Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast
Episodes
Are you a victim in your relationships?
13 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Laying down some truth today. Listen up.
Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?
04 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
So this week I am talking about cheating, but not from the moral aspect, but the relationship aspect. What can we learn from cheating and how do we do...
How to Deal With Ghosting...
29 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
'Cause it's the worst. This week I am talking about ghosting, bread crumbing, zombieing and even the new term mosting. All of them suck and we need to...
Why the Dating Culture Is So Fucked Up Right Now!
22 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
I can't even. We are having a come to Jesus moment, so just listen up.
Are you too busy for love?
14 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
It seems that almost all the time when I ask people how they are, they tell me they are so busy. Crazy busy. But are we? And if we are, are we t...
What I Learned About Love from Ron Swanson
09 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
I love me some Parks and Rec and more than Leslie, Ben, Andy or Tom...I love me some Ron Swanson. And one of my favorite love lessons comes from a lin...
How important is compatibility anyway?
28 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Recently in the OM Class, this awesome quote was brought up about compatibility and I wanted to break it down today on the podcast. Enjoy!
Do guys need the chase to be interested in a relationship?
22 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Do they? And if they don't, what do we do instead? Well I think you know that I am breaking that shit down for you today. Listen up!
Why I Hate Valentine's Day
14 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Let's take it back!
What if you have met the right person already?
07 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Oh shit. I am bringing it today. There is a big pile of bullshit that I calling out today. The idea that you haven't met the right one yet...becau...
The Five Stages of Relationships
03 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In my research for the new Owner's Manual, I found this killer info about the stages of relationships and was not surprised to find out that most of u...
Let's Talk About What Love Really Is
23 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
I mean really. I can rant day after day about boundaries, vulnerability, communication, etc...but all of it means shit if we don't actually understand...
How striving to be perfect is keeping you from love
17 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
LADIES! Man, is this week super special. I recently had a good session with a brand new client and she offered for me to share it with all of you! S...
Hiding Out from Love with Life Coach Andrea Owen
10 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
The New LOAS podcast is here! Today's guest, Andrea Owen, is talking about her new book "How to Stop Feeling Like Shit" and how to stop hiding out fro...
Are you making choices that will get you love?
24 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Oh I am on a roll today! I have a question for you. Are you making choices that will actually get you love AND a relationship? The short answer is p...
How to Become Available to Love!
18 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
So over the last few podcasts I have been talking about ways that we are unavailable and probably don't even know it. I see it all of the time. ...
Are You Sure You Were Ghosted?
10 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
I've got a story from a client this week...that was pissed off. Frustrated. Over it. Because she got ghosted...again. But here is the deal...she wasn'...
Four Signs You Are Emotionally Unavailable
03 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
If I were to ask you if you are emotionally available, what would you say? Most women I work with yell from the rooftops how available they are. The...
Should you jump in to a new relationship?
29 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
I know I have, have you? When you meet someone and it just feels so, so right. You can't help but just say "fuck it! Let's do this!" Right? I have...
Are The Ideal Love Stories In Your Head Kicking Your Ass?
22 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I get personal again. I tie up the story about my Dad's passing and what it has to do with my relationship. What I learned and how the s...
Are Men Intimidated By Successful Women?
08 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Are they? Well some are. But many are not. However there may be a whole other piece at play that you are not even thinking about and today I brea...
Girls Uninterrupted
11 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Ready for one part honest stories +one part really smart stuff + one part ridiculous talk about 90s fashion? Done. Today, I have two of my favorite p...
Are men the problem with dating?
23 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What do you think? You know I have thoughts on it... Listen up as I break down my thoughts about men, love, dating, relationships...all of it! And ...
Are you sure you even want a relationship?
17 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
It gets confusing nowadays... You look around at everyone you know and you might be asking yourself...do I even want a relationship? No one who is i...
What to do when people ask "why are you single?"
10 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is the worst. Seriously. It is so tough when the well-meaning family, friends, co-workers and even dates ask this question! Let alone when th...
The Danny Chronicles: How it all started
30 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
I have a guest on the podcast this week and it is pretty much my favorite guest ever...my boyfriend Danny!!!! He is on the podcast to talk about the r...
Are you willing to get honest with yourself for love?
19 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
I am sharing my guts all over the place this episode. About how I felt about my birthday this week. Not so great things that happened in Costa R...
Should you be friends with an ex?
02 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
So this is a tricky one... They may be funny. Smart. Kind. But if you aren't dating anymore...should you be friends? It's complicated, right? To...
How Summer Camp Changed My Life
26 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
I don't know about you, this time of year always starts to get me thinking about camp. When I was 13, I went to summer camp and it turned out to be...
When to introduce someone new you are dating to friends and family
14 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Without even noticing, introducing people to friends and family can be the natural next step or sabotaging your new relationship. Do you know which ...
Do you want to be cherished and put on a pedestal?
05 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We all have times in our life where we want to be adored, cherished, put on a pedestal by someone. Right? Wrong. I am breaking down today why having...
Dating When You Are Not Happy With Your Weight!
27 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Do you wonder if your weight is keeping you single? I am going to share some of my own personal experiences of dating at my far from perfect weight an...
Do you really want love as much as you say you do?
19 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
I just read a brilliant study from Harvard about the number one thing that makes us happy and healthy. Can you guess what it is? I am going to tell yo...
What To Do When An Ex Pops Up Again
11 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
It happens to the best of us. We are home on a rando Tuesday night and all of a sudden we hear from someone we never thought we would hear from agai...
Why Vulnerability is Mandatory When You Are Dating
09 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Do the people that you are dating and having relationships with know how to love you? Treat you? Are you asking for what you need? If you just lau...
Strategies for Online Dating To Keep You Sane
20 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Hell has not frozen over...I just had a stellar talk with my retreat participants and decided that we have a smart talk about online dating. Not what ...
Chivalry is Dead and You Fucking Killed It
03 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
On a regular basis I hear ladies saying...chivalry is dead. I pretty much have to agree, but I think that overall, we have killed. I know...bold sta...
How we can change the dating culture...
27 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
was in tears multiple times this past weekend. I sat back in awe as I watched women all over the world stand up for what they believe. It confirmed w...
What's on your fuck it list?
16 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
So we are here in Costa Rica and my shit is coming up for me. So I am going to tell you a story about my fears and what I am doing about them. And whe...
Why We Need To Stop Listening To Dating Advice
30 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Cause we do. Seriously. If you are confused, listen as I breakdown why listening to love advice isn't working for us anymore and what to do instead...
What To Do When You Have Put Your Foot In Your Mouth
23 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
So I tend to: a) have a lot of feelings. b) express them a lot. Anyone else? So today I breakdown what to do when we express our thoughts, feelings, e...
It's OK To Be Nervous
15 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
A lot is happening over here for me. Huge life changes that are super exciting...yet I am super nervous. Listen in as I breakdown why I am nervous ...
Does Your Type Suck?
07 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Gather around for story time! Today, I share a story from my past where I made mistakes to prevent you from making the same ones. A few years ago, I w...
Four Easy Ways to Change Your Life (and the World)
03 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
This week has been rough around here and I have some things to say...with quite a bit of swearing. Something's gotta give, everybody. Today I breakdow...
Tell Everyone to Shut the Fuck Up About Your Love Life
22 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
They mean so well...they really do! But we have to be very, very careful about who we let give us advice about relationships and dating. Because betwe...
How to Stop Giving Away Your Self Worth While Dating
17 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
After nine years of coaching and working with single women, there is one thing I know to be true...that without even knowing it so many women are givi...
How To Be Single Through The Holidays Without Losing Your Shit
11 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
WELL….FUCK. No matter how much you love the holidays, when you are single there are some just some annoying as fuck parts to it that it can downr...
Can You Find Love If You Don't Love Yourself?
02 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Nothing sucks worse than when you are feeling down in the dumps, not sure why you are single and someone says to you "you can't find love until you lo...
Why I Used To Be Funnier...
27 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Oh witty banter. I used to be hooked on it like a drug. But at one point, I realized that my snark was hurting, not helping me create healthy relation...
What to do when you behave badly
21 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Last night I was a shit show. There was whining, crying, a mild temper tantrum and so much more. In my former life, I would have lost my shit and fear...
Give Up Your Plan B
15 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
It's happens to the best of us. Even if we are out there trying, dating, mating all of the things, a lot of the time we keep a plan b. Someone on th...
Put Down Your Fucking Phone!
07 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
I am celebrating my two year anniversary soon and as a recovering fixer and super independent, this is a big deal for me. But there was a moment in th...
Why Dating for Potential Makes You An Asshole
31 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Confession time...did you know I am a recovering fixer? Yup. It used to be a major problem. But not only did it not get me to the relationship I wan...
Are you choosing love or fear?
24 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hey there Hot Pantses! Today I am talking about one of my favorite topics when it comes to dating and relationships. Making decisions out of love or...
The Truth About Settling
17 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Oh Hot Pants... I am channeling some Pat Benatar today and am All Fired UP! Let's talk about this scary word "settling" and what it REALLY means. T...
What is your goal in love?
10 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
If you are single, you have a job to do. Maybe you didn't know that...but I am here to tell you the truth! Your job, as I break it down on the podca...
The REAL Problem with Ghosting
03 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
GHOSTING!!!! I pretty much think it is the bane of our existence in dating. Dramatic, maybe. Untrue? Nope. Ghosting is pretty much crap for lot...
How Travel Changed My Love Life
29 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
We have apologies, announcements, haikus, jedi mind tricks, everything all over this episode. But if there is one thing it is....it is real. Because i...
We Are All About 5 Seconds From Bat Shit Crazy
18 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
I have been known to buy a ticket on the crazy train once or twice:) Listen up as I breakdown the difference about truths vs stories in our heads and ...
What Happens When Shit Gets Real In A Relationship
03 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Shit just got real. I think when we are dating and all things seem lovely and everyone is on their best behavior, we forget about the shit. The bad da...
Why You Should Stop Looking For Love
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
No, I am not trying to be a super downer. I am a life coach for God's sake. I think we know I am am mostly rainbows, unicorns with a side of suga...
Want Love? Give Yourself A Fucking Break!
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Why are all so fucking hard on ourselves? Seriously, that shit is killing us! Today, I breakdown why that feeling not only sucks but is pretty much ...
Stop Waiting For Someone To Complete You!
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Seriously....stop doing that shit. Today I am going to break down the two reasons people have relationships and which one is killing you (Hint: it's t...
Are You Making People Feel Special?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Bringing it down for a minute today... Listen up as I share my very first theory about love and it just might change your life. Seriously! Would ...
Three Signs You Are Not Ready For Love
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
OH SHIT. It is gettin' real today. Real good, that is. Today is a big ass reality check about no matter how much you bitch about it over wine, are y...
Love Is Going To Be Messy. Stop Making Excuses
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Oh shit. It is gettin' real today. Real good, that is. Today is a big ass reality check about (complicated) dating over 35 and what we need to do ab...
Men Can't Read Minds...Get Over It
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Want a psychic? Hire one. Want a relationship? You effin' create. Men aren't mindreaders. Listen up as I break down how we need to stop believing ...
Closure Is Effin' Overrated
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
I have a friend and she wrote a book. It is all kinds of genius. I have her on today as my first ever guest, Andrea Owen, talking about everything ...
Five Types Of People You Should Run From Immediately!!
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Don't you wish you had a crystal ball to see in the future if your new relationship will all work out? Well you can't so get over that shit now. How...
Can Men And Women Be Friends?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Can men and women be friends? It is one more in the Kira Chronicles where I am sharing my own mistakes and heartaches for your learnin'. You're welc...
Are You Too Intimidating For Love?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes we like to pretend, don't we? Pretend that we have all of our shit together and have everything all figured out. You and I both know that ...
Do You Want Love Enough To Ask For It?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
So I spent a lot of my life waiting for love to find me.... It took me a long time to realize that I was the one pushing it away by just not asking fo...
Dating Myths That Are Kicking Your Ass
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
I can not lie, we believe a lot of crap when it comes to love. Ideas that keep us super duper safe and making excuses of why love is not working for u...
I Am Not Happy...But I Love Him
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes we blame lots of the bad stuff on love. True story. We allow shitty behavior to happen and call it love although it has NOTHING to do with i...
How To Be An Adventurous Single
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Dating can be complicated...... However, there are small mindsets that can make it all quite a bit easier and the dating jedi or ninja you secretly kn...
Seriously, That Rejection Is Not Actually About You
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Rejection sucks. But what if that last rejection was actually not about you? Or really any of them for that matter.... Here are my pretty darn smart...
Do You Want Love More Than Fear?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Stupid fear. Sometimes we are pretty darn good at convincing ourselves that our excuses are the real reason we don't have a relationship. "We just did...
Start From The Ending
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Occasionally, life hits us over the head with an idea over and over again until we figure it out. That is what this podcast was for me. Listen in on h...
Never Underestimate The Need For Attention
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
They may not even know they are doing it, but people love attention. However, it is your job to make sure you are not just giving it away and getting ...
I Admit It! I Have Been Known To Fake It
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Seriously, it might be a problem. No you dirty birdies, I am not talking about orgasms! Get your head out of the gutter. What would your mother th...
Stop Making Up Stories In Your Head That Aren't True!
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Seriously, stop doing it. It is so beneath you. What do I mean? Here is what I mean. I regularly get to talk to really smart and amazing singles. Howe...
How To Let Someone Know You Are Interested Without Make An Ass Of Yourself
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Truly, it is easy peasy. I believe that if there is one thing I have learned in this awesomesauce journey of being a life coach for singles, it is tha...
Guess What? You Probably Suck At Relationships
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
True Story. I realize that I am cotton candy and rainbows most of the time, but this podcast is about hard-core truths! Quit your whining...there is s...
Can We All Just Give Each Other A Break Already?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
WARNING!!! I may have been a little salty on this podcast and pretty....let's use the word frustrated, shall we? It is just such an important topic ...
WTF? Why Do Guys Do That?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
We all have had the moments when we are out there dating and all of a sudden are asking ourselves... WTF?! I mean really...why do guys do that? Listen...
Why Ghosting Makes You An Asshole
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Well shit! I blogged about this a while ago, but it needed to be said. Out loud. To the masses. Yes, I am being dramatic. I can't even try to t...
The Heart Wants What the Heart Wants....Or Does It?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Oh, the heart. It plays such an important role in love.... It leads you towards love and even breaks a little when it is over. OR DOES IT??? Listen to...
Why Do You Even Want A Relationship?
19 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
So you say you want a relationship. Ok, why? When was the last time you sat down and really asked yourself that question? It is something I ask ...
The Most Important Thing You Need For Love
12 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
It is 2014. Things are different than ever before And you have to be ready. Today, I breakdown one thing we are forgetting about love and relationsh...
Why You Are Not Dating Great Guys
12 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
One day, I woke up and didn't want to date unavailable men anymore and I had to have a tough moment where I needed to fess up to myself that it was M...
Why Your Trust Issues Are About You!
12 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Fucking trust. It comes up a lot with my clients. And why wouldn't it? Let's be honest, there are a lot of shit relationships out there and if you h...