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76. How Your Childhood Shaped How You Show Up Today
13 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore how your childhood quietly trained the way you show up in life today — not to blame your past, but to understand y...
75. Attachment Theory + Fruitfulness
06 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I connect Jesus’ Parable of the Sower with modern attachment theory to show how the condition of our heart affects our capacity for...
74. Self-Awareness is the Door to Healing
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Self-awareness is the doorway to healing—but it often feels risky. In this episode, I share how my own healing journey began with a deep fear of sel...
73. You're Not FAILING -- You're Being PRUNED
23 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Pruning seasons are one of those things we don’t usually volunteer for—but somehow find ourselves in anyway. This episode came straight from a DM ...
72. Do Not Conform
16 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I recently took a break from Instagram, and the clarity I felt was honestly shocking. It’s so easy to get caught in a cycle of constant consumption ...
71. What God Is Building in You in 2026
02 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Happy New Year!! In this episode, we’re talking about what God is building in you when you can’t yet see the full picture. Our life is all about t...
70. Staying Present This Christmas w/Donta
24 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m joined by my special guest Donta as we share a real-life family update and talk honestly about pregnancy—how it’s s...
69. Owning Your Season of Singleness w/Barkot
19 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the podcast, I have an amazing guest, and a personal friend of mine, Barkot, on with me! We’re kicking things off with some fun hot tak...
68. Holiday Triggers – let’s actually get free
12 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today’s episode is all about the holidays — the traditions we grew up with, the ones we’re building now, and the ones we’re deciding to leave ...
67. Pregnancy, Marriage, Nostalgia + Fantasy w/the Nelsons
05 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Life has been full lately — pregnancy, marriage, Thanksgiving, and juggling this full, beautiful life we have. I’ve been moving a little slower, f...
66. A Cozy Thanksgiving Episode
28 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m catching you up on life lately — and honestly, it feels like a breath of fresh air. I’ve had so much more energy these days...
65. I’M PREGNANT: The Shock of Our Lives
21 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m sharing the wild plot twist of our year — I’m pregnant, and truly, it was the shock of our lives. After our daughter was bo...
64. Keeping Up With The Nelsons w/Donta
14 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we're doing things a little differently. I brought on my favorite person — my husband, Donta — to unpack it all with me. We’re catchi...
63. Cultivating Hunger
07 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, I’m sharing a little life update — from finally painting our house to kicking off the holiday season (my favorite time of ye...
62. Where I’ve Been + What I’m Owning
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
After being MIA for a couple of weeks, I’m back and catching you up on where I’ve been and what I’m learning in this season. Life has been full ...
61. Becoming the Woman I Am at 37
10 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It’s my 37th birthday today, and instead of talking about achievements or goals, I wanted to reflect on who I’ve become — what I’ve learned, w...
60. The Cave of Motherhood
03 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I’m sharing from my heart about what I’ve come to call The Cave of Motherhood. When I first entered this cave, it felt dark and overwhe...
59. The In-Between Season
26 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt a shift in your life and thought, ‘This doesn’t feel exciting… this just feels uncomfortable’? That’s where I’ve been, ...
58. Unmet Needs: The Real Reason You Feel Angry
19 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt angry and wondered why? In today’s episode of The Own It Podcast, I’m breaking down how unmet needs fuel anger and what you can...
57. It's Time to Grow Up Pt. III
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I’m sharing PART 3 of my 3-part series on maturity. I'm talking about what it really means to grow in maturity—mentally, physically, emotion...
56. It's Time to Grow Up Pt. II
05 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In part two of this series, I’m continuing the conversation on what it looks like to grow up in every area of our lives. A healthy, mature believer ...
55. It's Time to Grow Up Pt. I
29 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m kicking off a brand-new series called It’s Time to Grow Up. Development—mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually—...
54. Where I’ve Been + Where We’re Going
22 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Own It Podcast, I share what it’s been like to lean into a slower winter season—being present with my kids, pulling back fr...
53. Balancing Marriage, Motherhood, and Pursuing Your Dreams
11 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
** Sign up for my Overcoming Overwhelm workshop on Tuesday June 24! Join us live online from 11am-1pm or watch the replay. Register for the 2-hour onl...
52. How to Stay Motivated When Your Plate Is Overflowing
20 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If your to-do list feels never-ending and motivation is hard to find, this episode is for you. Today, we’re diving into real-life, grace-filled stra...
51. A Window Into My Heart: Sacred Seasons
13 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A Window Into My Heart: Sacred Seasons This episode is a real window into the season I’ve been walking out the past few months. I’ve been a ghost ...
50. From Eating Disorder to Conscious Eating
16 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
*Trigger Warning* In this episode, I talk about my past struggles with body image, disordered eating, and unhealthy weight control behaviors. Please t...
49. A Window Into My Heart: The Season is Changing
09 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to another Window Into My Heart episode—a space where I open up about what God is doing in me, what I’m sensing in the spirit, and wh...
48. What I’d tell my 20-something self:
02 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve been asked this question twice this week: “What would you tell your 20-something self?” And I get why people ask. Those years are full of d...
47. Feel Insignificant + Want PURPOSE?
24 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into the difference between purpose and significance, and how getting the equation wrong can keep us feeling stuck. I share m...
BONUS: Why we stay stuck (and how to start moving again)
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s special bonus episode, I’m talking about something that so many of us wrestle with: why we stay stuck, even when we deeply want to grow...
BONUS: Creativity, Wholeness, + Living Fully Alive w/Donta Nelson
18 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today’s episode is a special one—because I’m joined by my husband, Donta Nelson, for a rich, real conversation about creativity, healing, and wh...
46. DEMONIC ALTARS — what's keeping you stuck in cycles you can’t break
17 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into a powerful topic that many of us can relate to: feeling stuck in cycles that we can't seem to break, no matter how hard ...
45. Setting Healthy Boundaries w/o the GUILT
11 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re diving into the topic of boundaries—how to set them without guilt, what to do when someone doesn’t respect them, and why ...
44. Stewarding Your Season
04 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a real tension we feel as women—How do I walk out God’s call when my season doesn’t match my dreams? When I first got married, God tol...
43. Showing Up When it's HARD
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I know how challenging it can be to show up when life feels really hard. In this episode, I’m sharing what helps me stay present and intentional, ev...
42. Our Deep Need for Belonging
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode was sparked by a question I received on Instagram: Can you talk about the need for belonging, how our experiences growing up affect it, a...
41. How to Process Without Getting Stuck
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Processing isn’t about “getting over it” or finding instant solutions—it’s about fully experiencing, understanding, and integrating emotions...
40. Thriving in Motherhood Without Losing Yourself
28 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, we’re diving into a topic so many of us wrestle with—how to thrive in motherhood without losing ourselves. Motherhood is all-consuming, and...
39. Why I Don't Get Triggered When I Solo-Parent Anymore
21 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, I’m sharing a powerful shift I experienced in my journey as a stay-at-home mom and solo parent. For years, I carried a lot of ...
38. TRAUMA: What is it + How do I know if I have it?
07 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, I want to dive into a topic that’s become a big part of the self-help and mental health world—trauma. There’s a lot of inf...
BONUS: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns + How to STOP
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you’re stuck in survival mode, reacting instead of responding, repeating the same frustrating patterns? You want to be patient with y...
37. The 5 Soul Wounds Keeping You Stuck (and How to Heal Them!)
31 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I take a deep dive into the core wounds of the soul and how they impact our everyday lives. The soul—our mind, will, and emotions—...
36. Grieving in Transition w/Colby Ellis
24 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Colby Ellis, a wife, mom of two, and corporate professional working from home. Colby shares her deeply per...
35. From Rock Bottom to Thriving: a Journey of Transformation w/Sneha Joseph
17 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, we hear from a current Thrive member, Sneha, who shares her powerful personal story of moving from survival mode to thriving in ...
34. A Window Into My Heart: How to Grieve an Old Season
10 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I’m sharing a personal, process-oriented episode instead of my typical teaching-based episodes. I don’t have all the answers, but I do ...
33. Authentic Self vs. False Self: The Key to Living an Abundant Life
03 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore what it means to connect with your authentic self—the true essence of who you are, beyond labels, roles, and external exp...
32. Getting Vision for the New Year
27 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I love the New Year! It's a time for fresh starts, but let's be real, most resolutions fizzle out by February. Why? Often, we lack clear direction. We...
31. Life Coach, Therapist, or Psychologist? How to Choose the Right Support
20 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m diving into a content-heavy breakdown of the different types of professional help available: life coaching, therapy, psychology...
29. Rhythms for a Sustainable Life
13 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m breaking down the daily, weekly, and yearly rhythms I use to simplify life, reduce stress, and create space for the things that...
28. Spiritual Seasons + How to Show Up In Them
05 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Life moves in seasons, and each season has a purpose. Ecclesiastes 3 reminds us that there’s a time for everything under heaven. I this episode, my ...
27. Overcoming Barriers to Self-Love Pt. II
29 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m breaking down the blocks that keep us from fully loving ourselves and sharing practical tips to move from intention to action. ...
26. How Do I Love Myself? Pt. I
22 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode came from a DM asking for a podcast on self-love. I’m diving into self-love from a biblical and psychological perspective, not the usua...
25. Hard Seasons + How to Show Up In Them
15 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share how to move through a hard season well. Hard seasons are inevitable – the Bible says it rains on the just and the unjust. ...
24. Jenn Johnson - Living With Intention
01 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share a practical, powerful, and spirit-filled Q&A session from Thrive with my friend and special guest, Jenn Johnson. Jenn is ...
23. The Victim Mentality + How to Kill It
25 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive deep into the difference between a victim mentality and a powerful mindset. I'll be sharing personal stories from my own where...
22. Reparenting: What is it + How do we do it?
18 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about the concept of reparenting—how we can give ourselves the care and nurturing we may have missed in childhood. I explore...
21. Waiting Seasons + How To Do Them Well
11 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Own It Podcast, I explore what it looks like to be in a wilderness season. These seasons are marked by feelings of isolation, u...
20. A Window Into My Heart: Consecration + Being Set Apart
04 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Own It Podcast, I'm giving you another window into my heart as I talk about what it means to be consecrated to God and what it ...
19. Let's Talk About Boundaries
27 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're unpacking the essentials of boundaries and why they matter. I'm no stranger to the fact that everyone and their mom has a podca...
18. How to Hold Space for People
20 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends! This episode is in response to a question I received on Instagram and it’s all about the art of holding space—creating a safe, non-jud...
17. How to Talk to Your Kids About Emotions
13 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
DID YOU KNOW that the emotions research shows that the average adult human only has access to three emotion words: happy, sad, mad. That's it. I don't...
16. From Surviving to Thriving -- my story
06 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share my journey from living in survival mode to building a thriving life. For years, I was stuck in a cycle of burnout, juggling m...
15. A Window Into My Heart: Dreams Fulfilled
30 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Friends, this podcast episode is venturing off the notes I normally follow when I record a podcast and together, we are going to journey into some pon...
14. Build a Healthy Ecosystem in Your Life
23 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I reflect on Proverbs 4:23, emphasizing the importance of guarding our innermost being, as it influences every aspect of our lives—...
13. Ask Me Anything -- Thrive Collective Q+A
16 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is a pre-recorded Q+A from my private community, Thrive Collective. Thrive is my community and heart education membership exclusively designed fo...
12. Thrive Retreat -- a peek inside!
09 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I'm so excited to share all about our recent Thrive Retreat, which took place from August 1st to 3rd. This was our very first in-person retreat, and i...
11. Practical Tools + Steps for Healing Pt. III
02 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In part III of my series on pain and how we heal from our past, I delve into practical tools and steps for healing emotional pain and cultivating a he...
10. How do we Heal our Pain? Pt. II
26 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore what healing truly means and the sources of our pain. The goal is to achieve an abundant life as mentioned in John 10:10. H...
9. What is Pain + How Do We Heal? Pt. I
19 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Part 1 of a series on inner healing. The goal of life in Christ is ABUNDANT LIFE — life and life abundantly (John 10:10). But life offers...
8. How To Change Your Attachment Style
12 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I tackle a question I received from someone on Instagram regarding attachment styles. She asked, “Do you talk about how to do...
7. Dreams + Motherhood -- can they coexist?
05 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I have a real candid dialogue about the complex interplay between our dreams and motherhood. I openly talk about the realities of try...
6. Dismantling the Avoidant + Disorganized Attachment Styles
28 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're diving deep into the fascinating world of attachment styles and what they mean for building healthy, thriving relationships. We all want t...
5. Unpacking the Secure + Anxious Attachment Style
21 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're diving deep into the fascinating world of attachment styles and what they mean for building healthy, thriving relationships. We all want t...
4. How to Build Lasting Friendships with Mari Helart
14 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I’m sharing an exclusive insider into my Thrive Collective. This is a workshop where I invited my best friend, Mari Helart into our Thrive co...
1. The Art of Showing Up
12 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friend! I'm Chantelle Nelson — wife, mom of 3, therapeutic life coach, and your host for the Own It Podcast. In our first episode, we're diving i...
3. The Stress Cycle + Healthy Ways to Combat Stress
11 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I don’t know about you, but I often feel consumed by stress in my current season. My life is non-stop and demands my attention in every area and som...
2. The Nervous System + Understanding The Stress Response
11 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s dive into the fascinating world of our nervous systems and stress responses in this must-listen episode. I’m pulling back the curtain on one...
[Archive] Episode 14: Q + A with The Nelsons!
01 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 14: Q + A with The Nelsons! This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Co...
[Archive] Episode 13: A Real + Honest Look Into Marriage + Connection Pt. II
17 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 13: A Real + Honest Look Into Marriage + Connection Pt. II This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I bac...
[Archive] Episode 12: A Real + Honest Look Into Marriage + Connection Pt. I
10 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 12: A Real + Honest Look Into Marriage + Connection Pt. I This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back...
[Archive] Episode 11: Is Marriage Really for Everyone?
27 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 11: Is Marriage Really for Everyone? This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoi...
[Archive] Episode 10: Going After Personal Dreams in Marriage
15 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 10: Going After Personal Dreams in Marriage This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 cal...
[Archive] Episode 9: We're PREGNANT + The Power of Vulnerability
07 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 9: We're PREGNANT + The Power of Vulnerability This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 ...
[Archive] Episode 8: Stay Connected in Marriage While Raising Kids
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 8: Stay Connected in Marriage While Raising Kids This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 ...
[Archive] Episode 7: How Do You Actually Bring God Into Your Marriage?
22 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 7: How Do You Actually Bring God Into Your Marriage? This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2...
[Archive] Episode 6: 3 Things we Wish we Knew Before Getting Married
15 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 6: 3 Things we Wish we Knew Before Getting Married This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 202...
[Archive] Episode 5: Finding Inspiration in the Mundane
08 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 5: Finding Inspiration in the Mundane This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undo...
[Archive] Episode 4: 3 Tips on Finding Your People!
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 4: 3 Tips on Finding Your People! This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing ...
[Archive] Episode 3: How We Face TRIGGERS in Our Relationship
25 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 3: How We Face TRIGGERS in Our Relationship This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 cal...
[Archive] Episode 2: No Money to Buy a House, BUT GOD!
21 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 2: No Money to Buy a House, BUT GOD! This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoi...
[Archive] Episode 1: What is Undoing The Complex?
21 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
[Archive] Episode 1: What is Undoing The Complex This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The...