Ep18 Tearing Down Walls & Building A Connected Marriage

"...but speaking the truth in love, we must grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ..."~ Ephesians 4:15We return to Dr. John Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" for marriages with a conversation about Stonewalling. In the course of every marriage, there are times that our emotions feel overwhelming. One response to that experience can be to shut down, disengage, and cut off communication from our spouse - this is what Gottmann calls "stonewalling," and it can be very damaging for a loving marriage. In this episode, we take a moment to define and describe stonewalling, the ways that it negatively impacts a marriage, and (most importantly) the antidote to overcome stonewalling and to restore healthy communication into marriage. Whether you've been married for one year or 50 years, these are skills that can help you and your spouse to become "masters of marriage"! Episode 18 Show NotesCheck out Nate Bargatze's website 😂 (Clip from Nate's special The Tennessee Kid used with permission) Time stamps0:00: Intro8:10: Highs & hards16:23: The Four Horseman part 2: Stonewalling20:00: Stonewalling  ≠ silent treatment (with a hilarious commentary)23:49: Defining stonewalling33:52: Biblical examples of stonewalling37:45: The antidote to stonewalling: physiological self-soothing47:30: Challenge By Choice & wrap-upSend us a text. We can't respond directly, but we're excited to hear what's on your mind!Click here to register for the DBT group from Jan. 20 - March 24, 2026 (MN & WI residents only)Support the showThank you for listening, and a very special thank you to our community of supporters! Visit us online at thiswholelifepodcast.com, and send us an email with your thoughts, questions, or ideas.Follow us on Instagram & FacebookInterested in more faith-filled mental health resources? Check out the Martin Center for IntegrationMusic: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.

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