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An Exciting Time for Abortion Law!

30 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's been a BUSY year for abortion law, ever since the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade. But what should we make of it, and is it all terrible new...

Unladies Room: The Christine Jorgensen Story

27 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Storytime, unladies! Often called the first trans celebrity, Christine Jorgensen became world famous practically overnight. AND way back in 1952. In t...

Unladies Room: Everyone Pees

20 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Got pee pants (aka incontinence)? UTIs? Pelvic floor probs? Urologist Fenwa Milhouse, aka the Pee, Privates and Sex Doc, treats it all and then some. ...

Feminist Killjoys, Unite!

13 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you refuse to laugh at unfunny men, shrug off casual misogyny and/or look past toxic allies? You might be a feminist killjoy - congrats! Queer scho...

Green Card Marriage

06 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why waste a good passport marrying a fellow citizen?? What if your long-distance relationship is due to deportation? How realistic is 90-Day Fiancé?...

Unladies Room: The Little Feminist Mermaid

01 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Bonus episode alert! Cristen dives into the FASCINATING backstory of the original Little Mermaid, why it almost wasn't made (hint: sexism), how Ariel ...

Feminist Podcast vs. Capitalism

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How does a feminist podcast (Unladylike, specifically) make money? Cristen chats with Amanda McLoughlin of Multitude Productions about indie podcastin...

Bisexual Imposter Syndrome

23 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when women in long-term relationships with straight men realize they're bi, and why are they less likely to come out? Writer Maggie Zhou ...

Ask Unladylike: Gender Identity vs. Beauty Norms?

16 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How do you empower nonbinary and trans kids struggling with their changing bodies? Gender Spectrum executive director Cameron Van Fossen shares their ...

She's the Breadwinner

09 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when women are the primary or sole earners? Is it only stigmatized if they're coupled up with men? Maya Lau, Journalist and host of Other...

Unladies Room: Met Gala Gabfest

06 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Special correspondent to the Met Ball / Unladylike intern Anuli debriefs Cristen on the “Super Bowl of Fashion in this Unladies Room (aka the Patreo...

Sneak Peek: Love Letters

03 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Unladies, have y'all hear the Love Letters podcast? Love Letters tells stories about romance, marriage, partnership, sex, loss, and the human heart. S...

Ask Unladylike: Mom, I Want an IUD?

02 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How do you solve a problem like an adrift niece who won't add you on Snapchat? Intern Anuli helps Cristen advise an unlady trying to get through to a ...

Feminist Porn 101

25 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is—and isn't—feminist porn, and why even make it? Emerging feminist porn director Bea Blue shares how she got started in Berlin, what feminis...

Naked Protests

18 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

From #FreetheNipple to Naked Athena, public nudity is likely THE oldest, most widespread form of protest. Unladylike intern Anuli Ononye investigates ...

Ask Unladylike: 'I Love You' Too Soon?

11 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel like 'I love you' expectations are higher than ever in romantic relationships? Is there a right time to say it, and does it matter who decla...

REAL Self-Care

04 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How did 'self-care' become synonymous with skincare routines and beauty treatments, and what does it actually mean? Dr. Pooja Lakshmin reclaims the bu...

The Pole Dance, pt. 2

28 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How do you square the circle of recreational pole dancing for pleasure and strip club pole to get paid? Strippers United president Selena the Stripper...

Ozempic Weight Loss, Reconsidered

21 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Unladies lead Whatthe way in this important follow-up to The Ozempic Weight-Loss Craze, sharing the less talked about reasons for taking the meds, inc...

The Pole Dance, pt 1

14 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What does recreational pole dancing reveal about sex work stigma, from social media to strip clubs? Dr. Carolina Are unpacks why and how pole dancers ...

The Abortion Pill Lawsuit, Explained-ish

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why is a medication that's safer than Tylenol at risk of a nationwide ban? Cristen crash courses the who, what, when and WHHHHYYY of the mifepristone ...

Ask Unladylike: Resting Bitch Voice?

28 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are women expected to put on a happy VOICE? Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg from How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) lend their self-help expe...

Ballerina, Interrupted

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Who gets to be a ballerina and why? Erika Lantz, host of The Turning: Room of Mirrors, details the rigid hierarchy, body standards and elite ballet cu...

Confronting Codependency

14 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Can toxic relationships be a form of addiction? Codependency is complex, controversial and often ascribed to women. Writer Nina Renata Aron shares her...

Ask Unladylike: Better Off Single?

07 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sure, breaking up is hard to do, but then what? Cristen offers some reassuring research and firsthand advice to three listeners on embracing singlehoo...

The 'Pretendian' Long Con

31 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when someone who built their career on being Indigenous turns out to be ... a white lady? Writer Michelle Cyca shares how she came face t...

Dog-xic Masculinity

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What do dogs tell us about gender, power and dominance? Listener Claire surprises Cristen with the toxic masculinity leashed to dog training, and pro ...

Age-Defying Friendship

17 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A 50-year age gap didn't stop Annie Korzen and Mackenzie Morrison from forging a best friendship, and Cristen is frankly jealous! She talks to the bes...

Ask Unladylike: The D*ck Pic Talk?

10 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Kids are sexting, like it or not! Non-parent Cristen consults sex educator Dr. Catherine Dukes about when and how to have The Sext Talk with kids. The...

The Ozempic Weight-Loss Craze

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to a new era of 'miracle' weight-loss drugs, starring Ozempic. In this Patreon bonus episode, Cristen gets to the bottom of the type 2 diabete...

Ask Unladylike: Financially Responsible for Your Mom?

13 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What's a daughter to do when her estranged mom won't stop asking for money? Financial abuse expert Axton Betz-Hamilton untangles the possible financia...

Vegan Feminism Beyond Food

06 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Can real feminists eat cheese? Vegan geographer Catherine Oliver maps out why most vegans are women and the masculinity of meat. Then, vegan beauty in...

Ask Unladylike: Butch Girlfriends & Childfree Stepmoms

29 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Gender roles ever catch you by surprise? Comedian Emma Willmann (Inside the Closet) offers her firsthand advice to a lesbian listener turned off by he...

Men's Rights Activists 101

22 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Why do men become men's rights activists? Sociologist Emily Carian has spent her academic career answering that question. Cristen talks to Emily about...

From Come As You Are with Dr. Emily Nagoski: Pleasure is The Measure

17 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I’m sharing a preview of a new podcast I’m enjoying and think you will, too. On Come As You Are, educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily ...

A Feminist Revolution In Iran

16 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Why are Iranian women burning hijabs and leading revolutionary protests? Dr. Claudia Yaghoobi contextualizes their rage over the death of a 22-year-ol...

Ask Unladylike: Virginity Disclosure?

08 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Why does virginity f*ck with our heads? Cristen advises a listener who's worried her sexual inexperience is showing. Listeners also sound off on previ...

You Don't Look Autistic

01 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when adult women discover they're autistic? Cristen busts the gender stereotypes and neurotypical myths of Autism Spectrum Disorder with ...

Christians Get Abortions, Too

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Christian right has become synonymous with anti-abortion, but what about the Christian left? Reverend Angela Tyler-Williams takes Cristen to churc...

True Crime, Horror & Women

18 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Women dominate both true crime and horror, and in unexpected ways. Bobbi Miller (The Afternoon Special) and Cristen dig into true crime media, fandom ...

Bad Nose, Good Nose

11 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when refusing a nose job means defying family tradition? Filmmaker Gayle Kirschenbaum shares why her mother endlessly agonized over the b...

From A Slight Change of Plans: Civil Rights Icon Ruby Bridges

05 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We’re sharing a special episode from another podcast, A Slight Change of Plans, from PushkinIndustries. In this preview, civil rights icon Ruby Brid...

Ask Unladylike: Unvaxxed, Unfriended?

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Can friendship survive the vaccine divide? Is entering a male-dominated industry setting yourself up to fail and/or become the "Mom" of the workplace?...

Sexxxy Feet

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Cristen dips her toe into wikiFeet and FeetFinder on a quest to figure out why foot fetishes and feet pics are so hot right now. Then, professional do...

Ask Unladylike: Feminist Guilt vs Weddings?

20 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Wedding bells and feminist guilt are in the air! Cristen answers three unladies' advice requests on WHY engagement rings, feminist wedding pressure an...

From The Loudest Girl in the World: What it Means to be on the Autism Spectrum

14 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We’re sharing a special preview of a new podcast, The Loudest Girl in the World. For years, journalist and podcast host Lauren Ober wasn’t all tha...

Illuminati Influencer Queens, pt. 2

13 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What attracts women to conspiracy theories? TikTok misinformation researcher Abbie Richards debunks the tinfoil hat stereotype and explains the rise o...

Illuminati Influencer Queens, pt. 1

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The pod’s officially back, and Cristen’s officially fallen down the conspiracy theory rabbit hole. For research! From the "grand dame of modern co...

Unladylike is Back!

30 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey unladies! Cristen is back with a LOT of Unladylike questions to answer, gender baggage to check and dumpster fires to extinguish. So much fun to b...

Don't Mess with Texas Abortion Nurse Amy.

26 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Amy’s Recommended Resources:Aid AccessForward MidwiferyIf/When/HowMiscarriage and Abortion HotlinePlan CShout Your AbortionNew weekly episodes of Un...

Who the F*** Is Dobbs?

30 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

**support local abortion clinics and funds via Keep Our Clinics and/or Abortion Care Network**  For 125+ more Extra Unladylike episodes: patreon.com/...

How to Move On

05 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One Unladylike era comes to an end, and another begins. It's Caroline's farewell episode, and we're taking stock of our decade podcasting together, wh...

Pep Talk: First, Only, Different with Elaine Welteroth

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Being FOD — first, only, or different — can also mean contending with self-doubt and imposter syndrome. Elaine Welteroth has been there and has an...

Pep Talk: Swimsuit Body Image with Jessamyn Stanley

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Since nothing summons body insecurity quite like “swimsuit season," yoga goddess Jessamyn Stanley has an Unladylike Pep Talk for appreciating the sk...

Pep Talk: Aloneness with Julia Bainbridge

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What's so wrong with being alone? Writer and podcaster Julia Bainbridge brings us a reassuring, insightful Pep Talk on spending time by ourselves, how...

Pep Talk: Wedding Planning with Cristen Conger

22 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you maintain your identity — not to mention your sanity — in the thick of wedding planning? Whether you’re the one tying the knot, or you...

Pep Talk: Infertility with Doree Shafrir

22 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Infertility struggles and treatments drain more than your wallet. Doree Shafrir, co-host of the podcast Forever35, wants you to know you’re not alon...

Pep Talk: Rejecting Creeps with Alexandra Tweten

22 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine a world without unsolicited dick pics and dating-site harassment. Bye Felipe founder Alexandra Tweten wants to make that a reality. In the mea...

How to Strap-On

15 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dildos, harnesses and o-rings, oh my! Professional dominatrix/listener Mae Ling introduces us to the power and pleasure of strap-ons and pegging. Then...

Ask Unladylike: Sexual Harm in Your Social Circle

08 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Returning guest and restorative justice expert Dr. Alissa Ackerman helps us advise a listener whose BFF's boyfriend is accused of sexual assault as we...

How to Be Well-Read

01 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

With book banning on the rise, it's the perfect time to hear from Glory Edim, aka Well-Read Black Girl. Glory tells us about growing up at the library...

How to Get a Breast Reduction

15 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Why do breast reductions have such sky-high satisfaction rates? How does life before and after surgery compare? Listeners Kelly and S. share their bre...

Ask Unladylike: How to Stay Married

08 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Staying together forever can feel like an impossible slog — just Ask Polly, aka advice columnist Heather Havrilesky. She helps us troubleshoot marit...

Romance Novel Redemption

01 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Romance is the most popular fiction genre, but it rarely gets the respect it deserves. Avid romance reader Nichole Perkins and best-selling queer roma...

How to Simulate Sex

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy coordinator is one of the newest, buzziest roles in Hollywood. But what exactly does the job entail? Pioneering intimacy coordinator Alicia R...

Ask Unladylike: Mean Office Ladies

18 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There might be a special place in hell for women who don't support other women, but how on earth do you deal with them in the meantime? C&C help a...

Pep Talk: Making Friends with Ann Friedman + Aminatou Sow

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Adult friending is hard! Luckily, a pair of long-distance besties are here to pep-talk you through the process: Call Your Girlfriend hosts Aminatou So...

Pep Talk: Dating Online with Negin Farsad

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Comedian Negin Farsad passes along her rules for making online dating (aka dating) less terrible and offers a hilariously practical pep talk for stepp...

Pep Talk: Losing Your Job with Kristen Meinzer + Jolenta Greenberg

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Fired, laid off, downsized — whatever you call it, losing your job can feel like losing everything. By the Book podcast co-hosts Kristen Meinzer and...

Pep Talk: Navigating Class with Ashley C. Ford

28 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you're "the poor friend," the "rich auntie" or somewhere in between, class is always in session. Writer Ashley C. Ford blows past polite conve...

Pep Talk: Staying In with Alisha Ramos

28 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Need less FOMO and more JOMO (joy of missing out)? Girls’ Night In founder Alisha Ramos is here to pep you up for staying put—and not feeling bad ...

Pep Talk: Being Yourself with Rain Dove

28 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel at odds with society's sexpectations? Model and activist Rain Dove shares their story of opting out of the gender binary and offers a very p...

Childfree After Infertility

21 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When faced with infertility, unladies are often pressured to just "try harder." But what if you don't want to? A pair of listeners take Cristen and Ca...

Childfree by Choice

14 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What's so wrong with not wanting kids? Cristen and Caroline investigate what happens when unladies choose to be childfree and the pressure to justify ...

Ask Unladylike: Husband Problems

07 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Cristen and Caroline advise two listeners in need of major spousal support. One husband is willfully incompetent with childcare and another won't let ...

Squirting

30 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Some orgasms are wetter than others — so what? A listener calls us in on the squirting shame she experienced from a previous Unladylike episode. The...

Shopping for Orgasms

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The sexual revolution will be monetized. In this Patreon bonus episode, Caroline and Cristen explore the concept of "lean-in sexuality," the commodifi...

"Stealthing"

16 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Until recently, nonconsensual condom removal, aka stealthing, has gone unnamed and unpunished. When then-law student Alexandra Brodsky published a leg...

Ask Unladylike: Divorce and Dress Codes

09 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Cristen and Caroline advise a mom worried that divorce will ruin her daughter and a teacher unsure how to address dress codes with her students. Then,...

Birth Control, Explained

02 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hormonal birth control is the most commonly prescribed contraception, but what about the side effects? Nurse practitioner Jennifer Robinson helps us w...

Environmental Justice League

26 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you solve a problem like environmental injustice? Meet two forces of nature and intergenerational allies — trailblazer Vernice Miller-Travis ...

How to Rock Climb

19 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When Kyra Condie says climbing is for everyone, she’s not exaggerating. It's a rare sport where young girls can hold their own against ripped CrossF...

Ask Unladylike: Money Therapy

12 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What's the best way to navigate life's major money pits? Our very own financial planner Helen Ngo lends her expert advice on budgeting, spending guilt...

How to Manifest Your Best Life!!

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You can't swing a vision board around social media without hitting influencers, life coaches, and boss babes galore selling manifesting and positive v...

That's So Cultish

28 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why are cult vibes so strong right now? Don't blame brainwashing. Linguist Amanda Montell breaks down what cult-speak sounds like, how it seduces us a...

How to Write Cookbooks

21 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Cookbook author Julia Turshen thinks of her recipe collections as Trojan horses to talk about far more than food, and she's right. We mix it up with J...

Ask Unladylike: BFF 911!

14 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you mend emotionally fraught friendships? Cristen and Caroline offer advice - and some tough love - to two unladies in the thick of friendship ...

Britney's Toxic Conservatorship

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why did it take 13 years for Britney Spears to speak out against her conservatorship? Tess Barker and Babs Gray share how they galvanized #FreeBritney...

Disinformation & Digital Blackface

24 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do antivax memes, abortion myths and canceling Father's Day have in common? They're all lies amplified through fake online accounts impersonating...

Burnout with Anne Helen Petersen

17 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling burnt out? Journalist Anne Helen Petersen breaks down where our collective exhaustion comes from, how modern workplaces fuel it, and why "self...

Ask Unladylike: Mom-Daughter Body Image

10 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Cristen and Caroline advise a mom who's scared of giving her daughter body issues and a daughter who wants to help her mom become body positive. Then,...

Untangling Hair pt. 3: Losing It

03 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we pretend women don't lose their hair? In the final episode of our series all about head hair, we wig out with Supriya Surender who began livi...

Untangling Hair pt. 2: Color Schemes

27 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What does your hair color say about you? In part two of our series all about head hair, we find out how writer Jessica Berger Gross broke up with dyei...

Untangling Hair pt 1: Racism and Going Natural

20 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When twin sisters Mya and Deanna Cook wore braided extensions to school, they had no idea it would start a fight for their civil rights. In part one o...

Ask Unladylike: Late Bloomers with Forever35

13 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dear unladies, let's talk about life timing. Forever35 hosts Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir help us answer advice questions on feeling too late to dat...

Unlearning Shame with Ashley C. Ford

06 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When Ashley C. Ford was growing up, money was tight, home life was unstable and a current of shame ran through it all. We talk to Ashley about unlearn...

Diagnosis: Endometriosis

29 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Endometriosis is highly common, incurable and often written off as "bad periods." But the uterine disease can also wreak havoc with chronic pain, infe...

How to Run Like a Girl

22 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

States across the U.S. are racing to ban trans girls from school sports. Why? Because two teen runners in Connecticut did arguably the riskiest thing ...

Ask Unladylike: Why Can't I Make Friends?

15 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dear unladies, we've got a trio of advice q's on deck AND a dazzling guest! Comedian Negin Farsad helps us make new friends. Then, Cristen and Carolin...

Dating After Sexual Assault

01 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve survived sexual trauma. But then what? This episode, we're breaking the silence on the ripple effects of rape and assault and exploring pathw...