The Loving Truth

Q&A: Serial Cheating

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I address the deeply painful issue of serial cheating. Inspired by a listener's story of repeated be...

Love Isn’t Safe. Now What?

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I dive into the complexities of love and safety in relationships. I discuss how, despite our desire for s...

Political Differences in Your Marriage

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of The Loving Truth, I tackle a topic I never expected to cover: navigating political differences within a marriage. I explore how pol...

How Technology Has Made Relationships More Difficult

09 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I talk about the impact of technology on relationships, particularly in long-term committed marriages. While...

Navigating Your Gray Divorce

02 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I discuss the unique challenges and opportunities of going through a 'gray divorce'—divorce afte...

Leaving a Good Man

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I address the complex and often painful decision of leaving a good man. Many women find themselves in a situ...

Will My Partner Ever Change?

18 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

“Will my partner ever change? Because I really want him to.” What a great question - and it’s one I hear all the time. Let me start with this: ...

Do You Want This? Or Do You Just Want to Want it?

11 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want your marriage… or do you just WANT to want it? This is an important distinction (and something I teach inside my membership program: The...

Bonus: How Is Your Program Different Than Listening to The Loving Truth Podcast?

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Most people in the world will never have the marriage they want… but what about you? If you’ve been listening to this podcast for any length of t...

Your Sexless Marriage

04 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Just one generation ago (and even for many of us now), SEX was considered a taboo topic of conversation… even though we’ve all been told to expect...

Having Difficult Conversations

28 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Difficult conversations are bound to happen in your most intimate relationships - whether you’re prepared or not. This episode will teach you how to...

Red Flags in An Affair Partner

21 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is it time to pump the brakes on your affair relationship? How do you know if your secret partnership can last beyond the affair? Whatever happens af...

When You Don’t Want to Try Anymore

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

“I had one foot out the door… but pretending otherwise only led to greater disconnection and resentment.” - Sharon PopeThis is a soulful revelat...

Q&A: How to Respect My Partner Once It’s Been Lost

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

“How do I compromise with a partner who I no longer respect? How can I increase my respect for him… without lowering my standards?” In this epi...

What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce

01 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If it’s the fear of what might happen on the OTHER side of divorce that’s keeping you stuck, this episode is for you! I’m joined by leading Fami...

The “Right” Person

24 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage (and your life) would be better if you JUST had the “right” partner… this episode is for you. T...

Navigating Faith and Divorce

17 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you navigate divorce when you have a strong faith (and a strong desire for the “traditional” family)? What happens when you divorce “the ...

Q&A: My Husband Cheated. Now What?

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How can he have an affair if he truly loves me? Should I tell my best friend about his betrayal? Why do men cheat (and what defines cheating)?In this ...

Let’s Talk About Emotions

03 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Every woman I know has felt some level of shame for showing emotion… and on every end of the spectrum. Deep grief, anger, even pure joy. In this ep...

The Other Side of Divorce

26 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

“My kids are so lucky [that I] have Sharon [...] I would never have done this [so peacefully] without her.” - TaniaI have something extra special ...

Should I Just Give Up on Love?

21 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Love is pain… and if you don’t want to feel pain, you should just give up on love, right? In this episode, I’ll explain where this line of thin...

Fear of Making the “Wrong” Decision

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I get it: You don’t want to regret the choice you make (and you don’t want to make your life worse).But what happens when we dig into what’s rea...

Exploring Hello Divorce: A Simpler, Kinder & Less Stressful Divorce with Erin Levine

31 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The current legal process for divorce is complicated - not to mention expensive. That’s why I invited Erin Levine, Founder of Hello Divorce, to join...

Want to Be Treated Like a Queen? Three Things to Consider

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you want to be truly adored and cherished in your most intimate relationship (as though you are the Queen of his world!) this episode is for you…...

Are We Operating From Love or Fear?

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

“What is not Love is always Fear.” -from A Course In Miracles, scribed by Helen SchucmanIn other words, the opposite of love is not hate… it’s...

What’s Suppressing Your Desire?

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Many of my clients come to me saying, “I no longer feel desire for my partner… even though I want to! Intimacy used to feel so different. What’s...

How Can I Trust He Won't Cheat Again?

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do we move forward together after the discovery of an affair? How do I know he won’t cheat again? What if there’s more sexual indiscretion I j...

May Q&A: Is There a Way Back After Losing Desire?

25 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Heather has been married to her husband for eight years, but they’re rarely intimate. Following a hidden ED diagnosis and an affair, her husband is ...

The Science Behind Our Differences

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you understand this, your marriage will automatically become so much easier…The differences between males and females in relationship starts with...

Five Things Passionate Couples Do Differently

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do we get more comfortable talking about sex? Is it “okay” to add sex to our schedules… or should it only be spontaneous? What if one of us ...

Should My Partner Really Be #1?

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Could your marriage be the cornerstone to success in every other part of your life? In this episode, I invite you to consider the potentially transfor...

Why Not Keep Doing What We're Doing?

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you feel stuck in indecision about whether you should stay in your relationship or leave it… you likely don’t have enough information to make y...

Meet Sharon Pope

27 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Who am I, and why should you listen to me? The work of relationship coaching is personal, and today I want to share more about who I am, personally a...

The Age-Old Dilemma Between Sex & Connection

20 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Oh, the age-old dilemma in nearly every marriage… One partner needs emotional connection before physical intimacy; the other requires sex to feel co...

When You Want to Move Forward (But Can't Let Go of the Past...)

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When one of my clients discovered her husband’s betrayal, she consciously chose to stay in the marriage… but she also struggled to know how to mov...

What We’re Not Hearing

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you can get better at this one thing… every single relationship in your life will get better! Most relationship issues can be traced back to pro...

Q&A: Denial, Unmet Needs, Involving Kids in Divorce

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How can I fix our marriage if he doesn’t think anything is wrong? What can I do if my needs aren’t being met by my partner? What information shoul...

Marriage and Neurodivergence: A Conversation with Dayna Abraham

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When one or both partners in a marriage is neurodivergent, you face quite unique challenges…  In this episode, I’m joined by Dayna Abraham to exp...

Rekindling Desire

09 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling a loss of attraction and desire for your partner is very common… even when you’re recovering your marriage to a healthy place. Many of us...

It’s Time for a Different Conversation in Your Marriage

08 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When’s the last time you felt truly heard by your partner? When’s the last time you enjoyed a serious conversation together… or agreed on a solu...

Q&A: New "Good" Behavior, Emotional Affairs and an Open Marriage

01 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do I know if my spouse is genuinely changing or not? Can I trust his new good behavior will last? What can we do if my husband wants to open our m...

Four Ways to Improve Communication Between You and Your Spouse

25 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Men and women communicate very differently and for very different reasons. And if you don’t understand how and why, it’ll cause problems that stra...

The One Belief That Will Ruin Any Relationship

18 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You know how each person can see something different when looking at the same piece of art? Perspective is the same way.Your perspective is uniquely y...

What Will Life Be Like One Year From Now (If You Do Nothing Different)?

11 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling frustrated by the same interactions and experiences with your partner? Perhaps you and your spouse are having the same arguments over and over...

How to Keep Your Peace Through a High-Conflict Divorce

04 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you need to end a relationship, you want to try to do it in the most loving and peaceful way possible. This is something I say often, but there’s...

Avoiding Time Alone and a Divorce Discussion Gone Wrong

28 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you avoiding spending time alone with your partner? Do you feel like you’ve lost momentum on going forward with your divorce decision after talk...

The First Thing You Should Do When You Decide to Get a Divorce

21 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

So you’ve decided to end your relationship in divorce. What’s the first thing you should do next? The answer might surprise you.In this episode of...

Instead of Divorce, Can You Save Your Marriage By Evolving It?

14 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You feel like you’re at the end of your rope when it comes to your marriage. Divorce looks like the inevitable next step...but is it?What if there w...

Worrying About What Others Think of You? How to Bounce Back Quickly

07 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

“What other people think of you doesn’t matter.”You can hear that a thousand times. You can even tell it to yourself over and over until you’r...

Fearing Divorce, Stressful Separation Point, and Love Language Trepidation

30 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Want to move forward with decisions in your life and marriage? That’s what my monthly Q&As are designed to help you do! And today, it’s time t...

Different Types of Trust You Need to Consider in Your Marriage

23 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you trust your partner? Even when we say no, we often don’t consider exactly what it is we don’t trust about them.This goes beyond cheating, by...

Five Ways to Upgrade Your Marriage for More Relationship Success

16 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You’d think if our society failed at something 40-50% of the time, we’d probably be doing everything we could to solve the problem...Yet, we don’...

The Missing Piece to the Research on the Impact of Divorce on Your Kids

09 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You’ll find stuff that scares the crap out of you as a parent, if you search Google on the impact of divorce on kids. And while it’s not wrong, it...

Why You REALLY Don’t Want to Have Sex With Your Husband (& How to Fix It)

02 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you cringe at the thought of sex with your husband? Do you even recoil from his intimate touch?After helping sooo many women in my work, I can coun...

The Real Point of Forgiveness, Honoring Yourself, and Other Questions Answered

26 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Infidelity involving a husband and his wife’s sisters, a hesitation to leave Mr. (Fake) Nice Guy behind, and a curious question about vibrators, oh ...

Understanding the Reasons Why You Cheated (or Got Cheated On)

19 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you trying to remain in your relationship after an affair but fear that it’s going to happen again?Whether it was you who cheated on your partne...

What You Wanted Since the Beginning of Your Marriage Has Changed

12 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Things were different then.When you first met your spouse, you were looking for a certain something. Now that you’re years (perhaps even decades) in...

Three Pieces You Need to Create a More Conscious Relationship

05 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In the coaching world, some ideas can seem a little out there. For example, the idea of creating a conscious relationship may feel a little airy fairy...

The Dangers of Over Functioning & More of Your Relationship Questions

28 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It’s that time again! In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I’m doing another Q&A about your greatest relationship challenges. And toda...

Help! My Husband & I Have Nothing to Talk About!

21 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are your conversations with your husband stale, awkward, or practically non-existent these days? Maybe you talk about the same things over and over be...

How Quality Questions Lead to Better Decisions About Your Marriage

14 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

“We need to talk.” Do those four dreaded words sound familiar? They usually lead to defensive feelings and another argument with your spouse.But y...

Change Destructive Patterns In Your Marriage Triggered by These 4 Words

07 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been with someone for a while, you have certain ways you typically engage with one another. While some of these patterns of engagement are...

Q&A: Answering Some of Your Greatest Relationship Challenges

31 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve seen those TV or radio shows with experts taking calls, right? They answer questions from people about their financial issues, parenting prob...

Should You Stay or Go? The Impermanence of Marriage and Relationships

24 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Marriage is forever...or so you’ve been taught.You can change (or end) other things like jobs and even other relationships, but marriage is “sacre...

Why You Get Stuck in the Divorce Process (& How to Get Unstuck)

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve made the decision to divorce your spouse. Perhaps you’ve already had the first difficult conversation about it.But then...you get stuck. Yo...

Are Men Invested in Making Marriage Work?

10 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

“Why isn’t my husband invested in making our marriage feel good? Why is it always on me?”This is something I hear from women all the time! It’...

My Affair Made Me Feel Alive

03 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

From the outside, Mary had the perfect life: She was a successful mother, wife, and college professor. But from the inside, Mary felt lonely and disco...

A Cold Hard Truth in Relationships (You Won’t Like It, But You Need to Know It)

26 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I regularly share Cold Hard Truths with my clients (and on this podcast!) But in this episode, I’m sharing one of THE most important ones you need t...

Fight Fair: 5 Strategies to Argue More Productively

19 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Arguments between partners are completely normal, even necessary within intimate relationships. If you’re not arguing (at least occasionally!) you’...

Want to Feel More Connected in Your Marriage?

12 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

 Relationships are a core priority (particularly for women), which is why disconnection from our most intimate partner leads to so many problems.  ...

Were You Blindsided (...or Were You Just Blind)?

05 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Making the choice to leave your marriage takes a very long time. You try and try again. When one person finally makes the decision to leave and the o...

Lessons from an Affair

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Can you consider the “lessons” you learned from your affair relationship? I know this might push your trigger points… but I invite you to open t...

He Doesn't Need to Agree With Your Decision

21 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is especially for those of you who have already made the decision to leave your marriage or relationship… but feel wobbly in the execut...

Your Brain on Drugs (oops…I mean Affairs)

14 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What happens to your brain when you’re falling in love (and into an affair relationship) is the same thing that happens to your brain on drugs.The g...

Differences Between Men & Women

08 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding the opposite sex can be difficult, but ONLY because we don’t know the science behind our natural (and vital!) differences. Yes, men a...

Ladies...Let’s Talk About Men

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Married men are being called to “awaken” inside relationships in a way that hasn’t happened before. That’s a very good thing! And yet, rates ...

Marriage: Then & Now

24 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are today’s women satisfied with cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the kids in exchange for protection and provision? The answer is no. It is cl...

Do Affairs That Break-Up a Marriage Last?

17 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you had an affair and wondered if you could have a fresh start with your affair partner? Maybe you’ve seen the statistics - which aren’t help...

Stepping into the Gap

10 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel disconnected in your relationship, like there’s a gap between you and your spouse? Are you stuck repeating boring conversations abo...

Busting 7 Relationship Myths

11 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you heard that date night solves everything, nothing should feel awkward after you’re married, or you should never argue with your spouse? If y...

3 Unhealthy Approaches to Relationships

04 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Does your partner ever say, “my love for you will never change”? Doesn’t that feel terribly romantic? However, unfortunately, this phrase, along...

What Strong, Type A Women Do to Sabotage Relationships

28 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you a driven, type-A, get-things-done kind of woman? So am I, and I have found that, although these masculine qualities serve me well in my career...

I’m Not Attracted to my Husband Anymore

21 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel as if the spark has gone out in your marriage? Do you wonder where that magical attraction you initially felt disappeared to? Well, here’...

Rebuilding Broken Trust

14 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Even in faithful relationships, we still betray each other day in and out, even if we don’t call it a betrayal. How is that so? Well, betrayal can c...

He Cheated. I’m Monitoring Everything.

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

So your partner had an affair. What do you do now? Whether an emotional or physical betrayal, any loss of trust is a big deal, and many partners find ...

Control in Relationships

28 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In any controlling relationship, there are two contributors, whether you realize it or not - the controller and the receiver. Most of us wouldn’t ad...

A Return to Fine

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If your marriage has become disconnected and lonely, you may yearn for “a return to fine,” even knowing, deep down, that isn’t enough. Even when...

Your Familiar Discomfort

14 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When you’re trying to decide whether to stay or go in a loveless marriage, fear can be paralyzing - fear that you’ll hurt your husband, fear that ...

Too Little. Too Late.

07 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In many cases, it’s not until the husband is faced with divorce that he’ll begin making the changes his wife has requested for years. But as the w...

Telling My Husband, “It’s Over.”

31 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Making the decision to end your marriage is a journey of its own… but breaching the subject to your spouse is a whole different story. How do you te...

I Can’t Leave My Marriage. I Can’t Stop My Affair.

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When women reach out to me about their affair, they’re often experiencing a whirlwind of emotions: adoration for their new partner, guilt over their...

Why Women Leave

29 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Until the 1970s, women couldn’t file for divorce without hard evidence of abuse or infidelity. Today, divorce rates are skyrocketing - and it’s th...

The Mature Marriage: Five Signs Your Marriage is in Trouble

28 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You might’ve thought that 20 years into your marriage, you’d have it all figured out… but that’s rarely the case. In fact, the divorce rate fo...

Understanding Emotional Infidelity

27 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Most couples acknowledge the concept of “emotional infidelity,” but what does it actually mean? Flirting? Exchanging provocative photos? Sharing i...

Why Second & Third Marriages are Ending at Such a Staggering Rate

26 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It’s well known that first marriages end at a rate of 40-50%. But why do second marriages end at a rate of 67% and third marriages at 73% - despite ...

How Do You Know When Your Marriage is Over?

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In times of desperation, it’s something we ask everyone around us - friends, family, even the internet… “Is my marriage over?”Unfortunately, a...

Women Leave Mentally Years Before Leaving Physically

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When their concerns are brushed off, women often give up trying to fix the marriage, leaving them dissatisfied for years on end… and leaving men com...

Placing Our Marriages on a Shelf

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Society will tell you that marriage is the finish line… but in reality, it’s just the beginning. Too many of today’s marriages suffer from negle...

The Disconnected Marriage

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you and your partner living like roommates? Do you have love for your spouse, but you’re not IN love with him? Do all of your interactions revol...