Till The Wheels Fall Off

#104 - Paige's Perspective: Emerging From the Cocoon - Empowerment

28 Jun 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige dives deep into how she moved out of the cocoon pha...

#103 - The Cocoon Phase of Healing

26 Jun 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we discuss the cocoon phase of healing; a familiar place for many spouses and partners of alcoholi...

#102 - Paige's Perspective: How to Balance the F**ks You Give

21 Jun 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, let's talk about how to budget the f**ks you give ju...

#101 - Can Compassion Go Too Far?

19 Jun 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Compassion is a beautiful characteristic and necessary to some degree in relationships, but there can be too much ...

#100 - Paige's Perspective: We Are Not Broken

14 Jun 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Today marks the start of a new solo segment with Paige to supplement our regular weekly show to get you more help,...

#099 - What Are Spouses of Substance Abusers Recovering From?

12 Jun 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many times spouses and partners are lost in a maze of issues that leave confusion and trouble answering a simple q...

#098 - Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction

05 Jun 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!How much should you focus on the substance? To what degree is the substance responsible for someone's behavio...

#097 - How to Handle Friends Distancing Due to a Spouse's Addiction - Listener Q&A Pt.2

29 May 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We continue to answer listener submitted questions in this episode and address the following: 1. How do you learn...

#096 - Rebuilding Trust, Getting Your Needs Met, and Intervention Q&A

22 May 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We took listener questions for this episode and you can expect to find answers to questions such as: What should y...

#095 - Why Spouses Take Longer to Heal

15 May 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The recovery journey for a spouse or partner of an alcoholic or addict is not as organized as that of a substance ...

#094 - How to Tell if Someone is Serious About Recovery

08 May 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are they serious? Is this normal? How can you tell if someone is really invested in their recovery? In the world o...

#093 - Recognizing Abuse

01 May 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Exploring the harsh reality of abuse and its profound impact on spouses, families, and children is no easy feat. O...

#092 - Anhedonia and the "Blah" Feelings of Recovery

24 Apr 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we discuss anhedonia, or what's commonly referred to as the "blah" feelings of earl...

#091 - Dry Drunk and Emotional Sobriety

17 Apr 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Simply removing the substance accomplishes very little. The term dry drunk refers to someone that has not done &qu...

#090 - Why the Past is Important - Accountability & Healing

10 Apr 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Phrases such as "We just need to move forward," "The past is the past, get over it," "Sto...

#089 - It's Okay to be Angry

03 Apr 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In general, we don't like to be angry. It's uncomfortable and then we're faced with the proposition...

#088 - Lessons Learned Together After 4,000 Days Sober

27 Mar 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we discuss some of the lessons we've learned in 4,000 days of sobriety. We discuss pain manag...

#087 - Finding Comfort as the "Villain"

20 Mar 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Being labeled a "Villain" is hurtful when you're just trying to protect yourself and your family. I...

#086 - Grief and Ambiguous Loss - Grieving The Loss of a Dream

13 Mar 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we cover a particular type of grief common when loving an addicted person called ambiguous loss. A...

#085 - Are You Overreacting?

06 Mar 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Is the drinking really as bad as I feel it? Is this a serious problem or am I making something out of nothing? Did...

#084 - Are You An Overthinker?

28 Feb 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Overthinking can plague your mind with many scenarios, many of which are negative and lead to tumultuous thoughts ...

#083 - 10 Truth Bombs About Denial

21 Feb 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The state of denial never feels like you think it would feel...Most people believe they can intuitively recognize ...

#082 - Infidelity Q&A

14 Feb 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Infidelity was not part of our story, but we get questions about it weekly. Does the cloud of substance abuse excu...

#081 - Let's Talk About Sex: Emotional and Physical Intimacy Q&A

07 Feb 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We took questions from the community and extracted the most commonly asked questions about emotional and physical ...

#080 - Learning to Love Myself - How to Rebuild Your Self Esteem

31 Jan 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If it were as simple as saying "Just love yourself" then wouldn't everybody have a high self-esteem...

#079 - Codependency Doesn't Tell the Whole Story: Why You Lose Yourself in an Addicted Relationship

24 Jan 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Books like "Codependent No More" and programs like CODA or Alanon offer a lot of helpful insight on the ...

#078 - This One's For Overwhelmed Parents

17 Jan 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Being a parent is HARD. The emotional labor and mental weight of decisions rests  heavy on healthy couples in equ...

#077 - GENTLE Self-Care: Self-Care For Beginners

10 Jan 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Self-care...oh my. We hear so much about self-care. There are industries devoted to it, so many opinions and optio...

#076 - How Will You Level Up Your Recovery In 2024?

03 Jan 2024

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!With a new year comes reflection of the past. We consider what worked, what didn't and what needs to change m...

#075 - Dealing With The Guilt You Feel In Leaving Or Setting Boundaries

27 Dec 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If I'm doing what's best for me, why do I feel guilty? Even when we do what we know is best for us and o...

#074 - Listener Q&A - How to Navigate Difficult Seasons in Life Sober

22 Dec 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We take listener questions from our community and inbox from time to time and we're going to answer a great q...

#073 - Detaching With Love Part 2

20 Dec 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We've covered detaching with love before, but the concept deserves further exploration. Detaching with love i...

#072 - A Doctor's Opinion: Dr. Christopher S. Taylor on Healing, Addiction, Narcissism, and Codependency

13 Dec 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!TWFO welcomes Dr. Christopher S. Taylor to the show to discuss a litany of topics such as healing, addiction, narc...

#071 - If a Friend or Family Member Sent This to You PLEASE Listen

06 Dec 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It's incredibly hard to communicate to friends and family what it's like being in a relationship with an...

#070 - How To Talk With Kids About Your Addicted Loved One And Other Uncomfortable Topics

29 Nov 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we go somewhere we've never gone before and have a discussion as parents, rather than a coupl...

#069 - Healthy Communication - A Vision For Growth

22 Nov 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The final part in a series on communication covers what healthy communication looks like. We often disregard the n...

#068 - Navigating The Holidays With An Addicted Loved One

15 Nov 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!All I want for Christmas is normalcy...Who can relate? The holidays with an addicted loved one bring an entirely ...

#067 - Communicating with Someone in Early Recovery

08 Nov 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We continue our communication in recovery series by touching on some of the intricacies of communicating with some...

#066 - Communicating With Someone In Active Addiction

01 Nov 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The most common question we get is "How do I help them to get sober?" Unfortunately there is not magic s...

#065 - Trigger Management for Spouses and Partners

25 Oct 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Triggers. The word comes up often in addiction treatment but we're going to shift the discussion to triggers ...

#064 - If You Were Sent This, Please Listen - Part 3

20 Oct 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The conclusion of our message to those in active addiction, or in sobriety discusses the spouse's perspective...

#063 - If You Were Sent This, Please Listen - Part 2

18 Oct 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We continue with our message to people in early sobriety with a discussion about the disease concept of addiction,...

#062 - Reactive Defense - Fighting Back Is Not Abuse

11 Oct 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Reactive abuse (defense) occurs when the victim of abuse responds to the mistreatment they're enduring. Often...

#061 - If You Were Sent This, Please Listen - Part 1

04 Oct 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We've been asked to create sharable content for your partners and spouses, so here it is. We hope it's h...

#060 - The Process of Empowerment

27 Sep 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The process of empowerment is a journey that takes up time many don't feel they have in the immediacy of a ch...

#059 - How Addiction Affects The Family - Pros & Cons of Al-Anon

20 Sep 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Our discussion this week is split into two parts. The first half focuses on ways in which addiction affects the fa...

#058 - Leaving Him Saved Our Marriage & His Life

13 Sep 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode is special in so many ways. It marks one year of Till The Wheels Fall Off, we have our first guests o...

#057 - Am I Controlling You Or Just Challenging You To Be Better?

06 Sep 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The line between challenging your partner to live up to their potential and controlling them is blurry...Often whe...

#056 - Actions vs Intentions - What Matters Most?

30 Aug 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Your intentions are bullsh...well, not totally, but pretty much. Intentions can be extremely valuable in certain s...

#055 - What's Going On With Men?

23 Aug 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!An issue under the surface of what we often discuss is the role of the substance abuser or emotional abuser is tha...

#054 - Should I Stay Or Should I Go? - When Is It Time To Leave A Relationship?

16 Aug 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!"Should I stay or should I go?" paraphrases a question we get maybe more than any other. This episode ho...

#053 - Trauma Bonding - Why We Stay In Abusive Relationships

09 Aug 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Trauma bonding occurs when someone becomes overly loyal or attached to another individual who exhibits toxic behav...

#052 - What Is The Partner's Role in Recovery?

02 Aug 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!A slippery slope topic...What role should you play in your loved one's recovery and what is the best way to s...

#051 - The Forgotten Partner - Validating the Partner In Alcoholic or Addicted Relationships

26 Jul 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It's okay to be mad. It's okay. Healing starts after the pain is acknowledged and your feelings are vali...

#050 - Boundaries Part 3: Installing and Living With Boundaries

19 Jul 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The final episode in our boundaries series covers the review, installation, and experience of living with boundari...

#049 - Boundaries Part 2: What Makes You Uncomfortable?

12 Jul 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In part two of our boundaries series we are picking up right where we left off and furthering the discussion aroun...

#048 - Boundaries Part 1: What Are Your Values?

05 Jul 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We get asked about setting boundaries more than any single topic so we're creating a 3-part series to break d...

#047 - Listener Q&A

30 Jun 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We took to our accounts to field questions from YOU and we think this episode is AMAZING! We really enjoyed making...

#046 - Forgiveness - How To Forgive Others & Yourself

28 Jun 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Forgiveness is an incredibly complex topic. Many times we feel that forgiving someone is the same as condoning the...

#045 - Gaslighting

21 Jun 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Gaslighting was the buzzterm of 2022 and as it turns out, many people misuse it. Gaslighting is a form of psycholo...

#044 - Building A Relationship In Recovery

14 Jun 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This is a listener requested topic that covers how two people working toward better versions of themselves also st...

#043 - How To Handle Dysfunctional Situations

07 Jun 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Dysfunction is sneaky. One moment you're enjoying life and the next you're wondering how in the world yo...

#042 - Living Without Rules - Break Rules to Find Balance

31 May 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Break rules to find balance in your life! Rules are made to be broken. It's cliche but we believe it to be tr...

#041 - Codependency - It's NOT What You Think

24 May 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The word "Codependency" gets a really bad rap. The word conjures imagines of someone obsessed with a par...

#040 - Acceptance Is The Answer - Develop Balance By Understanding What You Can and Can't Change

17 May 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Acceptance isn't a black or white subject...but it's often perceived as exactly that. True, ruthless acc...

#039 - You Can't Change Other People (But You Can Change Yourself)

10 May 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Whether you're in a relationship with an addict/alcoholic or in a relationship with a narcissist or perhaps a...

#038 - Ditch Your Excuses - How Limiting Beliefs Stunt Our Growth

03 May 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!There is more written about excuses and why we shouldn't make them than anyone could possibly read...yet we a...

#037 - Low Maintenance Relationships

26 Apr 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Your oldest friends are the easiest to get along with. Why is that? It's because the foundation of that relat...

#036 - Act Yourself Into Right Thinking

19 Apr 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!So often we spend hours tormenting ourselves trying to think ourselves out of a problem, emotion, or feeling. Some...

#035 - How To Make REAL Change - Celebrating 10 Years of Recovery & Positive Change

12 Apr 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week we celebrate 10 years of recovery and positive change! The journey from addiction to recovery has been l...

#034 - Communication - The Easiest Way to Get What You Need

05 Apr 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Today we discuss the importance of communication and reveal the secret behind getting what you need in a relations...

#033 - Failure is Success

29 Mar 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are you failing right now? Congratulations! When we learn to recognize failure as a building block of success it t...

#032 - How to Set Boundaries In Your Relationship - What Are Boundaries?

22 Mar 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Boundaries in a relationship are often misunderstood, misused, and undefined. We discuss what boundaries are, what...

#031 - Improv to Improve - Simple Steps to Make the Most Out of Adversity and Improve Your Life

15 Mar 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Life is a lot like jazz, it's best when you improvise. It's impossible to get upset when you practice ac...

#030 - Work Life Balance - Processing Anxiety Around Holidays & Vacations

08 Mar 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Work Life Balance. It seems so simple, doesn't it? I work, then I fulfill my family duties and live out my pa...

#029 - Spirituality and Happiness

01 Mar 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Spirituality is a foundation of self development and happiness. This is a conversation we never wanted to have at ...

#028 - How To Cope With Triggers

22 Feb 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Triggers are open wounds inside our minds that lead to reactions disproportionate to the present event. The goal h...

#027 - Stop Being Weird About Money

15 Feb 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Couples will openly talk about their sex lives before they dare talk about their money. Why is this? We discuss wh...

#026 - Why Accountability Partners Fail: Spoiler - It’s You, Not Them

08 Feb 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Accountability partners aren't going to save you from putting food in your mouth and sponsors won't slap...

#025 - Own Your Trauma

01 Feb 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Personality comes from the latin word "Persona" , which refers to a theatrical mask worn by performers t...

#024 - From Loving The Addict to Loving Myself

25 Jan 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Detaching with love from an addict partner, child, friend, or family member is difficult. Whether they are in reco...

#023 - How Addiction Nearly Ruined Our Life

18 Jan 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In our first of two episodes about the addiction that nearly tore our family apart, Matt recounts his battle with ...

#022 - Stop Saving Your Kids!

11 Jan 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Adversity is essential to growth and independence. When we conquer a challenge we grow and learn but it's bec...

#021 - 3 Reasons Your Resolutions Fail

04 Jan 2023

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Resolutions fail because they lack depth and weight. In 2023, promise to challenge yourself. Let's take an in...

#020 - Manage Post-Holiday Blues

28 Dec 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Whether we feel the loss of the season and mourn or feel completely overwhelmed from the "Peopling" we h...

#019 - Story Time: Queso, you taking the kids or not?

23 Dec 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It’s story time! This story has become lore in our family and friend circles. For story time this week we re-liv...

#018 - 10 Things I Hate About You

21 Dec 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!With Christmas fast approaching and everyone in survival mode, we decided to go light this week. Find out what dri...

#017 - All or Nothing

14 Dec 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!"All or Nothing Thinking" or "Black and White Thinking" or "Polarized Thinking" are ...

#016 - Story Time: When Moms Party

09 Dec 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Special Episode! Settle in, make sure your kids aren’t close and grab a seat for this special “Story Time” e...

#015 - Merry Stressmas & Happy Holidaze!

07 Dec 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You don’t want to skip this one! From difficult and hilarious family stereotypes, to the burden of gift giving, ...

#014 - Time Management

02 Dec 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Where does the time go? We discuss some tips and tricks we use to juggle a marriage, family, extra curriculars, bu...

#013 - Want a GREAT Relationship? Listen Up.

30 Nov 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode covers some key factors that have made our relationship successful over 20 years. Whether you are str...

#012 - Alcohol & The Holidays

23 Nov 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The holidays are a time for fellowship, family, and tradition...but it can also be the source of immense stress an...

#011 - Make Money Living Your Purpose

16 Nov 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Do you hate your job? Do you feel like you're not fulfilling your purpose or your talents are being wasted? M...

#010 - Coping With Anxiety

09 Nov 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are you anxious? What are the sources of your anxiety and how to do you cope with it? We all have different ways o...

#009 - Ruthless Accountability

02 Nov 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Your friendly neighborhood street sweepers checking in to share with you how we've found how keeping our side...

#008 - Reset Your Day

26 Oct 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Did you have a bad day, or did the day have a bad you? Did your tough morning snowball into the worst day ever and...

#007 - Holiday Bucket List; Make The Most of The Seasons

21 Oct 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Do your favorite seasons or holidays pass you by and leave you wondering “What happened to the time?!” We disc...

#006 - Detaching With Love

19 Oct 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Detaching with love can be hard to navigate, but it can be beneficial for all involved, even if it’s painful. We...

#005 - Mind Muscles

12 Oct 2022

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!When we think about fitness, we often think of our physical fitness...But what does the state of your physical fit...