Unblock Your BS
Episodes
I Lost My Marriage… and Found Myself
18 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Some moments in life split your story into two chapters: Before. And after. For Charlie, that moment happened the night he discovered his wife was hav...
Rebuilding Trust With Yourself After Cheating, Divorce, or Betrayal
11 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Heartbreak has a way of exposing patterns we didn't even realize we were living inside of. In this episode, Tara sits down with heartbreak and relatio...
Navigating Post-Divorce Grief
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Divorce is messy. It's grief. It's a relief. It's rage. It's freedom. Sometimes all in the same week. In this solo episode, I break down what really h...
Reigniting Desire: From Roommate Marriage to Real Intimacy with Dan Purcell
25 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
You're good teammates.Good parents. But behind closed doors?Something's missing. The spark.The fire.The "I can't wait to touch you" energy. Most coupl...
She Cheated. Here's What I Did Instead of Exploding
20 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Two D' Days. That's what Clayton calls them. The day he discovered the sexual affair. And the day he found out it wasn't the only one. She cheated. ...
You Changed. She's Still Mad.
18 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
You finally decided to do the work. You're learning about nervous system regulation. You're reflecting on your patterns. You're trying to show up diff...
Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What It's Really Protecting)
11 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yo...
What does emotional safety really mean?
05 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When life punches you in the throat (flu, ice storm, a branch through your roof at 5am… you know, casual "unprecedented times" stuff), you learn rea...
"I Only Feel Anger and Barely Joy" When a Man Goes Numb
21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Wayne is separated from his wife of 30 years and after starting therapy, he's realizing something that hits a lot of men like a truck: He spent decade...
Divorce Papers on the Counter: A Fearful Avoidant's Wake-Up Call
14 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
He came home from an AA meeting. The kids were gone. His wife was gone. Divorce papers were sitting on the counter. And that was just the beginning. I...
If She's "Always Mad," You're Missing the Point (And Making It Worse)
17 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When your partner is "mad," most people react like anger is the problem. It's not. Anger is usually protection and what's underneath it is what actual...
From Human Doing to Human Being: Healing the "I'm Not Enough" BS Belief
10 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You can know all the nervous system language, do the breathwork, read the books, got therapy… and still find yourself lying awake at 3 a.m. replayin...
How to Survive the Holidays During or After Divorce
26 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you're going through a separation or divorce, the holiday season doesn't feel magical… it feels like a spotlight on everything that's changed. ...
From Saving the Marriage to Saving Himself: Brian's Shift from Fixing to Leading
19 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When Brian joined Healthy Men-tality, his marriage was on life support. He was desperate to fix the cracks that had formed after trust was broken but ...
The "Not Good Enough" Trap: Jim's 40-Year Cycle of Self-Abandonment (and How to Break It)
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Men: if you're exhausted trying to "be enough" and fix everything at home, this episode shows how to stop self-abandoning, regulate, and lead yourself...
From "Man Up" to Showing Up: Former Pro Athlete on Healing, Emotional Safety & Real Connection
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever been praised at work and lost at home, you're not alone. My good friend and guest on today's episode is Paul Coleman, who thought "prov...
Wife or Bust: Dating With Integrity, Courage & Clarity (feat. Chris Bates & Joel Cochran)
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Modern dating is a minefield of mixed signals, ghosting, and people saying they want "real connection" while avoiding the real work it takes to build ...
Retired Army Colonel Hit Rock Bottom with Alcohol and is Now an Advocate for Healing and Feeling?
22 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Jack is a 24-year Army combat veteran who retired into a quiet house and a loud nervous system. Without the mission and tribe, drinking became the go-...
Beyond "Just Breathing" | How Facilitated Breathwork Rewires Your Life (Feat. Jana McKinney)
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm joined by Jana McKinney, CEO & Founder of Get Living Breathwork, to unpack why facilitated breathwork can shift you faster and deeper than y...
Divorced. Numb. Lost. Here's What Changed for Kyle After Joining Healthy Men-tality
08 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kyle's story is proof that you don't have to stay stuck in the pain of divorce, disconnection, or old patterns. In this episode, Kyle, one of the me...
I Spent $7,000 on a Matchmaking Service (Here's What Happened)
01 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When we're lonely, it's easy to throw money, time, and hope into quick fixes for love. Matchmaking services promise "high-quality partners" but are th...
Are You Fighting Your Partner...or Your Past?
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most couples stay stuck in the same painful cycles because they believe their partner makes them feel unloved, unwanted, disrespected or upset. But wh...
He Broke Down Crying in a Waffle House at 1am - Then Radically Changed His Life
17 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most of us get hijacked by spirals of anger, shame, or the "should storms" of life. We either shut down, blow up, or perform our pain for approval. Bu...
Nervous System 101 for Love & Dating
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it you can be so chill and peaceful single but the second you start the talking phase or go on a single date with someone - it triggers the anx...
In a Roommate Marriage? Let's Deep Dive Why
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A post I shared went viral on "roommate marriages" and it highlighted the same core pains from over 400,000 men: no intimacy, eggshell communication, ...
Why Being "Too Nice" Was Killing His Relationship
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For 20 years, John lived in the "nice guy" role… fawning, avoiding conflict, and losing himself in the process. His marriage looked stable on the ou...
Observing Before Reacting: The Skill That Saves Relationships
20 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When emotions run high, most people react from their wounds, not their wisdom. The result? Miscommunication, spiraling arguments, and a lot of "fixing...
Codependency, Narcissists, and the Real Root of Attraction with Jen Peters
14 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Healing gave her insight. Inner child work gave her peace. In today's episode, I sit down with Jen Peters, an internationally recognized inner child h...
Religious Trauma, Self-Abandonment & Finding Yourself Again
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if your patterns in love weren't proof that you're broken but invitations to finally come home to yourself? In this powerful episode, I'm joined ...
He Thought Breathwork Was BS - Then It Broke Him Wide Open
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the way you've been showing up in relationships wasn't your fault but it was your responsibility to change? In this powerful case study, Shawn...
She Moved on QUICK and He Was Left to Pick Up the Pieces
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
He couldn't eat. He couldn't sleep. His wife had left, moved on, and was still emotionally entangled with him—while dating someone new. And Chris? H...
How to Stop Sabotaging Peace and Start Feeling Safe in Love
19 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You ever feel like you're the one who gets it emotionally, but still can't stop chasing people who aren't good for you? In this listener Q&A episode, ...
The 3-Month Healing Journey That Years of Therapy Couldn't Touch
10 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This isn't a before-and-after story. This is the during. The messy middle. The part where healing actually happens. In today's episode, I sit down wit...
Why So Many Men Can't Receive Love - and How to Fix It (ft. Jim Vance)
02 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you're a man (or in relationship with a man) who shuts down, spirals with intrusive thoughts of not feeling like enough, or suddenly you're seeking...
Are All Men Toxic? Or Is It You?
25 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If your dating and relationship life feels like one long loop of situationships, betrayals, or emotional neglect… this episode is for you. I pull ze...
Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners: Nervous System Dating Advice with Kayle Ersek
18 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is the self aware dating collab the internet needed: Tara and Kayle Ersek (of The Dating Collective) team up for an emotionally intellige...
The Science of Why You Keep F*cking Up Your Own Peace
11 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You don't need a new job, a new relationship, or a 10-step morning routine to change your life. You just need to understand how your brain actually wo...
Dating After Divorce, Avoiding the Bullsh*t, and Exploring Polyamory with Dating Coach Kam Berard
04 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If dating feels like a dumpster fire… you're not alone. But what if it's not the apps, the avoidants, or your bad luck? What if the way you're datin...
Coaching Episode: Why You Keep Choosing People Who Don't Choose You
28 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this raw and real coaching session, I sit down with podcast listener Marissa, who's exhausted by dating, tired of always giving more in relationshi...
Coaching Episode: He Was Supposed to Be Safe — What Happens When You Find Out He's Not?
21 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When your whole life explodes in a single moment, how do you survive it—let alone heal? In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Brittany shares what h...
"I Lost My Marriage to Anger and Shame" | Real Coaching Call with a Divorced Dad
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chuck is 28, mid-divorce, and drowning in self-blame, rage, and regret. In this powerful real-time coaching session, we unpack the emotional spirals,...
WTF Does "Do the Work" Even Mean? (Bob's Story)
07 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When Bob first came across the Healthy Men-tality Program, he was stuck, confused, and about to lose his marriage. His wife told him he needed to "do ...
Why Men Struggle to Speak Up (and How My Client Mark Found His Voice)
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Coach Tara sits down with Mark, a husband, father, and graduate of our Healthy Men-tality program, who shares what it's really like ...
You're Not Crazy—You're Just Dysregulated
23 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself spiraling over a text, freezing in conflict, or walking on eggshells with a partner or boss? You're not overreacting. You're not cr...
Healing the Boy to Reveal the Man (ft. Ryan O'Keefe)
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when a man finally decides to stop running from his pain—and starts getting honest about his patterns? In this guest episode, I sit dow...
How I Fell for a Love Bomber (and What It Taught Me About Attachment)
09 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dating after divorce is a special kind of WTF. If you've ever been love-bombed, ghosted, or caught in an emotional tornado, you're not alone. In this ...
Overcoming The Dumpster Fire that is Dating After Divorce with Adam Kiddoo
02 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dating after divorce is like walking through a minefield blindfolded—with a bunch of people telling you what you should be doing while they're also ...
Stuck in Resentment? How to Forgive & Rebuild Your Relationship
26 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you want to move forward in your relationship, but resentment and old wounds keep pulling you back? In this episode, we dive into ...
Post-Divorce Reality: Healing, Dating & Parenting Through the Chaos
19 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Going through a divorce is one thing—learning how to heal, co-parent, and rebuild your life is another. In this episode, one of the Unblock Your BS ...
"Starting Over Alone" A Divorced Dad's Journey Through Loneliness, Identity & Healing
12 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it really mean to start over after a 21-year marriage ends? In this raw, heartfelt conversation, Joe shares his journey through separation, ...
You're Not Broken—You're Just Carrying a Pain Your Mind Can't Heal
05 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the reason you can't "just move on" isn't because you're broken—it's because your body is still holding on to the pain? In this episode, I s...
The Healing Secret No One is Talking About
26 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🚨 What if the way you BREATHE is keeping you stuck? 🚨 What if I told you that your breath—the thing you do 20,000 times a day—is the most po...
Are There Really Men Who Can Provide Emotional Safety for Women?
19 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Relationships can feel like a constant push and pull — who leads, who nurtures, and how do we find balance? So many of us struggle with the tensio...
He Realized He Had Married Three Versions of His Mother
12 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a pattern, wondering why you're drawn to the same types of relationships or struggling to make meaningful connec...
Unblock Unplugged: When Loneliness Feels Unbearable - Finding Yourself in the Silence
05 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is part of Tara's Unblock Unplugged series — where she shares more spontaneous, unscripted thoughts that come in the moment. Just imagi...
How Do You Heal From Cheating and Childhood Trauma: A Coaching Session with Our Self Aware Army Member Lucy
29 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Navigating the ups and downs of relationships can be one of life's toughest challenges, especially when trust is broken. In this episode, we're diving...
Is It Time to Say Goodbye: Exploring the Emotional Journey of Considering Divorce
22 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Divorce is rarely black and white, and relationships are a two-way street. Navigating the end of a marriage isn't something most people talk about o...
Slow Burn Relationships VS Love Bombing
15 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tara's recent post on TikTok about slow burn relationships versus love bombing has received tens of thousands of views and comments, so today, she wil...
From Walls to Bridges: How Vulnerability Heals Us with my Coaching Client Matthew
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Life can be tough and messy, filled with ups and downs that test your strength. But through sharing our stories, we find connection and hope. In thi...
How to Use Dating Apps Without Losing Yourself: A Coaching Session with Listener Jill
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, you're going to get the best advice that will help you navigate the world of dating. Tara's joined by a listener who's called in t...
Breaking Patterns: A No-BS Conversation on Healing and Dating with Eric Palacios
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, Tara is joined by her very first guest, Eric Palacios, a man who's been navigating the ups and downs of personal growth and learni...
Welcome to the Unblock Your BS Podcast
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the very first episode of the Unblock Your BS Podcast! In this episode, Tara shares her journey from being a beauty business coach to nav...