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Chapter 1: What stories about friendship are shared in this episode?
Welcome to The Moth. I'm Chloe Salmon. There are so many stories about romantic love, which is fair, I guess. But I take your romantic love and raise you a different relationship. One that can be just as fulfilling and honestly, sometimes even more so. Friendship.
I'm grateful for my friends every day because each and every one of them is a perfect, beautiful angel who supports me fiercely but is also willing to give me an honest opinion about the new haircut I want to try out. Without them, I would be a lonely girl with a bowl cut I thought would look French, probably.
In this episode, three stories all about friendship, from how they can be there for you during challenging times to a friend's unconditional love to the gummy bears. Don't worry, we'll get there. First up is Lauren Karch, who told this story at a main stage in Dayton, Ohio, where the theme was more than meets the eye. Here's Lauren, light it them off.
So a couple of years ago, I started to notice that people were sounding quieter to me, which did not track with world events, but only when I was on the phone and only when I had the phone to the right side of my head. And it wasn't like just that. I also noticed like I would get dizzy sometimes and sometimes I kind of felt like my head was underwater.
So I held off, but eventually I made an appointment with like an ear, nose and throat specialist and got my hearing tested. And I found out exactly what I did not want to know, which was that at like 32, I was losing my hearing, but only on one side. And my doctor started going through a list of other tests I could try and possible diagnoses.
And I interrupted him and said, did I tell you my dad has Meniere's disease? And he looked at me like, how you do when you're looking at the answer to a trivia question? My dad lost his hearing completely within 10 years of being diagnosed. So I knew that if I had the same deal, the same thing could happen to me. I'd probably lose the rest of my hearing on my right side and maybe both ears.
like within a few years or sooner or later or not at all. And usually I'm not like the kind of person who's like, oh, I got to know what's going to happen because I'm not picking the restaurant, okay? I'm not like a type A person. I do not have what the teens call main character energy. But... In this moment, I wish that I did, because there's not really a treatment for Meniere's.
You can take symptom stuff. So I could do short-term steroids to ward off the vertigo. And my doctor told me to avoid caffeine and salt, which are my two favorite food groups. So that weekend, I visited my parents. And it's never, like, nice to start a conversation with, what if I end up like you? But that's basically what I did to my dad. And he told me, you know, a few things.
He was like, there's all this assistive technology and, like, supportive community for people with hearing loss. And frankly, it's not a huge tragedy not hear everybody all the time in this economy. My dad's a very, like, zen, very, like, believes in a higher path kind of person. So that kind of brought me out of my basement of depression.
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Chapter 2: How does Lauren Karch cope with her hearing loss?
Like, yeah, I probably can't afford to go to the Amazon rainforest right now, but I could leave the window open when it rains. And I didn't want the last thing I heard to be a spam call or my self-repeating gossip. And so when I saw a few days later that my favorite band was going to be in Cincinnati, I bought tickets right away. I did not think about who I was going to take with me.
But then I happened to go to Warehouse 4, my favorite coffee shop, later. And yeah. And my friend Stacy was working. And Stacy is the kind of person who is up for anything. Plus it was really swamped in there, so it was the perfect time to entrap her with an invitation. And she agreed to go. And like, yeah, were we a little old to be at Bogart's under like the no moshing sign? Yeah.
So were the Mountain Goats, my favorite band from 2005. Yeah. And Stacy used to be a youth choir director, so in exchange for me taking her to see a sad dad band, she asked me if I would want to go with her to see a children's production of Cats. Which, yeah, I don't have time to wait for professionals to put on Cats for me.
And I realized, like, I could knock off a ton of kinds of music if I started going to, like, the free concerts put on by, like, the library and YSO. So, like, jazz in the park, jazz at the culture center, jazz at the library. There's a lot of jazz. I got really into it. I accompanied my boyfriend who was on his own journey of trying to see every Boston sports team play in the Midwest.
And I don't really like sports, but I did want to hear his accent being used for its intended purpose, which is cursing the Red Sox. And I started listening to my mom's favorite true crime podcast because I wanted to see if I, like her, could learn to discern who was guilty based on the guilt in the murderer's voice. And kind of, yeah. But the biggest victim in all this was my best friend Katie.
I had told her about my hearing problems, but I didn't tell her about the playlist because it's insane. And, but the problem is she's like the perfect person, perfect man for the job. Because she is a theater person. We actually know each other from the theater because we came close, like we became close in our rural high school's production of the soul musical, The Wiz.
And, which is, because it was from the before times. And, And so we'd always kind of dreamed of aging into being those costume jewelry ladies who have season tickets to the ballet. So I texted her, and I said, remember how we were going to become theater ladies? What if we just do that now? And she just said, I thought you'd never ask. So we went to the opera.
We went to all the Dayton Playhouse shows and the Broadway series when it came to town, the Poetry Slam. We went and saw that band that dresses like vampires. You guys, they just got a hearse. It was great. Her younger coworkers wanted to go see Post Malone, and I was so into it that I not only got a ticket to Post Malone, I bought us wide-leg jeans so we wouldn't stand out among the youths.
And it was a great time. But I wanted to see this one really artsy play that was out of town. So we decided to go to that. And what I learned is there's a level of artsiness that I do not get. But that's OK. I still heard it. And we had a great hotel that I had booked for a great price because I did not notice that it was a micro hotel with bunk beds. So I'm laying in the top bunk.
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Chapter 3: What insights does Lauren gain from her father's advice about hearing loss?
We made plans for a polite, lonely desperation meetup, which turned into us hitting it off in a real way and spending almost every free minute together that summer. We got our bearings, stayed out late bar hopping and eating cheap food, and screeched in panic as his toilet overflowed and flooded his tiny studio while I shouted, how do you turn off water at my dad over the phone?
A real bonding kind of summer. Almost 15 years later, I am no better at troubleshooting plumbing issues, and he is still one of my closest friends. Our next story is from Valerie Walker, who told it at a story slam where the theme was chemistry. Here's Valerie, live at the Moth.
So on Sunday, I had a reunion with a woman that I went to college with. I hadn't seen her for 34 years. I know, I look good. And the thing, you're probably wondering after 34 years, like, what do you care? I had actually been carrying her in my heart for the intervening time. And We were an odd pair for sure. We met in college, a very impressionable time. She was from a small town in Arkansas.
I still had the grit from New York City in my pockets. She was artful with her makeup and painted on a natural looking face and smelled like beautiful perfume. And I smelled like a mix of soap and whatever moisturizer I was using. And so looking at us, you would think like, what do they have in common? And I wondered that myself, but there was such, she was so kind.
There was such a space that we created that was just joyful and very, very loving and super duper fun. And then I came out as a lesbian. And one of the ways that I processed my internalized homophobia was I was suddenly scared that my really rich friendships with women
were going to be called into question, that she would no longer be as affectionate or wonder what was my motive for being affectionate back. And we had such a great relationship. Like, I don't know that song, I Love You, a Bushel and a Peck, a Bushel and a Peck. I don't know all the words. But one day, she wrote that entire lyric on my door, like as a note.
Yeah, it was just adorable and very, very dope. And we had this ritual where when we would go to dinner, I would go to her room, she would change out of her fabulously stylish outfit, but she was shy, so she'd go into her walk-in closet, and then we would continue to talk while she changed, and when she was in the closet, her voice would be muffled like this.
And then when she came out, it would be really clear. And so one day I'm in her room and waiting for her to change, and I am playing with the stuff on her dresser, so I'm not really paying attention. Her voice went from muffle, muffle, muffle back to clear.
And so I look up, except she had changed the routine and had come out of the closet not completely dressed, in her sweatpants and bra, and she was very easy on the eyes. Okay, so now in that moment, I'm saying to myself, don't stare. You're staring. Oh my God, look at her eyes. They're higher. And so I'm, you know, having a little bit of a gay freak out.
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