Unlearned
Activity Overview
Episode publication activity over the past year
Episodes
Ep 73: We’re Divorced!
13 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this raw and honest comeback episode ofUnlearned, Jaime and CA open up about their recent divorce and journey of healing. They discuss unlearning o...
Ep 72: Can People Pleasers Consent?
24 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We hear a lot about consent in a sexual context, but what about the other places it shows up? Jaime and CA explore the nuance of consent and what it m...
Ep 71: I Didn't Have a Childhood
03 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Social media is filled with nostalgia and it can be a lot of fun. But what happens when you look at the shared childhood experiences of others and thi...
Ep 70: Anxious-Attachment (Part 2)
25 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA continue their series on insecure attachment styles with a discussion on the anxious-attachment style. This time, Jaime opens up about he...
Ep 69: Avoidant-Attachment (Part 1)
06 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back! CA and Jaime return from their hiatus with a series on insecure attachment styles. In this episode, they explore the Avoidant-Attachment...
Ep 68: Dissociation and Disengagement
20 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are dissociation and disengagement the same thing? Is it ever healthier to more or less walk away to protect yourself? In this episode, CA and Jaime e...
Ep 67: Recalibrating our Thresholds
27 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We all know that healing isn’t linear, but there does tend to be a moment when a corner is turned - where we begin to live our life again. What do w...
Ep 66: Do they tolerate you?
13 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, CA and Jaime explore how relationships can serve as protective factors for trauma processing and healing. Especially relationships in...
Ep 65: Angels and Demons
06 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join Jaime and CA as they delve into the complexities of spirituality. They question whether religion has exclusive control over our spiritual experie...
Ep 64: The Cringest Episode We've Ever Done
16 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join CA and Jaime as they dive into the concept of "cringe." They'll dissect its nature, explore why it makes us squirm, and reveal how ...
Ep 63: Exploring Personal Evolution with Audrey Assad
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join CA and Jaime as they explore personal evolution with the internationally recognized singer, Audrey Assad. Discover the transformative power of ...
Ep 62: Bee Curious, with McKay Orton
20 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA welcome McKay Orton, a natural beekeeper who has repeatedly gone viral to discuss beekeeping, nature, animals, mental health, and how the...
Ep 61: Toxic Relationship Recovery
04 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
CA puts Jaime in the hot seat to discuss Jaime's brand new book, "Toxic Relationship Recovery," which comes out tomorrow! Get a behind-t...
Ep 60: Why is Intimacy So Hard?
21 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are intimacy and sex the same thing? Is skipping right into the “deeper conversations” a good way to create intimacy? How do we actually form inti...
Ep 59: The Jonah Hill Approach
26 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this special bonus episode, CA and Jaime take a deep dive into the Jonah Hill text message situation to explore the importance of standards and bou...
Ep. 58: Can Humor Help Us Heal?
19 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Can humor help us heal? Can a joke ever be “too dark?” Join Jaime and CA as they chat with comedian Myles Weber and explore the relationship betwe...
Ep 57: You Don't Have To Suffer
26 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Suffering has a role in life, but what happens if it takes center stage? CA and Jaime explore how we can break free from looking at our trauma as a ma...
Ep 56: A Voice In The Darkness
19 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned In this incredibly personal and powerful epi...
Ep 55: Let Me Know What I Can Do...
05 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned We often find ourselves of...
Ep 54: Neurodivergency and Relationships
22 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned CA and Jaime continue thei...
Ep 53: Neurodivergency and the Self (Part 1)
08 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Jaime and CA begin a series on Neurodivergency ...
Ep 52: "Producer's Pick" - Date Yourself
01 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Go on social media and within two minutes you will come across dating advice. What if we took the best of that advice and directed it toward our relat...
Ep 51 - When Your Parent is Your Bully
24 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As children, our homes are supposed to be our safe haven; a place where we can get away from the things that make life tough, but what happens when it...
Ep 50 - Our One-Year Anniversary!
17 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Anniversary! Jaime and CA celebrate the show’s one-year anniversary by looking back over their journey and then getting intimate by answering ...
Ep 49: When Joy Feels Scary
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Can you experience joy after or even in the midst of trauma? CA and Jaime take a look at why embracing joy can be such a difficult barrier for us to m...
Ep 48 - Sex and Consent
03 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Consent is mandatory and well all know that, but it runs a lot deeper than just saying “yes” before the act. In a world filled with fluidity and k...
Ep. 47: Stop Triggering Me
27 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Learning our triggers is a huge part of the healing process, but knowing them and moving beyond them are two very different things. How do we break aw...
Ep. 46: Am I Too Needy?
20 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been told that you are too needy? Are you? Maybe it’s not that simple. Jaime and CA explore what people really mean when they claim th...
Ep. 45: Trauma Skills
13 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We know that we need to learn certain skills to move beyond our traumas to live more fully authentic lives, but we also know that we can’t call a ti...
Ep. 44: Showing Up Fake to Relationships
06 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like you got deep with someone who refused to match that depth and wondered if they could? In this episode, Jaime and CA explore th...
Ep. 43: Privacy or Secrecy
27 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We have the right to a little bit of privacy in our relationships, but do we have the right to secrecy? What’s the difference? Join CA and Jaime as ...
Ep. 42: Complex Trauma Basics
20 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There is a lot of discussion about trauma on social media nowadays, but what is it? Are there different kinds? Can one type of trauma hurt more than a...
Ep. 41: Letting Go of Old Stories
16 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our trauma can create certain narratives in our brains. What happens when we encounter similar, but not identical situations in relationships that hav...
Ep. 40: Ultimatums & Boundaries
06 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We hear a lot about boundaries, but what are they and how do we put them into practice? What happens when someone pushes them? Join Jaime and CA for a...
Ep. 39: The Justification Trap
30 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You will make some changes during your healing journey. What happens when your loved ones question these changes? What if they don’t agree with them...
Ep. 38: Holding Yourself Hostage in Your Own Recovery
23 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you’re on your way to recovery. What about the people who only recognize the old you? What about those moments of panic where you feel yourself s...
Ep. 37: Intention vs. Impact
16 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If someone does something that hurts you but they didn't mean to hurt you are they at fault? What if they know those actions hurt you? What if the...
Ep. 36: Why You Hate Your Resolutions
09 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On the first episode of 2023 CA and Jaime start 2023 with an in-depth exploration of why New Year’s Resolutions hardly ever seem to work out. They d...
Ep. 35: 2022 Wrapped
29 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We did it! Jaime and CA jump on the mic for one final episode of the podcast for 2022. Join them as they take a look back at their first year of podca...
Ep. 34: Failed Classes And Lessons Learned
19 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this freewheeling, personal, and at times hilarious episode, Jaime and CA sit down for a game of “We're Not Really Strangers” a purpose dri...
Ep. 33: We Hate Gratitude
12 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Gratitude seems simple, but what about when societal expectations make us feel like we are forced to bypass our feelings to show it? CA and Jaime disc...
Ep. 32: Religious Trauma: Part 6 - A Conversation with Rev Karla
05 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA close their series on Religious Trauma by speaking with Rev Karla, an ordained, interfaith, interspiritual minister who helps people who ...
Ep. 31: Religious Trauma: Part 5 - Skills
30 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
CA and Jaime continue their series on Religious Trauma by discussing the skills needed to start deconstruction by exploring their individual paths to ...
Ep. 30: Religious Trauma: Part 4 - Is Pleasure Evil?
21 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Why is Trunk-or-Treating ok while Trick-or-Treating is bad? What’s the difference between yoga and mindful movement? Jaime and CA continue their ser...
Ep. 29: Religious Trauma: Part 3 - The “Hell” Narrative
14 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
CA and Jaime continue their series on religious trauma by digging into how the black-and-white “Hell Narrative” can be incredibly dangerous to our...
Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking”
07 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA continue their series on religious trauma by exploring how religion’s attempts to control our thoughts and emotions affect us both now ...
Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1
03 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
CA and Jaime introduce us to a series of episodes based on religious trauma. In this episode, they define religious trauma and explore where it comes ...
Ep. 26: Relationships Are Earned Not Owed
24 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Some relationships stay on the surface level and that’s ok, but sometimes we want to experience deeper intimacy with specific people. Jaime and CA e...
Ep. 25: When You Are Ready And They Aren’t
20 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Truth is not always black and white and as we grow and learn (or unlearn) our definition of it changes. At some point, we may be ready to step and tel...
Ep. 24 When Love=Control
10 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Control can take many forms in relationships. One of those is by putting up boundaries and saying, “no” as an attempt to control, often without ev...
Ep 23: Why “Quick Fixes” Aren't Enough
03 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We can hardly go on social media without seeing some sort of mental health quick-fix post. While these solutions may help with the acute symptoms and ...
Ep 22: Boundaries 101
26 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ep 22: Boundaries 101 We hear a lot about boundaries, especially on social media, but before we learn how to set them, we need to know what exactly th...
Ep 21: When You Can't Forgive or Forget
19 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Whether through religion or parenting, we are often taught at a young age to forgive and forget, but what if we can’t? Jaime and CA discuss what it ...
Ep 20: Does Trauma Make Us Toxic?
12 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do hurt people hurt people? Is there a place for accountability? How do we move beyond the awareness stage? Jaime and CA examine these questions and m...
Ep 19: Why Do I Crave Chaos?
05 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Getting away from all the chaos of our past is a massive part of our healing journey. Why then do we continue to seek it out long after it’s gone? J...
Ep 18: Is it Selfish to Heal?
29 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We all go through a sort of metamorphosis during our healing journeys. Is that act of transformation selfish? What about the people we leave behind? A...
Ep 17 Why Don't I Trust Myself?
22 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss learning to trust oneself through the lens of developing a relationship with one's future self. Please be sure to review us! We w...
Ep 16 How to be Happy and Sad at the Same Time
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss holding two conflicting emotions at once.
Ep 15 Emotional Consent
08 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss consent and boundaries around emotionally intense conversations.
Ep 14 Toxic Positivity and Trauma Processing
01 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss avoiding engagement with negative feelings, past traumas and emotions and then being met with “ good vibes only!”
Ep 13 Abundance and Deficit
25 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss how one's views of their own self worth reflects the way they interact with the world.
Ep 12 The Healing Stages
18 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss the process of healing; the stages we go through, the ways we can sometimes get stuck at certain points, and how to get unstuck w...
Ep 11 Self-Expression Matters
11 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Jaime and CA discuss self-expression (through hair, clothes and piercings, etc.), how it can be a vehicle for personal autonomy, how ...
Ep 10 Shit Talking: Coping Strategy or Roadblock?
04 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Jaime and CA answer the question: what exactly is shit talking and why do we do it? How often do you find yourself venting to blow of...
Ep 9 The Role of the Black Sheep
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA talk about self advocacy in the face of traumatizing family dynamics that emphasize facade and deflection over honesty. Join our Faceboo...
Ep 8 Body Led Healing
20 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA talk about listening to your body when it speaks through pain, anxiety, happiness, etc.
Ep 7 Date Yourself
13 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What does building a relationship with yourself look like? What does it feel like when you engage in dialogue with yourself? Does it feel like a h...
Ep 6 You Belong to Yourself
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you heard... "Your behavior is a reflection of me!!!" or "I say jump, you say, how high" while growing up or from your partner? This is you...
Ep 5 That's Not Funny
30 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss humor as a tool for maintaining abusive power structures and deflecting criticism.
Ep 4 People Pleasing
23 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss people pleasing as a trauma response.
Ep 3 It's Not All or Nothing
16 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hosts Jaime and CA discuss breaking out of a dualistic perspectives when diving into self-healing and self-growth work. All-or-nothing statements, bla...
E2 Replacing Self Doubt with Self Trust
09 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jaime and CA discuss learning to trust yourself.
E1 Pt. 2 Self-Consent During Trauma Healing
02 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Jaime and CA continue to explore the reasons why healing from trauma can feel so violating at times and how we can gain power back du...
E1 Pt. 1 Self-Consent During Trauma Healing
25 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode hosts Jaime Mahler and CA Rhoades explore reasons why healing from trauma can feel so violating at times and how we can gain power bac...