stumble: A wobble, a missed beat, a drop in rhythm. But here’s the secret: Flow isn’t about perfection, it’s about how we re...
When Power Becomes Authority.
05 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Power exists in kink spaces. In scenes, in relationships, and sometimes in communities themselves.In this bonus episode, Chris explores how influence,...
You Are Allowed To Want
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When people first discover a desire that excites them, the next thought is often: What does that say about me? This bonus episode explores the shame m...
Easing Into Roleplay
01 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Roleplay is something many kinky people are curious about, and many find surprisingly vulnerable when they first try it. That moment where you know wh...
Loneliness in Kink
22 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Loneliness is something many people experience in kink but very few talk about openly. In this deeply personal episode, Chris shares his own experienc...
The Path to Growth: Rethinking Legitimacy in Kink Spaces
15 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores how societal scripts about power, gender, and maturity influence our perceptions of readiness and...
A Kinky Valentine's Day
13 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
A Kinky Valentine’s without the pressure. This bonus episode is an invitation to celebrate connection with intention, whether that means ritual, res...
The Craft of Kink: Breath Play
08 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Explore a groundbreaking approach to breath play that priorities consent and precision without physical restriction. This episode delves into how mast...
When Support Flows Both Ways
06 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
A submissive is not a pressure valve for a Dominant’s unprocessed anger.This bonus episode of The Kink Compass looks at how support can move both wa...
Easing Into Sensory Deprivation
01 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Join Chris on the Kink Compass as we delve into the world of sensory deprivation—a practice that goes beyond mere technique to transform how the ner...
Emotional Currents: Identity And Labels
24 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of "The Kink Compass," Chris delves into the profound impact of labels within kink communities. Explore how labels can offer...
When Intimacy Feels Scarier Than Pain
24 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this heartfelt bonus episode of "The Kink Compass," Chris reflects on the podcast's milestone of reaching over 200 plays in a single ...
Perfect, or Good Enough?
21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this thought-provoking episode of "The Kink Compass," host Chris delves into the concept of being "good enough" in relationship...
The Craft of Kink: Edge Play
18 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Chris delves into the nuanced world of edge play, exploring it not as a dare or a shortcut to intensity, but as a craft that requires ...
The Ethics of Power in Relationships
16 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode of the Kink Compass, Chris delves into the intricate dynamics of power exchange, exploring the nuances of wielding and holding p...
Do you need punishment in power exchange?
14 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this thought-provoking episode Chris delves into the nuanced world of power exchange and punishment in kink. Explore the pervasive myths surroundin...
Easing Into Power Exchange
11 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of "The Kink Compass," host Chris delves into the nuanced beginnings of power exchange. Explore the quieter, often overlooke...
Emotional Currents: Love & Devotion in Kink
03 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of "The Kink Compass," host Chris delves into the intricate dance between love, devotion, and power dynamics within kink. Ex...
Safe Words and Safe Gestures
31 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode of "The Kink Compass," host Chris delves into the essential yet often misunderstood concept of safe words and gestures...
The Craft of Kink: Aftercare as Craft
28 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Aftercare is often treated as the soft landing after a scene. A blanket, a drink, a few kind words. But what if aftercare is more than comfort? What i...
Crossing the Threshold
26 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Stepping into kink isn’t just about learning new activities. It is about entering a new culture.In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris exp...
The Grey Areas of Consent
22 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Consent is binary. People are not.In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores the uncomfortable but necessary reality of grey areas in c...
Easing Into Rituals
21 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Rituals aren’t about theatrics. They’re about meaning.In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores how BDSM rituals create safety, structur...
You Have A Kinky Body
20 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if kink didn’t belong to a certain kind of body, but to any body that feels, desires, and responds?In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, C...
When Candles Became Evidence: The Satanic Panic and the Making of Modern Kink
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when fear decides what desire means?In the 1980s, the United States became convinced that hidden networks of satanic abusers were everywh...
Shame in Kink
14 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores shame. Where it comes from, how it lives in the body, how it has shaped kink through history, and ...
“Well… That Didn’t Go As Planned”
13 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a bonus episode for you, and a palate cleanser for me after having dealt with shame all week. Short, hopefully funny, and even with a point to...
Impact on Tattooed & Pierced Bodies
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When ink holds memory and metal carries weight, impact becomes more than sensation. It becomes conversation. In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass...
The Craft of Kink: Impact Play
07 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Impact is one of the most iconic expressions of kink, but it’s also one of the deepest crafts. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores i...
Ethical Bratting
04 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Some people seem to think I don't like brats, but I do. When they act ethically and understand that some days I'm too tired for the chase. So ...
Easing Into Rope
30 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is short due to real life, but I hope it still holds interest.Rope doesn’t begin with knots. It begins with presence. In this episode o...
Consent
29 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you only want to listen to one episode of this podcast, this is the one for you!Consent is not a vibe. It’s not silence. It’s not endurance. In...
Age Gaps in Kink: Power, Consent & Visibility
26 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are age gaps more common in the kink scene than in the vanilla world? And if so, why? In this bonus episode, Chris explores age gap dynamics through t...
Emotional Currents: Catharsis & Release
23 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode dives into something a lot of us experience, but not many people talk about openly: the laughter, the tears, the shaking, the stillness. ...
The Craft of Kink: Reading the Body
16 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Negotiation is important but once the scene starts, the body gets the final vote.In this episode, Chris explores how to read breath, tension, and move...
Bonus 10: Chris does Reddit
15 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, I dive into real questions from r/BDSMadvice. Stories of first-time dominance, mismatched expectations, sub...
Easing Into Impact Play
09 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Impact play is one of the most recognizable, and most misunderstood, forms of kink. In this episode, Chris slows things down to explore the art behind...
Emotional Currents: Vulnerability as Power
02 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Power or exposure? Why not both.Chris dives into the beautiful, awkward, terrifying current of vulnerability. What it really means for Dominants, subm...
The Craft of Kink: The Art of Scene Design
26 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kink isn’t chaos. It’s composition. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris unpacks the art of scene design: rhythm, intention, sensory storyte...
The Art of the Switch
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Kink Compass, Chris explores the concept of switches in the kink community, emphasizing the fluidity and versatility of individuals...
Masochism: Beyond Pain, Toward Transformation
19 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Masochism isn’t about “loving pain”. It is about what sensation can become. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores the masochist’...
How to Be a Man in the Scene
13 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it really mean to “be a man” in kink?In this bonus episode, Chris talks about confidence versus control, why dominance isn’t about ego...
Sadism: The Art of Intensity
12 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sadism has a heavy history. From the Marquis de Sade to its misrepresentation in psychology. But in kink, sadism isn’t about cruelty. It’s about c...
Bonus Episode 7: Trauma Bond or Kink Dynamic
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kink can feel like freedom, or like a familiar kind of chaos.In this bonus episode, Chris explores the difference between intensity that heals and int...
Bonus Episode 6: Expect the Unexpected
08 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In kink, as in life, something always goes a little sideways. But that’s where the magic hides. Join Chris for a bonus episode on imperfection, adap...
Understanding the Many Faces of Dominance
05 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to be a Dominant. Truly and responsibly? In this episode, Chris explores the emotional heart of Dominance, from archetypes like the ...
Bonus Episode 5: Stressed for Success
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever stressed yourself into knots before a scene. Only to realize, once it starts, you already had everything you needed? In this lighthearted bonus e...
Understanding the Many Faces of Submission
28 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this deep dive, Chris explores what it really means to be submissive. From brats and service subs to slaves, prey, and rope bunnies. With care, hum...
Bonus 4: Reflections on Negotiation, Trust, and Power
21 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this milestone bonus episode, Chris looks back on episodes 2 through 6 of The Kink Compass . Exploring what we’ve learned about negotiation, safe...
Finding a Kink Partner
20 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Finding the right kink partner isn’t about sparks alone. It is about clarity, trust, and patience. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explor...
Bonus Episode 3 - The Core of BDSM
15 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Beyond the ropes and whips lies the true heart of BDSM: Consent and Trust. In this bonus episode, Chris explores why these forces are the foundation o...
The Psychology of Power
14 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why does surrender feel electric? Why does control feel grounding? In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris dives into the psychology behind power e...
The Body in Play
07 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The body isn’t just where kink happens. It is the instrument of play. In this episode, Chris explores how pacing, rhythm, and chemistry shape every ...
Bonus Episode 2 - The History of Virginity
06 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
From ancient Rome to modern debates, this episode explores the strange, sometimes absurd history of virginity. Chris traces how laws, religion, and cu...
The Science of Trust
31 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Safe words. Signals. The language of trust in kink. In this episode, Chris dives deep into why these agreements don’t kill the mood- They make it. F...
Bonus Episode: Ten Green Flags in a Healthy Sadist
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores what makes a sadist trustworthy, caring, and genuinely exciting to play with. From valuing c...
Negotiations
24 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of "The Kink Compass," host Chris, a seasoned dominant with over 30 years of experience, delves into the art of negotiation in BDSM. C...
What Is Kink, And Who Is It For?
17 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Embark on a journey of self-discovery with our latest episode, "Starting Your Kink Exploration Safely." We delve into the essentials of exploring kink...
Introducing The Podcast And The Host
17 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this short intro episode, the host Chris shares what the podcast is all about. A weekly, judgment-free guide to exploring BDSM and kink with confid...