The Laura Dowling Experience
Darragh Fleming | Grief, Poetry and a New Kind of Masculinity
18 Jun 2026
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Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
My dad could beat up your dad without lifting a hand. He'd just talk with reason, make your dad understand that while the right way isn't always easy, we can do without all this chest beating. My dad taught me how to be good just by being himself. There's a moment between us and our emotions, he said, where we get to decide what happens next.
Talking to an eight-year-old about all of this before the world learned the term mental health.
Chapter 2: How did Darragh Fleming's childhood influence his writing?
And he hasn't always been well. In fact, he never has. Man's been through hell. But he still gets up every morning, light pours in, rubs a dog he pretends he doesn't adore and just goes about his day. Because in spite of pain, he knows he's blessed in many ways. And yeah, there's times when he's less than okay.
Resolve wavers under the strain of it all, but he still stands tall, still has a joke on his lips, knows he's not perfect, but fuck it, who is? Heroic and silent. Fair families are playing dads with a pilot. Sticks to his guns, couldn't give a fuck if you like it. And even when it's hard, my dad's always smiling. So yeah, my dad could beat your dad up.
Chapter 3: What impact did losing a friend have on Darragh's mental health?
But he never would.
Chapter 4: How did Darragh recognize his numbness as depression?
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Chapter 5: What role did therapy and journaling play in Darragh's recovery?
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It's kind of like a voice note I send to people on the internet. It's just 15, 20 minutes of me being like, what have I done this week? What am I worried about? I must listen to it, actually. That sounds lovely. And then it just goes anywhere, like from like, you know, serious stuff to very silly stuff. Just whatever is on my mind.
And it's kind of like cathartic because you get everything off your chest for like 20 minutes and you're like, okay.
Chapter 6: How can emotionally healthy men contribute to society?
And you talk about personal stuff then? Yeah, everything.
Chapter 7: How does Darragh redefine masculinity through his poetry?
Absolutely everything. So I have a blog that I've been doing for 12 years called Thoughts Too Big. And it's a mental health blog, but it's essentially the same thing where it's like, right, what have I been affected by that affected my mental health this week? And I'll just write about that for like six or 700 words. And then a lot of people were like, Love the blog.
I don't really like reading, but I listen to a podcast and that was going on for like five or six years.
Chapter 8: What are the consequences of labeling masculinity as toxic?
And I was like, yeah, yeah, whatever. And then eventually I was like, right, I'll just do the podcast version of it. So it's like... I almost never talk about the same thing that I've written about, but it's the same kind of thing of what's been going on this week and how have I dealt with maybe some obstacles or some stress or anxiety and how am I feeling?
And then also just giving space for like whoever's listening to reflect on the same things and be like, have you been dealing with your anxiety and stress and what have you been doing right? What have you been doing wrong? What can you change? Just kind of gives a moment for people to check in with themselves. That's great. Sounds like a therapy session. Kind of is.
I want to go and listen to them all. And even like my blog has always been like a therapy session for me and that like, okay, I'm getting everything that's been like on my mind out there. But then people reading it might relate to it and be like, I've also been worried about that or worried about something similar. And it's good to know I'm not alone in that.
And I think that's really helpful for people. It's helpful for me anyway, for sure. And do you have boundaries? As in, do you not discuss your immediate family or your girlfriend? Yeah. Or is it just about you? Or would you just say you had a fight with a partner? I've never made a conscious decision on that. It rarely comes up.
And if it does, I'll talk about it from the context of like having a disagreement with someone you love as opposed to like naming them specific or whatever. Because I'm like, I'm happy to like...
be totally on blast and very public and I have been for years but that's not true of all my family and it's important to respect that as well because they all have their own jobs and careers and then if there's a kind of crazy artist giving all her secrets away on the internet it's not maybe not ideal but
I know, they're reading something about themselves going, oh, fuck, he felt this way about me. Yeah, and even like sometimes my brother and my dad in particular, like still in the trenches of dealing with like masculine norms and like being uncomfortable with emotions and stuff. Now they're definitely a lot better now than like where we were as children.
But there's still this kind of like discomfort. I've written poems about my dad and about my brother. And they're like...
happy about them and they like the poems but you can tell it makes them uncomfortable to be talked about in kind of like an emotional way okay and it's interesting because they're not like oh don't put that up there's just this natural discomfort with being like perceived in a kind of emotional and soft way and that probably just relates to like
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