Three Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic Supervision
Episodes
Episode 2: The Impenetrable Couple - Therapist As Third Wheel
01 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew presents an unusual situation where a patient requires his partner to be present in his therapy not to work on couple dynamics...
Episode 1: I Used ChatGPT And I Still Got Castrated
01 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael struggles with her impulse to be castrating when she encounters what she experiences as an impenetrable patient, a Citadel. ...
Episode 8: Hot Shrink For A Hot Minute: Erotic Transference Part II
07 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael plumbs the mysteries of the erotic, both in the transference and the countertransference; mysterious because it occurs in lim...
Episode 7: Jetlagging: The Unconscious Hiding In Plane Sight
17 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In his therapy with Noor, Andrew comes to realise that he is inadvertently co-constructing an avoidance of grieving and mourning. Through a careful un...
Episode 6: Not Messing Around: The Pleasures Of Being A Mean Girl
13 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael encounters the uncanny intelligence of the patient's unconscious. The patient, having criticised Rachael for her “messy...
Episode 5: Up Against The Limit: Staring Into The Void
15 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew finds himself embodying traumas the patient has experienced but has placed an explicit prohibition on articulating. During his...
Episode 4: I'm Not OK That You're OK
11 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew presents us with an insoluble ethical dilemma. Is it desirable or even possible for therapists to remain neutral when the pati...
Episode 3: Unexpected Twists and Turns: Prayer Cards Part 2
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this rich episode, Rachael grapples with a variety of complex nuanced issues such as an unexpected ending and the feat of balancing the therapist&#...
Episode 2: Us Vs Them Thinking - A Silent Threat To Your Mental Health
02 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew struggles with the power of splitting and projection as they close down thought, generate anger, and diminish compassion.He ge...
Episode 1: How To Spot Narcissism - Red Flags and Dating Hacks
02 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael works with a young woman who is desperate to find the right man and equally desperate to find a failsafe way to make a good c...
Episode 8: Hooked On A Feeling: Traumatophilia and Traumatophobia
22 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael is conflicted about performance artist Petra's wish for Rachael to watch a video of Petra engaging in human suspension. Ra...
Episode 7: The Sound of Silence
07 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this session, Andrew is confused by why Amber, an anorexic adolescent woman, is so silent in session when she chats easily with other team members....
Episode 6: Internet Connection or Intimate Connection?
24 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew finds himself conflicted. His talented young patient reflects a contemporary set of values and ideas that Andrew wishes to hon...
Episode 5: Trauma and Magic Powers Part II
13 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael revisits the complex feelings that child sexual abuse evoke in both patient and therapist. Rachael discovers that her wish...
Episode 4: When Two Become One: The Seduction of Merger
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew surprises himself by the degree to which his patient has led him into dissociating from his own inner subjectivity and into me...
Episode 3: Erotic Countertransference: The Taboo of Being Turned On
14 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael approaches the taboo of sexual attraction in therapy and its tendency to lead to dysregulation, involuntary self-disclosure, ...
Episode 2: Too Good for the 'Hood
04 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode it becomes clear that Andrew and his patient Manuela are unconsciously co-constructing a dynamic in which Manuela is under pressure to...
Episode 1: The Therapist's Revenge: Trading Porn for Prayer Cards
18 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Rachael comes to realise that feeling provoked by the patient’s apparent self-centredness in enactments that occur in the waiting room and in the se...
Episode 8: XOXO Gossip Girl; Who's Afraid of the Big Bad Wolf?
05 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael encounters a worthy adversary in the elegant and charismatic Iris. Beguiled by Iris charm and colourful stories Rachael can’...
Episode 7: Sex Talk
06 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew struggles to disrupt his patient's rigid self-control, ever mindful of a psychotic potential that could be unleashed given...
Episode 6: An Education on Trauma: The Obliteration of Thinking and Feeling
02 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael is provoked by a disrupted patient. Power struggles and challenges emerge in the room as Rachael struggles to think and not e...
Episode 5: SHUSH! When Talking Is The Problem and Not The Cure
03 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andy is frustratingly blocked by his patient's difficulty in listening and by her incessant talking, both of which reveal parts o...
Episode 4: Dine In or Take Away Therapy
22 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we encounter Rachael's struggle with an avoidant patient who is fearful of closeness. Rachael is conflicted between her desire fo...
Episode 3: Dank Memes, TikTok, and Unprocessed Grief
01 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew finds himself challenging his patient's perception of him as an internet dinosaur, too old to be familiar with youth cultu...
Episode 2: The Dangers of Addiction: Help Me, Help You
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael struggles with exasperation and grief as she writes a court report for a patient who has relapsed. To be both truthful and...
Episode 1: Neurodiversity: Lost in Translation
19 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew, Gill, and Rachael explore the hot topic of neurodiversity. We conclude that whatever the political and ideolo...
Episode 8: When The 'Not Me' Is Actually Not Me
10 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Misrecognition and the projection of others are a perennial problem, but perhaps more so for those who are queer identified. But whoever is at the rec...
Episode 7: Decent Or Indecent Exposure
13 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Gill, Rachael, and Andrew grapple with feelings of exposure as Rachael becomes aware that her private and professional lives have col...
Episode 6: The Therapist's Destructive Fantasy
23 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Rachael, Gill, and Andrew work together to understand how the presence of subtle power dynamics, unconsciously enacted in the therapeutic relationship...
Episode 5: "Help! I'm A Borderline Nightmare And I Need Reining In"
24 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Gill, Andrew, and Rachael are confronted with how intense feelings can muddy the waters and produce confusion about which feelings be...
Episode 4: Protection And Its Perils
26 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachael, Andrew, and Gill discuss the proverbial notion that the road to hell is paved with good intentions as Rachael's wish to prot...
Episode 3: The Sexiness Of The Self-Help Guru
05 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrew, Rachael and Gill tussle together over ethical and therapeutic issues as they wonder where self help ends and where helping on...
Episode 2: Trauma And Magic Powers
14 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Rachael, Gill, and Andrew struggle hard to resist the all-too-human desire for magical solutions to truly awful problems. www.threeassociating.com
Episode 1: Game Of Cards
23 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the first episode of season two, Gill, Andrew and Rachael plunge into the pleasures and perils of toxic masculinity and the allure of trading intim...
Episode 8: Feeling Drowsy When The Connection Is Lousy
10 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this last episode of season one, Gill, Rachael, and Andrew grapple with the challenges of staying awake when it seems that the other person is exag...
Episode 7: When The Patient Demands Special Treatment
02 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gill, Andrew, and Rachael wrestle with the thorny issues of rivalry and competition. They show how, ironically, being caught in rivalry can lead one t...
Episode 6: Fairweather Friend: The Honeymoon Is Over
02 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gill, Andrew, and Rachael encounter the common problem of when we are drawn in by charisma, fail to set firm boundaries and then experience guilt and ...
Episode 5: Therapist As Sex Object
26 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gill, Rachael, and Andrew dive into the heady brew of sex and aggression, showing how these issues can be unconsciously provoked and can then easily l...
Episode 4: Twinning Isn't Always Winning
26 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gill, Andrew and Rachael uncover some unexpected disadvantages of friendliness, delving into how affability can cover up an unconscious fear of differ...
Episode 3: When An Explosion Is Detonated In Session (Part 2 of 2)
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gill, Andrew and Rachael discover how unconscious disapproval can be communicated with ill effect and provoke bullying and verbal intimidation in retu...
Episode 2: When Our Best Is Not Good Enough (Part 1 of 2)
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gill, Andrew and Rachael come to understand how an unconscious bias towards over-identifying with a person's trauma story inadvertently deprives the p...
Episode 1: Naming Without Shaming
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gill, Rachael, and Andrew explore the common problem of feeling conflicted between a wish to be accepting and the desire to be confronting of off...