They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan
Episodes
Blended Families: The Biggest Mistakes to Avoid
13 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Trying to merge two families can create tension, resentment, and pressure for both parents and children. In this episode, Ciara and Richard unpack the...
Career Change: Taking the Leap
06 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Is it too late to change your career? Or are you just afraid to try? In this episode career shifts, fear of failure, and the pressure to stay where yo...
Can We Get Back Together? (Listener Dilemma)
29 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
After ending a long-term relationship in a moment of grief and low mood, a listener is left questioning everything when her ex moves on quickly.Ciara ...
Stop Putting Kids in the Middle
22 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
It’s often children who carry the emotional fallout when parents separate, especially when conflict, name-calling, and resentment take over.Ciara an...
Sibling Rivalry & Resentment
15 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Why do siblings trigger us more than anyone else? Relationships can be shaped by comparison, labels, and family roles that follow us into adulthood.In...
Staying After an Affair
08 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
From betrayal and secrecy to rebuilding trust, communication, and a sense of self. Follow the pod and get in touch on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey ...
Mental Health Influencers
01 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
How online mental health content is shaping how we think and feel - and the risks when complex issues are oversimplified or widely shared.Follow the p...
Breaking up is hard to do!
25 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ciara and Richard explore what makes a “good” breakup, why it can be so painful, and how to end a relationship with less conflict and hurt.Follow ...
Negative News Overload
18 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
How constant exposure to bad news affects our mental health, and how to set boundaries without switching off completely.Follow the pod on Instagram @T...
ADHD: Strengths and Struggles
11 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
From inattention and impulsivity to time blindness and overwhelm, Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan explore the challenges of ADHD, the strengths it can b...
Grief: Life After Loss
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
After a personal loss, Ciara and Richard explore the reality of grief. How it ebbs and flows, why no two losses feel the same, and the complex emotion...
Loneliness in Modern Life
25 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Exploring loneliness - why it can feel like physical pain, the stigma around admitting it, who is most affected and the small, practical steps that ca...
Kids Online - Access & Protection
18 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
The impact of technology on children - from harmful content pushed by algorithms to material on eating disorders and self-harm. Ciara and Richard disc...
Drama Kings & Queens
04 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
People who turn every situation into a crisis! Dealing with dramatic people is the topic this week. Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan look at why so...
Help - I don't like my kids!
28 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
A topic few people talk about: when a parent doesn’t like their child. In this episode Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly explore why this can ha...
When Sex Disappears
21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
They Mess You Up is back with a new series, taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. In this first episode of the seri...
S1. Episode 10 - Technology & Adolescence
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this thought-provoking and final episode of season 1, Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly delve into the complex world of technology and its impa...
S1. Episode 9 - The New Year
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In the first episode of 2025, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan dive into the topic of New Year's resolutions and the futility of punitive self-im...
S1. Episode 8 - Surviving Christmas
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this festive Christmas special, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan tackle the often challenging dynamics of family gatherings. Whether you're re...
S1. Episode 7 - Sex Addiction
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this revealing episode, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan shine a light on the often-taboo subject of sex addiction. They discusses the emotion...
S1. Episode 6 - Narcissism
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan tackle a subject that affects many: narcissism. With an influx of emails from liste...
S1. Episode 5 - Dating
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan discuss the intricate world of dating, especially for those re-entering the scene after a long-term relationship...
S1. Episode 4 - Jealousy and Envy
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan dive into the complicated emotions of jealousy and envy—feelings we all experience but often ...
S1. Episode 3 - Anxiety
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Ciara and Richard tackle the pervasive issue of anxiety—truly the epidemic of our time. They dive into the layers of anxiety, discussing ...
S1. Episode 2 - People Pleasing
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan dive deep into the complex world of people pleasing. They explore its roots, unraveling the neu...
S1. Episode 1 - Affairs
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this first ever episode - Ciara and Richard tackle the messy, sensitive and taboo topic of affairs.
Trailer
14 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
A weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. T...