The R Spot with Iyanla

Permission to be Vulnerable with Kier Gaines

06 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's the season finale of the R Spot, and Iyanla is talking with Kier Gaines, licensed therapist and speaker. They discuss how men can grow into good ...

The Love Jones Cohort with Dr. Kris Marsh: Part 2

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome back to part two of Iyanla's conversation with Dr. Kris Marsh! This week, they're opening up the conversation and taking questions from the IG...

The Love Jones Cohort with Dr. Kris Marsh: Part 1

23 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode, Iyanla is joined by professor and author Kris Marsh to get into the hot topics in her book The Love Jones Cohort. They tal...

Challenging Lessons In Love

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla is back on IG Live! She listens to guests share the hardest relationship lessons they learned and she provides a...

Relationship Soup

09 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla gives her listeners relationship advice live on Instagram. From being too honest to teaching others how to show...

What Do Good Men Want with Coach Ken: Part 2

02 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In part two of What Good Men Want, Iyanla and Coach Ken extend the conversation around masculinity, male needs, and male perspectives in relationships...

What Do Good Men Want with Coach Ken: Part 1

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla sits down with Coach Ken Canion, a relationship coach, author, TV personality, and creator of the Relationship A...

Deconstructing Masculinity with Tony Porter: Part 2

18 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We pick up where we left off in our last episode with our guest Tony Porter, author of Breaking Out of the Man Box. Iyanla and Tony continue their ...

Deconstructing Masculinity with Tony Porter: Part 1

11 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla shares the show today with her incredible guest Tony Porter. Tony Porter is an author, TED talk speaker, and activist working to deconstruct an...

Building a Strong Relationship with Kittie Rose

04 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Grab a pencil because Ms. Iyanla is taking us to relationship school! Certified relationship coach Kittie Rose joins the show to explore the essential...

Crazy-Making Behavior: What Does Your Partner Do That Drives You Nuts?

28 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Iyanla asks callers what their loved ones do that drives them CRAZY? What are the deal breakers and what problems can make the relati...

How To Make Your Exit Plan Pt. 2

21 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Like relationships, there are many different types of exit strategies, so Iyanla is giving the topic a second episode. On today's episode, Iyanla and ...

How To Make Your Exit Plan

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When is it time to leave? Many people have a hard time leaving a toxic situation and when they do, they may not have all the resources they need to s...

Who Checks the Ex?

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Iyanla is asking callers who checks the ex? How do you negotiate with your current partner about their involvement with their ex? Or ...

Liars, Incompatibility and Crimes: We're Talking Boundaries

31 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we are talking all about dealbreakers & boundaries in relationships. Iyanla and her callers talk about how to confront a dealbr...

What Makes a Good Girl Go Bad?

24 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The stew is bubbling! In the second part of the good girls and bad girls series, Iyanla and her guests get right into it. Damon "Bware" Vanzant is i...

Bad Girls Gone Good

17 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of the "good girl" and "bad girl" personas. What happens when a good girl goes bad? Can a bad girl...

The One That Got Away

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Iyanla is asking callers to contemplate whether or not they let the good one get away...or maybe they are the one that got away. How ...

So You Think Your Partner's a Cheater Part 2

03 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In part two of the cheating series, Iyanla and her panel of guests dive into how to move on with an unfaithful partner while asking the question, was ...

So You Think Your Partner's a Cheater

26 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's a question many of us have faced in our lives: what do I do if my partner is cheating? Iyanla and her panel of guests provide real-world advice o...

Hall Passes: A Ticket to Trust or Trouble?

19 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Iyanla delves into the controversial yet juicy topic of hall passes. What does it mean to allow your significant other the freedom to...

Dating Do's, Dating Don'ts, and Oh No They Didn't

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla is asking callers to take another look at their relationship with dating and posing the question: How do we define dating? What are the convers...

Would You Date You?

05 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla is asking callers to take another look at their relationship with themselves and posing the question: Would you date you? Our first caller beli...

Breaking The Pattern: Leaving The Abusive Ex

29 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Our exes can only have as much power and access as we give them. Iyanla explains how the stories we tell ourselves contribute to that dynamic. In the ...

Exes: Completing the Relationship of Unfinished Business

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Exes. We all have them but we can't always let go of them. Two callers share their struggles with letting go and creating boundaries with their exes: ...

Your Money Story Is Unlimited

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In the second episode of our relationship with money series, Iyanla helps two callers re-evaluate their money stories. The first caller feels her mone...

The Desire To Have More: Your Relationship With Money

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week’s episode, Iyanla dives into the power money can have over us. The first caller feels she does not have the funds to live within her me...

Reframe Your Mind: Regaining Control Of Your Life

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, two callers struggle with the current state of the world and how it's impacting their lives. The first caller lives in such a state o...

The God Jar: Finding Peace In A Challenging World

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

With so much disaster and heartbreak going on in the world, Iyanla welcomes a woman to share the story of how recent events have taken a toll on her m...

Finding Your TRUE Self Relationship

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla shares some deeply personal stories about learning to love herself and her now-infamous “quilting fabric” story to help two new callers who...

Finding Your Genius Zone: Strengthening Your Relationship With You

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla is taking a deep dive into self-respect and self-value. So when two callers join to share their own negative images of themselves, Iyanla tells...

Relationship Autopsy: A Reflection of the Relationship with Yourself

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

After Iyanla takes two calls seeking relationship autopsies, she quickly realizes that neither caller has ever had a successful relationship. The firs...

Soul Matching w/ Reginald Lewis: Part 2

27 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Special guest, Reginald Lewis, the soul-matcher, returns to work with two women in the latest R Spot episode. Iyanla welcomes a caller who constantly ...

Do You Know Who You Are Now? w/ Reginald Lewis: Part 1

20 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla brings special guest, Reginald Lewis, the soul-matcher, to help sort through some issues in a very tumultuous relationship. This week’s calle...

Convenience Store Dads

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Two callers are ready to learn to co-parent with their exes, but Iyanla suspects there are deeper issues at play. The first caller is deep in a custod...

Relationship Autopsy: Dissecting Love’s Demise

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode, Iyanla conducts relationship autopsies, uncovering their true cause of death. Two callers share their heartbreaking stories: o...

How To Heal w/ Stephan Speaks: Part 2

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Stephan Speaks returns to spill the tea on the truth about how men date. This time, Iyanla and Stephan discuss the wandering penis versus the accident...

The Truth Behind His Words and Actions w/ Stephan Speaks: Part 1

21 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Iconic truth-teller and YouTube superstar Stephan Speaks shares the real real about how men exist in relationships. From men who never let themselves ...

The Other Woman

14 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This Valentine’s Day, Iyanla wants to dive into a topic not often discussed by talking to callers who are currently cheating, not being cheated on. ...

Little Girls In High Heels

07 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla’s caller this week joins with a very interesting dilemma: Her adult daughter lives in her house, but won’t speak to her. They haven’t tal...

The Invisible Ache w/ Courtney B. Vance and Dr. Robin Smith

31 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In a special episode, Iyanla is joined by actor Courtney B. Vance and Dr. Robin Smith to discuss their new book: The Invisible Ache, which dives deep ...

Men Get Cheated On, Too

24 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In an inspirational and transformational episode, Iyanla speaks with a man whose past two marriages ended when each wife cheated on him. After, he’s...

Why Do Men Do What They Do? W/ Ace Metaphor: Part 2

17 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In the second half of Iyanla’s interview with relationship-expert Ace Metaphor, they deep dive into men who cheat, and cover some risky topics in a ...

Why Do Men Do What They Do? w/ Ace Metaphor: Part 1

10 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Joining Iyanla for a special one-on-one episode this week is YouTuber and relationship expert, Ace Metaphor. Not only does Iyanla respect his insight ...

Mothers & Daughters

03 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A woman in deep breakdown with her mother for over the past decade calls Iyanla to vent about the frustration and anxiety she feels about the relation...

Your Feelings Are Worthy

27 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When two new callers who have been hurt by loved ones join Iyanla to explore the path toward healing, she has them pause and first acknowledge how the...

Grocery Shopping with My Mother w/ Kevin Powell: Part 2

20 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Returning for another deep dive conversation about mothers and sons is Author, activist and hip-hop artist Kevin Powell. This week, two new callers sh...

Grocery Shopping with My Mother w/ Kevin Powell: Part 1

13 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Author, activist and hip-hop artist Kevin Powell joins Iyanla in a special episode to talk about his new album Grocery Shopping With My Mother. Iyanla...

Can A Woman Propose To Her Man?

06 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla read a story about a woman proposing to her boyfriend and saw some of the incredibly interesting backlash about it online. So this week, Iyanla...

How Do Men Deal With Cheating?

29 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla has always wondered: How do men handle being cheated on? So for this week’s episode, she dives in deep with two men who have had their hearts...

Is It You?

22 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

With a second season and a fun new format, Iyanla returns to dive into four caller’s issues in a single episode by asking the question: Is it him, o...

You Can’t Have Self Worth Without A Self

15 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Taking an important lesson from her interview with Jada Pinkett Smith, Iyanla deep dives into the importance of self worth and where it comes from. Tw...

The R Spot Returns With Season 2 On November 15th

08 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla is back and ready to dive into more relationships for the second season of The R Spot, complete with some extra flavor for her “soup” with ...

Other People's Onion

01 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In an episode all about shifting your perspective, Iyanla’s caller this week feels as though she’s the black sheep of the family, and can’t have...

The Self Worth Journey w/ Jada Pinkett Smith

25 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this intimate one-on-one with Jada Pinkett Smith Iyanla and Jada dive deep into the actresses self journey toward healing beyond the camera. In thi...

Your Joy Is Your Job

04 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When two callers join Iyanla for conversations about their problems with family, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue: Both women are dealing with le...

Big Girl Panties

27 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When two women share their on-the-rocks marriage problems, Iyanla tells them it’s time to admit what they already know. The first caller’s husband...

Your Life is Fill In The Blank

20 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What people experience as a child can have resonating ramifications for how they develop into adulthood. Two callers this week are working through the...

Growing Lady Balls

13 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Blindsided by a sudden breakup shortly after closing the gap on a long distance relationship, one caller is left heartbroken and confused by the conti...

Laying On The Nail

06 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Callers this week are feeling unfulfilled in their romantic relationships, but can’t get up the courage to make a change despite clear issues. Iyanl...

Breaking Up With Your B.S.

30 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s callers think there are no more good single men out there. One woman is only attracting men who take and never give in the relationship,...

You Can't Undo Your Mother

23 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

After sharing news about her relationship with her daughter, Iyanla invites two callers to examine their desire to cut their mothers out of their live...

Letting Go Leads To Healing

16 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in ...

Prioritizing You In The Mess

09 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost ...

Men Have Feelings Too

02 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In a powerful and hopefully-enlightening episode, Iyanla speaks with a father who was former military, and is now struggling with a divorce. He’s wo...

Generational Boundaries

26 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In the final episode of Season one of The R Spot, Iyanla reflects on an important lesson with Two women who want to discuss boundaries for very differ...

Get The Feedback & Grow

19 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A young man calls Iyanla this week, looking for help in navigating the relationships with his friends and family members who all seemingly turned on h...

What Is Your Line In The Sand?

12 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When two women call Iyanla looking for advice on what to do about moving on from their current relationships, Iyanla lets them know that first, she do...

You Must Be It, Before You Can Have It

05 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, a struggling woman calls Iyanla looking to learn how she can be happy being single, but as Iyanla learns more about the caller’s situatio...

Being Honest With Yourself, Your Kids & Your Partner

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla’s first caller this week is a woman who kept the identity of her child’s father a secret, and now ends up with a daughter who feels like sh...

Diminishing Yourself In Search Of Love

21 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, two callers reach out to Iyanla to share their situations. The first woman is in a relationship with a man who has never introduced her to ...

Mothers Of Sons

14 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A mother is at her wit’s end with her son, who is now lashing out at her and calling her names. Despite the caller’s best efforts to be a good mot...

Clarity Leads To Organic Communication

07 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Two callers join Iyanla this week to recount their stories about how poor communication with their boyfriends has caused the downfall of their relatio...

Facebook Drama With Nana

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Iyanla dedicates an episode to Grandma Schnookums – a particular type of elder woman of an older generation. Iyanla’s caller is a 30-ye...

Overcoming Failed Relationships With Self Truth

24 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Two callers this week believe they can’t get over their relationships. The first woman, only 26 years old, is still hung up on her ex who chose a do...

Managing A Meddling Mother In Law

17 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s episode is all about mothers-in-law, when two women tell Iyanla that they’re both in conflict with their partners’ overbearing mothe...

Grief Shows You How People Love

10 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla’s caller this week is dealing with two major issues: An absentee partner and family members who are recently estranged. The caller recently l...

Stop Attracting Partners Like Your Parents

03 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s callers might seem very different on the surface: The first experienced abuse as a child and keeps finding herself in abusive relationsh...

Stand Up For The Woman Inside Of You

26 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Two women reach out to Iyanla today about similar issues: Feeling lost in their relationships with their husbands. The first caller’s husband told h...

It Takes Power & A Plan To Be Done

19 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When a caller joins Iyanla to express his fear about ending his marriage, it becomes apparent that he’s got no exit strategy in place. The caller is...

Letting Go Leads To Healing

12 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in ...

Stop Prescribing Yourself The Wrong Prescription

05 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla’s heard the same relationship issue again and again – when people self-diagnose the problem, which ultimately leads to misdiagnosis. In thi...

Prioritizing You In The Mess

29 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost ...

The Wild Hoo-Haa

22 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One caller is left wondering whether or not he should leave his marriage in order to gain a clear peace of mind. He feels selfish for wanting to separ...

Trauma Bond Dating

15 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla welcomes two new callers this week, and listens in as they each look for the answer on how to have healthy relationships given their toxic situ...

Thank You For The Trash

08 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla dives deep into sibling and parental relationships in an episode with a single caller who is having a breakdown with her “Guardian.” The ca...

Dealbreakers

01 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Two callers seek Iyanla’s guidance this week, each looking for the answer on whether to stay or go in their relationships. The first woman has recen...

Wise Woman Guidance

22 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When a young woman calls in search of help finding her place in the world, Iyanla shares a personal story that sparks an idea – Maybe what’s missi...

The Little People Inside Of You

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Iyanla explores the idea of the broken parts of ourselves that everyone holds inside them, yearning for what they never got as children. Iy...

Be A Man With A Plan

08 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When a struggling young man calls in with issues surrounding his own identity, Iyanla finds a way to get to the core of the issue. Her caller today fe...

What Goes Into The Wash

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla noticed a pattern – whether it’s socks or a pair of pants, what she puts inside the wash is exactly what she gets back out. So when two str...

Other People’s Onion

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In an episode all about shifting your perspective, Iyanla’s caller this week feels as though she’s the black sheep of the family, and can’t have...

Your Joy Is Your Job

18 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When two callers join Iyanla for conversations about their problems with family, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue: Both women are dealing with le...

Big Girl Panties

11 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When two women share their on-the-rocks marriage problems, Iyanla tells them it’s time to admit what they already know. The first caller’s husband...

Drawing Your Line In The Sand

04 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, two callers are unsure if they should put up with behavior they’ve been unhappy with from their partners. The first guest feels like her ...

Broken People Break People

28 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla says that sometimes one of the hardest things to do is to accept that people can come from toxic roots, and that it’s their job to uproot the...

I am My Sister, I Am Not My Sister’s Keeper

21 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Iyanla shares the story of her estranged relationship with her sister, which changed her view of every woman who enters her life. So when two women ca...

Men Have Feelings Too

14 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In a powerful and hopefully-enlightening episode, Iyanla speaks with a father who was former military, and is now struggling with a divorce. He’s wo...

Not Accepting What Shows Up

07 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, two callers have set themselves up for experiencing exactly what they don’t want in their relationships. One caller is dating a man who h...

Speak In Ten Words Or less

30 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Two callers this week believe their problems are in their current situations – one who is a self-proclaimed people pleaser, and the other, a returni...