The Affair Recovery Room
Episodes
Out of Betrayal’s Fire: The Rising Phoenix Story Part 2
07 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Healing after betrayal is not a moment. It's not a decision you make once and then move forward from. It's a process, and for most people, it's longer...
Out of Betrayal’s Fire: The Rising Phoenix Story Part 1
31 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When Michelle discovered her husband's affair, she didn't find out through a conversation or a confession. She woke up one morning, saw a laptop left ...
From Suffering to Love, Part 2: Gratitude and Love
24 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Anthony Silard and Tim Tedder continue working through the love progression model, picking up where they left off after acceptance and forgiveness. Th...
From Suffering to Love, Part 1: Acceptance and Forgiveness
17 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When trust is shattered by infidelity, the path forward can feel impossibly dark. The betrayed partner wonders if love is even possible anymore. The o...
Setting Good Boundaries: Pleasing, Controlling, or Caring?
10 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Barb Nangle grew up in a home shaped by infidelity and codependency, and without realizing it, she carried those patterns into her own adult life. Her...
Better Conversations In Troubled Times
03 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Tim talks with couples therapist and communication expert Raffi Bilek about what healthy communication really looks like after infidelity. They explor...
The Post-Affair Marriage: Who Broke It? Who Should Fix It?
24 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When a marriage is damaged by infidelity, two questions emerge: Who broke it? And who has to fix it? The answers are rarely as simple as we’d like. ...
Can You Have a Better Marriage after Infidelity?
18 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you feel stuck in a marriage after an affair? Can you make it better? In this episode, Tim sits down with Dr. Amy and Roy Clark, a...
Deciding to Stay In Your Marriage: The Involved Partner
10 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we take a look at the Involved Partner’s responsibility in healing a relationship after their affair. Tim Teder talks with Dr. Deb ...
Deciding to Stay In Your Marriage: The Injured Partner
03 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Staying after an affair is only the beginning. Real healing requires clarity, courage, and collaboration from both partners. In this episode, Tim Tedd...
Deciding to Leave After an Affair: Emotional, Relationship, and Religious Considerations
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Discussing the difficult decision to leave a marriage after an affair. In this second episode, counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Barbour discuss grief,...
Deciding to Leave After an Affair: When and Why to Heal Alone
27 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Affair recovery counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Barbour talk honestly about the difficult decision to leave a marriage after an affair. In this first...
Promo: Podcast LIVE CHAT
22 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Are you interested in a regular, online group conversation about recent Recovery Room episodes, hosted by Tim Tedder? If so, we need your input.Fill O...
Is there Meaning in this Pain?
20 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Tim Tedder sits down with psychologist Bruce Chalmer, a longtime couples therapist who helps partners navigate betrayal, conflict, and change. Bruce s...
Betrayed and Abandoned: Interview with Linda MacDonald
13 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
As an author and therapist specializing in affair recovery, Linda MacDonald never imagined she would face the very crisis she had spent years helping ...
The Best Clips of 2025, Part 2
06 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Another collection of the best clips from our podcast episodes in 2025, with comments from Tim Tedder. In Part 2, we hear clips from these episodes:Ep...
The Best Clips of 2025, Part 1
30 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A collection of the best clips from our podcast episodes in 2025, with comments from Tim Tedder. In Part 1, we hear clips from these episodes:Episode ...
Perspectives on Compromises: The Fog & the Light
22 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most affairs don’t begin with a dramatic decision. They begin with something small: a conversation, a shared laugh, a spark of attention that feels ...
Married to a Narcissist
10 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Affair Recovery Room, Tim sits down with coach and author Annette Chesney to talk about one of the most confusing and painful d...
Kevin Leaves: His Third Year
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this final episode of Kevin Leaves, we return to Kevin’s story during the third year after he left his marriage and family. By this time, more th...
Kevin Leaves: His Second Year
25 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 3 of Kevin Leaves returns to Kevin’s story after a six-month pause in our conversations. By this point, he’s been away from his family for...
Kevin Leaves: His First Year
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this second episode of Kevin Leaves, Kevin reflects on his first Christmas after leaving his family, a holiday filled with both warmth and grief. H...
Kevin Leaves: His First Few Months
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kevin Leaves is a four-part series built from three years of recorded conversations with a man who walked away from his marriage and children to pursu...
More Bad Advice about Affair Recovery
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this follow-up to Some Bad Advice About Affair Recovery, Tim tackles five more common myths that often derail genuine healing after infidelity. The...
Some Bad Advice about Affair Recovery
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a lot of advice out there about how to recover from infidelity. Not all of it is good. In this episode (the first of a two-part series), Tim...
How Long Does Affair Recovery Take?
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
“How long will this take?” It’s the question every betrayed and unfaithful partner asks after an affair. Some people want to move on as quickly ...
Understand WHY: The Reasons You Cheat
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The question “Why did you do it?” is one of the hardest parts of affair recovery. In this episode, Tim Tedder explores why many unfaithful partner...
What Counts as Cheating… Really?
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What actually counts as cheating? A kiss? A message? A “like” on an ex’s beach photo? In this episode, Tim Tedder explores how couples define (a...
Stop Repairing Your Marriage After an Affair
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
After infidelity, many couples try to repair their marriage by patching cracks, setting up boundaries, and promising fidelity. While those steps are e...
Light of Grace
26 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does grace look like for those who feel beyond it? Tim Tedder and Betsy Prentice reflect on Light of Grace—a song that opens the door to honest...
The Power of Forgiveness
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Forgiveness after betrayal can feel impossible. In our last episode, we explored three kinds of forgiveness that don’t work — premature, fake, and...
The Problem with Forgiveness
16 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Forgiveness after betrayal is one of the hardest, most confusing challenges couples face. Everyone agrees it’s important, but what does forgiveness ...
How To Sleep Again Part 2
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the second episode of a two-part series, Tim talks further with certified sleep coach Yana Vriesinga about post-infidelity insomnia and how to heal...
How To Sleep Again Part 1
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Infidelity often wrecks sleep. In the first of a two-part series, Tim talks with certified sleep coach Yana Vriesinga about post-infidelity insomnia a...
The Truth About Affair Recovery
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tim Tedder asks the hard question: What is the truth about affair recovery? Too often, people are given unrealistic promises on one end—“your marr...
ILYBINILWY: “I’m not IN love with you.”
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Few phrases hit harder than “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” In this episode, Tim Tedder explores what it really means, why it often ...
Multiple Affairs: The Couple
22 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Can a marriage survive not just one affair, but dozens? In this episode, Ryan and Jen share their remarkable story of heartbreak, hard work, and the s...
Multiple Affairs: The Counselors
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When infidelity happens more than once, recovery gets even harder. Therapists Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras unpack the challenges of multiple affair...
6 Affair Motives
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Not all affairs start for the same reason. Discover the motives that drive infidelity and how each shapes the road to healing.Why do people have affai...
SongTalk: Haunting of My Heart
08 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A song of loss, longing, and lingering hope.In this episode, Tim Tedder and guest Betsy Prentice discuss The Haunting of My Heart—a song written fro...
Runaway Husbands Part 2
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
An abandoned wife talks about her experience and how she’s grown beyond the betrayal. Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras conclude their discussion of ...
Runaway Husbands Part 1
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Discussing the book, Runaway Husbands, and its message to wives who have been unexpectedly abandoned, Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras give their input...
Crossing the Line: Steps Into Infidelity
26 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Explore the compromising choices and justifications that lead to infidelity. This episode examines two affairs to understand how this happens in real-...
SongTalk: Lovely Fruit
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The blinding pull of an affair and self-deception are explored as Tim Tedder and Suzanne Jahnke discuss "Lovely Fruit," a song Tim wrote to his former...
It Feels Like Love: The Neuroscience of Limerence
18 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Learn about limerence, that “falling in love” feeling, from neuroscientist Dr. Tom Bellany in this candid conversation with therapists Tim Tedder ...
The Ping Pong Effect
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
An honest consideration of the indecision between choosing your spouse or your affair partner, based on the personal experience and professional work ...
Gaslighting: You Make Me Crazy
12 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A conversation about gaslighting: What is it? Where does the term come from? How does it show up in affair recovery? What should you do if you’re be...
SongTalk: This Healing Place
09 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The song “This Healing Place” is discussed by Tim Tedder, LMHC, and Suzanne Janke, LCSW, who consider the creative process and the song’s messa...
Elisa’s Story 3: The Children, The AP
06 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Part 3 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. She discusses dealing with her children and with the affair partner....
Elisa’s Story 2: Clarity, Pain, Choices
04 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Part 2 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. This is part 2 of a 3-part interview conducted by Tim Tedder. Elisa ...
Elisa’s Story 1: The Betrayal
02 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Part 1 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. This is part 1 of a 3-part interview conducted by Tim Tedder.EPISODE...
Another Beginning
29 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Listen to our official welcome to an all-new season of our podcast, focusing on affair recovery issues.EPISODE NOTES00:00 Introduction 01:00 Opening c...