Therapuss with Jake Shane
Session 68: Amelia Dimoldenberg
Thu, 24 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0000
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Chapter 1: Who is Amelia Dimoldenberg?
Hi, pussies. Welcome back to Therapist. Tonight we have on Amelia de Moldenberg. She is host of Chicken Shop Date. She is so funny, so incredible. I look up to her so much. It was such an honor to get to have her here and ask her so many questions about how she does what she does. Because it's not easy to connect with so many different people. And it's so incredible to see. And I just was so...
excited to ask her all about it and i'm so excited for you guys to get to know her more if you don't already um this week i guess for life updates i'm still teetering down on my meds um i'm on 40s i forgot to take them today so you know um but i i that's reminding me i need to do that my ocd is out of control as you can tell i'm like second guessing every word that comes out of my mouth
even the word that just came out of my mouth. I'm like literally having an OCD attack right now. It's just because when I get really excited or nervous about something, my OCD really flares up and it's really flaring up right now. And I'm really trying to control it. But like,
Chapter 2: What challenges does Amelia face with her OCD?
it's not well and i'm really i know it's just i'm really trying and i think i really need to get into exposure therapy because i think it's the only thing that will help me but it just sucks because i remember there was a time period where my meds were really working it was like that and a mixture of exposure therapy was like perfect it was like it basically like not didn't go away but was so quiet for a period of time and it was like perfect um but then obviously ssris don't really work after a time period so i need to figure the fuck out um
I think I just trauma dumped on you guys. I'm so sorry. But it is true. But yes, tonight we have Amelia de Moldenberg. This week I am in New York. So right now I'm in LA, but when you are watching this, I will be in New York. My OCD is telling me not to say that, which is insane, but I just have to say that out loud. I don't know what the fuck is going on. I'm literally having a mental breakdown.
But yeah, it's about to be summer. I don't know what else to say. I'm freaking out. I need to take my meds. Holy fuck, I'm going to, I don't know what to say. Okay, I'm going to tell you about what I'm listening to and what I'm watching before we get into tonight's episode. I am listening to Bon Iver's new album.
I'm also listening to a lot of Claro because I saw her at Coachella and she was incredible. I'm watching, obviously, the new season of Hacks. It's amazing. I'm also watching The Last of Us. I did not see... Well, I guess, hopefully, by the time that this airs, I will have seen the first two episodes. Apparently, last night's episode was... Was it that good?
I think you're gonna like A Long, Long Time better.
Really?
But, story-wise, I'm not... No spoilers.
No spoilers.
Story-wise, it's the most, like, important. You'll see.
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Chapter 3: How did Chicken Shop Date begin?
Always called chicken shop date. Yeah. And you would like take people out and chicken. Yeah. I would have first date with them in a chicken shop and we would eat, I would eat chicken nuggets. They would, I'd maybe force them to eat chicken nuggets. And yeah, it's just been, it's been a long journey to find my one true love and I'm still, still looking. Same. It's okay. Yeah.
Have you ever had a boyfriend? Yeah. Okay. I haven't. Okay, well, you're not missing out, so it's fine. Really? Yeah. Did you ever find love? It's a lot of admin, a lot of work. Right, that's what I thought too, but I feel like the guys in the UK are a lot better than the guys here. Really? Yeah.
i mean i don't know i'm not speaking from experience yeah okay well i don't know i feel like it's kind of that like kind of annoying wherever you go it's kind of hard to find what i'm finding at the moment it's hard to find like an emotionally available man i think that there's like plenty of guys who are like interested in talking to you um but then they're not sort of serious right there's a lot of unserious men out there i think i'm not emotionally available
Okay, okay, well then, cool. Like, I don't think I am. I feel like I'm not either. Right? Like, you're busy. Yeah, I'm busy, but also I feel like I'm always like, oh, I want to find my one true love, I want to find my one true love. No, I don't. That's what I think too. I want to work. I want to work. I want to work. Okay? I'm working. Wait, so when did it- No, I need to stop working so much.
Do you like working? Yeah, I love working. Me too. But like, when your work is your passion- How could you not? How can you not? Yeah. Just J'adore to work. J'adore. Oh my God, capitalism is just really like, it's just overwhelming. Basically, yeah, I love to work.
When did, but when did Chicken Shop Date take off? Because it felt, I feel like for everyone else, it felt like kind of like this overnight thing.
It's like one day it was just there. But it wasn't, okay? It was a 10-year journey. No, I know. No, I feel like it became, like more people got to know about it, especially in America, like when TikTok was invented. Ah, so it like really took off on TikTok. The invention of TikTok, yeah. Really just catapulted the dates to new eyeballs, I feel like.
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Chapter 4: What is Amelia's experience hosting red carpets?
Yeah, because then like my content was being shared more. And then also at that same time, I was able to get more international guests on. And yeah, I feel like maybe the Jack Harlow episode, which was like three years ago or maybe four, was when the American audiences like started to see it.
Mm-hmm.
And then I was able to get more and more international guests. And then from there, it kind of grew. But that was always the ambition of mine. I always wanted it to be cross-genre, all different types of people from different cultural areas of music to sport. Right, right, right.
to movies it just took me a while to like get people to agree to date me were you were you like do you remember the point where it was like you had stopped reaching out as much and people were coming to you maybe like two years ago okay yeah but i also feel like this is like The rise of Chicken Shop Day has happened through the rise of content.
Before I started, when I started Chicken Shop Day, content didn't exist. The algorithms weren't there that was feeding us all this content. I started Chicken Shop Day because I felt like there was a lack of a funny... like quick fire interview where you were getting to see a different side of someone's personality.
Like everything felt very serious and like about, you know, someone's musical influences and like a deep dive. And I love watching those kinds of interviews, but I just felt like there was a space for like some more comedy. And now it's like,
so like oversaturated with like with like funny quirky interviews where they're like having to eat a million things or like having to like try on different hats and like do funny bits and stuff and so like the landscape has now changed to the point where you know talent is more willing to do those kind of interviews whereas before when i started it was just like why would i do that kind of interview first of all and second of all why would i ever do a youtube interview
Like I'm not even spending time doing YouTube podcasts or anything like podcast didn't really like even have exist like 10 years ago. So it's just, I've kind of grown with the time, like how media has like changed. Has anyone ever come to you and been like, let's turn this into like a talk show, like a late night show?
I guess, yeah, in a way, but like it's never worked out. And then there were times in which I like met with UK broadcasters to like do something with them, but then they wanted to take the copyright, like the rights.
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Chapter 5: How does Amelia prepare for interviews?
That's nice. Thank you. Well, it's true. Was that not? It's true. She was like, Amelia did it. I was like, okay. It's true. But I was so scared. Yeah. I get so scared as well. You do? Yeah, I get so nervous. Oh, my God. You can't tell.
Well, yeah. Well, especially for, like... Yeah, I get really, really nervous. And I'm thinking, like, am I going to be as nervous as I was last year for the Oscars? Like, I'm hoping that I wasn't. But, like, last year, I had, like... I don't think I've ever experienced, like, a panic attack before. But that must have been what it was because I, like, couldn't really breathe. Yeah. And I was like...
And I had to call my sister and I was like, and she was like, just go for a walk. And I was like, okay. So I like went for a walk and I just like, I felt really overwhelmed. And then I went for lunch with my team and it was meant to be a really nice lunch. Like before we do the Oscars, like to celebrate, like just to be nice. And I literally, they were like, are you okay?
And I was like, I'm not okay. And I was like, again, like heavy breathing. I was like, oh, like I felt so nervous. But I get nervous because I want to do a good job. Like that's what I get nervous about. And I get nervous. I'm going to blank.
yeah someone's gonna come up to me and i've like know exactly who they are i've like prepped all my questions beforehand and i'm they're gonna come up to me i'm gonna be like um how are you and like it's like no don't ask how because i'm just like trying my best to like not ask them like are you excited for tonight like i'm trying to think of like other questions because like that's why i want to do that's why i love doing red carpets and it's because i want to be
asking questions that like are unusual that people like don't expect because like there's such a long history of like red carpet reporting and some of it is so incredible and some of it is just like quite repetitive and um i'm trying to ask something different so i just worry and i get nervous that i'm just gonna blank and be like so like what are you wearing right right i guess the first one was like the gq man of the year which was like yes three years ago
And you still do that? Yeah, I still do that because I love it because they get such a good group of people and I just love GQ and they're so nice to me there and it's nice to do a great one in the UK and they just always get amazing people. how do you prep for these things? Like, do you always know who you're talking to or like, how do you?
Yeah, they give us a list beforehand of like guests, but then that kind of can change. And then they can also send like names really last minute, which I love. And then, yeah, I guess normally like me and my sister and then like another writer will like prep all questions and we'll do general questions that we can ask anyone.
And then we'll do individual questions, like five individual questions for each person.
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Chapter 6: What are Amelia's thoughts on the impact of TikTok?
Okay.
And then I have the... And then I just kind of try and memorize them, and then I, like, have them on cue cards. But then, really, when I'm interviewing people, I can't even look at my cue cards, so I kind of do have to memorize them. And, like, at SNL 50, I was super nervous, and I kept forgetting my questions. Uh-huh.
And I kept just asking the same questions that my sister was there, being, like, in the in-ears, being, like...
asking the same questions to me and I was like Zoe I know I do I'm just like so nervous like Kristen Wiig is right there queuing up next to my Rudolph like all these people and I was like Fred Armisen and I was like I can't do it but then I feel like I left being like oh my god I didn't perform very well like and then I then basically a fan I have a fan page like a new fan page that like
I didn't have any fan pages before but now I have this new one and they are so good at like their edits and so they made an edit of the live stream from SNL 50 and so when I woke up in the morning I watched it like their edit they did a compilation and then I was like oh right you did do a good job and then I felt better about it because I was like they had made a really good edit that is I feel like the best feeling in the entire world but it's I feel like it's also like are you the type who like sets your expectations low so that it can be like
Yeah, and it's funny because the first time I did, when I did the Golden Globes, I had my expectations so high. I was like, I'm going to get every single person that I've prepped for. Like, what the hell? I'm so deluded. That's what I would think. Yeah, I was like, I'm going to get everyone. I'm going to get Taylor. I'm going to get Rihanna.
I was like, I'm going to get an interview with Taylor Swift. I'm going to get an interview with Rihanna and all these people that I'd prepped for. And then I couldn't get... Like, I couldn't get, like, less than half the people that I prepped for. Like, I feel like I only got, like, 10 people.
And then that really set my expectations right for, like, then future carpets where I'm just, like, lucky to get, like, anyone. Right, right, right. Okay, and were you so, like, disappointed in the moment?
Yeah, I was. I literally left the carpet and I was like... I can't believe, I can't believe we couldn't get like all the people that I wanted to get, even though I got so many amazing interviews, but I just like wanted to get like every single person I wanted to do a hundred interviews in an hour. Yeah.
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Chapter 7: What films has Amelia watched recently?
And then sometimes I feel really overwhelmed and it's just depends what day it is really. But I always would say like, my dad gave me this advice. Like, you have to, well, I can't, I'm not saying it properly, but he basically just like, if you're prepared, like, then that's where you can be.
like do all your research prepare as much as you can like give a hundred percent in the prep and then like it's up to like the gods to decide your fate basically it's true do you but like when you were at snl you were like you have people like queued up and stuff like do you feel like oh my god like i just need a fucking second to breathe I did on that, for some reason on that, on that carpet.
Yeah. And then I just did, I wasn't, I obviously couldn't because we were live and like, I just wasn't able to. So I was just like telling myself in my head, like, calm down. Like, you know, all these questions that you've been memorizing, all these questions, like breathe. Like, I feel like I just got a bit like, panicked and I just needed to like, it's going to be okay. Um, yeah.
So I tried to like calm myself down in my head and I, I feel like I'm always going to be someone who thinks they could do a better job than they did. Like maybe you're the same. Like I come away from everything and I'm like, you could have done better. I mean, you could have done better. Um, but maybe that's also why I'm like successful as well.
But then, but then I also feel like it's a balancing act because you kind of also want to enjoy things. Right. And I, I said to myself, I found myself when I left the carpet, I was going to my sister and like some other people in the team. I was like, I don't know if that was any good. Like, I don't know if that was good. I feel like that wasn't good enough.
And then I clocked myself and I was like, that's such a negative vibe. Like when everyone's being like, that was so fun for you to then, for the person who's like leading to be like,
that was that was could have been better like that wasn't fun like that's just you're bringing everyone down so then I was like let's not do this Amelia let's even if you're thinking it let's just be like that was great brilliant and then just like fake it till you believe it yourself that's what I'm trying to do more of I feel like I really needed to hear that.
Yeah. Yeah, because if you're someone who also would be like, oh, God, well, it didn't go well. Like, oh, it's terrible. Like, I can't even... If you think, like, you do that, like, I, like, can't even emphasize enough. Like, I...
i it's the only words i know yeah because if you think about it when someone does that to you you're just like oh like shut the fuck up yeah like neck it's like just it's just like not the vibe and so i'm trying to always be this person where i take remove myself from myself and like think if i was like talking to a friend like a friend was talking to me and i'm the friend like what would i say or like how would i want to be like that kind of helps me sometimes yeah yeah
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Chapter 8: What are Amelia's thoughts on social media?
Okay, but you're not a part of the drama, and it's, like, so fun because you're watching it, and do you watch Housewives? Okay, so... Okay, this is like, I need to, maybe it's where I'm going wrong. My toxic trait is I don't watch Housewives. No, no, no. I think, start with Salt Lake. Okay. What about Beverly Hills? Everyone's talking about Beverly Hills.
Beverly Hills is great. Beverly Hills is long. Salt Lake is less daunting. It's like five seasons and like on season, oh, I don't want to spoil it for you. Well, you love spoiling things. So go ahead. Someone gets arrested by the FBI on camera. Oh, I heard about that. It's awesome. Yeah, that's crazy. Would you ever like be in a reality show?
I don't think so. Would you? No. I've really thought about it because I know I would be good at it. You would. Like, I know I would. Surely that's been pitched to you, like, even, like, to have cameras, like, in this house or, like, stuff. No, I've had people, like, mention it. But, like, the thing is, like, me and my friends are always, like, we wouldn't speak to each other after.
Yeah. Also, it's so intense, like, for everything to be filmed and everything to become, like, part of a story or, like, a narrative. Like, I feel like you'd get really overwhelmed and you'd become, like, more anxious. It would ruin my life. First of all... Hear no evil, see no evil. Like, I don't want to hear what you're saying about me. Yes, it's true. I don't. I just don't.
We shouldn't. We shouldn't ever know. I don't want to know. I don't want to know. And also, it's normal. Like, gossiping is normal. It's, like, a normal part of life. It's, like, one of the oldest. Preach it to the choir. The oldest tradition in the world, gossiping. But we should never. It should. It's totally fine to do that. But, yeah, you should never hear it.
Yeah, I just don't want to. But, like, I know that, like, I would just. I think I would be, like. I think the issue is I'd be, like, villainous on the show. Oh, really? Okay, you'd be the villain. Like, I think I would play the field, and I'd stir the pot, and it would just blow up in my face, and then everyone would be like, get him!
Like, you know? Yeah, that would be really stressful. But also, you'd have, like, a fun story up, because maybe you'd be like, loved, hated, loved again.
You know what I mean?
It would be like the hero's journey. It would be, like, very interesting. It would be interesting, but, like, I don't want to be hated. Yeah. So it's like, I can't... Okay, well, good job I'm not a TV producer with an idea for you, so don't worry. No one's going to make you do a show. I would do, like, a reality show if it was, like, let's travel the world and do, like, simple life vibes.
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