Chapter 1: What financial questions are addressed in this episode?
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First, we have Emma in Ohio kicking off the show. Hi, Emma. Welcome to the show. Hi, thanks for having me. Yes, absolutely. How can we help? So basically, the car I'm currently driving, there's still $15,000 owed on it, and it's not in my name. My mom's ex-husband signed on it for me, and the divorce was messy. So he's been letting me pay it off while I'm still in college.
But the payments are $420 a month. And it's just too high for my income right now. And I've tried to work with him to, you know, get it dealt with. And he's not very cooperative. Well, he should be. His name's on it. If something happens to the car, it's all in his. Are you on it at all? No. Oh, then just drop it back off to him. Yeah, well, that's what I'm planning on doing today.
I'm actually driving home. It's two and a half hours away. I'm driving home, and I have the opportunity to get a car for $1,000 down from a family friend who owns a dealership, and he'll let me basically pay $200 a month on it, and it's a $3,500 car. That's within my means, and it's a reliable car. And so I guess that's my question. Should I just, you know, drop it off and tell him?
Because he's the only problem is he's threatening to sue my mom.
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Chapter 2: How can I handle a car loan situation with family involvement?
Well, what's what's what's his basis legally to do that? I mean, yeah, I was going to say, I mean, there's not much he can do in a court system unless there was something in the divorce decree that states that this was an asset or something. I don't know if there was something in there about the car. Is there? Yeah.
The only thing that I know that was in there was that he basically has the right to repossess it if it gets behind. Yeah, which is exactly what he would do. It's his car. Just hand it to him. Just give it to him. Yeah, which is kind of what I'm trying to explain. How old were you when you took this loan out from him? I think I was virtually 19. Okay. And I'm 21 now.
yeah i mean yeah i'm torn and i'm i'm talking to rachel here on your behalf i'm torn between it's his car it's he signed the note for it and he gave it to a teenager which is his issue it's his issue give it back and also if you were 17 or 16 this would be a no-brainer for me part of it is you were 19 and you shook hands and said i'll pay this thing and so there is i mean
You're going back on your word, is what John's saying. But you can't afford it. From a moral standpoint. Well, and if we're talking all morals, he should be able to say, okay, great, if you can't pay it, then as the guy that puts you in this position, let me go ahead and just sell it and help you figure it out. But please don't then go jump into another family loan situation.
That's what I was going to say. You're not going to like that part of my advice. Yeah, don't do that. What's your... Are you working or are you just a full-time student? I work and go to school, yes. Okay. And do you have any money saved? Um, just the, I have 800 saved right now. Um, and my, I'm engaged in my future. Mother-in-law was going to loan me another 200. No, no, no, don't do that.
Don't do that. Don't do that. We got to stop the, we got to stop this whole borrowing money in general, let alone from people that we know. So Emma, I mean, if, and again, you called the show. So what I would do, number one, drop it, drop off the car. It's in his name. It's his issue. And yes, are you going back on your word? Yes. But he also did this to an 18 year old.
So it is kind of like, okay, or 19. And I don't know. It is what it is. And so that's his issue. He's going to have to figure out. And then for you, how much do you make? How much do you make a month? If you don't have this car payment, you're not paying 420. How much extra margin do you have on top of this 420 per month? I would probably have, $1,500 for the month.
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Chapter 3: What are the implications of filing for bankruptcy?
Total or extra? Extra would be an extra $500. Probably $500. OK, so honestly, what I would probably do is I would just I would work and it's so inconvenient. I know it is. But the car you're talking about is what, three thousand dollars or something. And just say, hey, it's going to you have eight hundred dollars that you're starting with, which is great.
And just say, hey, this is going to take me a couple of months. I'm going to be inconvenienced. I'm probably going to be asking people. for rides here and there, you know, I mean, it's going to be annoying for a few months, but that way you at least have cash saved up. So you're not continuing this cycle.
And I know you may not do that, but that is, that's probably what I would do just to avoid any more debt to avoid getting back into this, this yeah, this payment cycle of cars. You're going to owe money to your mother-in-law first. Which means you're going to be in debt to her, not only financially. And she might be a great, wonderful person.
If she called into the show, I would say just give you $200 if that's what she wants to do. Yeah, because what's $200 going to do? I don't get it. Well, it's going to get her the $1,000 as a down payment. Oh, for the car? Yeah, you have to borrow the down payment to them for the privilege of borrowing more money from yet another family member.
in the middle of a situation that you're dealing with, which is you borrowed money from a family member. It just creates so much internal chaos. Yeah, and it'll literally be three months, three months to pay cash for it. And the fact that it's a $3,200, $3,200 car, Maybe you can talk them down to 3,000. Do you know what I'm saying? Or 2,500 bucks if I go get cash.
If I have cash, can I pay you this in 60 days?
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Chapter 4: How can I find more margin in my budget to pay off debt?
And I would figure a way out. Because what that's going to start, Emma, is this new way of not just looking at money, but acting out of a set of principles. that is gonna be good for you long-term. And this is a really small step to do that. So in my head, I'm like, it's really encouraging. You know what I mean? That you have the opportunity to buy this car. It's not that much money.
You're working hard. You're making some good money that you can set aside each month. Here's exactly how I would have this conversation at 21 years old. I would call the family member who's gonna sell this. Who's selling it to you? My, my fiance's family friend. Okay. I would call that family friend and say the following.
I am dealing with a relationship issue where I borrowed money from a family member and it has cost me tons of grief. And so I've made a commitment to not put relationships, not put money between me and those that I love and care about. And so I really want that car. I don't have $3,200 and I've committed to not borrowing money, especially from friends and from family.
And so please hold that car for three months and I'm going to work really, really hard to save up that money. Either what's going to happen is they're going to say, give me a thousand bucks and I'll just sell you this car because that's pretty awesome and noble. I want to be a part of supporting a young 21-year-old like that.
Or I promise you there's going to be $3,000 cars that are all over the place coming up. So if they sell it, then so be it. You Ubering around and getting rides for three months will change your life because you will never, ever, ever, ever, ever borrow money again. And then you'll never find yourself in a situation where you owe your stepdad and your stepdad's threatening to sue you.
Your ex-stepdad. I mean, it's just like, yeah. Good grief. But yeah, great. I hate that you're in this situation. Totally honor the, I mean, I appreciate the call, but. I don't think we would be doing our job if we told you, yes, get out of this bad situation where you borrowed money from a family member and go do it with two other people.
I wouldn't sleep well knowing that we told you to go do that. Yeah, so it's a little bit of a different reason why you called is how we ended it. But yeah, I think it's going to give you more peace. And again, it's going to set you up for a way of making decisions with money that's going to just prosper you in the future instead of take away your income. I love entrepreneurs.
Don't forget, guys, I started my company on a card table myself. So I know what it's like to have people counting on you, your team, your family, not to mention your customers. And when you're the one signing the paychecks, you can't afford to fly blind.
But I'll be honest, early on, one thing that nearly sunk us was wasting time with spreadsheets that didn't add up because business units didn't talk to each other. I finally told my team, just fix it. And they did. We got NetSuite. That was years ago, and we've never looked back. See, NetSuite isn't just for tech giants. It's built for growing businesses like yours.
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Chapter 5: What strategies can help in managing credit card debt effectively?
Because your credit card debt is what? Four, five thousand? Yeah. $16,500. $16,000. Okay. And how much is the medical debt? Like $1,500. It's not much. Okay. So that, yeah, that can be cleaned up. Yeah. So you guys, technically, if you think about it, once this house sells and the land sells, you guys have $16,000 of credit card debt to clean up.
And then you could do that, golly, in, you know, six months or something. No, you're making extra $4,000 a month.
Chapter 6: How can one prepare financially for potential health crises?
You can do it in four months. Yeah. Three months. Well, that's, that's the goal is like, we're with how much extra we're making our, with our side of jobs. I know Kristen, but that was, okay, let me just, I do want to just, cause I love you. So I'm like, I, it was not your goal. Cause you guys were like, well, we may rent it out. Oh no, my husband there, you know, we bought our land.
Like these weren't options at the beginning of the call, but John and I just freed you guys, freed you up. So you have to make some decisions of what, or you're going to be like, you're going to be doing this. for so many years and it's not worth it. It's not worth it. You're going to wind up pregnant. One of y'all is going to wind up needing to go back to the hospital.
One of your parents is going to get like, it's just life is going to happen.
Chapter 7: What are the best practices for transitioning a 529 plan for children?
Yes. So again, these things are not bad. I want you to have land. I really do. I just want it to be yours. Yes, exactly. So get an emergency fund in place. You guys start investing after you pay this off, then start saving some money on the side and yeah, and find some land. And I mean, it may be five or six years, but that's okay. It's great. That's okay.
But just do it slowly and with cash, Kristen. So I know you called about your friends, but we're your friends too. So we just gave you some advice. Your friends are right on this one.
Chapter 8: What steps should be taken to rebuild finances after caregiving?
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Head to WhyRefi.com slash Ramsey to find out more. That's the letter Y, R-E-F-Y dot com slash Ramsey. Not available in all states. All right. My husband and I are 45 and 43 years old. We've been married for one year and following your suggestions, we combined our money together. This was uncomfortable at first because both of us had financial trauma in our previous relationships.
Good for you guys. Not for having trauma, but for... feeling that and then going to do the next right thing. It's amazing. However, we trust each other and it's been great. We feel closer together because we are making shared decisions around money. Awesome. We make around $250,000 a year combined and we have over a million dollars in assets. Amazing.
We own previous homes, which we are using as rental properties and we have opened an investment account together. Our question is, we're both recovering from alcoholism, seven years sober for me and eight for him, and we're both still active in AA. Should we do anything to protect ourselves if the other person relapses? It sounds like y'all are doing those things right now.
which are, we're talking about hard things. We're putting past traumas on the table and we're acknowledging them. And then we're choosing to go do the next right thing. Y'all are staying in AA, which means you have sponsors. You've got people that are walking in life with you. It sounds like y'all are doing those things.
And so if you were sitting, if this couple is sitting with me, Rachel, if Lindsay was sitting with me and her husband, I would ask, Usually this question comes up when something's starting to feel wobbly. Yeah. And so I'd want to know what's the basis behind this question.
But as far as two people who have trauma in your past, who have struggled with substance abuse in the past, y'all are doing all of the right things. And man, I would hug both of them if they were sitting there. I'm proud of them. Incredible. And so I guess the next question I would ask is what are you trying to do to protect yourselves?
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