Till The Wheels Fall Off

#304 - Paige's Perspective: DARVO

13 Mar 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re digging into DARVO—the manipulative pattern people use to avoid acco...

#303 - What It Really Takes to Leave: One Woman’s Story of Strength, Survival, and Starting Over

11 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we talk with a guest who opens up about the quiet, painful, and often invisible process of leavin...

#302 - Why Life Feels Empty After Sobriety (for both people)

09 Mar 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!A lot of people believe that once the drinking or drugs stop, life will finally start to feel better. But for many...

#301 - Paige's Perspective - Survival Mode: When Life Feels Like Too Much

06 Mar 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige speaks directly to those who feel like they are just surviving eac...

#300 - The Other Matt: Growing Up With Addiction & Choosing Intentional Living

04 Mar 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week you’re hearing from a different Matt.Not Matt Robinson, but Matt Frates, the editor behind the scenes ...

#299 Mindset Monday: This Isn’t About Alcohol. It’s About Your Life.

02 Mar 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode is a direct conversation with the person who’s still drinking, still using, still bargaining, or qu...

#298 - Paige's Perspective: Recognizing the Patterns That Shape Our Lives

27 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige dives into a conversation we don’t have often enough: our own pa...

#297: Boundaries Part 3

25 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This is Part 3 of our Boundaries series and the final episode in the three part framework.In Part 1, we focused on...

#296: Paige's Perspective: Not Trusting Everyone Isn’t a Wound

20 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We’ve been taught that not trusting people means something is wrong with us. That if we don’t open up quickly,...

#295: Boundaries Part 2

18 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In Part 1, we started with values, because boundaries only work when you know what you stand for. In this episode,...

#294 - Mindset Monday: The Story You Tell Yourself Is Holding You Back

16 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!What if the thing holding you back isn’t your past…it’s the story you keep telling yourself about it?In this...

#293 - Paige's Perspective: Challenging the Beliefs That Hold You Back

13 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!So many of us are incredibly hard on ourselves. We struggle to see the good in who we are, to trust our perception...

#292 - Boundaries Part 1

11 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Boundaries are the most requested topic we get, and most advice out there leaves people asking the same question:&...

#291 - Mindset Monday: The “What About Her?” Trap

09 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, I’m calling out the most common, most immature move men make after they finally start do...

#290 - What Recovery Gets Wrong: The Partner's Side of the Story

04 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The recovery world loves to talk about healing, but who is it really built for?This episode was originally release...

#289 - Mindset Monday: Celebrating 25 Amazing Years, and What It Took to Get Here

02 Feb 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Today is a big one. Paige and I are celebrating 25 years together, and I’m recording this Mindset Monday in that...

#288 - Paige's Perspective: Why Everything Feels So Urgent

30 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige explores why so many of us feel like we are constantly running out...

#287 - Mindset Monday: It Wasn't The Addiction, It Was Me

26 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!A listener posted a question in our free TWFO Facebook community that I’ve heard a hundred times in recovery spa...

#286 - Paige's Perspective: You Can Restart the Day

23 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Some mornings feel like a personal attack. You are late. You are out of coffee. The house is a mess. Your kid’s ...

#285 - Your Kids Are Watching

21 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Your kids are watching you. Not in a cute way. In a blueprint way.In this episode, we talk about the moment that p...

#284 - Mindset Monday: Why Some People Never Grow

19 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday episode, the discussion takes on a common belief from men that sounds reasonable on the sur...

#283 - Paige's Perspective: Being the Villain in Someone Else’s Story

16 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!No one wants to be the villain.But what if being seen as the bad guy is actually a sign that you are growing?In th...

#282 - Red Flags, Fear, and the Standard We’ve Accepted

14 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Matt and Paige move through three conversations that are deeply connected and hard to ignore once...

#281 - Mindset Monday: The Cost of Becoming Better

12 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, I’m walking through a handful of quotes I found in an Instagram carousel and breaking do...

#280 - Paige's Perspective: The Struggle is Real, But It Doesn't Have to Be

09 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The struggle is real, but it doesn’t have to control your life.In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige b...

#279 - Stop Asking. Start Trusting Yourself.

07 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Trusting yourself sounds simple until you try to do it. If you grew up being told what to do, spent years in syste...

#278 - Mindset Monday: Boundaries Don’t Work (Like You Think They Do)

05 Jan 2026

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt drops a handful of hard-earned lessons from the last month, pulled straight from the ...

#277 - Anger Part 3: The Anger You Feel After You’ve Left the Relationship

31 Dec 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In Part 3 of our anger series, we talk about the kind of anger that shows up after the relationship ends, when the...

#276 - Paige's Perspective: From What If to Even If - The Shift That Changes Everything

26 Dec 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Today’s episode is a re-release of one of Paige’s favorite Paige’s Perspective episodes, Even If  - brought...

#275 - Mindset Monday: Empathy Isn’t a Shallow Pool - Why Recovery Education Is Incomplete

22 Dec 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt talks about a gap in the recovery world that almost nobody wants to name: families ar...

#274 - Anger Part 2: When Everything’s Finally “Good”… Why Am I So Angry?

17 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many partners expect relief when sobriety begins.Instead, they may feel confused, guilty, and angry when everythin...

#273 - Paige's Perspective: Shame, Shaming, and Accountability

12 Dec 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Most partners think they’re “holding someone accountable,” but what they’re really doing is chasing accoun...

#272 - Mindset Monday: Holiday Relapses, Boundaries, Mourning, and Hope

08 Dec 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt gets real about why the holidays are a pressure cooker for people in recovery and for...

#271 - Anger Part 1: What Your Anger Is Trying To Tell You In Active Addiction

03 Dec 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this first episode of our three part anger series, we talk about what anger really is when you are still with s...

#270 - Mindset Monday: Questions Men Secretly Ask

01 Dec 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt sits down with the questions men usually ask in private. These are the messages he ge...

#269 - Paige's Perspective: Survival Mode Isn’t a Free Pass: It’s a Challenge

28 Nov 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Paige’s Perspective, I talk about something I see online all the time. There is a lot of content that no...

#268 - Mindset Monday: Scared of Failing or Scared of Succeeding

24 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode Matt breaks down why people struggling with addiction and people in relationships with addicts kee...

#267 - The Truth About Trauma No One Wants to Say

19 Nov 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We live in a world that is obsessed with asking, “Why am I like this?” and “Why are they like this?” Traum...

#266 - Paige's Perspective: How to Feel Alive Again

14 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you’ve been stuck in your head replaying old memories, planning out future disasters, or living on autopilot,...

#265 - TWFO Classic: You Can Do Hard Things

12 Nov 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Replay. Originally aired in July 2024. We’re bringing this back because the tools here (resilience, boundaries, ...

#264 - From Flaw to Feature: The Truth About Addictive Traits

10 Nov 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Addictive traits aren't bugs, they're features.When I first got sober, I was terrified I’d become bori...

#263 - Paige's Perspective: Why Not Me: The Question That Changed Everything

07 Nov 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Paige opens up about one of the most powerful questions she’s ever asked herself: “Why not me?”In this raw a...

#262 - Are You Coping or Are You Healing?

05 Nov 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Matt and Paige take a deep dive into the difference between coping and healing. From self-care ro...

# 261 - Mindset Monday: Rehab Q&A; Thoughts on Treatment

03 Nov 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Rehab is a reset, not a miracle. In this straight talk Q&A, Matt answers the questions we hear most from spous...

#260 - Paige's Perspective: How We Misuse Recovery Language (and What to Do Instead)

31 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige gets real about something she’s noticed in the healing and recovery space: the temptation...

#259 - Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction

29 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week we’re taking a short break from recording and revisiting a powerful episodes from mid 2024, Separate t...

#258 - Guys, Let's Start Talking

27 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This one’s for both sides of the table - the person who’s sober but still hiding, and the partner who’s done...

#257 - Paige's Perspective: The Healing Swing No One Talks About

24 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week’s Paige’s Perspective, I’m talking about something most people don’t discuss enough: the pend...

#256 - The Rest vs Grind Episode

22 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Burnout anyone? Whether it's recovery and healing burnout, work burnout, health and fitness burnout, or flat-...

#255 - Mindset Monday: Reigniting Your Fire After Burnout

20 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Have you hit a wall lately and wondered if it’s time to walk away? Whether it's your recovery, a relationsh...

#254 - Paige's Perspective: You’re Allowed to Pause

17 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about what it really means to take a breather in your healing....

#253 - Betrayal Trauma

15 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We’re taking a short break from recording and re-releasing a powerful episode — Betrayal Trauma. This conversa...

#252 - Paige's Perspective: When “Just Stay Positive” Stops Working

10 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the difference between toxic positivity and the powe...

#251 - Why “One Day at a Time” Isn’t What You Think

08 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“What if” feeds anxiety. “Even if” builds a plan. In this episode we unpack what “one day at a time” a...

#250 - Mindset Monday: Shame

06 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Shame can keep you stuck in self-judgment or help you grow, depending on what you do with it. In this Mindset Mond...

#249 - Paige's Perspective: You’re Not Overreacting: Why We Minimize Instead of Catastrophize

03 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many spouses believe they’re catastrophizing — blowing things out of proportion, imagining the worst — when ...

#248 - Is What They Say When They’re Drunk True?

01 Oct 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You’ve probably heard the saying, “A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts” But is that rea...

#247 - Mindset Monday: Living Amends Aren't Enough

29 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt tackles a listener’s question about “living amends” - why they’re often a cop...

#246 - Paige's Perspective: Turning Guilt Into Growth

26 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about the power of change and choices. How many times ha...

#245 - Parenting Through Triggers; When Your Kids Act Like Your Spouse

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!When your child’s tone, excuses, or sneaky moments feel eerily familiar, it can trigger real fear - are we repla...

#244 - Mindset Monday: The Myth of the “Good Dad”

22 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We’ve all heard it: “At least he’s a good dad.” It sounds comforting, but it’s often a cover for hard tr...

#243 - Paige's Perspective: Not All Stress Is Bad - How to Spot What Builds You vs. What Breaks You

19 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I break down the difference between eustress (productive stress that bui...

#242 - How To Support Someone In Recovery

17 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“How do I support their recovery?” is probably the most common question families ask in addiction recovery, bu...

#241 - Mindset Monday: Values Over Moods

15 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Emotional intelligence is not soft. It is how you stop letting feelings run the show and start letting values driv...

#240 - Paige's Perspective: The Truth Behind Your Triggers

12 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Paige’s Perspective, we get honest about triggers; the sounds, smells, and behaviors that send spouses o...

#239 - Partners Are Not Collateral

10 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Spouses are told to learn the addict, but who teaches the addict what their choices did to the spouse’s brain, s...

#238 - Mindset Monday: Patterns Don't Lie

08 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Our brains love comfort, routine, and the familiar - even when the familiar keeps us stuck. In this Mindset Monday...

#237 - Paige's Perspective: Why Spouses Deserve More Than Addiction Education

05 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I dig into a powerful comment from one of our listeners: “As the spous...

#236 - Resentment and Forgiveness

03 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Matt and Paige pull the lid off a loaded topic: resentment. You’ve been told to “let it go,” to forgive, to ...

#235 - Mindset Monday: The Sunk Cost Trap

01 Sep 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We’ve all said it: “I can’t walk away, I’ve already put too much in.” That’s the sunk cost fallacy tal...

#234 - Paige's Perspective: Boundaries Aren’t About Them

29 Aug 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige talks about the difference between boundaries and expectations, how to shift your language ...

#233 - Should I Stay or Should I Go? How to Finally Know for Yourself

27 Aug 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“Should I stay or should I go?” It’s the question every spouse of an addict whispers in the dark, and the on...

#232 - Mindset Monday: How to Be Sober in a World Obsessed With Alcohol

25 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Getting sober is one thing. Staying sober - living sober in a world where alcohol is everywhere - is another chall...

#231 - Paige's Perspective: Why the “Codependent” Label Gets It Wrong

22 Aug 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the truth about betrayal trauma — and why it’s s...

#230 - Beyond Sobriety: The Real Checklist for Change

20 Aug 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Sobriety alone doesn’t prove someone has changed. Real recovery is measured in behavior - respect, honesty, acco...

#229 - Mindset Monday: Imperfect Action Beats Perfect Conditions

18 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week on Mindset Monday, Matt takes on one of the biggest traps we fall into—waiting for the “right time.”...

#228 - Paige's Perspective: Why I Don’t Like Talking About Addiction

15 Aug 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I share why I don’t like talking about addiction — and why I believe...

#227 - The Most Asked Questions Wives Have for Us – Part 2

13 Aug 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this follow-up to one of our most popular episodes, Matt dives deeper into the questions wives, girlfriends, an...

#226 - Mindset Monday: Five Skills Every Guy Must Master

11 Aug 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt takes men beyond sobriety into the deeper work that actually rebuilds trust and creat...

#225 - Paige's Perspective: It Didn’t Happen to Me, It Happened for Me

08 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week’s episode of Paige’s Perspective, I unpack a quote from Ted Lasso that stopped me in my tracks: “...

#224 - The Most Asked Questions Wives Have for US - Answered Honestly

06 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you’ve ever wanted to understand what was actually going on in my head when I was lying, numbing, and pretend...

#223 - Mindset Monday: The Cost of Staying the Same & Why Change Feels Like Death Before It Feels Like Freedom

04 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode is for the man standing at the crossroads, the one who knows the truth but hasn’t taken action yet....

#222 - Emotionally Immature Parents, Enmeshment, and the Breaking Point

30 Jul 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this powerful follow-up to our recent episode on family dynamics, we go deeper into what it’s like to grow up...

#221 - "I Don’t Know What to Do": When Awareness Isn’t Enough

28 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply honest Mindset Monday episode, Matt speaks directly to the men who find themselves stuck in the mes...

#220 - Paige's Perspective: Micro-Wins: The Tiny Steps That Change Everything

25 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We don’t talk enough about how hard the “normal” stuff can feel when you’re coming out of survival mode. I...

#219 - When Your Partner Can’t See Their Family’s Dysfunction

23 Jul 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode dives into one of the hardest issues couples face in recovery: toxic family dynamics. Is your spouse ...

#218 - The Most Abused Step in Recovery: Don’t Weaponize the 9th Step

21 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this audio newsletter (or maybe Mindset Mondays - still not sure here...working title), Matt tackles one of the...

#217 - Paige's Perspective: This Is My Nervous System Rehab Part 2

18 Jul 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this honest follow-up to Wheelie Rehab, Paige shares where she’s at in her nervous system reset—mentally, e...

#216 - This Isn’t Who I Married: Growing Apart, Shifting Roles & Identity Changes in Recovery

16 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Sobriety changes everything. Not just for the person getting sober, but for the relationship too. In this episode,...

#215 - Audio Newsletter: 12 Real Questions Men Ask About Shame, Trust, and Being a Good Man

14 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This one’s for the guys who never ask, and for the partners who wish they would. I answered 12 of the most hones...

#214 - Paige's Perspective: This Is My Nervous System Rehab

11 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week’s Paige’s Perspective isn’t polished; it’s personal. I’m in the middle of a full-blown nervous...

#213 - What It Really Takes to Leave: One Woman’s Story of Strength, Survival, and Starting Over

09 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we talk with a guest who opens up about the quiet, painful, and often invisible process of leavin...

#212 - Paige's Perspective: Why ‘Just Trust Yourself’ Doesn’t Work

04 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about something most healing journeys overlook—validat...

#211 - How Patriarchy Built the Recovery Model — And Why It Has to Change

02 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This might be one of our most important conversations yet.In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Pa...

#210 - Paige's Perspective: Heavy Week? Here’s a Soft Landing

27 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Feeling like life keeps piling on? Like you’re stuck in survival mode? In this short and honest episode, Paige o...

#209 - Burned Out, Numb, and Angry: The Hidden Cost of Stress

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we're not giving advice from the other side of healing. We'...

#208 - Audio Newsletter: Why Men Stay Silent & How to Start Talking Without Losing Yourself

23 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Most men don’t stay quiet because they have nothing to say, they stay quiet because they’ve been trained to be...

#207 - Paige's Perspective: Learning to Trust Again Starts with Trusting Yourself

20 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!What happens when you find out the truth years later—when the person you trusted most finally admits they lied? ...

#206 - The 4 Layers of Trust: What Rebuilding Actually Looks Like

17 Jun 2025

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you’ve heard this from a partner or found yourself asking it, this episode breaks down exactly why rebuilding...

#205 - Audio Newsletter: "How Do I Trust Again?"

16 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Trust gets asked about all the time. “How do I trust them again?”  But that question is usually hiding someth...