The Slumflower Hour
Episodes
LOANING A MAN MONEY?
29 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Where do you draw the line of financially supporting a man you care about? Are men more likely to take advantage of generous women? What happens if th...
RAISING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM WHILE DATING
22 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode was voted for by my patrons over on my Patreon! In the longest episode so far, join The Slumflower as she talks about raising your self-e...
ASKING FOR TOO MUCH OR ASKING THE WRONG MAN?
15 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses: what's the difference between ‘being bought’ and being where your worth feels valued? Do you feel ...
*SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT!*
08 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You waited patiently and it's finally happening...THE SLUMFLOWER HOUR IS NOW ON PATREON! Over at my Patreon page, you can enjoy the following benefits...
SO YOU CAUGHT HIM LYING...
01 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are men trustworthy? Are there times when it's okay for a man to lie to you? Are you too honest with men? In a rather hilarious episode, Chidera unpac...
BUT WHAT ABOUT LOVE?
25 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is a straight relationship devoid of love if the woman employs critical thought and strategy in how she shows up in the partnership? Can love and mone...
WHY YOUR BOUNDARIES AREN'T WORKING
17 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you flimsy with your boundaries? Are you too forgiving of men? Do you find yourself being too agreeable and malleable? In this episode, Chidera di...
SO YOU FUCKED HIM TOO SOON...NOW WHAT?
11 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When is considered 'too soon' to sleep with a guy? Do men value it when you tell them 'I don't usually do this'? Are your sexual impulses sabotaging y...
COMPROMISE VS SETTLING
04 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Would you rather settle or compromise? Have you explored the difference between settling and compromising? Are you his dream girl or are you his int...
IS FALLING IN LOVE HOLDING YOU BACK?
28 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you addicted to dating apps? Has your pursuit for love become so persistent that you are willing to just accept whoever comes into your life? Are ...
CONTROLLING YOUR SEXUAL URGES
21 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is sex different with celebrity men vs regular men? Are the women who think they’re better than sex workers aware they’re casually giving men free...
TRAPPED IN THE TALKING STAGE?
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is the 'talking stage' even a real thing or is that man securing you as his placeholder? Do we need better boundaries with men who we are granting the...
BECOMING MORE SAVAGE!
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Should we be more 'unrealistic' in our desires and demands of men? Are we benefiting from holding back on giving men a taste of their own medicine? Do...
OBSESSION VS DEVOTION
30 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is it always a compliment when a man is obsessed with you? Should women be striving more for devotion in men they date? Does a man being obsessed with...
CONTROLLING YOUR EMOTIONS
22 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are men right when they say women are 'too emotional'? Do we give our power away by crying in front of men about their actions? Should we be more stra...
IS THAT MAN FETISHISING YOU?
15 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you are an older woman who is dating a significantly younger man, have you explored the possibility that he may have a mommy kink? Are you a light-...
STAYING GROUNDED WHILE STANDING YOUR GROUND
09 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself trying to be strong when ignoring men back, only to find yourself caving and giving into your urges to hear from him? Do you feel...
SO HE'S COME BACK...NOW WHAT?
01 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is it really a good thing when a guy comes back? Are you his emotional crutch? Did someone else reject him and as a result, he’s come to seek comfor...
MEN OF THE ZODIAC...
26 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever been with a Gemini man and wondered why he's like 'that'? Or have you dated a Scorpio man and haven't been able to understand why they do that ob...
IS THAT MAN JEALOUS OF YOU?
18 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself feeling like that man is trying to compete with you? Is his desire to be right more important than his desire to treat you right?...
MAKING THE FIRST MOVE?
11 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is making the first move with a man desperate...or decisive? Are there exceptions where making the first move might be a good idea? Is the feminist id...
MANIFESTING A MAN?
05 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you 'manifesting' the man of your dreams or are you too hyper-fixated on the prospect of a man loving you? Are you really returning to church to s...
FOCUSED ON THE WRONG VALUES?
29 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you prioritising values in dating that aren't productive to you? Are you attracting low effort men who are drawn to your low self esteem? Is your ...
THE FALLACY OF THE FRIENDZONE
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why is the word 'friendzone' such a loaded term? How did we arrive at a place where men have successfully managed to push the 'friends with benefits' ...
REVENGE & REPARATIONS
13 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are men oppressed by misandry? Why do we feel bad about asking our oppressors for stuff? Has feminism worked for us in dating? Can reparative justice ...
CUTTING OFF YOUR FRIENDS BUT KEEPING YOUR BOYFRIEND?
07 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we make exceptions and excuses for men yet, we penalise our female friends for similar offences? What happens when we enmesh our personalities ...
INSTINCTS VS IMPULSES
30 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you really following your gut...or are you being led by your impulses? Does your pursuit of love compel you to operate from a place of FOMO and as...
THE PARADOX OF PEOPLE-PLEASING
24 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Does being a people pleaser put you in a position where you're more likely to encounter financially and emotionally manipulative men? Are we conflatin...
DESPERATION IN DATING...
17 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever considered that your desperation might be repelling the men who are actually meant for you? With the rise of 'femininity coaching', are ...
DO YOU WANT 'CLOSURE' OR CONTROL?
10 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we even seek closure after a relationship has ended? Is it to find peace in a resolved answer? Are we secretly looking for one last opportunity...
REASONS TO LEAVE THAT MAN
03 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do his compliments feel forced? Do you find yourself clinging onto minor moments and over-analyzed texts, to justify to yourself that he 'does' like y...
FROM LOVEBOMBING TO LOW-BALLING
24 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is that man gassing you up to disarm you, only to slowly start pulling away and giving you less? In this episode, The Slumflower discusses why you mig...
IS HE 'MR RIGHT' OR MR RIGHT NOW?
17 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Trying to figure out if the guy you're currently seeing is just for a season? In this episode, Chidera dissertates on the difference between a 'Mr Rig...
NEGOTIATING YOUR NEEDS
10 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this hilarious episode, join Chidera as she ponders on encountering patriarchy when dating: are men ever worth neglecting your non-negotiables for?...
DISCERNMENT ON DATING APPS
03 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In an episode full of spicy dating app anecdotes, join The Slumflower as she discusses what to put on your profile to best communicate your standards ...
EMOTIONAL EROSION: THE TOLL MEN TAKE ON US
27 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is the desperation and hurry to find 'the one' leading us into the arms of dangerous men? Can being an 'independent woman' put you at more risk of acc...
THINGS I'VE CHANGED MY MIND ON...
20 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been swiped on a dating app by a man who once bullied you? Are 'all men' really bad? Would you date a simp? Amongst these questions, Chi...
COME GET ME WHEN YOU'VE GOT YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!
13 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you granting men #PityPussy because you feel sorry for them? Do you feel like a bad person for not wanting to date a guy who isn't doing very well...
TO BLOCK? OR NOT TO BLOCK?
06 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Does every sour situation need to end in blocking him? Or are there other ways to teach him how to treat you? When blocking men from having undeserved...
ROMANCE IN A RECESSION?
30 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As the recession rises, will we start accepting even less from men because we feel sorry for them? Are we going to see a rise in women accommodating m...
I'M NOT YOUR GIRLFRIEND, I'M YOUR GODDESS.
23 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever imagined what a powerful version of yourself would look like if you knew you'd never face judgement or failure? Why are we so scared of ...
SO IS HE BUSY OR IS HE BORED OF YOU?
16 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do you deal with the inevitable male complacency, that comes with making yourself far too available, way too soon? What does it mean when he sudde...
WELCOME TO THE SLUMFLOWER HOUR!
08 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when being a good girl doesn't work? What happens when you finally decide to know your worth and act on it? Is your joy worth the tempora...