Send us a textCarol Nistakis shares her family's painful journey through the justice system after her autistic son was manipulated into illegal activity by a neighbor. Her decade-long fight for justice led her to cofound D3, an organization helping families navigate the unique challenges autistic individuals face in legal proceedings.• Began advocating when son was diagnosed at age 2, ensuring proper education and support• Son functioned at age 10 level but was active in Special Olympics and held a part-time job• 2012 incident led to 19 felony charges that were eventually reduced to one misdemeanor• Court showed little interest in son's diagnosis despite extensive documentation• Plea deal resulted in 2 years probation and 10 years on registry• Son lost access to Special Olympics, recreation activities, and eventually his job• Family was separated as son could no longer live at home due to restrictions• Financial burden depleted savings meant for son's long-term care• After 10 years, Carol secured a pardon and expungement without legal help• Advocates for special courts with judges trained to understand autism• Stresses that behaviors are manifestations of disability, not criminal intent• Current autism rate is 1 in 31 children, making justice system reform urgentTell everyone everywhere about Why Not Me, the world, the conversations we're having and the inspiration our guests give to everyone everywhere that you are not alone in this world.https://tonymantor.comhttps://Facebook.com/tonymantorhttps://instagram.com/tonymantorhttps://twitter.com/tonymantorhttps://youtube.com/tonymantormusicintro/outro music bed written by T. WildWhy Not Me the World music published by Mantor Music (BMI)
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Hopefully, you gain more awareness, acceptance, and a better understanding for autism around the world. Hi, I'm Tony Mantour. Welcome to Why Not Me? The World, Humanity Over Handcuffs, The Silent Crisis special event. Joining us today is Carol Nistakis, vice president and co-founder of D3, an organization devoted to supporting autistic individuals navigating the complexities of the legal system.
Her journey began with her son's challenging experiences within the justice system, which exposed the unique struggles faced by autistic individuals and their families. These deeply personal encounters inspired her to advocate for systematic change, provide resources, and offer guidance to others facing similar obstacles.
She's here to share how her experiences shaped her family's path and fueled her commitment to transforming the legal landscape for autistic individuals. It's a pleasure to have you here, Carol. Could you tell us how these events sparked your journey and led to your advocacy?
Chapter 2: What inspired Carol Nistakis to begin advocating for autism rights?
Ever since my son was born, probably there showed signs that there was something not quite right. So when he was two, I already started having him tested. So I became an advocate because I had to make sure that he got the best education that he could get in the schools. That being said, I had to educate myself. I had to educate myself and learn about all his rights.
I had to make sure he had the proper IEPs for school, his educational plan. I had to make sure I was at all the meetings. I made sure I was at the schools, observing and volunteering all the way through, at least through grade school, because high school, it's a little bit different. You're not able to be as involved in there, but I was as involved as I could be.
So that is how I became an advocate, first of all, for developmental disabilities. My son has an intellectual disability. He has a lot of autistic characteristics. But he functions as about 10 years old.
How old is he now?
He's 38. So he's not going to function at any higher level than that. You know, there are some people on the spectrum that, you know, are very intelligent and it all has to do with behavioral processes. and differences in the brain. And there's been a lot of research done on that. So they know that there is a difference in the brain of someone with autism, someone who's neurotypical.
So I did advocate for him all the way through, even when he got a job that had to go through, you know, a human resources department and he had to have a job coach and a job administrator. So even after he became an adult, I advocated for him.
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Chapter 3: How did Carol's son navigate life and work with autism before the legal incident?
So he was able to work then?
You know, he worked in a small part-time job and did Special Olympics, and he did special recreation where he did activities with his peers. I thought, you know, everything was okay, but there was a neighbor next door who had some disabilities also. He lived next door, and he manipulated my son into doing something he shouldn't have done, and police were involved.
How long ago was this, that this happened?
That was in 2012, so my son was 25 then. And police became involved. Then we started our journey, I should say nightmare, not journey, in the systems for the next year. I had a couple attorneys, but I also had good support. I had good support. I had a retired assistant district attorney who was with us all the way through and another attorney.
friend who was an attorney, and we were supported by, you know, family friends and, you know, co-workers and things like that. So, but in the end, he did have to take a plea deal, which seems to be the case for just about all of these kids. Even though, you know, we submitted evaluations and paperwork and documents and medical forms, they really didn't take any of that. They realized it
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Chapter 4: What happened in 2012 that involved Carol’s son with the justice system?
Because they never even asked my son a question at all, zero questions in court. They never asked him anything. They never, you know, everything went through the attorneys. He didn't even speak at court. He just stood up there.
So it's pretty obvious they didn't give the attention to his autistic diagnosis that they probably should have. Did you get any reasons for that?
Basically because, well, prosecutors are there to win their cases and nobody's really educated. Even trying to find an attorney to defend us, they were very sympathetic. We had two attorneys. They were very sympathetic and they were willing to. to make sure that, you know, they took this into consideration. But, you know, the court's not educated.
So I don't really even know how much the judge knew because the prosecutor had all the documents and everything. And, you know, you have to wonder, does the judge even know what's going on here? Because it seems like the prosecutors have all the power.
So once the verdict came down, what was the result from that?
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Chapter 5: How did the legal system respond to Carol’s son's autism diagnosis during the case?
Well, we took, actually, you know, in the very beginning, they had him charged with 19 felony charges. And by the time we were done, we pled down to one misdemeanor charge, which gave him two years on probation and 10 years on the registry.
So before that, you said he was in the Special Olympics.
Yes.
What kind of competition did he do with that?
Oh, he did everything. He did bowling, swimming. He did powerlifting. He did bocce ball. He pretty much involved himself in everything that he could do because physically he was fine. So, you know, he played softball and lots of lots of activities.
That's great that he enjoyed that. So now that he had to take that plea deal, what happened then? I'm sure that changed the whole landscape.
It changed his whole life. I mean, he was still working the part-time job, but all his activities stopped because when I went to the Special Olympics and Special Recreation Organization, they had told me that this is not anything they haven't seen before. You know, these kids getting caught up in the system.
But their attorneys would not allow him to participate in it anymore because it was a liability. So all that stopped. All his social activities, all his Special Olympics.
That's pretty sad to hear.
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Chapter 6: What were the consequences of the plea deal on Carol’s son’s life and family?
So then I stayed in my house and my husband and my son for those two years he was on probation. They also put an ankle bracelet on him. They stayed in the condo, which was close to the home, but it still separated our families. So it broke up the family. It caused us a lot of financial harm because, you know, court system, going through the courts, paying for your attorneys and such.
We had to use a lot of money that was supposed to go for my son's future care.
Sure. I mean, that sounds really tough. So what happened next?
Then we ended up selling the house after about five years, and I moved into the condo with my two dogs. It was a one-bedroom condo, and we just moved in, and that was the price we had to pay because that condo was not near any schools or daycares or anything like that. It was more of a senior area.
After this, I think you got more intense in advocacy, correct?
I continued to fight in 2015 with another parent from Virginia, Brian Calmore. We started decriminalizing, well, it was LRID then, but we started advocating and started our organization because we found out there were a lot of us. There's a lot of us out there, and it's still happening. We founded our organization.
That kept me busy, and I just kept working on... We did a post-conviction petition for my son to see if we could get that back in court. That was denied, and then I just started working on a pardon.
So how did you move forward with that?
On my own, without an attorney, because we really were strapped for cash then. We had to pay for the initial... And then we had two more attorneys for the post-conviction petition, and they happened to be two retired judges from that courthouse, and they still couldn't win the case. So I worked on a pardon on my own. Took me 10 years.
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Chapter 7: How did these experiences deepen Carol’s advocacy and lead to founding D3?
I did get my son a pardon and an expungement. But I will tell you that the damage is done. My son is not the same young man he was before all this happened. He was social and, you know, he was working a job. He was contributing to society. He sat home for 10 years. Physically, he gained weight and he wasn't moving around. So that took a toll on him physically.
Mentally, he doesn't trust anybody anymore. He doesn't trust anybody. He has frequent meltdowns now. He's just not sociable like he used to be. So it's taken a toll on him. He's just, I don't know if he'll ever be the same person he was before.
Yeah, and not only that, but if it's taken a toll on him, it's taken on the family as well.
Absolutely. Absolutely. I will tell you that mentally I suffered, and my husband suffered too, greatly. You know, it was difficult. There was many, many, many nights of no sleeping and anxiety attacks and just, you know, just breakdowns because you don't think that something like this could ever, ever happen. And you fight for your life.
to try and win, and thank goodness he didn't have to go to prison because the horror stories that we hear about these individuals with autism in the prisons is unbelievably sad.
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Chapter 8: What challenges did Carol face pursuing a pardon and expungement for her son?
Yes, I've spoke with several people that their sons or daughters have ended up in the prison system, and it's not a pretty sight at all.
No, no, no.
With everything that you've been through, now you're looking back at it. Is there anything that you see that now you might have done a little differently that might have changed the outcome?
Well, now that I've learned what I've learned through our organization over the years, you know, there are psychologists out there that are trained to evaluate. We did have an evaluation. My attorneys weren't, they really didn't want to use it. I needed someone trained to present to the courts. and that are trained in autism and how autism works and developmental disabilities as a whole.
So I would have gotten, I would have definitely found someone who was trained. And I probably, I did get myself out there and I did, you know, make sure my story was out there and that I probably, there was some press that wanted to come in the courtroom and my attorney said, no, that wouldn't be a good idea. I probably would have had him in there.
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Chapter 9: What are the long-term impacts of the justice system experience on Carol’s son and family?
I just think my attorney should have been educated more. And if I could have, you know, done something to educate the court, I would have done that also.
So how do we get them educated? They go to work every day. They do what they do. Like you said, they're out there to win. But sometimes compassion has to come into the picture. They have to have a little empathy towards the people they're prosecuting. And it's not like the majority of autistic people are out there just trying to figure out how they can be bad. Sometimes they're the victims.
So how do we get that across to them so that they can better understand? And then with all of this together, it's a win-win for everyone.
Yes, and right now they changed the stats where it's 1 in 31 children born now. So they really, really have to do something. I think that, and they've done it in some places, they need special courts where, say, maybe there's five judges who are willing to be trained. and five defense attorneys and prosecutors that are willing to do that.
And they can combine it with mental health courts because they do have that. But it's not something that is curable. So they have to learn the anatomy of the brain and how all this plays into effect. But if they were to do that, if they were to just get a court where any judge willing to educate themselves...
Yes, I agree. That would help tremendously. It totally amazes me. My podcast this month and next month is having 61 straight episodes about autism, mental health, and the legal system. My first guest this month was a judge in Las Vegas. She runs a court system that diverts the kids out of the legal system as much as possible. It's the only one in the country that does this.
It just shocks me that if she can do it, no one else is trying to do it either. It didn't start out that way, but it just turned into one then another. Now she's the only court system in Las Vegas and the country that does this type of legal system for autistic children. My issue is if she can do it, others around the country should be looking and saying, why can't we do something like this?
Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. And these diversion laws are really important. I mean, Virginia has it and Maryland's trying to get it. And if that bill were to spread through all the states, you know, to divert these kids, these young adults, before they even get in the court system, would save a lot of grief and money.
Millions.
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