The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno
Episodes
S3 | Session 5: What Does Your Fear Need?
24 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever fought so hard for a connection that one day, you simply run out of energy? You stop yelling. You stop protesting. You just… go quiet....
S3 | Session 4: Building a Positive Cycle from the Fear of Disappointment
17 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Leading up to this week's session, we have established a new foundation of vulnerability and we tackle one of the biggest challenges in their relation...
S3 | Session 3: He Probably Wishes He Hadn't Chosen Me
10 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If you listened to our previous episode, you know Rachel and Mike ended their first session with a beautiful breakthrough. But in the real world of re...
S3 | Session 2: Escaping to the Head When the Heart Gets Scared
03 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to the second half of our first session with Rachel and Mike . After Rachel courageously opens up about her deep grief and abandonment f...
S3 | Session 2: Escaping to the Head When the Heart Gets Scared
03 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to the second half of our first session with Rachel and Mike . After Rachel courageously opens up about her deep grief and abandonment fe...
S3 | Session 1: Setting the TEMPO to Uncover Deep Wounds
24 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We are kicking off Season 3 with a brand new couple, Rachel and Mike. Unlike previous seasons, we are using an intensive therapy model, diving deep i...
Season 3 Trailer: I Leave You Because I Leave Me
17 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In Season 3 of The Secure Love Podcast, Julie Menanno introduces Rachel and Mike—a couple who look perfect on paper but are quietly drowning in the ...
The Season 2 Debrief: A Live Q&A with Julie
03 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Following the season finale, we gathered for a special live Q&A to process this journey together. With the couple absent, Julie takes the floor to ans...
Session 19: Unpacking Shame and The Reality of Healing (Season Finale)
20 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We enter the final session of Season 2 with a deep dive into the roots of shame. Julie steps in to distinguish shame from guilt, helping Brian see tha...
Session 18: Understanding the Anxious Partner - The Path to Accountability (Pt. 2)
13 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We begin in a difficult place, with Brian feeling targeted and defensive, and still strugging to see his role in the negative cycle. Julie confronts ...
Session 17: Understanding the Anxious Partner - The Path to Accountability (Pt. 1)
06 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We begin with a powerful example of breaking generational cycles: Brian shares a breakthrough moment with his daughter, helping her process bullying i...
Session 16: "Full Breathable Lungs": The Power of Vulnerability
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We continue to ride a wave of progress this week. Bethany and Brian report zero negative cycles, and Bethany steps up during a family crisis, healing ...
Session 15: Healing the Wound of "Not Mattering"
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We start with a victory: Bethany and Brian successfully navigate a conflict without spiraling, turning a sarcastic comment into a moment of repair . D...
Session 14: Moving Towards a Positive Cycle
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We are finally seeing genuine momentum. This week, Bethany and Brian report being in a "good space," having successfully navigated a conflict without ...
Session 13: From Bad Guy to Bad A**: The Avoidant Partner Reclaims Her Voice
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Last week, we explored the "why" behind Bethany's avoidant behavior. This week, we go deeper, uncovering the pain she has been silently carrying to ke...
Session 12: The Very Good Reasons Why The Avoidant Partner Avoids
25 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Last week, we sat with Brian's heavy narrative that Bethany is "out to get him." This week, we turn the lens around to understand the experience of ...
Session 11: I Just Don't Think She Really Cares About Me
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
After a long holiday break, Bethany and Brian have lost momentum and are "not in a good spot." Brian opens the session feeling "checked out" and asks,...
Session 10: Does it Get Worse Before It Gets Better?
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is there an expiration date on old wounds? This week, Brian struggles with seeing Bethany receive empathy for her car accident, as it triggers a deep,...
A Year Later with Melissa & Drew (Season 1 Update)
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we take a special mid-season break to catch up with our Season 1 couple, Melissa and Drew. It's been a year since we last heard from them, ...
Session 9: The Knock-Down, Drag-Out Fight for Co-Regulation
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when a couple survives a major crisis, only to be thrown back into their negative cycle by a simple text message? This week, after Betha...
Session 8: Why Do We Lie?
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we lie to the people we love? This week, we dive into that question by exploring the roots of Bethany's financial dishonesty—a betrayal that ...
Session 7: The Original Wounds of the Negative Cycle
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For anyone wondering why they keep hitting the same wall in their relationship, this session is essential listening. This week, we go back to the begi...
Session 6: Can a Relationship Ever Really Be 50-50?
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever gotten caught up in the "50/50" debate in your relationship? This week, we explore the messy, emotional reality that lives underneath th...
Session 5: I Didn't Get Married to Throw it All Away
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What is the emotional cost for the partner who is left behind in the silence? This week, we turn to Bethany's side of the story to understand her expe...
Session 4: Why Does Leaving Feel Better Than Staying?
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when the fear of being hurt makes leaving feel safer than staying? This week, we dive deep into Brian and Bethany's journey as Brian shar...
Session 3: When You Get Scared, I Get Scared
16 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when a real-life crisis puts your relationship's progress to the ultimate test? This week, a stressful weekend surrounding their daughter...
Session 2: "Second-Class Citizen" – Understanding What Lies Behind the Anger
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's session, we dive deeper into Brian's inner world as he unpacks the painful feeling of being a "second-class citizen" in his relationshi...
Session 1: WiFi Passwords & The Corny Suit of Vulnerability
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the Season 2 premiere, we meet Bethany and Brian, a couple stuck in a painful cycle of conflict fueled by their attachment styles, Brian's anxious ...
Season 2 Trailer: Can They Find Their Way Back?
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In Season 2 of The Secure Love Podcast, licensed therapist and author Julie Menanno returns with a new couple: Bethany and Brian, separated, on the br...
Unpacking the Journey: A Live Q&A with Melissa, Drew, and Julie
03 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this special live Q&A episode, Melissa, Drew, and Julie reflect on their transformative journey through 20 sessions of couples therapy. Hear why Me...
The Journey Toward a Secure Love (Season Finale)
26 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Julie works with Drew and Melissa in their final therapy session, focusing on Dr...
Do You Think That He Can Love This Anxious Part of You?
20 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the Secure Love Podcast the focus continues on Melissa's experience as the anxious partner and her journey toward self-acceptance. The ep...
Perfectionism to Self-Regulation: The Anxious Partner's Journey
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno focuses on Melissa's anxious attachment style, exploring her emotional regulation chall...
The Anxious-Avoidant Conflict Resolution
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this revealing episode of the Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno explores the intricate balance of emotional engagement and self-regulation in...
What the Anxious Partner Needs vs What the Anxious Partner Communicates
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, Julie Menanno explores the complex communication patterns between Melissa, the anxious partner, and her hu...
What Happens When the Avoidant Partner Faces Their Anger?
22 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, couples therapist Julie Menanno focuses on Drew, the avoidant partner in his relationship with Melissa, as...
Fear, Frustration and the Other Side of the Protest
15 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno continues working with Melissa and Drew, building on their previous se...
A Protest for Love: Fighting to be Seen
08 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, Julie explores the challenges Melissa and Drew face during their anniversary trip. Despite overall enjoyme...
The Social Shift: When Motherhood Redefines Marriage Dynamics
02 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, host Julie Menanno delves into the evolving dynamics of Melissa and Drew's marriage as they navigate the life-altering effects of par...
The Shame That Blocks Connection
24 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, Drew confronts his deep-seated feelings of shame, tracing their roots back to childhood experiences, inclu...
Understanding the Anxious Partner
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host and couples therapist Julie Menanno focuses on Melissa, the anxious partner in her relationship w...
Choosing Each Other: Finding Connection Amidst Family Pressure
04 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Drew and Melissa share the challenges they faced during a 10-hour road trip to a family beach vacation with their three kids. Surroun...
Facing the Inner Critic: Moving from Shame to Vulnerability
21 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Drew, the avoidant partner in his relationship with Melissa, begins to confront his deep-seated feelings of inadequacy and shame. Dre...
What Happens When Shared Fears Aren't Communicated?
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew face the ongoing challenge of truly understanding each other's emotional states. A...
Moving Towards a Positive Cycle & Understanding the Avoidant Partner
06 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew recount a transformative moment from their Fourth of July weekend. Picture this: a...
Unraveling the Roots of the Negative Cycle Pt. 2
30 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week's episode of The Secure Love Podcast opens with Drew reflecting on the early years of their marriage. His reflection leads to a heartfelt ap...
Unraveling the Roots of the Negative Cycle Pt. 1
24 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode of the Secure Love Podcast, we dive into Part 1 of a compelling two-part series exploring deep-rooted challenges in Melissa and Dre...
Finding Balance in Chaos: Who Gets to Hurt Worse?
16 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew dive into a common household challenge that many parents face: the chaos that gree...
Handling Crisis: The Anxious-Avoidant Clash
09 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew share their breakthroughs and real-life applications of their therapy work with Julie Menanno. ...
Take Me Out to the Ballgame: Navigating Attachment Fears and Finding Co-Regulation
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew find themselves caught in a familiar struggle at a baseball game with their kids. Drew c...
Breaking the Negative Cycle
24 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In the first episode of The Secure Love Podcast, we meet Melissa and Drew, a couple navigating the complexities of their relationship. Melissa opens u...
The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno - Trailer
20 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to The Secure Love Podcast: Real Time Couples Therapy with Julie Menanno. Join licensed therapist Julie Menanno as she uses Emotionally Focuse...