The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne
Episodes
#303: Going on a News Cleanse
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim John Payne addresses how constant news exposure erodes our ability to be present with our children. He explains that modern news ...
#299: If Rhythms Need To Change
11 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim John Payne explores how families can navigate changes in rhythms while still preserving the security that predictability provides...
#295: Kindling a Child's Competency
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim John Payne explores how small, repeated household rituals build both motor skills and a sense of competency in children. He expla...
#287: Saying, Feeling & Doing Sorry
18 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this monthly episode of Simplicity Parenting, Kim John Payne explores the difference between asking children to say sorry and helping them genuinel...
#287: Slow, Low and No Means No
19 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim John Payne explores how parents can set clear, loving boundaries in ways that truly reach their children. He explains that when w...
#286: Emotionally Resilient Kids: Part Five - Anika Reclaims Her True Self
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this final part of the five-part Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens series, Kim John Payne concludes “Annika’s Story,” the true account o...
#285: Emotionally Resilient Kids: Part Four - The Compromises Anika Makes
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this fourth part of the five-part Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens series, Kim John Payne continues reading from “Annika’s Story,” foll...
#284: Emotionally Resilient Kids: Part Three - Anika struggles to fit in
22 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this third part of the five-part series on Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens, Kim John Payne reads aloud “Annika’s Story” from the book ...
#283: Emotionally Resilient Kids: Part Two - Helping Children Respond to Teasing Without Reacting
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this second part of the five-part series on Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens, Kim John Payne continues exploring how parents can guide childr...
#282: The Emotionally Resilient Kid: Part One - Being There When Your Child Feels Left Out
13 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is the first in a five-part series drawn from Kim John Payne’s book Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens, co-authored with Luis Ferna...
#281: Interview with Richard Freed - Part Three
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the final part of their conversation, Kim and Dr. Freed shift from exposing the harms of persuasive technology to offering practical solutions. Kim...
#280: Interview with Richard Freed - Part Two
17 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the second installment of their conversation, Kim and Dr. Freed take a deeper look at how powerful interests influence public understanding of scre...
#279: Interview with Richard Freed - Part One
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this first part of a three-part fire side style chat, Kim John Payne speaks with leading psychologist Dr. Richard Freed about the growing influence...
#278: Sensing the Neeed - Getting Out Ahead Of It
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim highlights the importance of previewing and “getting out ahead” of difficult moments before they escalate. Whether it’s a g...
#277: Choosing Our Battles?
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kim addresses the common parenting dilemma of whether to correct a child’s behavior or let it go. He gently challenges the popular idea of “choosi...
#276: When Kids Are Angry They Are Vulnerable - Emotional Self Regulation - Part Five
22 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the final part of this five-part series on emotional self-regulation, Kim John Payne explores the idea that when children are angry, they are also ...
#275: Why Screen Time for Kids Makes It Hard For Us - Emotional Self-Regulation - Part Four
13 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this fourth part of this five-part series on emotional self-regulation, Kim John Payne reviews how screens can disrupt not only a child’s emotion...
#274: When It All Gets Too Much - Emotional Self Regulation - Part Three
07 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the third episode of this five-part series on Emotional Self-Regulation, Kim John Payne offers a practical, compassionate invitation to slow down. ...
#273: What Pushes Our Buttons - Emotional Self Regulation - Part Two
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the second of this five-part series on Emotional Self-Regulation, Kim John Payne explores one of the deepest challenges for parents: the feeling of...
#272: Self Care - Not Neglecting Our Own Needs - Emotional Self-Regulation - Part One
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the first of a five-part series on Emotional Self-Regulation, Kim John Payne reflects on the quiet power of micro self-care - small, intentional mo...
#271: If Not Now When - Responding To Requests & Building Up Impulse Control
17 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim John Payne explores the importance of helping children learn to delay their requests and respect the timing of others. Rather tha...
#270: Aggression Entrapment - How to Work Through Children's Meltdowns
09 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim John Payne explores a dynamic he calls “aggression entrapment,” where a child’s meltdown becomes a way to secure a parent’...
#269: The Art of De-escalation - Walking Away vs Stepping Back
04 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim John Payne explores how parents can navigate escalating situations without making a child feel abandoned. He draws a clear distin...
#268: Helping Older Siblings Feel Secure When a New Baby Arrives
25 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim shares thoughtful ways to support an older child when a newborn joins the family. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining clo...
#267: Why Teens Can Seem Distant and How to Stay Connected
20 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kim John Payne offers a view of adolescence by comparing teenage emotions to an artesian water flow. While younger children often express their feelin...
#266: Giving Children Time and Space to Wonder
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kim reflects on the beauty and importance of slow learning. He invites parents to protect and nurture a child’s natural tendency to wonder, observe,...
#265: Children's Big Feelings
04 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim John Payne explores how young children experience emotions as full-body states, rather than isolated feelings they can easily ide...
#264: Another Way to Understand It
21 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kim offers a fresh perspective on childhood anger, inviting parents to view it as a natural attempt to restore emotional balance. Anger may surface wh...
#263: The Hidden Treasures of Previewing
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim expands on the idea of previewing as a key parenting tool that brings calm and predictability to family life. He describes two ty...
#262: The Four "Its" of Problem Solving
07 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kim shares a simple yet powerful approach for when things are heading in a difficult direction with children. The process includes four steps: calm it...
#261: No. You Do It!
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we hear how to help a child who insists on being helped do things they are perfectly capable of doing themselves, and how to support t...
#260: Bed Time Hostage Taking
25 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we explore why children cling on to a parent at bedtime and refuse to sleep unless they mom/dad/caregiver is laying next to them. As a...
#259: Plan B - Helping Tweens & Teens Adjust
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we explore how to help tween and teens develop a plan for when things go wrong and how to adjust in order to keep moving towards their...
#258: Getting Our Timing Right
09 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we explore how to sense when the moment is right to give a simple day-to-day instruction, or to have one of “those” talks that eve...
#257: Restraint Collapse After the School Day
02 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we discuss the concept of restraint collapse and the need for decompression points to help children manage their stress. Kim also emph...
#256: Talking Through Things With Tween & Teens
26 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When issues come up with tween and teens, how can we have conversations with them that help them feel safe to participate and work things through. ❤...
#255: Exaggerating-Amplifying-Conflating
19 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we explore why children can enlarge their accounts of what happened when things went wrong. We break it down to three tendencies and w...
#254: Why Kids Whine & What We Can Do To Shift the Habit
12 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kids who relentlessly complain and whine can often get on a parents nerves no matter how well balanced we are. In this episode we explore why kids whi...
#253: Turn Hurting Into Helping & Healing Words & Action
05 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we explore how to shift hurtful words and actions by calling up the helpful and healing moments that a child, tween or teen brought to...
#252: How To Avoid Pack up Disasters
26 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we explore how to prevent over-helping a child clean up their toys and projects, and how this helps them develop agency and competence...
#251: Talking About Feelings for Children Tweens & Teens
21 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we will explore how to talk to children, tweens and teens about their big feelings. We’ll see a simple model that shows you how to g...
#250: Interview with Steve Biddulph Part Three
12 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the last of this three part series Steve walks us through the skill of conversing with this hidden part of yourself that can help with almost any d...
#249: Interview with Steve Biddulph Part Two
06 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this follow up episode of our special three part series Steve takes us further into how we can use the Wild Creature Mind to and overcome str...
#248: Interview with Steve Biddulph Part One
29 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this first episode of a special three-part series, Kim John Payne sits down with renowned author and parenting expert Steve Biddulph to talk about ...
#247: We Can't Prevent the Darkness But We Can Grow Our Kids in the Light
22 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim explores the profound benefits of providing children and teens with a simple, balanced life - one that serves as a foundation the...
#246: What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do
15 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim explores what to do when you’re unsure how to respond to a child’s frustration. He also discusses how to help a child trust t...
#245: Why Little Kids Can Get Disruptive in Play & What You Can Do
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kim explores the developmental stages of play and why children can become disruptive as they move into a new phase of their social pl...
#244: Simple Holidays: A Survival Guide No.4
18 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Simplicity Parenting Podcast, Kim tackles two common holiday challenges. First, he offers insights into understanding and easin...
#243: Simple Holidays: A Survival Guide No.3
11 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Kim dives into two essential themes to help you navigate the holiday season in our Simple Holidays: A Survival Guide. First, Kim explo...
#242: SImple Holidays: A Survival Guide No.2
04 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Kim continues to introduce our Simple Holidays: A Survival Guide. For many of us there is a lot more travel around this time of the ye...
#241: SImple Holidays: A Survival Guide No.1
27 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we introduce our Simple Holidays: A Survival Guide. It is a wonderful little collection of podcasts curated by Kim. It provides practi...
#240: Play That Prepares Kids for the World That's Coming
06 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The podcast explores... In the polarizing and fragmenting world that lies ahead for our kids they are going to need an ability to pull it all together...
#239: Trying to Get it Right VS Getting it Right
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The podcast explores... Living in a value based home is so strengthened when we embrace failure as well as success. It is an essential part of a stron...
#238: Being a Calm Presence When Our Kids Are In Good Shape
23 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The podcast explores... Hanging out with our kids when they are doing ordinary things like homework, playing, or listening to music helps normalize ou...
#237: Why Overtalking to Kids Makes Them Feel Unsafe
16 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#236: Times of Developmental Change - The Maturity Immaturity Flip Flop
09 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#235: Five Way To Help Children Do Chores & Home Care
02 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#234: Helping a Child When They Are Deliberately Provocative
25 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#233: Helping Children Tune Into Their Inner Messages - Letting Them Be a Little Thirsty or Hungry
18 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#232: Why? Why? Why? Persistent Questions and What They Really Mean
11 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#231: Boundaries - Upset Kids Are Emotionally Vulnerable Kids
04 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#230: Boundaries - Clarify Family Values & Signal to a Child They Are Safe
28 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#229: Focusing on the Abundance or a LowNo Screen Life Rather Than the Deficit of Not Having Unlimited Screen
21 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#228: Keeping Stories Special and How to Use Online Story Apps
14 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#227: The More You Cooperate the More Freedom You Get - The Brain Science and Talking to Tweens & Teens
07 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#226: Emotional Self Regulation Series - Part Three - Being on the Balcony While Being on the Dance Floor
24 Jul 2024
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#225: Emotional Self Regulation Series - Part Two - The Blacksmiths Forge of Parenting
17 Jul 2024
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#224: Emotional Self Regulation Series - Part One - Open Up Space
10 Jul 2024
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#223: [ special ] Interview with Melanie Hempe
04 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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#222: Separating Being Work Up From the Right Time to Working it Out
26 Jun 2024
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#221: Raising Value Based Kids So They Know When They Cross the Line
20 Jun 2024
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#220: Denying Lying Blaming is Often a Signal That a Child is Overwhelmed - And What We Can Do To Help
29 May 2024
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#219: Kids Not Listening to Instructions - Say Backs & Do Backs
22 May 2024
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#218: Play Difficulties & Arguments - Dialing Back Through the Play Stages
15 May 2024
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#217: Sleep Difficulties - Wake Ups & Nightmares
08 May 2024
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#216: Reading Three from The Soul of Discipline
01 May 2024
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#215: Reading Two from The Soul of Discipline
24 Apr 2024
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#214: Reading One from The Soul of Discipline
18 Apr 2024
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#213: The Hands of the Heart - Our Eyes - How We Can Scare or Soothe
10 Apr 2024
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#212: A Gentle Massage to Calm & Orient a Child [ Part 2 ]
03 Apr 2024
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#211: A Gentle Massage to Calm & Orient a Child [ Part 1 ]
27 Mar 2024
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#210: Big Imagination - Big Problems - How To Move With A Child Through The Day
20 Mar 2024
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#209: Stretching the Time - Healthy Movement and Leadership When Refusals Arise
13 Mar 2024
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#208: [ special ] Interview with Emily Cherkin
06 Mar 2024
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#207: Micro Abandonments - Phones & What We Can Do About It
28 Feb 2024
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#206: Building a Child's Feeling of Competence & Confidence
21 Feb 2024
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#205: Nagging - The Stop Gather Down Solution
14 Feb 2024
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#204: Creating Spacious and Calm after School
07 Feb 2024
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#203: Be With Us - Helping Kids Overcome Transition Refusal
31 Jan 2024
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#202: The 4 Steps to Helping With Sibling Arguments
24 Jan 2024
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#201: Watch Me Dependency - Internal Experience vs Outer Judgements
17 Jan 2024
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#200: No You Do It - When Kids Feign Helplessness
10 Jan 2024
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#199: Connect Before We Collect Together For a Meal
03 Jan 2024
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#198: Drawing Close When Someone is Vulnerable
27 Dec 2023
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#197: The Real Gifting - Modeling Authenticity
20 Dec 2023
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#196: Creating a Conscious Village -The Attachment Bridge
22 Nov 2023
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#195: It's Okay To See Things Differently
15 Nov 2023
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#194: Kids Taking Control... In the Right Way
08 Nov 2023
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#193: When a Parent is Struggling With Addiction
01 Nov 2023
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#192: [ Special ] Part Four of Sophie's Story
25 Oct 2023
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