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My Fiancé Is Cheating Through The Notes App!

17 Jun 2026

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Chapter 1: What feedback did Jared receive from his book tour?

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We're going to do some TikToks first before you guys get into it.

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14.508 - 17.531 Jordana Abraham

Hello and welcome back to the You Up Podcast. I'm Jordana Abraham.

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18.052 - 25.06 Jared Freed

And I am Jared Freed. It is so good to be back here with you, Jordana. How are you? What's going on? How you feeling?

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25.158 - 27.001 Jordana Abraham

I'm feeling good.

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27.021 - 27.542 Jared Freed

Yeah?

27.622 - 31.869 Jordana Abraham

Yeah. It's summer. We're back. I'm here.

Chapter 2: What happened with the woman and her fiancé using the Notes app?

31.95 - 33.733 Jordana Abraham

We're ready. We're in studio.

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33.813 - 41.065 Jared Freed

We love in studio. I am on the press tour for the book, and I am done with the sound of my own voice.

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41.085 - 42.728 Jordana Abraham

You are the hardest working man in America.

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42.708 - 48.897 Jared Freed

I do them all. I do all these podcasts. But then, like, when you're doing a dating book, it becomes... Like, I'm, like, sick of myself.

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49.037 - 53.363 Jordana Abraham

Do people ask... Are people just keep asking you about your dating life on... They're asking about your dating life.

53.444 - 58.972 Jared Freed

Well, then you get into, like, discussions with people about dating that, like... Are they asking about your relationship status on these things?

58.992 - 59.592 Jordana Abraham

That's fine.

59.653 - 64.8 Jared Freed

Yeah, they ask about your relationship status. And I talk about, you know, having a girlfriend and... Do you feel like...

65.118 - 92.34 Jared Freed

better that you have a girlfriend for this press tour than like you don't because it's like keeps coming up like it's easier I think I would have a canned answer if I was single doing this I would have an answer that brought it back to the book like yes I'm single and that's why I'm the best person to buy a book from and now it's I'm in a relationship so I know everything I know everything

Chapter 3: Is an open phone policy a good sign in a relationship?

163.52 - 166.125 Jordana Abraham

Those people don't know as much as people who have been single.

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166.405 - 191.566 Jared Freed

And then our relationships, there's not a lot of empathy generally from people in relationships to the plight of being single. Cause they're like, well, it's, you know, Because once you're in it, you go, oh, once I gave into this whole thing. I could say that right now. But you have to take a... You don't remember what it's like to feel upset by it or sad by it. I think that's anything, right?

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191.586 - 213.791 Jared Freed

Right. It's anything. And if you don't give that, I don't know. I don't think me being in a relationship... It's funny when you talk about, oh, I have a dating advice book. I can see when people react to it in the same way people react to me. Oh, I'm a comedian. Oh, you think you're funny? I'm like, oh, that's a very insecure person. You know, like, oh, what makes you an expert on dating?

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213.811 - 220.559 Jared Freed

Oh, that's a person who's very insecure. Like, I can always, I, you know, my dad has a saying, fat people have the best hearing.

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221.701 - 224.404 Jordana Abraham

What does that even mean? I don't know.

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That's what my dad is saying. What does that mean? It means they're sensitive.

228.585 - 230.668 Jordana Abraham

It sounds like something he yelled at someone on the playground.

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You got great hearing. I say that as someone with weight issues.

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Like they're sensitive.

Chapter 4: What are the implications of wanting to have dinner with parents frequently?

273.599 - 275.782 Jordana Abraham

They start off with their spiel, next.

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275.902 - 280.627 Jared Freed

Why am I not getting a real person here? Next.

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281.228 - 282.589 Jordana Abraham

That show was so mean.

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283.109 - 284.131 Jared Freed

It's a pretty mean show.

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284.151 - 287.618 Jordana Abraham

That was pretty mean. They used to have really mean dating. They wouldn't be able to do that anymore.

287.958 - 289.922 Jared Freed

Well, there's a lot of mean dating.

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Parental control.

290.303 - 296.013 Jared Freed

All the shows were mean. Room readers. They would sit you next to their parents while they would talk shit to the parents.

296.034 - 298.418 Jordana Abraham

They'd make the boyfriend watch you on a date with someone else.

Chapter 5: How can one address feelings of discomfort in a relationship?

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Keep sending in your emails. Um, Here's how we feel. Here's how you get out of it. Here's your next move. Here's what I would do, you know?

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518.605 - 521.329 Jordana Abraham

Uncomfortable conversations had comfortable.

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521.369 - 546.917 Jared Freed

That's the rule here. That's it. I'm also, listen, if you're listening, the book is out. It's out. It's out. You can see it here. If you haven't bought it by now. Buy the book. Buy the book. I don't even know what promoting it does at this point. The book is now out there and it's in your hands. If you have a friend who's single- or newly single Well, I'm positive.

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547.017 - 550.621 Jared Freed

I'm like, I don't even know what I want from the book anymore. Like, I'm like, it's out.

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550.641 - 551.822 Jordana Abraham

You want it to sell, yeah.

551.842 - 562.734 Jared Freed

Right, I would like for it to sell. Like, I kind of have to move on at a certain point. It hasn't even come out yet. It's week two, but this is the way life works. This is it. This is the way of the world.

563.055 - 567.76 Jordana Abraham

Well, it's also like, now you've been promoting it for like months, right? Right, I think it's good.

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Promotion fatigue. I'm a little fatigued, but I'm like, there's laughs every, like, do you want to laugh every page? Of a book? Yeah. Okay, that was the attempt I made. I don't know who else is doing that for you. No one. Now I'm getting mad at someone who doesn't even exist. You're like Kelly Clarkson from last week. What the fuck is wrong with you? Buy the book. You can have it right now.

588.576 - 594.663 Jared Freed

I don't know. I'd love for people to buy. The feedback's already, before it even came out, amazing.

Chapter 6: What should you do if you suspect your partner is cheating?

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I've done these things before, but I'm starting to move into new territory, new levels.

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621.818 - 625.165 Jordana Abraham

Deeper levels, yeah. Right. Some of them are not as fun.

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625.385 - 638.19 Jared Freed

Some of them are more fun. No, we had a conversation the other night. We had this conversation about, and I'm just not, the things that I'm not good at, Like, those are what I was avoiding when it came to, like, getting in a relationship.

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638.21 - 653.697 Jordana Abraham

Well, that's what a relationship does, like, more than almost, like, exposing you to, I think, what's wrong with the person you're dating. The deeper you get into it, it also exposes what you're not good at. Because when you live alone, everything you do is great. Right. There's only one person voting. Right. And you love what you do.

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653.717 - 654.839 Jared Freed

I love everything I do.

654.859 - 659.306 Jordana Abraham

And then you're in a relationship, and, like, that's how you see what, like... Maybe your flaws are.

659.606 - 669.616 Jared Freed

So yesterday I could feel something was off. She heard me on another podcast talking about our relationship. I was like, are you OK? What's going on? She's like, well, listen to this.

669.696 - 672.099 Jordana Abraham

Oh, it wasn't that you told her not to come. It was something else.

672.119 - 681.188 Jared Freed

Well, then it wasn't that I told her not to come. It was I and I heard you on this podcast. You may mention I feel like we're going to have to have a talk about it later. Again, I'm on this.

Chapter 7: How does emotional cheating differ from physical cheating?

695.711 - 717.747 Jared Freed

And I'm game for the conversation. What did you say? I think the first time we dated that I was dating around and it wasn't generally exclusive when we were dating the first time around, which I always felt was known. Um, but maybe just not said, right. You know, as you do, I, I don't, but also I don't know, but that's upset.

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717.768 - 726.821 Jordana Abraham

I could see that being like, that's one of those things where like, You kind of feel like you don't have a right to be upset, but you're still upset. I think I talked about this with Mike. I had a similar thing.

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726.921 - 730.285 Jared Freed

That was the vibe I got. That's exactly the vibe.

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730.786 - 733.149 Jordana Abraham

I don't think I'm entitled to be upset, but I kind of am upset.

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733.169 - 750.584 Jared Freed

I'm upset, but I'm not mad at you. I'm not mad, I'm disappointed. It was that, and I hate I'm not mad, I'm disappointed. I think that is the worst version of a fight ever. I'd rather you be fucking mad and it's done and now you love me more than anyone in the entire world.

750.644 - 753.229 Jordana Abraham

Like, I don't want... Like a weirdness, yeah.

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I don't want, I guess this is who you are. And I'm like, yeah, it was me the whole time.

761.082 - 765.349 Jordana Abraham

I mean, that's sort of the perfect scenario for that.

765.329 - 790.42 Jared Freed

Well, I think that's also why men avoid relationships. So they don't have to have this conversation? Well, men get a lot of mileage out of potential. When women date them, they date them, okay, he checks a lot of boxes. So potential is kind of the sexiness of a man. I don't think men date women on potential at all.

Chapter 8: What are the consequences of not being open in a relationship?

817.854 - 819.777 Jordana Abraham

Well, you thought they would change.

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819.957 - 822.822 Jared Freed

You thought they would change or you thought they were on a trajectory.

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822.862 - 823.804 Jordana Abraham

Mm-hmm.

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823.784 - 832.445 Jared Freed

And then you go, I'm not mad, I'm disappointed because you're like, oh, this is who you are. That's part of dating. That's part of dating. This is what you got.

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832.485 - 834.269 Jordana Abraham

Or that's part of relationships. Right.

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So, yeah, that's kind of when.

838.439 - 839.802 Jordana Abraham

But that's all relationships.

839.782 - 857.322 Jared Freed

Right. I think so. But I think this is also like us being apart. I do feel like I do for the first time. I do feel like I'm like I need to like be around her in a way that I never felt that way with anyone else. Like I do feel like I am missing something.

857.983 - 862.888 Jordana Abraham

Right. Well, it's happening. So that's exciting. Like you're working. You're like moving in together.

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