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Chapter 1: Can I afford to move out of a house with painful memories?
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Dr. John Deloney, Ramsey personality, number one best-selling author of the book, Own Your Past, Change Your Future, and the new book coming out, Building a Non-Anxious Life. He hosts the Dr. John Deloney Show on the Ramsey Network. If you've not heard it, you should tune in.
It is a highly popular podcast, YouTube show that is exploding because he helps people with relationships, with mental health things, with boundaries issues,
with um all the things that people do it's uh sometimes very serious sometimes very fun and uh you always will learn something phone number here if you want to talk about life and money is easy it's 888-825-5225 samantha is in kansas city hi samantha how are you i'm doing well how are you better than i deserve what's up
I just lost my husband about 146 days ago.
Wow.
He took his wife and our home.
Oh, no.
And I, yes.
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Chapter 2: How can I diversify my investments effectively?
And he probably got sideways in his own mind and thought he was doing everybody a favor. Right?
I agree.
And so what I want you to hear me say is the greatest way to honor him is that you go be well. And being in that home where you don't have access to your family, where you don't have access to yourself, you don't have access to your kids, is not helping you be whole.
Every time you walk down the hall, you see it all again.
You've seen stuff that nobody should see. I've been in those homes in the middle of the night. You saw it, and it stamped itself on your heart. I suggest if you were my sister, I would tell you to move out of that house. If you were my mom, I would tell you to move out of that house.
Move out of that house.
Okay.
What will it sell for?
$420,000.
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Chapter 3: What should I do if my mom wants me to quit my job to take care of her?
Sigh. I don't think you can walk away from that last call without kind of unpacking it a little bit and just keep going and talk to somebody about their 401K or something. So I'm not going to.
And I don't know exactly what to do with it other than it's just a heavy thing, a heavy call for her to start this hour out with, for her to call and say, 146 days ago, my husband took his own life in this home. Do I sell this home? There's so many different. elements of that.
One of the things we dealt with during the Fauci quarantine was non-essential workers, essential workers, the suicide rate during the COVID craziness, that's being kind, the suicide rate was out of control. Just a lack of, I don't have any worth, I don't have any purpose or value.
You tell people they're not essential, you send them home, you trap them without contact to other humans, and then you watch the suicide rate go up. And that wasn't his case, obviously, because this was just 146 days ago. But that got us on this show and on your show talking a lot about people considering taking their own lives and just reminding people, don't. Talk to somebody, for God's sakes.
That was an important thing that I ran across years ago in grad school was this idea that How many people end up taking their life because they think they're helping other people out? It's called perceived burdens. They'll be better off. Everyone would just be better off.
The world will be better off.
Yeah. And it becomes this altruistic thing, Dave. And I can't tell you the number of suicide scenes I showed up to. There was so much thought and care put into the act of taking your life so that those coming after...
won't be bothered by it and i thought if you the amount of love and care you're putting into this if you could just see that that's how they feel about you right and so man it's uh if you do feel that please please please please call somebody and on the other side i think with that last call or something that you called out dave
Those moments get baked into our nervous system and often a change of environment, however hard that is, is really important because your body puts a GPS pin in this place and those images and that night. And as painful as it can be, sometimes a change of scenery is really critical.
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Chapter 4: What are the steps to take when planning an estate?
Count on me throwing flares up, calling 911, whatever it is, because we're going to make sure of that because we care about you and other people do too. So that's the thing. Open phones here at 888-825-5225. Evan is in Boston. Hi, Evan. How are you? I'm good. How are you doing today, Mr. Ramsey? Better than I deserve. How can I help?
Well, currently, my stance in life, I'd like to diversify my portfolio a bit better because I feel like I probably have The ratio is a bit wrong, and as I tread leaving my college degree, it would probably be my best interest to get the foundation started before I end up continuing my career.
Okay, so what's your investments in?
Currently, I have $30,000 in stock just in a brokerage, and then I have another $15,000 in a Roth IRA that I started a few years back. That's why the contributions aren't as high. and then I just have $5,000 sitting in checking the account.
Okay. I don't think you have anything to worry about much except your stock, and obviously single stocks are less diversified than a good growth stock mutual fund. That's why I don't buy them. I buy good growth stock mutual funds, and that same $30,000, instead of being in five or six, seven stocks, it would be in $90,000 to $200,000, which would give you a lot more safety.
So I would definitely do that and make sure that you're – Roth IRA is in a good growth stock mutual fund as well, spread out. But that's your foundation. And then do you have any debt? No. Good. I don't have any. And so you said you're graduating from school, right? Yeah. What's your degree?
My degree is currently finance and corporate investments.
Okay. When will you start your new job?
Okay. Well, the job, I'm still not done. I'm just now starting my senior year. I'm still debating whether or not I want to go for my master's. Okay. And what's nice is Walmart covers all that fees.
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Chapter 5: How do I cope with guilt after losing a loved one?
Okay. So I put her back with my aunties and then back in Chicago. That's where originally we're from. Months have, you know, kind of passed, you know, the healing time a little bit. It's kind of easy, but she's been really on me about moving her back to Florida and just quitting my job and just taking care of her.
Okay, so you talked about a series of investments. So is there a lot of money that your parents had?
Well, you know what? When we started, when my dad was talking to me, we was at about $725,000. But now we're down to $400,000.
Why?
Because no one took care of the stock market when he got sick.
Well, honey, the stock market hadn't gone in half.
Well, whatever investments he had, it went down. No one took care of it. Who's taking care of it now? My cousin took place of it because he's the only one that really kind of was investing in the family.
Why is your cousin taking care of your and your mother's money?
Yeah, Max, this is a whiz mind is going to be gone overnight in a vapor.
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Chapter 6: What are the emotional impacts of moving after a loss?
Thanks.
As long as she's of her right mind, otherwise the court will choose for her. Yes, she's absolutely right. Oh, I think she's of her right mind. She's used to getting her way. She's been bossing people around for about 86 years and getting away with it.
And she's probably also wading through that grief, and she's put a leash on you and said, you dragged me through this grief in whichever way I want to go. That's not how that works.
Not how that works.
Yeah.
So, Mom, I love you, and I'll be happy to help you. We're going to get your money. If I'm going to help you, here's the terms. You're going to live in Texas, where I'm moving to, to be near the grandbabies, and you'll see your great-grandbabies.
And we're going to get your money from Nick, and we're going to put it with a professional money manager that will help us and teach us how to create an income so we can hire some help to take care of you while I'm at work. But you can live in my home, and I will love you and take care of you. I am not coming to Florida. If you don't want to do that, those two things, it's okay, Mom.
It's your choice. The law says that you are allowed to make your own decisions. And it says I am, too. And so I'm going to Texas. Love to have you. Otherwise, I'll come see you in Florida when I got some days off. And if you want me to help you set up some care over there, I will. But I love you. But I'm sorry. I get to choose.
And I want if let's say she does choose Florida. I want your heartbreak to not be that you finally decided that your life had value too. I want your heartbreak to be my mom chose a retirement village in another state over me and her grandkids and her great grandkids. That's heartbreaking. That'll break my heart. That's a total like 180 to it's your job to
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Chapter 7: How can I manage family expectations during a crisis?
I was a teacher for only 10 years of my life on the high school level. I carry a master's degree, a bachelor's, uh, Now I've got more money than I know what to do with. Any suggestions?
Okay. And so there's no nieces, nephews?
None. None that I complain.
Wow. Okay.
And we're talking seven, eight figures. We're not talking $25,000. Yeah. So this has got to be a new one for you.
It's not one I get every week, that's for sure, but I don't know. But anyway, it's new. I've never talked to Larry about it, so that's new. You know, we at Ramsey and our Ramsey Family Foundation, while I'm alive, give to things that we have personal connection to. There are a bazillion things out there that do ministries and charities that do really good work and do it efficiently.
There's a lot of them. But there's more of them than there is money. And so instead, we pick out something that we – personally one of us in the ramsey family has a connection to the people that are doing the ministry and what it does and so uh you know if there's something about the way you grew up or something about you admire
uh this or that you're you're huge on edge your wife is a teacher you're huge on education you want to set up some scholarships uh you uh uh you know you spent some time in foster care so you want to take care of foster kids i don't know what larry's whole story is but there's something that uh tweaks your heart and that's where i would suggest you start
investigating those particular ministries or charities, and we want to leave them a good amount, but we don't want to leave them so much we ruin them. But on the other hand, and we want to make sure they're well-operated and that they actually, if their thing is feeding hungry children, that they're actually feeding hungry children.
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Chapter 8: What advice can I get for navigating financial decisions after a death?
If you live like no one else, you get to live and give like no one else. And so it's pretty cool. There's a lot of fun stuff you could do with it. It doesn't have to be. some stodgy trust to some, uh, dusty university, right? I mean, it can be, it can be really flamboyant and crazy and wild and fun and, uh, and it should be.
Malcolm Gladwell has got some really remarkable writings about, uh, giving your $9 or $10 million to a school that has $8 billion versus what that $5,000 would do for that family. It could change everything for them.
If I were in your shoes and you're that, so he's got to be in his 80s, right? I'd be about the business of doing that right now. I would do something and figure out a way.
That'd become the new Saturday crossword puzzle. I'm going to sit here on my front porch. I'm going to get out there and change some lives.
I'm going to figure out somewhere to get away $5,000 in the next six hours.
I'm going to get a couple of my knuckle-headed buddies, and we're going to the Waffle House, and we're going to start tipping waitresses and waiters and cooks like you have never seen.
Like $1,000 each. That's right, man. Go out and sit in the car and watch them dance. Yeah, I love it. Works for me, man.
That's better than any movie you're going to watch.
I'll guarantee you. Yeah, that could be really fun. I think that'd be a great way to spend a Saturday. That puts us out of the Ramsey Show in the books. Dave here. You can find all of our shows with the Ramsey network app on your smartphone. It's the only place to listen to the entire back catalog of episodes. Download the Ramsey network app in your favorite app store today.
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