Chapter 1: What is streaming cheating and why is it a concern?
You work hard to strike the right amount of intelligence and ignorance. The Last Show with David Cooper. Nearly a quarter of people admit they're cheating on their partners with Netflix. They're doing the hugely dishonest thing of watching ahead in shows and lying about it, covering their tracks, streaming cheating. That is what we're going to talk about. Is it a thing and just how bad is it?
That's what we're going to discuss here with Shannon Tebb, a boutique matchmaker and dating expert. Check her out at shanneyinthecity.com.
Chapter 2: How do couples perceive streaming cheating differently?
Shannon, what a joy it is having you here. It's always a pleasure, David. I don't think this is a big deal and I have been corrected by my partner. Some people think this is just awful watching a head in a shared couple's show. Is it a huge betrayal or is it just like emotional jaywalking? Not a big deal.
Well, I mean, it's not like a huge betrayal, but I would say like if you're in a long-term relationship and this is the way you two spend quality time together watching your favorite Netflix series, then it is going to make the other person feel kind of upset and like that special moment you have together is not being fulfilled because they're kind of cheating and watching it ahead of time.
So it can make you feel like you're unheard to your partner, there's a lack of communication, and it can raise a few other red flags for like
Chapter 3: What are the emotional impacts of watching ahead in shared shows?
future conversations or things that happen within the relationship as it progresses. Oh, no, I don't like what that says about me walking red flags. OK, what are the potential red flags? You got to tell me if I watch ahead in a show on Netflix, I lie about it and then I sit there and I rewatch it pretending like I didn't when we're in bed together. What are the red flags?
Well, it could be like if you're lying about something so little like this, what else are you fibbing about? Oh, no. So it can raise.
Chapter 4: What red flags can arise from streaming cheating?
Yeah. And like that level of trust can be kind of broken because you could act like you haven't seen the show. But meanwhile, you can tell that you already know what's going to happen. So she may call you out that have you seen this show at all?
And again, like I said, back to the quality time together, it makes her feel kind of undervalued or unappreciated as well, because this this time that you have together is so important. And then the lying to cover it up. I know that's a red flag. I once got asked, did you watch this show without me?
Chapter 5: How prevalent is streaming cheating among couples?
Meanwhile, I watched it on my phone while she was asleep next to me. So I said, no, I didn't watch it without you because technically I wasn't lying. That did not go over well, Shannon. How many, I know I said at the beginning, a quarter of people admit to this. Is that number surprised you? Like that seems high to me.
I mean, it doesn't surprise me because I think like a lot of couples have different schedules as well. And sometimes you just can't wait.
Chapter 6: What strategies can couples use to avoid streaming cheating?
Like the anticipation is there. You know, at the end of like a series, there's always that like cliffhanger moment where you can't wait to watch the next episode. So sometimes you may have that urge to cheat, right? Or yeah, like do that ahead of time. Isn't this a healthy way to get out that urge to cheat?
Like on the grand taxonomy, having like a secret boyfriend that you have kids with and paying for his apartment and not telling your husband. That's pretty bad. This is like cheating life.
Chapter 7: How important is individual viewing time in relationships?
This is like getting that urge met without actually doing anything too bad. Yeah, it's not a huge deal, I think. But it's nice to maybe, like, in order to kind of fix this scenario from happening, maybe you and your partner could talk about, like, what's the best day of the week where we can really sit down and give our time together to watch the series so that you don't have that urge to cheat.
My girlfriend is just coming back. She was in London, England, and we were halfway through Heated Rivalry, and she was enjoying that show maybe a little too much. I'm worried that she watched ahead without me. Look, another problem here with couples and TV, 19% of couples say they can't agree what to watch.
I can relate to that, that feeling of being in bed and then trying to discuss what to watch, flipping through titles.
Chapter 8: What are the best ways to recover trust after streaming cheating?
You know, this is a common problem, just like figuring out the what, let alone the cheating. Yes, I've had this happen to me too. And this is where the element of compromise in the relationship has to come out. And being able to compromise and say, okay, maybe tonight I'll let him choose the action thriller. And then maybe next time you watch a different series that's more appealing to you.
So it's really about compromise, being there for your partner, being communicative. And and yeah, and just, you know, having no distractions and just being fully together. And I think enjoying that show also creates like more intimacy and it makes you feel like you're both trying to figure it out together, which is fun.
But isn't flipping through titles and watching previews for three hours arguing over what to watch? Isn't that quality time spent together? Well, that kind of drives me crazy. But like it's like just pick something already. But yes, it's it's all about deciding and making choices together. So you and maybe you also get a sense of, you know, what does my partner like? What do I like?
And then you're learning more about in the early stages of dating what they're into and what you're into. So it's it's, you know, free knowledge as well within the early stages of dating. I got an amazing pitch for Netflix, maybe all the other streaming services as well. Like a $2 a month account, okay? And all you get is access to scrolling through the titles.
You don't actually get to watch them, but you can just scroll through the titles with your partner because I feel like that's my main use of these platforms. Yeah. And sometimes like something will spark your eye or you'll be like or you'll watch something with your partner that you really didn't want to watch. But all of a sudden you're like, wow, thank you for choosing that.
Like, I love this series. Yeah. So a lot of times, too, you're figuring out more about yourself and what you're into when it comes to programming. And there's there's so many like great Netflix shows right now, too. Right. There are. I've become a Bravo head reality TV just because I got forced to watch it. Okay. Shared screen time.
It can sometimes feel like it's kind of wasted time together, but I don't know. I think it's like a modern love language. I think it's a modern way of spending quality time when you just don't want your brain to be on. You don't want to engage in conversation, but you want to spend some quality time together. I argue in defense of watching TV together. I do think it's intimate time spent.
What do you make of that? Yes, I 100% agree. I mean, sometimes we just want that comfortable silence, you know, with the Netflix show on, but without us, you know, talking or having to debate things. It's just like a simple, calm moment together, snuggled on the couch, eating your favorite snack. I just love it. And like the thing with if you miss a part, you can always rewind it.
You know, there's the closed captions, so you're never missing what they're saying. And you can also take breaks. So maybe your spouse wants to have a Netflix marathon and that doesn't work for you. So you're able to take breaks and decide when you want to watch the scheduling. Individual time, so important in couples. Having your own show, like I'm a sci-fi junkie.
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